Sophyrocks:

Hahahaha. Its suddenly not ur biz but u raised their issue up. Why didnt u call olu a sissy and that he isnt a true african man?

crackhaus:

Okay last question, how have you been oppressed as a growing young woman in your life so far?

In case that might get too personal, have you ever been oppressed by a boy/man?

I have a theory that most if not all the ladies touting feminism and the evils of patriarchy on Nairaland, may have had a terrible experience with men in their lives.

Either this or maybe my original suspicion is right - they're just internet tigers and feminists eager to join the bandwagon.

crackhaus:

This girl though, your tactics in trying to go off on a tangent is hilarious.

First, I wasn't the first person who mentioned Joke Silva on this thread - see the first page for who did.
Second, I asked you a question when I made reference to Joke Silva - the question was, is she and her husband in an open marriage in response to your assertion that most actresses are.

Who/what brought their cooking arrangement into this thread isn't my business and not what this topic is about.
Do you get it?

bukatyne:


crackhaus, what her statement in bold imply?

Like I always say, I do not really take what they say seriously even when I like their 'personality'

Whatever rocks her boat.

When she released one picture of her in leopard skin, her marriage almost broke with her beating her hubby/hubby beating her (whatever version you want to believe). I remember praying for her home to work and I am glad it did.

If her spewing that men and women not equal is what it took her home to work, good for her.

However, irrespective of whatever she says, I will give her husband real kudos; that man determined to make their home work and it did (from what we can see ). In previous interviews, she said so herself.

Once again, kudos to Mr. Ekeinde

@ those mentioning Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, did she not leave her husband in US while she was building her self without minding if the marriage broke or not?

It is well

“I don’t believe in gender equality. I do not believe that God made man and woman to be equal in any way. I believe that in every organised institution, there is always a head and an assistant. It doesn’t mean that one should take the other for granted, or disrespect the other. I believe the husband is the head of the home and the wife is an assistant."
"My husband is a pilot, I have flown with him several times and I understood that here is a captain and a co-pilot. They are both responsible for the passengers’ lives. But when there is a final decision to make, it is up to the captain to make it.

crackhaus:

Bukatyne you are now arguing based on sentiments. Read that interview again and take note of the parts you refused to put in bold:



I now ask that you be objective and tell us what she implied by those statements in bold.

VickyyB:

A woman is called prostitute by sleeping with men and getting paid but same can't be said of a man who sleeps with a woman to get paid.

pickabeau1:



please what do you mean by this

freecocoa:
It simply means that, women get tagged as prostitutes for something men do too.

pickabeau1:


please what do you mean by this

VickyyB:


Men gloriously brag about sugar mummy.

If a topic is created about men and their sugar mummies, you'll see all guys shouting bad guy.

If it's about women and their sugar daddies, comment like biitch, whöre etc would be everywhere.

pickabeau1:


ok.. so my next question

The next question is

Is that what feminism means to you, equality in promiscuity/vices etc

To be able to brag about how many men u can bed?

VickyyB:


No. Equality in all kinds of thing.

Anyone who choose to be promiscous is his/her business.

Any lady who wishes to brag. Btw, not all guys brag how they bed women.

pickabeau1:

No need to be salty.. simply indeed

I wanted to be sure

The next question is

Is that what feminism means to her or you, equality in promiscuity

freecocoa:
I didn't mean anything by 'simply', I prolly need to stop doing that .

That was just an instance, for me it means equality in all aspects

If a man can sleep with different women and get praised for it, a woman who chooses to do same shouldn't be called names for the same actions.

I don't support promiscuity but at the end of the day, your life, your choice.

crackhaus:

Okay last question, how have you been oppressed as a growing young woman in your life so far?

In case that might get too personal, have you ever been oppressed by a boy/man?

I have a theory that most if not all the ladies touting feminism and the evils of patriarchy on Nairaland, may have had a terrible experience with men in their lives.

Either this or maybe my original suspicion is right - they're just internet tigers and feminists eager to join the bandwagon.

pickabeau1:


I wanted to be sure...but no wahala


On your points....Fair enough


So equality in promiscuity...?

Interesting...

VickyyB:


Define Feminism in your own term to know whether I fit.

Most men definiton feminism is evil and it's likely not what I chose it to be.

No! I haven't had a terrible experience from boy/man.

