Ishilove:

Can you please expantiate?

lushcream has given you the answer....

Lushcream:
so simple now, a woman who has been severely n severally used, sampled and dropped by other men/dudes ...... or a woman who has tasted it all and her womanly virtues has extremely diminished.

Jesus Christ

..yes. London can be one of the loneliest cities in the world if you are not connected or embedded in a wide social circle

Dalai:
I am a 27 year old male living and working in London. Many of my friends back home in Nigeria are now married. I desire something as such as well,

Think about the outcome you want - and what comes with it, the benefits and the burdens. You talk marriage, which is good, but a miss-marriage is the loneliest place. Are you mature enough to marry? Can you cope with the responsibilities and pressure. You are working but can your salary - even if only in part - sustain a family. Children can happen very soon and very suddenly. Is this in response to the situation of "your mates/friends in Nigeria"? And be sure of what you want in a spouse.

Dalai:
but the issue is that, it is pretty difficult - if not near impossible - to meet the type of person I will love to date and probably go on to settle down with, here in London. The type of person - career focused, family aware, strong Nigerian roots- but not stereotyped, religious- but not crazy about it, desires the basic fun things in life like travelling, salsa, adventure - is almost non-existing here in London.

Not true. They are here. You problem is locating and meeting them.

Dalai:
I do socialize a lot, and it drives me nuts that you only ever meet a Nigerian lady once in every 20 or 30 social outings.

If you socialise "a lot" and you are meeting 1 Nigerian lady every 20 or 30 outings, you are obviously looking in all the wrong places.. There is a critical mass of Nigerians in the UK now. Finding a spouse here should not present too much problems for a considered and focused person.

Dalai:
I know in the UK, there is a tendency for people to withdraw and live a convenient but antisocial 9-5 lifestyle. Which brings me to the crux of my entire rant, two questions for UK folks:

The dynamics of life in the UK mean once you start a family it tends to becomes the focal point of your life. The 9-5 is pain, but it gets most everyone here. But Nigerians still socialise and congregate - a lot in fact.

Dalai:
1) What is your experience with meeting and dating other Nigerians in the UK

No problem at all - why should there be?

Dalai:
2)How best does one improve his chances of meeting and dating other Nigerians in the UK

Go where they congregate; make friends at many levels, grow your acquaintances and network. The more people you meet and get to know the more you are likely to come across someone suitable. It's not rocket science.

I have two for you if you please;
1. Where do you live - and have you considered moving?
2. How long have you resided in the UK and are you planning to stay here or relocate to Nigeria?


TV

If you hardly meet nigerian girls in london, where do all these Nigerian Nairaland Londoner guys meet the ones they are always bad mouthing as b*tches and hoes?

Anyway Goodluck in your search.
If you're open minded and not the type to buy into stereotype, you could meet a lady sooner than you expect.

Dalai:
I am a 27 year old male living and working in London. Many of my friends back home in Nigeria are now married. I desire something as such as well, but the issue is that, it is pretty difficult - if not near impossible - to meet the type of person I will love to date and probably go on to settle down with, here in London. The type of person - career focused, family aware, strong Nigerian roots- but not stereotyped, religious- but not crazy about it, desires the basic fun things in life like travelling, salsa, adventure - is almost non-existing here in London. I do socialize a lot, and it drives me nuts that you only ever meet a Nigerian lady once in every 20 or 30 social outings. I know in the UK, there is a tendency for people to withdraw and live a convenient but antisocial 9-5 lifestyle. Which brings me to the crux of my entire rant, two questions for UK folks:

1) What is your experience with meeting and dating other Nigerians in the UK
2)How best does one improve his chances of meeting and dating other Nigerians in the UK

TV01:
I have two for you if you please;
1. Where do you live - and have you considered moving?
2. How long have you resided in the UK and are you planning to stay here or relocate to Nigeria?

you have two?
can you reveal their bio-stats?

or better still, import your own date

coogar:

you have two?
can you reveal their bio-stats?

...2 questions!

