agarawu23:
hmmm

Adaobi12:
ehhhhhhhhhh.

agarawu23:
nice jacket though

Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.

Rapmoney:
Be patient while you read this...

If you are a young and ambitious dude still struggling to get to the top, this write-up will save you the stress and pains of the so-called love we have been deceived about for long!

If you still think that there's what is called 'true love' or 'love without money or resources', then you must be living in a fool's paradise!!! (Quote me if you like!)

The truth of the matter is that what people in the past enjoyed as 'true love' no longer exist. Then it was possible for a man and a woman to fall in love based on personal qualities or characters without materialism attached to it! Those were the good old days! Our society has changed and any one who still lives in the past is not better than the village idiot!!!

I have heard people saying often times that love or relationship is not all about money! To me, that's the highest level of trash and rubbish! If you are a young man with ambition, still striving and toiling to make it, you better forget about love and concentrate full-time...I mean 100% on your dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes killing themselves over love issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!

TashaPi:


The logic if this is that some dude probably got dumped flat on his #$! And he came up with a nice write up on why broke $#! Dudes should work hard to get and keep a good looking, hard working woman happy. And some other dudes think women should feed them, oh ny bad, support their brokeness. And some chick thinks we should struggle with them. Meanwhile, no one remembers the left behinds after the struggle. Do u get the logic yet?

ronald4lif:
Nice one bruv.

I subscribe to your line of reasoning. It is advisable for a guy who's still struggling not to focus on a relationship and fall for the deceit called love. Love without money is not worth it. It gets you distracted from pursuing your goals and drain your scarce resources.

A relationship can't survive without money and that girl you're spending your little money and investing on today could dump your ass tomorrow for your age mates who had their priorities right while you were deceiving yourself with love.

Love won't pay the bills either now or after you're married so why waste your time when you can make something meaningful out of life now. That girl you're spending on will only succeed in ruining you up. It is on record that most relationship arguments and divorces stem from finances and the management of the home. How would you handle that when you don't have money?.

I'm not dismissing the importance of a woman in a man's life but priorities need to be set right. Even if one must embark on a relationship and she keeps demanding for this and that you have to quit it. Don't be manipulated by love. The chances of a woman loving you without money is very slim.

The first question I believe a man should ask himself from a girlfriend who's always demanding money from him is, what if there's no more money?. If you can answer that I believe you would know why she's in the relationship with you.

agarawu23:
nice one rapmoney.

I am in support of your write up But I want us to look it from another angle.

I am not in support of a young hustling guy spending lavishly on a Lady he is yet to marry but that doesn't mean he should not fall in love.(he should apply sense)

If he finally forget about ladies, chase his dream and later succeed, how will he find true love ? (no be our girls of nowadays? Ferrari things )

What if the guy is not destined to be rich? I am sure he will still settle down with one (though she might not be his dream girl)

We have few ladies who don't care if a guy is rich or poor, all they want is true love (bros I still dey find them o )
BoBo u nor go kill me wf laff,you're man tell you've taken orijin

Dollyak:

And then you woke up from your sleep.
In the unlikely odds of this being true, It seems you are dating down. So step up and see if any big girl will labour in a relationship while you bring nothing to the table.

yummylookintoks:



It's quite sad when one comes here to share his/her experience here with all honesty but only to be doubted. The question is, what would you or anybody pays me for lying or coming up with stories? Our experiences are different in life bro.

I guess we are all leveller here on public forum which is ok by me

I m pretty aware of the fact that life is of different levels but buddy, let me make this clear here, I have done my bit at d top as far as big shots are concerned.

I have dated Deputy Manager and Manager of Multi-international establishmment. I have dated two Ambassadors' daughters of two certain countries here in UK. And I have equally dated ladies from humble backgrounds like me(middle class).

And "I think" ( I am not very sure why i escaped all these spending demands from ladies) what really give me that edge in all my past relationships were my "I don't care attitude" and likeable personality.

tanimola22:



Guy, correct. Please expand more on the likeable personality and I don't care attitude.

yummylookintoks:


I developed this attitude when I realised at very tender age that I was too emotional. I realised in my first relationship that I won't eat until my first girlfriend turn up whenever she promised to come around. It became a pain and punishment whenever she failed to show up due to one reason or the other.

It got to a stage that I had to ask myself "how long would you continue to do this under the stupidity of love? I made up my mind right there and right then that I would always be in charge and here I am today.

I take charge of my relationships regardless of what her age is right from day one, the social status of her father /mother is and the porch car she drives......

IHate9ja1:

In my academics back in college,i had the same experience.#fact on point

Taleeysun:
Op simply dose not know what love is.

Kulas:
D op made a sensible write up,just that most of us even some ladies here will see truth and hide it.Any reasonable struggling guy should forget about love this love that and focus on actualizing his life dream.Gbam!.There is NOTHING LIKE TRUE LOVE,especially here in Nigeria.Money is d true love nowdays.Let's call spade a spade.Ladies here even know that there is nothing like true love but money.When a man approached them,their first survey is how deep his pocket is.And we are here shying away from truth.

Adaobi12:


She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.

tanimola22:


Great to know. What about the likeability?

Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.

Adaobi12:


She left you doesn't mean, another lady will do the same. We all are not the same, so you shouldn't generalize. I know many men that are eating on a dinning table today with ladies they drank garri with on the bare floor years bk. Nkechi didn't stay doesn't mean that Nkiru will do the same.

...and garri is for broke guys

jamex93:
me don all ready put dat thing dem dey call love

for inside box long ago

i don lock am there

when time come i go go open am back

as for now no love for guy eyes

na money me need first