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Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 8:11am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Mzgracie: Yinfuro 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 8:12am On Nov 24, 2015 |
lee007:pm me |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Pidggin(f): 8:12am On Nov 24, 2015 |
OP, are you humble? Do you respect his authourity in the house or does your body language or speech make you seem proud. I think he may dislike you because you contest his authority, the solution is for you to respect his authority like everyone else is doing in your house or move out. 3 Likes |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by nasty45(m): 8:13am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Estharfabian:LWKMD |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 8:15am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Harbosede02:Exactly! There's something fishy going on... He should really check the history of his birth... |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Cameleon72(f): 8:15am On Nov 24, 2015 |
1. Do you smoke and your dad is against smoking? 2. Do you help in house chores which males supposed to do at home? 3. How is your grade in school, is it encouraging? 4. Do you challenged your dad in public? If yes to atleast 3 of the above stated, will advise you to read and meditate of the lyrics of Revised Church Hymnary (RCH 701) if you do so you will be gald to sing RCH 600. Parent hate children who opposeses them at all time. Your attitude may be the sole reason. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by chinnasa: 8:15am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Hmmm, two wrongs can't make a right. Your Dad can't change his mindset about you. Black is black, you childhood was filled with bad choices. But it doesn't matter now. Change your mindset, think positive, pray for yourself. Take positive risk to help yourself. Respect him, dont argue with him because you will never win. Its not magic. When its time leave and chance your dream. God is love. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 8:15am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Therock5555: [size=13pt]Bro, you need to move out of that house, prayerfully. Or else you can be destroyed by their words and actions. It will be hard, but begin to prepare. Dont let his bitterness destroy your rivers of living water. You were made for a purpose for the good of the world, not for your fathers house alone. Remember the devil spoke through peter. Any statement or action that is not good and perfect from your father is from the devil who wants to destroy your destiny in that small house. Leave, and God will guide you.[/size] |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 8:16am On Nov 24, 2015 |
iPopAlomo:thanks mate |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 8:16am On Nov 24, 2015 |
lee007:pm me |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by ProfEinstein: 8:16am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Emzyme:Its good to know u ain't alone. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by romzyxy(m): 8:18am On Nov 24, 2015 |
bellong: are you a psycologist in write ups?. You just predict his behaviour thru his write up. You might be absolutely right. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 8:19am On Nov 24, 2015 |
abbey621:thanks sir 2 Likes |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Funjosh(m): 8:19am On Nov 24, 2015 |
It is well. I have a cousin just like you, at age 5-6 he challenge his Dad during any misunderstanding between the dad and his mum what I can't even dream of doing then while am still an undergraduate staying with them. The dad will beat him yet he won't back out and keep on running his mouth but now the boy finished his SSS3 last year very tall than the dad. Just try to be good till you are able to leave the house then he will start missing you. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 8:20am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Abiagirl777:Amen, me too I've promised myself never to touch my children, that's if I ever choose to allow any into this world |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 8:23am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Many of you here giving advice are still kids yourself who still have rebellious tendencies so you would always want to stick with the OP. However OP I am not on your team. Allow me to tell you why. 1) I first took time to go through your posts here on nairaland as well as your diaries including those you said " the stories were true but names changed" and you really need help....i will come back to this shortly.... 2) You are the second child but the first son and you wonder why your father is being hard on you? I am also a first son and all you lamented about I experienced it too but until I realised that my dad was not the problem and that I had the problem things never changed. You see like you I and so stood up to my dad often but only on issues that were right especially after I became born again but I never stood up to him in disrespect but calmly passed my message across. I have slept in the rain, sun, got disowned at a point, slept with church members and eaten with them as no food was forthcoming from home because like u I was also . labelled a black sheep so you see your case isn't peculiar. It is the one whom the father loves that he chastises the most and until I learnt how to draw close to my dad and engage him in truly meaningful conversation I was my own problem. I had my fair share of hotels and women and it was as if I was hellbent on dis gracing my family until I had to stop and think and make some major adjustments and today I am my father's best friend as we joke around as friends not even as father and son. FYI my dad is now 68 and I around 40. He wanted me to be an urban and regional planner which I studied in school but inside I wanted to be a musician or a businessman so I deliberately chose to do a biz of my own just tons pipe him but it only made matters worse. However today all things have worked together fo Good because I am now fully into real estate but from all business angle as I develop and sell properties. My dad really loved me in his own twisted way but I had to discover that and will myself to move towards him Same way u need to discover yours and move closer. Only intense anger would make make a father wish his son was dead and I would like to say that his expectations from you as a first son and your actions or inactions pushed him to that point. I dare say that perhaps peer pressure is one of your major problems as you seem to be having more influences outside your home and foolishly bring those influences into ur fathers house. He is the captain of that home and not you...LEARN AND UNDERSTAND THAT! Why you get your own place and pay your own rent then feel free to do as u please. I am a father now so fully appreciate what my dad tried doing when I was young. You OP will soon see the bigger picture as right now u are not. Back to number 1 above... i want you to tell yourself the truth which at a point in this your submission u did when u said "u are demonic" . Ask yourself if your head is in the right place and if your actions match the impression u want ur dad to have about u. Clean yourself up OP....clean up your mind, ur thoughts and the words that come from u. REBRAND and you will see your dad do same. On a final note, every father has n expectation for his kids and yours is not an exception. You will also have expectations for your kids when they start coming and perhaps you may give them corporal punishment when they fail to live up to your expectations. Sit down and give your life a thought OP and u will see that your dad isn't that bad. Cheers! 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 8:24am On Nov 24, 2015 |
