englishmart:
this thread is distorting my silence.
I'm currently giving someone a silent treatment

barrybanbi:


it depend on how the power is wheeled, what if the person is not mature enough ? if u ever deals with a nagging partner you will understand that silent treatment is for mature soul to practice.

Kachisbarbie:


Wellsaid, the bible is against it. It could even lead to cheating, because in those few minutes, the other party may seek some other companion (maybe online sef).

With time, the person may start looking forward to the silent treatment or intentionally annoy you, because it would be an opportunity to do what he/she pleases.

BABE3:


Shut your mouth. You must have a low self esteem; that's why getting the silent treatment kills you. You constantly want attention, don't you? You constantly want to be spoken to, even if you're in the wrong and your partner needs space, don't you?

What is the big deal in both parties keeping quiet, regrouping and coming back to squash the issue? Don't you know it's as a result of talking too much that people say things or do things they wish they never said/did? You want your partner/friend to forgive you as soon as possible because you're selfish, disregarding the fact that they need space away from you?


Silence is also a form of communication. It's a temporary fix. By the time, both of get back together, the anger and rage would have reduced.

Again, it only works for matured folks.

manny4life:


Why do you have to hit someone? Whatever happened to communicating the wrongs to the person... Like many have said, silent treatment is just as bad as everything there is to. If you ignored me, you better believe I will ignore you for life. You will be the one later begging for forgiveness.

100Cents:


The fact you do it doesn't make it right.

Seeing that you have High Self Esteem and you are Mature.

Please be diplomatic..

Truckpusher:
How would you react when a girl that wouldn't talk to you for hours after begging for mercy locks the door while your inside the house,won't let you take walk and hold your cloth while mouthing all vile and abominable things into your ears,all pleas from you to walk away is greeted with more of an offensive and provocative words over some trivial issues. How would you react?


You never jam some drama queen,my advice is for you to walk away the moment you begin to notice her as a violent drama queen,else you'd be forced to do what you have to do just to survive.

100Cents:


The fact you do it doesn't make it right.

Seeing that you have High Self Esteem and you are Mature.

Please be diplomatic..

dmz:


The fact that you can't deal with it doesn't make it immature or wrong either

Truckpusher:
How would you react when a girl that wouldn't talk to you for hours after begging for mercy locks the door while your inside the house,won't let you take walk and hold your cloth while mouthing all vile and abominable things into your ears,all pleas from you to walk away is greeted with more of an offensive and provocative words over some trivial issues. How would you react?


You never jam some drama queen,my advice is for you to walk away the moment you begin to notice her as a violent drama queen,else you'd be forced to do what you have to do just to survive.

Truckpusher:
Silent treatment is immature and childish.

If you have a problem with someone ,the best way is to talk about it and if that person is mature both of you should be able to iron out your differences and whoever that is at fault should find it less hard to apologize and everyone involved gets to move on.

Most folks that prefers the silent treatment are emotional blackmailers and I for once do not hesitate to walk away from such drama.

There is no point staying with someone that wouldn't talk to you for days or do things with you in harmony,I'd rather get myself a manikin at home than live with a silent emotional abuser........They are manipulators and you do not let anybody manipulate and play with your emotions.

Kachisbarbie:


lolz.
When I go silent for long, I tend to harbour a lot of evil thought(s)/revenge.
I avoid it as much as possible.
You know it starts from 1min to 5mins, 1hour, a day....b4 you know it, it becomes a habit.

Not good @alll

likeseriously:




you are right. My boyfriend did that to me, he first started with sulking, then to silent treatment and I in turn started it too. Sometimes it lasts for weeks. It was part of the reason that cost me a relshp that was alter bound. The thing is that quiet people have for disposition towards silent treatment and he is the quiet type. But he's really someone to be with and I miss him so much. I called it quits with him but sometimes I have this urge to reconcile with him but can't do that cos I have pride and integrity. I am still regretting the way things went and I wish it could go back to before.

bosun11:



hmmmmm...isok married lady

hmmmm...
You sound like someone that gives the treatment?

bosun11:


then y not drop the ego and take what rightly belongs to you ? just an opinion though

likeseriously:




you are right. My boyfriend did that to me, he first started with sulking, then to silent treatment and I in turn started it too. Sometimes it lasts for weeks. It was part of the reason that cost me a relshp that was alter bound. The thing is that quiet people have for disposition towards silent treatment and he is the quiet type. But he's really someone to be with and I miss him so much. I called it quits with him but sometimes I have this urge to reconcile with him but can't do that cos I have pride and integrity. I am still regretting the way things went and I wish it could go back to before.

Kachisbarbie:


hmmmm...
You sound like someone that gives the treatment?

Bridgetown:
I am passing through one rite now with my spouse and is killing.

Truckpusher:
Silent treatment is immature and childish.

If you have a problem with someone ,the best way is to talk about it and if that person is mature both of you should be able to iron out your differences and whoever that is at fault should find it less hard to apologize and everyone involved gets to move on.

Most folks that prefers the silent treatment are emotional blackmailers and I for once do not hesitate to walk away from such drama.

There is no point staying with someone that wouldn't talk to you for days or do things with you in harmony,I'd rather get myself a manikin at home than live with a silent emotional abuser........They are manipulators and you do not let anybody manipulate and play with your emotions.

mercylicious:


my ex went mad cos of silent treatment. a minor disagreement, he got angry, i got angry too cos i wasnt at fault. he started the silent treatment. i joined him . 7days later the guy ran mad. it took a lot of midnight prayer and fasting and much more before he got himself. that ended the rship of many years. ...story plenty sha but dt one ended.

mercylicious:


my ex went mad cos of silent treatment. a minor disagreement, he got angry, i got angry too cos i wasnt at fault. he started the silent treatment. i joined him . 7days later the guy ran mad. it took a lot of midnight prayer and fasting and much more before he got himself. that ended the rship of many years. ...story plenty sha but dt one ended.

@bosun11...why do you do it?
For how long do you give the treatment?

Unibenstudent:
[i]two guys? That's weird.
Guys get over issues easily.
I hate it a lot, e dey painnn me for body. [/i]my brother is disrespectful and overtly meticulous and we clash on issues that deal with been meticulous so,,I don black list d guy

dmz:


This applies to me. I'm quiet and an introvert so when you give me the silent treatment you're doing me a favour

Okikiki:
let us be mindful that silence is golden. words spoken in anger cannever be withdrawn. Moreso when you have been irreversibly oppressed by a very senior family member whose target is to get words from you and use it to hang you

the best treatment here should be silence cos some actions speak louder than words.