PunkyVeer:


Did you read the part where I said I cannot tell her what she can do with her marriage? She needed opinions, whether she follows the advice I gave or not, I'll still have a blissful sleep. I just donated what I could afford as far as her problem is concerned.

As for the other parts of your post, well that's how you conduct YOUR life, not everyone sees it as "no biggie". It's a biggie to some of us who value loyalty.

Jollyjoy:
you think divorce is the way out

Jollyjoy:
fine,so assuming you found yourself in this kinda situation what will you do

xynerise:
You can't beg a man not to cheat on you. You make him not to cheat on you by any means possible. Diabolical measures are allowed too....#whistles

PunkyVeer:


No, I'm not. I'm a marshmallow. I just have firmly placed boundaries, especially when my heart is at stake. I will NOT allow someone Bleep with my feelings.

The way I see it is simple. You cheat on me, yeah you win, because you just gave me a fly kick in the face. I fall. One point to you. One heartbreak for me. Game over. If I take you back & you cheat on me again & again, that to me is unnecessary pain. Repetitive heartbreak. I don't have time for it. The one heartbreak I experienced when you 1st cheated is enough. I don't need to be going through the same experience over & over as if there's nothing I can do about it. So it's like choosing lesser pain of walking away, than stay & be in pain for God knows how long. I REFUSE

xynerise:
You can't beg a man not to cheat on you. You make him not to cheat on you by any means possible. Diabolical measures are allowed too....#whistles

intbizoil:
Madam Op the worst decision you made was to bring this issue into the romance section. Most people on this section are kids and unmarried. Imagine blaming the woman for trailing her husband and giving the man a clean bill. This world is becoming crazy, so cheating and breaking your marriage vows is becoming a normal thing so long is a man that is involved. Op try and forgive him, handover your marriage to God and He will surely bring healing.

andromida:
Dear rose4flower, i understand your not sleeping and tracking him to the hotel you just had to know.I think the only way you can forget is if you have a memory wiper or something since you don't have a memory wiper you have to acknowledge the reality that blood oath and 2 hours of hot sex daily is not enough to keep this man by your side. Now he feels like running away because of guilt when he was sleeping with women he didn't feel guilty let him know the phone bribe cannot work.

Its ok to feel pained, angry and devastated i don't think there is anything you can do to hurry away the pain it just has to run its course don't try to forgive in a hurry to make him comfortable its not your job to make everything ok because truth is its not ok you are hurting. Take care of your hurting heart let him deal with the guilt he is feeling and the lust or whatever that is driving him. How can you trust him when he just broke trust the trust has to be rebuilt. If anyone has to make things ok its him. He is the one who broke trust, the one who is not disciplined enough to stay faithful and loyal to you. Its him that has to prove to you he can stay faithful and truly married.

So collect yourself and look into ways you might have abandoned yourself emotionally then fix that.

PunkyVeer:


Great! Because Joe is short for Joseph

rose4flower:
I thank u all for u advice both d ones Dat insulted me thanks a lot I noticed my hubby av a high drive for sex & Dat is why I always try to satisfy him name Dat style I don't no how to do even when it comes to sucking I do suck him play wit his balls even luck his anus til he release he use to tel me Dat dere is honey In my mouth & we av sex everyday my husband does nt even no sex styles apart frm missionary & doggie bt I thought u so many styles due to magazines I do read most times I wil ask him to sit down & I will do on his dick & ground him well til he release we do av sex like porn stars is it reverse cow girl I don't know how to do if am doing d reverse style Com & here him shouting baby u wil kill me wit dis your big yansh he wil scream & start shouting maami ronke ti pa mi to my own delight. If it's abt packaging no married woman in my street dress more dan me sorry for saying Dat bt it's d truth I don't joke wit myself I dress all d time as if am going 4 party even b4 my cream finish he wil buy me another one am fair in complexion & I use fair & white cream. My friend came to my house last week & she said so as u don marry u neva stop all dis ur packaging Dat is why ur husband no dey let u go out am nt praising my self bt I no I am beautiful even my husband use to tel me he married a beautiful wife & he do complement me now I believe u can neva pls a man.