If na "unmarried women", I have a truckload. Unfortunately they tend to approach me for help when things are turning k-legged and expect miralces. I have repeatedly told them, I'm Jnr Jesus not Jesus

But if you are looking let me know your spec . Wait 0, what happened to Sisi' Sarah?


TV

TV01:

...2 questions!

If na "unmarried women", I have a truckload. Unfortunately they tend to approach me for help when things are turning k-legged and expect miralces. I have repeatedly told them, I'm Jnr Jesus not Jesus

truckload of unmarried women?
are their flowers "pluckable" or have they wilted away?

But if you are looking let me know your spec . Wait 0, what happened to Sisi' Sarah?
TV

sister sarah wouldn't mind - every sarah needs a hagar.

Its easy. You could:

Go to a good church..Although there are a lot of pretenders in church these days but there are still a few good girls.

Try enrolling into postgrad school.. hang out in libraries, interact with course mates, go to parties (especially house parties)

Join a gym. Great way to meet fit and healthy people.

@dalai

Did you say salsa? Where do you dance in Central London? Cos you won't find Nigerian girls in salsa places in London I was the Lone one amongst many black Africans. Unlike other areas where it was assumed I was Nigerian simply because I was black, in Salsa clubs partners would ask where I was from.

More Nigerian women in the Nigerian salsa scene. Probably in their thousands. Kizomba,bachata and formal ballroom also popular.

I would say if you don't meet Nigerian girls in your circle then consider dating outside. Nigerian women are PLENTY oh but not in your circle that's for sure. Just taking a trip to Romford,barking,Dagenham,Upton park, dalston on market days dem plenty there. Lol

Open your mind to other Africans too eg Ghanaians.
Predominantly Nigerian churches have lots of Nigerian women asides RCCG try Hillsong (off oxford street)

By the way please edit your title, which one be 'in the London'

salsera:
Did you say salsa? Where do you dance in Central London? Cos you won't find Nigerian girls in salsa places in London I was the Lone one amongst many black Africans. Unlike other areas where it was assumed I was Nigerian simply because I was black, in Salsa clubs partners would ask where I was from.

only heaven knows what black women love doing. i must have used 50 different gyms in the last 5 years, the highest number of black women i see there at any point isn't more than 2.

it's always black males & white folks striving to keep fit. when health issues start creeping up on them in their 40s, you see them running from one spiritualist to another for help. all they do is sit in one spot, gossip, eat and fart like a constipated buffalo.

SAMBARRY:
This poster sounds like coogar or Pickabeau


those are my prime suspects

sambarry.. stalking since the Garden of Eden
na wa
soon na you go dey complain

pickabeau1:


sambarry.. stalking since the Garden of Eden
na wa
soon na you go dey complain

sambarry loves you!
she's just too shy to admit it. the only thing she loves more than you is owambe party.

coogar:


sambarry loves you!
she's just too shy to admit it. the only thing she loves more than you is owambe party.

LoL...

She don't mess up with her party rice and jigijigi

Op, I'm bothered by the "The" before London. Please modify.

lolaredvelvet:
Its easy. You could:

Go to a good church..Although there are a lot of pretenders in church these days but there are still a few good girls.

I agree that this is probably the easiest route, but we don't even know if OP is Christian or not.

Try enrolling into postgrad school.. hang out in libraries, interact with course mates, go to parties (especially house parties)

Enroll in a postgrad school just to meet a naija girl in the UK?

Join a gym. Great way to meet fit and healthy people.

Naija girls in gyms? I have never met one before? Not a single one!

Thanks for your response everyone!

I have edited the tittle. That was a typo because i initially intended the title to be "Dating in the UK can be difficult".

coogar:


only heaven knows what black women love doing. i must have used 50 different gyms in the last 5 years, the highest number of black women i see there at any point isn't more than 2.

it's always black males & white folks striving to keep fit. when health issues start creeping up on them in their 40s, you see them running from one spiritualist to another for help. all they do is sit in one spot, gossip, eat and fart like a constipated buffalo.

