Onegai:
And divorce is not the worst thing that can happen to a marriage. There are so many cheating wives out there, if I were a man, I would be too busy close-marking my wife to cheat. Theirs is worse because the deceit is so clever, you can never catch them. The one that sends out monthly "Happy new month IJN" messages, who told the other man "is it because I just had a baby that you don't want to sleep with me? " She didn't even say "is it because I'm married", her husband was of no importance to her. Yet she's a strong church attender. Or the other who registered her kids for after-school swimming and lessons (that Ikoyi club, the number of affairs going on there eh, Sodom and Gomorrah). Or the lady who confessed to be sleeping with her ex, her husband didn't know she had another SIM card to communicate.

A woman divorcing you is a woman tired of you. Infact that's the easier option. Fear the woman who stays with you and says nothing when she knows you're a philandering idiot. Those women told me as a child "property in your name, and there are ways to help a man have a heart attack quicker, because Nigeria is so stressful".

daretodiffer:


No, however it is in Nigeria that a woman must put up with her man's philandering. It is his birthright afterall but if it were the other way round

raumdeuter:


If you noticed on this thread, I am the most vehement divorce supporter and I have even offered her real option like a website she can do the divorce

I want her to divorce to save herself from commiting other crimes like assault or even murder. If she feels she deserves better then she should leave the marriage.

There are a million men out there waiting for her. Or she can even live alone.

I am against reconciliation sef. Because every single day she might hang it over the husband. If the husband sneeze she would remind him of his cheating, if he snores he would be reminded.

It might be better for both of them to separate.

So you see. No one has asked that she MUST put up with it. She should divorce immediately

Kimoni:


You have been calling MTN too much oo but you are tooooo unique, no one can even try

daretodiffer:


It happened in the divorce case of Dr Tunde Soleye and his exwife( after his marriage to Nike Oshinowo). I don't know much about the ratio of the court

AyeeIdris:


Don't mind them. I was one of the counsel for Mrs Soleye then. She asked for 75 million, got 25million and properties in London. She got one million from Nike. So you men can keep deceiving yourselves. Go to courts today. Women are fighting for huge payday.another one we were handling, the guy was paying her lawyer fees of about 2 million even as she was suing for half hus properties.

If you don't pay, its not hard. Unless you don't want to live/return to naija again, the courts have ways of enforcing judgements

AyeeIdris:


Don't mind them. I was one of the counsel for Mrs Soleye then. She asked for 75 million, got 25million and properties in London. She got one million from Nike. So you men can keep deceiving yourselves. Go to courts today. Women are fighting for huge payday.another one we were handling, the guy was paying her lawyer fees of about 2 million even as she was suing for half hus properties.

If you don't pay, its not hard. Unless you don't want to live/return to naija again, the courts have ways of enforcing judgements

AyeeIdris:


Don't mind them. I was one of the counsel for Mrs Soleye then. She asked for 75 million, got 25million and properties in London. She got one million from Nike. So you men can keep deceiving yourselves. Go to courts today. Women are fighting for huge payday.another one we were handling, the guy was paying her lawyer fees of about 2 million even as she was suing for half hus properties.

If you don't pay, its not hard. Unless you don't want to live/return to naija again, the courts have ways of enforcing judgements

AyeeIdris:


Don't mind them. I was one of the counsel for Mrs Soleye then. She asked for 75 million, got 25million and properties in London. She got one million from Nike. So you men can keep deceiving yourselves. Go to courts today. Women are fighting for huge payday.another one we were handling, the guy was paying her lawyer fees of about 2 million even as she was suing for half hus properties.

If you don't pay, its not hard. Unless you don't want to live/return to naija again, the courts have ways of enforcing judgements

AyeeIdris:


Don't mind them. I was one of the counsel for Mrs Soleye then. She asked for 75 million, got 25million and properties in London. She got one million from Nike. So you men can keep deceiving yourselves. Go to courts today. Women are fighting for huge payday.another one we were handling, the guy was paying her lawyer fees of about 2 million even as she was suing for half hus properties.

If you don't pay, its not hard. Unless you don't want to live/return to naija again, the courts have ways of enforcing judgements

Timbuktou:


Leaving Nigeria is the highest risk? Not too hard to do if it's either that or paying up. Haven't you heard of men codedly transferring money to Ghana at the slightest hint of an ending marriage? Dr. Soleye was just being magnanimous is all and stewpid, especially as he was old money.

AyeeIdris:
Don't mind them. I was one of the counsel for Mrs Soleye then. She asked for 75 million, got 25million and properties in London. She got one million from Nike. So you men can keep deceiving yourselves. Go to courts today. Women are fighting for huge payday.another one we were handling, the guy was paying her lawyer fees of about 2 million even as she was suing for half hus properties.

If you don't pay, its not hard. Unless you don't want to live/return to naija again, the courts have ways of enforcing judgements

TV01:

Please forgive my ignorance of this case. I hate divorce - as all lovers of marirage do !

But please, are you saying Nike (was she not the mistress?) also had to make a court-mandated payout? In these days of "no-fault divorce" - not sure if that obtains in Nigeria - I quite like that, but am not sure how it could happen? Nail the covenant breakers and the accomplice .