linearity:I can live by myself but that would mean my final year fees been withheld and I can't risk starting over again |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by loffyloffy: 8:24am On Nov 24, 2015 |
young man..your father obviously have a parenting challenge.. he is finding it difficult to cope with the fact that you are not meeting his expectations in line with his standards..his approach to this has made you hardened..and worse. But more importantly you are having a bigger challenge.. you are still acting like a baby.. and you have to see hatred instead of disappointment in everything he does..and you are still seriously tied to his apron..when you should be a free bird and fly away. the way forward is you leaving the house and following your dream after a while both of you will come to appreciate each day other. if you fail..don't blame your father.. he is just a landpost..only you can stop yourself.. so stop complaining and move your backside.. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Vernor(m): 8:24am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Halleluyah someone broke d ice. @ op I faced similar turmoil and still facing even when married with children. How I survived u don't have choice as long as u are under his roof, but note HE LOVES U. His approach is d issue and there is nothing u can do about it. Wait till u finish ur Sch and have your own apartment that's when u will have relief but not total but the best revenge is for you to make it finacially(legally) he will give u your respect. Until I was able to marry without any kobo from my family even my dad, rented an apartment and do more he has no choice. Now I tell him i take d decision now, we still have issues even this morning in my house. Pray to God to bless u, like u said I dont tell him anything about me till date but he want us to be friends, though its late but im trying my best to forget d past and move on, but note again he loves u, the problem is his upbringing. we can always communicate. onebigfamily2002@yahoo.co.uk |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nicepoker(m): 8:25am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Estharfabian:my God is that an advice? u sound like a rebel. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Chicolee(f): 8:25am On Nov 24, 2015 |
I've been in your shoes kinda. I was almost suicidal. Trust me, it gets better. just hold on and be strong. Turn to God and he will be your salvation. one day all these will be a story. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by juman(m): 8:27am On Nov 24, 2015 |
@ OP For what I read on your thread here I think your father is just trying to be a very good father. I think the problem lies with you. Look into yourself first. I think your father is a good nigerian father. Try to be on the same page with him, both of you should understand yourselves more. Try to communicate with him more. If both of you understand yourselves well there would be less frictions. 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nobody: 8:28am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Nicepoker:If You we're really the Least bit "Smart".... You'd notice the "Sarcasm" in My post... Well, Obviously, i guess u slept off whilst "cerebrums" Were shared...Way to go!. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by nikz(f): 8:31am On Nov 24, 2015 |
I'll advice you endure and ignore ur dad till ure old enough to leave d house. Ur mum should be close to u in all ds. She should be d one to encourage you. Parents should realize dat the kids nid love and care. Dnt be depressed pls. I want u to get close to God and pray. There's nothing God cannot do. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by ProfEinstein: 8:32am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Eddygourdo:Olodo, are u trying to justify the parents emotional abuse? You must be a psycho like them.. Beast!!!!! |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 8:32am On Nov 24, 2015 |
onila:I was the best literature student in my class but because he wanted me to be a medical doctor I was pushed to science class, I have read more books than the pages of Ababio chemistry text book. I never was dull, in fact always the top three till I got to ss 1 and entered science class which pummeled me to 30th position, I hate science courses but his word is final so what can I do 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by lordmario(m): 8:32am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Therock5555 I read your post and it made me remember my growing up. It was hell. Please disregard any advice telling you to either move out or fight your dad. No, pls don't! I'll tell you a lil secret. Go meet him, plead for his audience, ask him exactly what he wants you to do that you have not been doing, ask him for advise to live according to his plans, ask him to forgive you if you have messed up. You said he is on NL I would have told you some more things. If you won't mind, contact me. But pls don't fight him 1 Like |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by omotonyx(f): 8:37am On Nov 24, 2015 |
There are parents like dat. Sorry 2say dis I blame ur mother 4everyting. Am a mother of 8months old baby, she fell yesterday while tryin 2standup I was like hurting myself cos I cnt stand it. What kind of mother is she standing her own son 2be maltreated and frustrated dis much. She's a bad mother. U too talk 2urself, check urself. As 4ur dad u already said it all dat he's a Millitary man what do u expect of him he'll always want 2win n make a decision dat nobody shld question. I blame ur mother. My advice is 4u 2liv the house go and hussle 4urself n av d fear of God cos 4 as long as u're still in dat house, u'll run mad which u av started already cos 4u 2post dis on Nairaland not minding ur psycho Dad 2see dis, u've started running out of ur senses but dis is d best place anyway Nairalanders will give their advice. I hope ur Dad too will read to see his wicked life. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Nicepoker(m): 8:37am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Estharfabian:before u post that. U actually meant it. Don't try to derail. |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by Therock5555(m): 8:40am On Nov 24, 2015 |
vicque: I love arts, more than a dozen folks have told me to be a comedian, someone even wanted to buy a comedy audition form for me but guess what my dad said "comedians are liars, because they lie to make people laugh so hell awaits them" I was the captain of my area's football team but when an agent tried to take a few of us to a Ghanaian football Academy, he told me "footballers careers never last, and a doctor still treats them when they get injured so why don't you become a doctor instead" Now most of my fellow team mate are balling hard and I ain't even studying medicine yet. I could clearly sing a song be it rap or any other genre perfectly after just listening to it twice but he would rather die than allow me have a studio section because he thinks I would go for cult meetings. I could keep going on and on.... Thanks for the advice though |
Re: My Dad Wishes Me Death, Please Help by WebSurfer(m): 8:40am On Nov 24, 2015 |
Estharfabian:i'm 100% sure you are sick...you must have poisoned someone to give this type of stupid advice on a public forum. |
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