zendy:


I fall into that category. I won't say I'm rich but I'm comfortable and I own the house I live in and I'm 30+. When you get to that stage in life, you will think seriously about settling down but unfortunately, wife material is hard to come by. I don't want to get married just for the sake of getting married because marriage can be a curse. I know many guys my age who are married but feel like they are in a nightmare which they don't know when they will wake up from. Women can be strange creatures. Some of them are good at hiding their true nature until they are married. By then, it's too late for the man. Many Nigerian women treat marriage like winning a jackpot. After saying 'I do', they regard the mans role as being their own personal "genie" who is there to grant their wishes while all they have to do is pop out kids. There are actually very few women who realise that marriage is joint effort and any problem that comes along, they just blame it on the man. All I can say is that while they say that "Husband is scarce", I say that "Wife material" is even more scarce. Rather than being with a "Dragon tailed Witch" , I would rather stay stay single or just get myself a Baby mama.

zendy:


I fall into that category. I won't say I'm rich but I'm comfortable and I own the house I live in and I'm 30+. When you get to that stage in life, you will think seriously about settling down but unfortunately, wife material is hard to come by. I don't want to get married just for the sake of getting married because marriage can be a curse. I know many guys my age who are married but feel like they are in a nightmare which they don't know when they will wake up from. Women can be strange creatures. Some of them are good at hiding their true nature until they are married. By then, it's too late for the man. Many Nigerian women treat marriage like winning a jackpot. After saying 'I do', they regard the mans role as being their own personal "genie" who is there to grant their wishes while all they have to do is pop out kids. There are actually very few women who realise that marriage is joint effort and any problem that comes along, they just blame it on the man. All I can say is that while they say that "Husband is scarce", I say that "Wife material" is even more scarce. Rather than being with a "Dragon tailed Witch" , I would rather stay stay single or just get myself a Baby mama.

masterchi:
problem is the girls dont want to work and the guyz dont want them to reap where they did not sow.

Florblu:


Cos u ve been able to think(with ur empty skull) for gals u ve met doesn't mean guys think for all ladies.

olowoba:
This is a source of concern. I write for a few friends of mine - hardworking and nice guys (30+ years) working in various reputable firms in Nigeria. But 3, 4, 5 years after, they are still searching for the lady of their heart desires. I also notice the trend everywhere I go.

Just as we complain about the growing number of unmarried ladies, I'm also worried abt the growing number of unmarried, comfortable men who are over 30 years.

A case in study is a popular friend of mine who has been working in the oil sector for more than 5 years. He clocks 33 this year. He still remains unmarried. He says he is still searching. I can count more than 10 of my friends - comfortable, hale and healthy, gainfully employed but single after working for more than 5 years..What can be the cause?
Are ladies getting scarce, or is it that there are few "wife materials" in town now? or are they simply afraid of making commitment?
I'm 36 but not yet married I will do wen I'm ready

lilmax:
Worthless women

Unibenstudent:
why must u even have a companion,u should be a runs girl

Ctemi:
Most guys in ds category are not ready for commitment or responsibility cos they thought most ladies are gold digger

Sparkles003:

I'm a lady and i work.
the problem is every one is trying to play smart.
In a country like Nigeria when you set your eyes to date a lady in her early 20s that i presume is still in school what type of work do you expect her to be doing apart from school and others.
Some men wont go for the working class may be due to inferiority complex, "misjudgement of her character from afar",etc

lurlah2014:
LAUGH out loud, cos i can tell how scared you are to face true love from a Nigerian woman

RedBenson:


That's if the Gold would allow you dig it.

Aitee1:


In your case where is the gold sef


The one God gave you to give to that one woman you've shared it with thousands of them already

craziebone:


hey guy, how far! Where on earth have you been all these while? Anyway, i don't enjoy it very much when you attack women. I only enjoy it when you attack feminists, not women.

How is London, hope fine? And how have you been coping with the feminists?

RedBenson:


That's a lie. I've not shared any gold with any women. Women try to gold-dig me but God has given me the grace to refuse it.

olowoba:
The position some people have taken here against Nigerian women is quite unfortunate. themodernman, sagamite, brandnew2, crixusD, viciyus and the rest, I think you should rather be concerned about the increasing number of aging bachelors and spinsters rather than justify your positions.
It's funny to me that some people here are actually considering having a child out of wedlock to avoid what they have termed the "trap" called marriage. I think a lot of damage has been done to our society. Values have been lost. I am not excusing the female folks.Many of the fine "Nigerian" girls are actually materialistic. I am only saying that both parties are to be blamed EQUALLY and we urgently need a value re-orientation. That was why I created the thread.
Someone will said on the thread "marrriage is for broke men" gosh! I believe many are just using the opportunity of the internet to spew all kinds of statements. In real life, these are the same people that probably die over olthe same African women they are castigating.
We need a paradigm shift.