I feel women pride is deteriorating. Talk about men using feminity as subject of ridicule.
Thinking women are second fiddle to them.
Some women disgracing themselves in attempt to impress a man. Smh
A woman is called prostitute by sleeping with men and getting paid but same can't be said of a man who sleeps with a woman to get paid.

freecocoa:
Ofcourse, if there's going to be equality, don't you think it should extend to all areas?

pickabeau1:


If you say No, yet say equality in all kinds of things... what kind of things.. sleeping around?bagging sugar parents? -_-

You are obviously educated
You can do any job you want to do
You can be responsible for a team of people to deliver tasks

SO what is this frontier you have been denied

pickabeau1:


Maybe..who knows
Part of liberalism

justirich:
“I don’t believe in gender equality. I do not believe that God made man and woman to be equal in any way. I believe that in every organised institution, there is always a head and an assistant. It doesn’t mean that one should take the other for granted, or disrespect the other. I believe the husband is the head of the home and the wife is an assistant."

"My husband is a pilot, I have flown with him several times and I understood that here is a captain and a co-pilot. They are both responsible for the passengers’ lives. But when there is a final decision to make, it is up to the captain to make it. He is more experienced and the one with the responsibility.”

“When there is a quarrel, I usually apologise first. He doesn’t say sorry. Overtime, I have come to realise that it is an ego problem. Even when he knows he is wrong, he will rather do every other thing or buy things for me than say, ‘I’m sorry.’ Fortunately, the ‘sorrys’ are not too many. He is very responsible and more hardworking than me. By God’s grace, we have been able to understand our routine.”

Opinion:
Are you surprised that her marriage has lasted so long and will continue forever? I'm not implying that women should be subjugated but most modern ladies try to take the God-given place of their man hence so many crashed marriages nowadays.

Pls drop your concurrences or disagreements below. #1luv

Talon05:

Brother, are you doing this right now?, are you really talking life and marriage with a teenager who looks up to Emma Watson?, come on brotha.

Many of these girls on here are still children with sound education and internet connection, yh they are intelligent but they know nothing about life and marriages so ignore them and only choose to engage with the married and matured ones among them.

I guffawed when I saw this particular person whom from her post happens to know omotola so intimately that she knows omotola engages in "runz", thats low of the person really, i see this on nl everyday, someone doesnt agree with their myopic and deeply flawed ideas and then they start trash talking the person, i honestly give up.

Brotha, these people are lost and they will never listen, nevertheless keep doing your best to put the lost ones like this teenager back on track.

All the best.

VickyyB:


Mind(thinking) of men needs to be re-structured

freecocoa:
I hear you.

pickabeau1:


What kind of restructuring do you mean
Can you enumerate some of these?



I hear you too..

crackhaus:

freecocoa:
Why do I get the feeling you don't like engaging me in an argument?

Misogynist2014:
Even those that MATTER(emphasis added) don't believe in gender equality. Most of nairaland 'feminists' can't even afford 3 balanced meals a day.
They have forgotten that child marriage and polygamy are legal,

men have little to loose after divorce since there are millions of girls waiting for their own chance (We all know what happened to influencial women like Akindele and Ini Edo),

that we are a religious country,

that no one cares about you being a single mom,not to talk of supporting you,

that men value you according to your value, you can't place the same worth on Linda Ikeji and sophyrocks, never!

That Nigeria is poverty striken and women being lazy have to rely on manliness,

that no one will divide property into two here.

That no one will arrest or charge a man for mildly beating his wife.

That sharia law is still active.



My thoughts are that feminism and its effects are too overhyped and exagerrated on NL and most people need to discuss the topic to enjoy NL. Except for Adichie, I haven't heard of any star in Nigeria claiming feminist.

They talk of women empowerment yet apart from being in kitchen, which I consider as minus to a guy and to me makes us dependent on women, I can't remember any special treatment or advantage I've ever recieved as a man, except for my God-given testosterone. Good ridance!

pickabeau1:




I can be engaging just that ish gets too vocal these days

On this topic, it has been dissected countless times but it does not lead to any congruence that's why it seems I'm just asking specific questions


But I will love to have a debate with you on any issue you want

pickabeau1:


What kind of restructuring do you mean
Can you enumerate some of these?

I hear you too..

VickyyB:


Going by your logic, 90% of men also expose their body(abs).

Does that make them a sex object to rich women?