TV

coogar:


nike was a co-defendant in court.
when a male spouse is accused of adultery, the law mandates the plaintiff to join the adulteress as a respondent........and damaged can be claimed if the adulteress is worth something tangible.

i can't remember if nike paid anything though. she asked N5m from nike but i doubt she got anything. i don comot for area to really follow up the case back then.

TV01:

I quite like that. Surely that can't happen where "no-fault" divorce is the law?


TV

pickabeau1:


Is there any way u can provide links for one to read up on this case judgements

coogar:


only the state of north carolina upholds such laws where a wife can sue the other woman for criminal conversation & she would pay damages if found guilty.

as per your question, i don't think it can happen when no-fault divorce is the law.

cococandy:
This is a disgusting thread to say the least.

TV01:

Daa.y.uum...Nigerian law is so advanced . Who was it whingeing about the Nigerian constitution discriminating earlier? If the applied this in the West, the divorce rate would shoot right down.

Almost 80% - depending on who you listen to - of divorces are initiated by women, many of them frivolously. If they knew they wouldn't be rewarded and possibly lose their kids, they'd be incentivised to work on their marriages instead of de-frauding their hard-working husbands.

TV

TV01:

Please forgive my ignorance of this case. I hate divorce - as all lovers of marirage do !

But please, are you saying Nike (was she not the mistress?) also had to make a court-mandated payout? In these days of "no-fault divorce" - not sure if that obtains in Nigeria - I quite like that, but am not sure how it could happen? Nail the covenant breakers and the accomplice .




TV

pickabeau1:


Is there any way u can provide links for one to read up on this case judgements

AyeeIdris:
The law allows you to join the party that your spouse is cheating with, to the suit. Nice right. The courts very rarely grants compensation against them though. It is very difficult to prove. This one was easy Cos they had done traditional marriage. we asked for 10 million sef. Court only granted one. My boss was a strong believer in Go big or go home.

TV01:

I like that the co-cheat is joined to the suit. Even if any actual monetary compensation is only a token, at least they are shamed - and rightly so.

I love shaming - slut-shaming, fat-shaming, divorce-shaming, bitter and frustrated single-shaming, single mother-shaming, pretend single-mother shaming, skirt-surfer shaming

If only they would add shunning join

TV

AyeeIdris:


Don't mind them. I was one of the counsel for Mrs Soleye then. She asked for 75 million, got 25million and properties in London. She got one million from Nike. So you men can keep deceiving yourselves. Go to courts today. Women are fighting for huge payday.another one we were handling, the guy was paying her lawyer fees of about 2 million even as she was suing for half hus properties.

If you don't pay, its not hard. Unless you don't want to live/return to naija again, the courts have ways of enforcing judgements

coogar:


don't mind them......
nigerian constitution ain't discriminating nada. that poor nigerian chief that got gangraped to death by his 6 wives just died for nothing. the 6 wives got slapped on the wrist!

the räpe charge didn't stick cos a woman cannot rape a man in nigeria. the only other charge they faced was manslaughter which was even difficult to prove cos marital sēx isn't illegal in this part of the world.



and the brain dead bimbos continue to deny female rights didn't spike divorce rate. if a woman knows there's no financial/material gain in divorce, she would work harder to keep her marriage. you find out that a lot of these women in the west had divorce plans worked out even before they walked the aisle!

coogar:


haha!
TV, be nice!

coogar:


be deceiving yourself.
dr tunde soleye & mrs funmi soleye built the fortunes together. it's only fair she was given a fraction of tunde soleye's assets. it's totally different from today's gold-digging nigerian women who are after made men & intended to reap where they didn't sow.

go & marry mike adenuga tonight....make sure you get evidence of his philandering ways and go to court with your evidence. let's see if the court would order him to pay you half of his assets you knew nothing about. you people just make me laugh mixing apples with oranges!

TV01:

Daa.y.uum...Nigerian law is so advanced . Who was it whingeing about the Nigerian constitution discriminating earlier? If the applied this in the West, the divorce rate would shoot right down.

Almost 80% - depending on who you listen to - of divorces are initiated by women, many of them frivolously. If they knew they wouldn't be rewarded and possibly lose their kids, they'd be incentivised to work on their marriages instead of de-frauding their hard-working husbands.


TV

raumdeuter:


Would you mind working for the OP? She needs to get out of this marriage immediately. I wouldnt want her to be subjected to the "archaic antiwomen" customs and culture of Nigeria. We dont want one more biter woman in this country. Lets get the divorce going so the two parties can live happy

OP this an a divorce attorney you have been looking for

Timbuktou:


Leaving Nigeria is the highest risk? Not too hard to do if it's either that or paying up. Haven't you heard of men codedly transferring money to Ghana at the slightest hint of an ending marriage? Dr. Soleye was just being magnanimous is all and stewpid, especially as he was old money.

coogar:


he's not being magnanimous, he did what was right. he genuinely maltreated his wife of 28 years. the pay out barely scratched his skin though. the doctor is utterly minted!

AyeeIdris:
I don't think the op is ripe for divorce. There is still room to fix things. I have seen and handled A LOT of STUPID STUPID cases. The juvenile reasons, the mudslinging, fighting over the children. Not a lifestyle I want to return to. Ever!