sunwa:


I walked out of a relationship of several years as a result of consistent lifestyle of infidelity of my Ex.

She was my first love and i did all a man could do to ensure she was happy at all times but she constantly cheats on me and at a point she eloped with another guy while we were planning for our traditional wedding and when she came back to her senses she thought she could find her way back to my heart but i shut it permanently against her.

This was after series of sexual escapades she has had with other guys which i later got to know.

Though i loved her and still do but because i could no longer trust her, which is incidentally one of the bedrock of any relationship i had to call of the relationship even after series attempt and appeal by friends and family for her comeback.

This was in 2012, with time the wound got partially healed and somehow we became friends against but this time around on a casual level.

In January 2015, she got married and i decided to respect her new status by cutting off completely from her to avoid any chances of having any immoral act with her.

Just last week she sent me a lady's picture on whassap whom she introduced as her friend and she informed me that she has discussed with about me and that the lady is interested in me and she is highly recommending her for marriage.

The said lady is cool, i have checked her out on her Facebook page and she got my pass mark but i have my reservations, I don't trust my EX, i fear she may have an ulterior motive, till date she regrets that we didn't get married even when she was engaged to her husband she went to confront a girl I was seeing and really messed up things.

Please i need your honest advice, I'm not seeing anyone for now and the lady she recommended looks good, do i go ahead and key in or should i decline "the offer", as they say " birds of a feather flock together". Is she planning to play a fast one on me ( a revenge mission).

Please, what do I do?

Thank you.

Aprime:
I believe she's only trying to make up to you for everything wrong she has done. And since she knows your taste all well, she opted to recommend someone better to you. By the way, I think she really wants you to be happy. But it's up to you to date and decide.

greennproud:
Ogbeni OP, here is her plan. you mentioned she still regrets leaving abi, she still wants to be in your life by all means and her 'friend' is her access. This time around she will exploit the nikkas in u to maxima tru her friend. My advice, Dump the Idea and look for another woman. Oga we are talking of 'forever' here except u plan to divorce later.

My two Kobo!

priscaoge:
Kachi.sbarbie I need your opinion here

There is only one reason I can think of : she still gat love for him.
So, she is concerned about him making a wrong choice, hence her trying to hook him up with her bestie - she feels her bestie is certified ok.

This arrangement would only ensure he gets the best and she doesn't get to stop seeing him in future.
She wanna be a part of his life and vice-versa.

imoleay0:
Bazinga!

Beamborla:

You watch the big bang theory?

Beamborla:

You watch the big bang theory?

dabossman:


Why is that surprising to you? There are people who enjoy such comedy shows here on Nairaland. We are not all blockheads, even though many abound here.

imoleay0:

I do, you?

Beamborla:

Are you kidding me? I've season 1-6

sunwa:


I walked out of a relationship of several years as a result of consistent lifestyle of infidelity of my Ex.

She was my first love and i did all a man could do to ensure she was happy at all times but she constantly cheats on me and at a point she eloped with another guy while we were planning for our traditional wedding and when she came back to her senses she thought she could find her way back to my heart but i shut it permanently against her.

This was after series of sexual escapades she has had with other guys which i later got to know.

Though i loved her and still do but because i could no longer trust her, which is incidentally one of the bedrock of any relationship i had to call of the relationship even after series attempt and appeal by friends and family for her comeback.

This was in 2012, with time the wound got partially healed and somehow we became friends against but this time around on a casual level.

In January 2015, she got married and i decided to respect her new status by cutting off completely from her to avoid any chances of having any immoral act with her.

Just last week she sent me a lady's picture on whassap whom she introduced as her friend and she informed me that she has discussed with about me and that the lady is interested in me and she is highly recommending her for marriage.

The said lady is cool, i have checked her out on her Facebook page and she got my pass mark but i have my reservations, I don't trust my EX, i fear she may have an ulterior motive, till date she regrets that we didn't get married even when she was engaged to her husband she went to confront a girl I was seeing and really messed up things.

Please i need your honest advice, I'm not seeing anyone for now and the lady she recommended looks good, do i go ahead and key in or should i decline "the offer", as they say " birds of a feather flock together". Is she planning to play a fast one on me ( a revenge mission).

Please, what do I do?

Thank you.

imoleay0:

omg! You have to see season 7 & 8, that jim parson is just too good.

sunwa:


I walked out of a relationship of several years as a result of consistent lifestyle of infidelity of my Ex.

She was my first love and i did all a man could do to ensure she was happy at all times but she constantly cheats on me and at a point she eloped with another guy while we were planning for our traditional wedding and when she came back to her senses she thought she could find her way back to my heart but i shut it permanently against her.

This was after series of sexual escapades she has had with other guys which i later got to know.

Though i loved her and still do but because i could no longer trust her, which is incidentally one of the bedrock of any relationship i had to call of the relationship even after series attempt and appeal by friends and family for her comeback.

This was in 2012, with time the wound got partially healed and somehow we became friends against but this time around on a casual level.

In January 2015, she got married and i decided to respect her new status by cutting off completely from her to avoid any chances of having any immoral act with her.

Just last week she sent me a lady's picture on whassap whom she introduced as her friend and she informed me that she has discussed with about me and that the lady is interested in me and she is highly recommending her for marriage.

The said lady is cool, i have checked her out on her Facebook page and she got my pass mark but i have my reservations, I don't trust my EX, i fear she may have an ulterior motive, till date she regrets that we didn't get married even when she was engaged to her husband she went to confront a girl I was seeing and really messed up things.

Please i need your honest advice, I'm not seeing anyone for now and the lady she recommended looks good, do i go ahead and key in or should i decline "the offer", as they say " birds of a feather flock together". Is she planning to play a fast one on me ( a revenge mission).

Please, what do I do?

Thank you.

Mumu .... see the kind of queation you carry come here. Oya go ask IFA.... U need oracle to tell you that birds of the same feather flock together. Bro, if I were in you shoes I will just chop and keep walking. But if you are not up to it just let her be. Then reply you ex " devil get behind me". Else you can inbox be her number.

Beamborla:

Woosh! I'm sure gonna visit Terminus tomorrow.
I might just fall in love with Sheldon.
Thanchuu

imoleay0:
Please don't fall in love with him o.

missugonma1:
Guy I will advice you should get a girl or wife for yourself,live your Ex and her girlfriend if not your Ex will use everything against you when she will need you..

ideology:

Emmmmm, I just felt I should stop by, in fact, the emboldened got my attention.

Have learnt over the years the difference between good and right.

Well she might look good, pls before you go further even though you are yet to meet, ask your self does she look right. Hmmmmm
Listen to that inner voice, i assure you, you can tell if she's right for you. Don't also forget the place of prayers in desicions like this,(though I don't know your faith)

Howbeit, am not in support of people recommending partners for others. As a man, go out there and Find a lady for yourself and take responsibility of the outcomes. there are lots of well-cultured single ladies everywhere, even on NL here. Pls find for yourself.

Besides, your Ex has a bad record, its difficult to conclude if her friends her different. But Hmmmm… dangerous to trade.

However, she may not have any plans to hurt you, the lady might be of age to get married and probably getting worried and she is trying to help her out, knowing quite well, you are in the same state

Ps: But Why do you want to get married, is it because you are of age, loneliness etc.
Be calm, this desicion can make or mar your life forever, never be pressured into marriage for any reason.

Imanuelle:


My guy! Chai! All these for free?

Nwanne, let us open a shop and give people advise, I'll be the one to take charge of the finance.

sunwa:



Please, what do I do?

Thank you.