kestolove95:
How e take concern. U?

VellyG:

Too many cooked up stories these days on naira land. Well nollywood is moving

eskober:
Am in a delima right now. My best friend is planning on getting married to the love of his life by the end of this year. I help her to secure a job in my office, I have been noticing this closeness btw my boss and her, when asked her she told me that my boss is just being nice but now it's very obvious in the office and everybody is talking about it. Every time they are always going out together under the umbrella of official duty. Everytime I ask her she will always deny it. Now I don't know what to do I don't know how to tell my friend, I have tried to set her up in the office maybe that can make her loose the job but my boss is always there to defend her. Fellow nairalanders what should i do in this situation?

Globawatch:


12 An improper romantic relationship could develop at
your place of employment. In fact, a secular study
revealed that more than half of adulterous women and
nearly 3 out of 4 adulterous men had illicit relations with
a workmate. Does your secular work require that you
associate with members of the opposite sex? If so, what is
the nature of your relationship with them? Do you have
boundaries in place that keep it professional and that do
not allow it to become something more? For example,
after repeated casual conversations with a male
coworker, a Christian sister might make him her
confidant, even telling him about her marital problems.
In another situation, after becoming friendly with a
female coworker, a Christian man might reason: “She
values my opinion and really listens when I talk to her.
And she appreciates me. I wish I got more of this kind of
treatment at home!” Can you see how Christians in such
situations could be vulnerable to committing adultery?

“In the workplace and elsewhere, beware of situations
that might foster intimacy. For example, spending extra
hours working closely with someone of the opposite sex
can set the stage for temptation. As a married man or
woman, you should make it clear by your speech and
your demeanor that you are simply not available. As one
who pursues godly devotion, you would certainly not
want to invite undue attention by flirting or by being
immodest in your dress and grooming. . . . Having photos
of your marriage mate and children around the
workplace will serve as a visual reminder to you and to
others that you have priorities. Be determined never to
encourage—or even tolerate—seductive overtures from
another.”

sexual fantasies involving someone other than your
marriage mate. The article indicated that engaging in
sexual fantasies will increase the likelihood of your
committing adultery. ( Jas. 1:14, 15) If you are married, it
would be wise for you and your spouse to review such
information together from time to time. Marriage is an
arrangement instituted by Jehovah himself, and it is
sacred. Setting aside time to talk to your mate about your
marriage is a fine way to show that you value sacred
things.— Gen. 2:21-24.
18 If you find yourself tempted to develop an improper
romantic relationship, meditate on the damaging
consequences of fornication and adultery. ( Prov. 7:22,
23; Gal. 6:7) Those who commit immorality displease
Jehovah and hurt their spouse and themselves. (Read
Malachi 2:13, 14.) In contrast, contemplate the benefits
that come to those who maintain chaste conduct. Not
only do they have the hope of living forever but they also
enjoy the best life now, including a clean conscience.—
Read Proverbs 3:1, 2.
19 The psalmist sang: “Abundant peace belongs to
those loving your [God’s] law, and for them there is no
stumbling block.” ( Ps. 119:165) So love the truth, and
“keep strict watch that how you walk is not as unwise but
as wise persons” in these wicked times. ( Eph. 5:15, 16)
The paths we follow are rife with traps set by Satan to
ensnare true worshippers. But we are well-equipped to
protect ourselves. Jehovah has given us what we need to
“stand firm” and “quench all the wicked one’s burning
missiles”!— Eph. 6:11, 16.

Ilekeh:


My job is professional, in a relaxing atmosphere.

People are just too perverted and think that the only thing that must exist between a man and a woman is se...x.

Ilekeh:


Ok. I do none of that, thank you.
No touching. No unprofessional language (body parts, intimate talk etc).
We're going bowling this coming Friday for my birthday
He's a fun person, like an older brother jare

eskober:
Am in a delima right now. My best friend is planning on getting married to the love of his life by the end of this year. I help her to secure a job in my office, I have been noticing this closeness btw my boss and her, when asked her she told me that my boss is just being nice but now it's very obvious in the office and everybody is talking about it. Every time they are always going out together under the umbrella of official duty. Everytime I ask her she will always deny it. Now I don't know what to do I don't know how to tell my friend, I have tried to set her up in the office maybe that can make her loose the job but my boss is always there to defend her. Fellow nairalanders what should i do in this situation?