I think this is dis-respectful. You can simply judge all black females from your own unique experience.

Shock:


I think this is dis-respectful. You can simply judge all black females from your own unique experience.

my experience is far & wide & it spans over 4 continents. it's not a myth clawed out of the stratosphere.

They like the movies and owanbe.

coogar:


only heaven knows what black women love doing. i must have used 50 different gyms in the last 5 years, the highest number of black women i see there at any point isn't more than 2.

it's always black males & white folks striving to keep fit. when health issues start creeping up on them in their 40s, you see them running from one spiritualist to another for help. all they do is sit in one spot, gossip, eat and fart like a constipated buffalo.

cococandy:
They like the movies and owanbe.

you have just described sambarry!

coogar:


you have just described sambarry!

Well I'm like that too. Just that I go to the gym in addition to all that.

cococandy:


Well I'm like that too. Just that I go to the gym in addition to all that.

i am afraid, no one can beat sambarry in owambe parties. she has sewn 25 different aso-ebis this year alone.

coogar:


i am afraid, no one can beat sambarry in owambe parties. she has sewn 25 different aso-ebis this year alone.

Make she enjoy jare.
You don't know what you have until you lose it.

If I can find one owanbe to attend in a year in this place, I will looove it.

Travel on the C2C + keen eyes + Metro's "Rush Hour Crush" = created opportunity.

Just a thought, I see a lot of West African babes on that line

coogar:

only heaven knows what black women love doing. i must have used 50 different gyms in the last 5 years, the highest number of black women i see there at any point isn't more than 2.
it's always black males & white folks striving to keep fit. when health issues start creeping up on them in their 40s, you see them running from one spiritualist to another for help. all they do is sit in one spot, gossip, eat and fart like a constipated buffalo.

God!!

coogar now i know the kinds you role with.

Do they also fart in the sheet for you?
consider it a kind gesture.

Chillis:

God!!

coogar now i know the kinds you role with.

Do they also fart in the sheet for you?
consider it a kind gesture.

hahahaha
you know i am addicted to health & fitness. if she doesn't love working out, she's not for me.

cococandy:

Make she enjoy jare.
You don't know what you have until you lose it. If I can find one owanbe to attend in a year in this place, I will looove it.

there's owambe everywhere na - where are you based? NY or GA?

coogar:


hahahaha
you know i am addicted to health & fitness. if she doesn't love working out, she's not for me.



there's owambe everywhere na - where are you based? NY or GA?

WA.

I don't see any of that.
I haven't even met one Nigerian to speak of.

coogar:


hahahaha
you know i am addicted to health & fitness. if she doesn't love working out, she's not for me.



there's owambe everywhere na - where are you based? NY or GA?

coogar, i imagine you to be fat o. and you confirm it by the bloated buffalo phrase

if she fart for you, give her double. I know you can do it! dont disappoint me

cococandy:


WA.

I don't see any of that.
I haven't even met one Nigerian to speak of.

WA?
you would be lucky to find any african there, let alone nigerians. too far for africans.

Chillis:

coogar, i imagine you to be fat o. and you confirm it by the bloated buffalo phrase
if she fart for you, give her double. I know you can do it! dont disappoint me

i am the fittest african male you can ever meet. even my instructor is jealous of physique. i for send you pictures but "it's not that serious"

coogar:


WA?
you would be lucky to find any african there, let alone nigerians. too far for africans.



i am the fittest african male you can ever meet. even my instructor is jealous of physique. i for send you pictures but "it's not that serious"

na lie.

Pics or....

just show the one pack make we see

coogar:


WA?
you would be lucky to find any african there, let alone nigerians. too far for africans.



i am the fittest african male you can ever meet. even my instructor is jealous of physique. i for send you pictures but "it's not that serious"

I've met an Ivorien lady. A sweetheart she is.
I have the address of one two Igbo sisters related to my aunt that live here too. Although quite far like 200miles

I just hate to drive too far. One day when I have time, I will go find them and we will organize owanbe even if na only three of us and their kids and husbands there