PunkyVeer:

Yeah, he's a great guy & good sport
My day is fantastic, thanks. I hope yours is also going along the same lines thus far

xynerise:
You can't beg a man not to cheat on you. You make him not to cheat on you by any means possible. Diabolical measures are allowed too....#whistles

StPete:
Madam, I'd have to be plain with u. There is nothing anyone can say or do to make u not feel the hurt of betrayal you're going through. However, you're somewhat the cause of your own problems. Lemme explain

Trailing your husband all around town all because u don't want him to cheat is not a very wise thing to do. First things first, if he's taking care of you and provides the necessary things at home, then let him be. Most men are just wired to want to play around and no amount of tears or shouting can stop that. At worst he'll up his game and do it very far from u.
A woman I knew once left her marriage all because the husband was cheating. Five yrs later she remarried and the new husband now not only cheats, but also beats her wen she complains. Now she regrets leaving d first marriage. I know it can be painful to see ur husband sleep wit someone else, there's no justification whatsoever on his part, but d sooner u let things be, d better u hav dat peace of mind. Channel dat energy and thoughts into a personal business and in raising your child(ren). Peace be with you.

PunkyVeer:


Great! Because Joe is short for Joseph

joseph1832:
Frankly this is becoming a bore. *Yawning*

rose4flower:
I thank u all for u advice both d ones Dat insulted me thanks a lot I noticed my hubby av a high drive for sex & Dat is why I always try to satisfy him name Dat style I don't no how to do even when it comes to sucking I do suck him play wit his balls even luck his anus til he release he use to tel me Dat dere is honey In my mouth & we av sex everyday my husband does nt even no sex styles apart frm missionary & doggie bt I thought u so many styles due to magazines I do read most times I wil ask him to sit down & I will do on his dick & ground him well til he release we do av sex like porn stars is it reverse cow girl I don't know how to do if am doing d reverse style Com & here him shouting baby u wil kill me wit dis your big yansh he wil scream & start shouting maami ronke ti pa mi to my own delight. If it's abt packaging no married woman in my street dress more dan me sorry for saying Dat bt it's d truth I don't joke wit myself I dress all d time as if am going 4 party even b4 my cream finish he wil buy me another one am fair in complexion & I use fair & white cream. My friend came to my house last week & she said so as u don marry u neva stop all dis ur packaging Dat is why ur husband no dey let u go out am nt praising my self bt I no I am beautiful even my husband use to tel me he married a beautiful wife & he do complement me now I believe u can neva pls a man.

StPete:
Madam, I'd have to be plain with u. There is nothing anyone can say or do to make u not feel the hurt of betrayal you're going through. However, you're somewhat the cause of your own problems. Lemme explain

Trailing your husband all around town all because u don't want him to cheat is not a very wise thing to do. First things first, if he's taking care of you and provides the necessary things at home, then let him be. Most men are just wired to want to play around and no amount of tears or shouting can stop that. At worst he'll up his game and do it very far from u.
A woman I knew once left her marriage all because the husband was cheating. Five yrs later she remarried and the new husband now not only cheats, but also beats her wen she complains. Now she regrets leaving d first marriage. I know it can be painful to see ur husband sleep wit someone else, there's no justification whatsoever on his part, but d sooner u let things be, d better u hav dat peace of mind. Channel dat energy and thoughts into a personal business and in raising your child(ren). Peace be with you.

kaziblake:
I really feel ur pain ma.Am not married but av seen tins in dis life.All men cheat,the place I once worked,i caught all my street married men with different ladies,i was so shocked and surprise cos if u see them on the street dey feel so in love.I promised myself dat if I get married I won't even monitor my husband,IF he cheat dats his business,he shld just provide for me and my kids,so madam focus on your kids and leave him

JimiCoker:

well, I won't go as far as saying my day's fantastic, but it must have some prospects, since I haven't jumped off the 3rd Mainland bridge....yet
Today's my day-off and I'm bored out of my skull. There's no power, my laptop's down and my battery is low. That bridge is kinda looking inviting now

joseph1832:
No matter, because this Joseph is not Joseph Thomas. This joseph isn't even named Joseph.

PunkyVeer:



Awww, sorry there Not having power is the most annoying thing ever, trust me I sympathise. We also had a few hellish months of powercuts here too & I just felt like strangling myself...or anyone. Very frustrating. I do hope it improves though. That sucks

Poor Africans.

all4naija:

Poor Africans.

PunkyVeer:


Yeah, sometimes things are really that piteous. I mean who lacks lights in 2015? It's ridiculous. Thank God we've moved past that over here because it was depressing.

PunkyVeer:

Awww, sorry there Not having power is the most annoying thing ever, trust me I sympathise. We also had a few hellish months of powercuts here too & I just felt like strangling myself...or anyone. Very frustrating. I do hope it improves though. That sucks

all4naija:

I have never seen a nation that is as bad as Nigeria when it comes to power supply. It is very annoying to see of a GIANT of Africa. A big disgrace to the continent. All Nigerian leaders are evil!