AnyibestDede:
Tell ur friend but be ready to lose ur job

anyaekekehinde:


Bros you and many people here talk about getting hard evidence,

how do you gather such evidence.... ?

now lets be real..

I have seen seen a gal that slept in a guys house overnight and claimed nothing happened (no touching, no hugging..) well its possible she is saying the truth..... after all a lady has slept in my room before and i didn't have sex with her (not that i didnt touch her)

The husband of someone i know will carry alomo in his pocket, goto an hotel room with books and you will see a lady coming of the hotel, but he will claim they are there to negotiate stuffs or that he is there to read but the lady just came for only a visit, funny enough the guy's wife will believe him.. now he maybe saying the truth, only God can tell what truly happened...

Now what i am trying to stress is, you cannot really get that hard evidence you people talk about unless it was a 3some or you had set a camera in their room or you laced your gf with magun.

What i often tell people is, don't give people the chance to suspect you!
Dont play with smoke while saying to yourself, there is no fire under!!
There is what we call IMPROPER RELATIONSHIPS & COMPROMISING POSITIONS but some ladies of today call it friendship and yes they maybe correct. I am not advocating that people shouldn't mix up with opposite sex BUT lets set boundaries that is OPEN/OBVIOUS for everyone to see!!!

Davidovinci:
Your topic is misleading tho.....thought you had tangible evidence to proof your accusations..but since u are smelling something fishy,just let ur friend know what's up.

eskober:
Am in a delima right now. My best friend is planning on getting married to the love of his life by the end of this year. I help her to secure a job in my office, I have been noticing this closeness btw my boss and her, when asked her she told me that my boss is just being nice but now it's very obvious in the office and everybody is talking about it. Every time they are always going out together under the umbrella of official duty. Everytime I ask her she will always deny it. Now I don't know what to do I don't know how to tell my friend, I have tried to set her up in the office maybe that can make her loose the job but my boss is always there to defend her. Fellow nairalanders what should i do in this situation?

eskober:
Am in a delima right now. My best friend is planning on getting married to the love of his life by the end of this year. I help her to secure a job in my office, I have been noticing this closeness btw my boss and her, when asked her she told me that my boss is just being nice but now it's very obvious in the office and everybody is talking about it. Every time they are always going out together under the umbrella of official duty. Everytime I ask her she will always deny it. Now I don't know what to do I don't know how to tell my friend, I have tried to set her up in the office maybe that can make her loose the job but my boss is always there to defend her. Fellow nairalanders what should i do in this situation?

eskober:
Am in a delima right now. My best friend is planning on getting married to the love of his life by the end of this year. I help her to secure a job in my office, I have been noticing this closeness btw my boss and her, when asked her she told me that my boss is just being nice but now it's very obvious in the office and everybody is talking about it. Every time they are always going out together under the umbrella of official duty. Everytime I ask her she will always deny it. Now I don't know what to do I don't know how to tell my friend, I have tried to set her up in the office maybe that can make her loose the job but my boss is always there to defend her. Fellow nairalanders what should i do in this situation?

kestolove95:
and u who ask u to quote me?...oga defender weldon oo...votron defender of d universe

ednut1:
reminds me of wen i had to go bk to office one friday night nd caught my oga wit d sexy secretary whose bf every one in d office knows

Reference:


Exactly. Because if it is hairy, smells like a goat and bleats you don't need the remaining sense, of sight to know its a goat except if there is an elaborate, well thought and executed plan to hoodwink the blind man. He will be 90% correct. Is there such a plan in that office to hoodwink the friend. Highly unlikely.

Perception is a very powerful thing. We create it consciously and unconsciously all the time so why should we assume it wouldn't work when we 'donot need it to show'. She will act lovey dovey to the fiance and boss and want a good response from onlookers in one and a neutral response in the other. Haba.

sameer1212:
@ops, let ur friend know everything that is happening as soon as posible. Women....

Ilekeh:
Everyone thinks my boss likes me too, but we're just good friends. Having dinner and going out to events doesn't mean anything else. I'm sure my boyfriend asks the same question because he keeps bringing it up. It's annoying.

OP just mind your business abeg. They're just friends.

naijaboiy:

How e no take concern am

Would you be happy if a very good friend of yours has a knowledge of this and decides to withhold it from you?

People like you are not very good friends