lahit14:

Eithr way he's using a military approach! Don't like that style. Thr. R many ways to kill a rat, military style, chase it round ur haus wit a big club n eventually ovrcome it den turn back n look at how redecorated ur haus is. Evrytin no be by power.

kibi:


he says its meant to show her submissiveness...thats the part that puzzles me.

Cutehector4u:
Hmmm... I wonder the kind of men mothers raise up these days

dre11:


Am not an apostles of military approach as u did said......
But don't u think a man as to do what he believes is the best for his family
If the wife doesn't know how to manage financial aspect of it and he believes that the best way to crub it

Have seen a lot of marriage crumbling because of money management
Where one is prudent and the other is lavish

So if the husband is a prudent type let her roll with it
Atleast in 9ja of today most families don't live on their salary alone.. ... So her other source of income can cater a bit for that
But


Let everything be done in moderation

dre11:


Am not an apostles of military approach as u did said......
But don't u think a man as to do what he believes is the best for his family
If the wife doesn't know how to manage financial aspect of it and he believes that the best way to crub it

Have seen a lot of marriage crumbling because of money management
Where one is prudent and the other is lavish

So if the husband is a prudent type let her roll with it
Atleast in 9ja of today most families don't live on their salary alone.. ... So her other source of income can cater a bit for that
But


Let everything be done in moderation

dre11:


Am not an apostles of military approach as u did said......
But don't u think a man as to do what he believes is the best for his family
If the wife doesn't know how to manage financial aspect of it and he believes that the best way to crub it

Have seen a lot of marriage crumbling because of money management
Where one is prudent and the other is lavish

So if the husband is a prudent type let her roll with it
Atleast in 9ja of today most families don't live on their salary alone.. ... So her other source of income can cater a bit for that
But


Let everything be done in moderation

Elypsis:
Submit her salary to me for what?! Infact it sickens me to hear that

ayswags:
But you ladies want equality now,Now it's time to share expenses and we are hearing stories that touch.You can't eat your cake and have it

radicalove:


So, only expenses should be shared abi?? What about house chores and childbearing?? Will that also be shared as well?? It is clear that what most men want from ladies is not just "sex" anymore, but "sex and money", too bad

josite:
if u decide you are a christain and wants a christain marriage,then submitting your salary should not be a big deal where you whole being itself is already submitted to the husband as christ enjoins all women who will have a xtain marriage to do.

if however you elect a society marriage with trends dictated by the society or a civilised marraige with trends disctated by civilisation then submitting yourself and your money is wrong and no husband should ask any wife to do that in that context.

so the first question is what type of marriage are they into.
african marriage and christain marriage actually expects the wife to submit herself and everythig she has to her hubby and thats the source of the joy of these marriages as opposed to BB MARRIAGES whre the hubby will be sleeping and the wife is sending her naked pictures to toasters via whassaps.,bb.

define the marriage before you enter,please and save yourself trouble.AM FOR AFRICAN MARRIAGE.

josite:
if u decide you are a christain and wants a christain marriage,then submitting your salary should not be a big deal where you whole being itself is already submitted to the husband as christ enjoins all women who will have a xtain marriage to do.

if however you elect a society marriage with trends dictated by the society or a civilised marraige with trends disctated by civilisation then submitting yourself and your money is wrong and no husband should ask any wife to do that in that context.

so the first question is what type of marriage are they into.
african marriage and christain marriage actually expects the wife to submit herself and everythig she has to her hubby and thats the source of the joy of these marriages as opposed to BB MARRIAGES whre the hubby will be sleeping and the wife is sending her naked pictures to toasters via whassaps.,bb.

define the marriage before you enter,please and save yourself trouble.AM FOR AFRICAN MARRIAGE.

guass:

There is no such thing as 'HER SALARY' except they are not truly married in LOVE. If U ask me I wud say the woman shud submit 70% of her salary without any Question. Ok
I DON'T BELIEVE D PERSON BELOW ME IS TRULY A MAN.

ojiefi:
Exactly! my husband has never asked me how much i earn because he believes its his responsibility to cater for the family. he earned his respect and i dont wait to be compelled before i do things for him and in the house. men should simply know their place and not hide under submissiveness to hide their laziness and inability to provide for the family. if my husband insists on my submitting my salary to him he wont even see a dime. did he send me to school or get the job for me? anyway women get category and levels. any man that is insisting on a woman's salary is wicked and very very lazy. infact that is abuse number 1, when you strip the woman of economic power. my take though.

radicalove:


I'm happy that we still have reasonable men out there, y should a woman submit all her monthly salary to her husband? Even if it's charm, things do not work that way. My advise is for her to leave d bondage of a marriage before her money-sucking-demon sucks her dry and still end up divorcing her leaving her with nothing. To be fore warned is to be fore armed. If d man wants assistance, she can help out but not for her to submit everything.

kibi:
i just spoke with a friend of mine who has been having marital challenges and she says the hubby has given her a condition for their make up - submit your salary to me at the end of every month.
i really dont like being in the middle of marital squables cos i wouldnt want anyone in mine so i told her to pray and talk it out with her husband though it did get me thinking, whats the rationale behind that condition...for men in the house who do this please enlighten me cos i dont support it.

miqos02:
advice her to play the fool for three months by submitting the salary and see how it goes.


how come the man knows her exact salary

ThoniaSlim:


By their words you shall know them! Anu Ofia! You are the lazy man who would leech on a woman like a parasite! I hate lazy men who are shameless enough to be fully dependent on a woman! The same way I do not condone women who fully depend on a man!

There is absolutely no issue with the woman contributing to the household or assisting with the bills, but demanding that she submits her whole monthly income to you is just foolish! Maka gini! That man can go to blazes for all I care!

Women be carrying this marriage thing on their heads like that's your sole aim in life! No man can kill me because I'm married to him! At the end of the day if we die, we all get buried in different coffins, so why should one man be causing me unnecessary stress! Mba nu!

cap28:
This set up of a man asking his wife to submit her salary to him is a clear cut case of abuse and control. This can only happen in a society where men are allowed to get away with abusing women and of course Nigeria is such a society. Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with a wife helping to pay bills and contribute to the running of her home, but to ask her to submit her salary to her husband as if she is mentally retarded and incapable of running her own affairs is simply exploitation and abuse. This type of scenario normally happens in a situation where the the woman was desperate to get married to the man and feels that without the man she has no life, if such a man knows this he will abuse the situation and start making unnecessary demands on the woman. Therefore women should realise that marriage is not a do or die affair but merely a union between two people who love each other and intend to help raise and nurture a family together, it shouldn't be used as a means of exploitation. Men who engage in this type of behaviour are usually the type of men who married for ulterior motives for example in the US a lot of Nigerian men import young women from poor family backgrounds over to the US, they get them to work as nurses and then insist that the money these women make is "submitted" to them every month for "projects back home", the woman effectively becomes modern day slaves to this man's demands and any attempt to break out of such a set up is met with extreme anger and violence from the men - is that what marriage is all about? would any man wish his sister to undergo such treatment at the hands of any man?
To say that the man does this in order to "help" the woman manage her finances is a major insult and slap in the face to Nigerian women as I see Nigerian women as some of the most hardworking and industrious women out there, the average Nigerian woman juggles her personal career with the raising of her children and does a good job at it, come to the west and you see western women who do not cook and prefer to go out clubbing with their female friends rather than stay home with their husband and kids. Ask any western woman to submit her salary to you each month and see whether that marriage will be in existence the next day. Some women in the west even divorce their husbands as soon as he loses his job not to talk of asking her to submit her salary to you every month. I have sisters and would never stand by and watch any of their husbands make such demands on them.

ocheu:
you said your uncles wife supports him, not that ur uncle authoritatively ordered his wife to be summit her salary every month. Do u know what it means to be left with no cash?

repogirl:
a man who cannot take care of his home is worse than an infidel! Depending on wife's salary, shioooorrrrrr!

ChynoBEATS:
. As-in ehn that's absolutely barbaric....... Imagine after the whole stress she's hz been tru..... Goin n comin 4rm wrk.... Washin , n cookin hiz meals ...... She'll now tender ALL_____ nt all o______ But ALL "every single penny" as-in ALL to thÍs incompetent d,Íck HEAD she calls a hubby.... She'll just Commit suicide After 2mths....

kibi:
i just spoke with a friend of mine who has been having marital challenges and she says the hubby has given her a condition for their make up - submit your salary to me at the end of every month.
i really dont like being in the middle of marital squables cos i wouldnt want anyone in mine so i told her to pray and talk it out with her husband though it did get me thinking, whats the rationale behind that condition...for men in the house who do this please enlighten me cos i dont support it.

beeevan:
I hope this woman will be sensible enough to tell him to GTH, criminal husbands everywhere .

kibi:


i never said i had all the facts...truth be told i didnt ask so i would give her any advice....i just was puzzled at why a squable wuld be settled with such a condition.