Sagamite:


Concerned about wetin?

If people are not interested in marriage, how is that a problem?

On of the articles I was actually composing as my next thread on NL was about the different forms of marriages/relationships couple could have for the future. But unfortunately, due to the intellectual decline of NL, I have decided not to waste any of my intellectual material on it anymore and I have suspended that thread.

The marriage institution has been a failed institution throughout history for the 2 main participants, why should I be worried if bachelors and spinsters are not engaging in it.

As for dying over African women, trust me, I normally don't give them too much regards unless the show they are not like the majority. If they ever get out of line, I am quick to knock them back. I have this unique ability to switch from jovial and friendly to a hardknock, no nonsense murrafucker if I need to. It comes like a brutal shock. Some girls on NL would even confirm this.

RedBenson:


That's a lie. I've not shared any gold with any women. Women try to gold-dig me but God has given me the grace to refuse it.

Sagamite:


Unfortunately for your dumb arsse, you do not realise there are women that don't fall into your 2 dysfunctional categories.

Says all about you and you friends you were claiming are sane and a catch.

Notyourb1tch:
So you cannot have a civilized conversation like a normal human being? You have to turn to insults to get your points across . Am not surprised. You go on and on about black women's attitude but yours is even worse. Please don't quote me in future and I won't do the same. I can't stand uncivilized apes like you.

Notyourb1tch:
So you cannot have a civilized conversation like a normal human being? You have to turn to insults to get your points across . Am not surprised. You go on and on about black women's attitude but yours is even worse. Please don't quote me in future and I won't do the same. I can't stand uncivilized apes like you.

xfire:
I remember meeting a guy when I used to work out in the gym. The guy used to live in London. He is 41 years old and he's yet to marry. He attributed his singleness to the materialistic nature of many Nigerian girls. He was always quick to say that Nigerian women are only after money, and very few of them are intelligent. He also talked about "the sense of entitlement" that sagamite mentioned. He said if he is ever going to get married, he would wed a white ladies. He feels that their attitude towards relationship is much better that what is obtainable here. The guy told me he has a sex mate and he's fine remaining a single guy, for life. By the way, he is very comfortable and comes from a well-to-do family.
I tried to disabuse his mind but to no avail. I hope he gets married in the future.

I know people in the oil sector who are also finding it challenging getting a life partner, most especially the ladies. These are ladies who got the job when they were not into any serious relationship. 3 to 4 years down the line, they are still single, and possibly searching. Though I must say most of them are below 30 but tending towards the mark.

There are various factors that could cause a delay in settling down. I think it may be rather unwise to be extremely opinionated on issues like this.

Sometimes, culture play a strong role. We must remember that African culture and value system on marital issues are remarkably different from that of the Western countries. The dependent nature of many African may be traced to cultural roots.

I am not arguing for or against African ladies as most have already done. I just feel the issue needs to be analysed holistically, rather than trading blames.

cheers...

Mixty:

Don't mind the idiiot. He goes about ranting rudely about how black women are rude and uncouth but he himself is worse - such a self-centred and wayward way of reasoning. I have been observing him. He's probably pained that many black women have rejected him in the past.
Mind you... I am a guy!

Mixty:

Don't mind the idiiot. He goes about ranting rudely about how black women are rude and uncouth but he himself is worse - such a self-centred and wayward way of reasoning. I have been observing him. He's probably pained that many black women have rejected him in the past.
Mind you... I am a guy!

Sagamite:


You are a cretinous fuuktard!

So you thought you can use style to indirectly insult my family and I should be "civilized" with you?

Why? Because you think I would say "Maybe if I behave like a real man, she would be impressed"?

You know who the fck this is?

I am SAGAMITE!

If any man or woman ever step out of line, I will quickly fcking knock you back into line.

Hooodrat fuuktard, in your typical useless black skank manner, you want to bring my mother into the equation and you are expecting me to have {imitates her} a civilized conversation with you?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_4e8iAofnrw

Notyourb1tch:
Mr Internet warrior all these rants for me . Life Really ain't that serious. Take a chill pill because to be honest you getting worked up for nothing and to someone who does not give a fk about what you think or do. Now run along child. Bye

Notyourb1tch:
Well I have never come across him before but he is the most myopic person I have come across on this site. Anyways I don't really care what he thinks about black women. He would be doing black women a favour by going for other races . Ignore the child okay.

Sagamite:


Just noticed you have replied him.

With a little kiss.

Oh! How sweet.

He is going to be very excited tonight.

Mixty! Mixty! Mixty! Mixty! Mixty!







That is all he is getting though.

Now go look for an Alpha Male that can put you in you place to bend you over and give you one. Sissy boys only get that pat on the head. They are not the type that bones your arsse.