tosyne2much:
. I congratulate you for being a lady

That aside, who the hell discuss if he's going to have sex with a lady or not before going into a relationship ?

Pls how old are you ?

Velocitron:
I don't think just 'cause you're in a relationship, you're entitled to your partner's body, neither are you entitled to demanding gifts.

Personally, I intend on staying a virgin until marriage. Not for my husband or anyone else, but I believe I'm doing a favour to myself. Sex is a huge deal. It's practically the power of creation right there in your hands [size=4pt]or your genitals [/size] and it's a risk I'd be happy to take in the safety of marriage.

However, it's always important to set boundaries of a relationship early on. It's better to tell your partner early on that you just want a romantic relationship rather than a physical/sexual one or vice-versa. And if it doesn't sit well with your partner, let them find someone who wants the same thing they do, and you do the same.

Everydaeguy:
salvation

Everydaeguy:
a lot,you'l be in good terms with your maker,u'l be spiritually strong,u'l attain your destiny at the right time,whatever u ask your maker he shall provide for you,you'l be righteous and clean b4 ur maker....what else could one want

bettercreature:
There is nothing like a relationship without sex,if your girl friend refused to have sex with you pls pick race,you are just ATM machine

Velocitron:
I don't think just 'cause you're in a relationship, you're entitled to your partner's body, neither are you entitled to demanding gifts.

Personally, I intend on staying a virgin until marriage. Not for my husband or anyone else, but I believe I'm doing a favour to myself. Sex is a huge deal. It's practically the power of creation right there in your hands [size=4pt]or your genitals [/size] and it's a risk I'd be happy to take in the safety of marriage.

However, it's always important to set boundaries of a relationship early on. It's better to tell your partner early on that you just want a romantic relationship rather than a physical/sexual one or vice-versa. And if it doesn't sit well with your partner, let them find someone who wants the same thing they do, and you do the same.

missclasssy:
A relatioship should never be a parasitic one where one partner feeds and gains at the expense of the other.
It should be a symbiotic one which benefits both parties.

The primary reason for attraction is the defining factor as regards this issue.
If all that attracts a guy to a lady is her sexual appeal, then I don't see why he would be expecting to gain something else from her.

There are other things that should attract a guy towards a lady, such as the level of education she has attained, her wit, a talent she has, the way she relates with people, a vocational skill she has acquired, her wealth, etc.
When the some of aforementioned is used as criteria for attraction coupled with her physical attributes, then definitely there wouldn't be need to ask this question.

Freemanan:
It depends on the girl you have. A guy can gain lots apart from sex. For a girl that is jovial and cheerful, she makes a Good friend and she gives you happiness. It might mean little to "sexaholic" but it's a big thing to have. Also some girls are catalyst to their men, they give connections which the guy cannot dream of on his own, they stand as motivation to the guy.
Now, for a guy that knows what he wants in a relationship, he can never miss sex if not given. The urge might come in sometimes due to our nature but it won't be a factor.

#strictly for the matured minds#

kingcity:
GOD bless ur matured mind

Freemanan:
It depends on the girl you have. A guy can gain lots apart from sex. For a girl that is jovial and cheerful, she makes a Good friend and she gives you happiness. It might mean little to "sexaholic" but it's a big thing to have. Also some girls are catalyst to their men, they give connections which the guy cannot dream of on his own, they stand as motivation to the guy.
Now, for a guy that knows what he wants in a relationship, he can never miss sex if not given. The urge might come in sometimes due to our nature but it won't be a factor.

#strictly for the matured minds#

missclasssy:
A relatioship should never be a parasitic one where one partner feeds and gains at the expense of the other.
It should be a symbiotic one which benefits both parties.

The primary reason for attraction is the defining factor as regards this issue.
If all that attracts a guy to a lady is her sexual appeal, then I don't see why he would be expecting to gain something else from her.

There are other things that should attract a guy towards a lady, such as the level of education she has attained, her wit, a talent she has, the way she relates with people, a vocational skill she has acquired, her wealth, etc.
When the some of aforementioned is used as criteria for attraction coupled with her physical attributes, then definitely there wouldn't be need to ask this question.

SethJr:
@OP!! But ele yiii gidi gan. So if I may ask, Wht do ppl really gain in s3x?

InZA:


Well said.

bruno419:
She wants you to recharge her phone, pay her hair bills, flex, go shopping, yet she says she is keeping for her husband

My question is, what will the guy benefit?

Freemanan:
It depends on the girl you have. A guy can gain lots apart from sex. For a girl that is jovial and cheerful, she makes a Good friend and she gives you happiness. It might mean little to "sexaholic" but it's a big thing to have. Also some girls are catalyst to their men, they give connections which the guy cannot dream of on his own, they stand as motivation to the guy.
Now, for a guy that knows what he wants in a relationship, he can never miss sex if not given. The urge might come in sometimes due to our nature but it won't be a factor.

#strictly for the matured minds#

missclasssy:
A relatioship should never be a parasitic one where one partner feeds and gains at the expense of the other.
It should be a symbiotic one which benefits both parties.

The primary reason for attraction is the defining factor as regards this issue.
If all that attracts a guy to a lady is her sexual appeal, then I don't see why he would be expecting to gain something else from her.

There are other things that should attract a guy towards a lady, such as the level of education she has attained, her wit, a talent she has, the way she relates with people, a vocational skill she has acquired, her wealth, etc.
When the some of aforementioned is used as criteria for attraction coupled with her physical attributes, then definitely there wouldn't be need to ask this question.

prinzcaleb:
It should be 50-50, because if not for sex why will I toast a girl in the first place?

Sunshinelady:
. U are truelly a 'mature mind'. Dats y its not gud to run after outward qualities, som guys are huge, handsome rich, but d way d reason eh? U will be amazed! Funi thin is, its even d guys dat dont take sex as a do or die affair, dat most (reasonable) grls are most attracted to. Most important thin about dating is to date som1 dat wants d same thins u want & thinks d way u tink, dat way there wont be trouble along d way

missclasssy:
A relatioship should never be a parasitic one where one partner feeds and gains at the expense of the other.
It should be a symbiotic one which benefits both parties.

The primary reason for attraction is the defining factor as regards this issue.
If all that attracts a guy to a lady is her sexual appeal, then I don't see why he would be expecting to gain something else from her.

There are other things that should attract a guy towards a lady, such as the level of education she has attained, her wit, a talent she has, the way she relates with people, a vocational skill she has acquired, her wealth, etc.
When the some of aforementioned is used as criteria for attraction coupled with her physical attributes, then definitely there wouldn't be need to ask this question.

mentorandfriend:
I make a clear distinction between a relationship and a friendship. I have female friends, and I expect them to reciprocate back the investment I make in them with my time, money, contacts and larger social circles, my wisdom, etc in the same way; though may not be in the same measure. That is the benefit of friendship. I spend for you, you spend for me. I am not friends with people who do not understand this law of reciprocal giving. I also do not expect sex from people I call my friends.

As for a relationship, that person has a higher status to my female friends. She is the one I have intention of marrying. I have taken her by the hand and set her aside from others. Because I respect her, I will not want to demand for sex from her because she is going to be my wife and I want her to honour me when I marry her.

The problem with guys these days is that they confuse friendship with a relationship.