donTbone:

Note this:
Before getting married to anyone, those that must give you their consent are;

1. you pastor or spiritual leader
2. parents
3. siblings
4. closest friends

If any of the above shouldnt concur, see to their reason and have a rethink!
#soft
http://datingyouths..com

tranxo:
the only blessing you need is that of both parents. Period

Nubian113:
What is osu

irondome:


What's the meaning of this bullshit? Would all these third parties live with you in your home? This was exactly how my grand parents literarily imposed a wife on my uncle and she ended up as a nutcase. Grand parents are now gone, unfortunately, this dude is still stuck with a mad wife in the name of christian marriage.

In my own opinion, genuine love should be pivotal in picking a life partner. And even at what, you still require a huge dose of God's grace to have a successful marriage.

My advice to the OP, screw the OSU and follow your heart. Make sure the love is mutual.

Tuham:
Looking forward to meet Your puppy

LoL! Okay?
he's A cutie by the way...

donTbone:

Note this:
Before getting married to anyone, those that must give you their consent are;

1. you pastor or spiritual leader
2. parents
3. siblings
4. closest friends

If any of the above shouldnt concur, see to their reason and have a rethink!
#soft
http://datingyouths..com

Dbaroness:


Pls what is this OP thing i always see here? Wat does it mean?

Amberon:
you have a puppy?

Dbaroness:

Pls what is this OP thing i always see here? Wat does it mean?

GboyegaD:


Fact is often times, those who don't concur are selfish. Why bring up a tradition to destroy your child's joy?

gudluckgreat:


Hmmm no my child. Don't discuss what u have not experienced

donTbone:

The traditional part...i dont agree with.

My opinion and comment is just for a rethink for those who think parental advice, ideas and consent on who to marry doesnt matter...
#soft

jasmines:
@funkyibodude @donTbone @Michellla @STFUareyouGod @pinkbarbie @Nubian113 @Strawberrycream

What is osu?
Osus are people who were:
1. banished, sent into exile or cursed for an abominable deed committed by them or their parents. Deeds as grave as incest, incuring the wrath of the local deities through intentional or unintentional acts which in turn triggers a curse on the entire village and the likes.
2. People who are dedicated to serve the village Idols either by choice or force. Their entire lineage can't mix with others. These types often enjoy wealth and beauty from the deity they serve as long as they serve it and face tough battles if they stop.
3. Osus are sometimes people suspected or known to be possesed by powerful spirits capable of bringing ill fortune on the village or those around them and as such are bansished to live in the evil forest with other spirits.

Failing to steer from osus in the past have triggered rows of death, curse or ill-fortune in the family or entire clan of the offenders.

Support is needed from as many people as you can. LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!!! If love is enough, why do couples break in as little as 1week. Why do ppl date scores of men whom they all loved at a point?

My advice: if she can bear being cut off from family and friends and bear whatever spiritual implications follows those families then she should go ahead.

If she wants to stop, she should xplain to her family that she is ready to do as they wish but she is already pregnant for the man then follow whatever they decide. She will not die if she doesnt marry the man. He's just one man.

feelme3:


Matured mind. God bless you

rockyh:
ar u an igbo person ,traditions ar meant to b upheld cos if she goes on wif d marriage she's on ha own mind u ha parent,siblings and kinsmen won't attend d wedding

funkyibodude:
A female friend of mine brought up an issue that have been bothering her so much she said that she needs an urgent advice on what to do. Here's her story
She met a guy last year in a friend's get together party and they both fell for each other. According to her story the guy works with an insurance company in Lagos and my friend was about to go for her NYSC when they both met. So because of the heated romance between them, she decided to work her NYSC posting to Lagos state. During her service year the guy proposed to her and she accepted. So they both went for family introduction. Few months after her introduction, her father called her and told her that she should come home that there's something urgent he wants to tell her. When she traveled back home, her dad told her that the have done some investigation into the guy's Family and the discovered that the guy is an OSU ( meaning outcast in Igbo land) and their village still practice the osu caste system. So the implication there is the both can't get married. And if she insist in getting married to him that her family will not be part of it, literally she's on her own with the guy, she's so heart broken now because she loves her family and she told me she can't imagine her world without him. And more so she's few weeks pregnant for him and the have started making plans for their wedding. How can she break this news to her fiancee?!!.. She told me she rather dies than not marry him.



Please I would appreciate matured advice only because this is really a sensitive issue that involves tradition and beliefs, no attacking of any personality or ethnic group. it can happen to anyone out there. Thanks

Nubian113:
What is osu

jasmines:
@funkyibodude @donTbone @Michellla @STFUareyouGod @pinkbarbie @Nubian113 @Strawberrycream

What is osu?
Osus are people who were:
1. banished, sent into exile or cursed for an abominable deed committed by them or their parents. Deeds as grave as incest, incuring the wrath of the local deities through intentional or unintentional acts which in turn triggers a curse on the entire village and the likes.
2. People who are dedicated to serve the village Idols either by choice or force. Their entire lineage can't mix with others. These types often enjoy wealth and beauty from the deity they serve as long as they serve it and face tough battles if they stop.
3. Osus are sometimes people suspected or known to be possesed by powerful spirits capable of bringing ill fortune on the village or those around them and as such are bansished to live in the evil forest with other spirits.

eer from osus

mzvyne:
I don't believe I need anybody's 'consent' but God's. Mom and Dad shud better pray I don't fall in love with one they term an 'OSU'... Cos neither hell nor highwaters will deter me.

donTbone:

The traditional part...i dont agree with.

My opinion and comment is just for a rethink for those who think parental advice, ideas and consent on who to marry doesnt matter...
#soft

jasmines:
@funkyibodude @donTbone @Michellla @STFUareyouGod @pinkbarbie @Nubian113 @Strawberrycream

What is osu?
Osus are people who were:
1. banished, sent into exile or cursed for an abominable deed committed by them or their parents. Deeds as grave as incest, incuring the wrath of the local deities through intentional or unintentional acts which in turn triggers a curse on the entire village and the likes.
2. People who are dedicated to serve the village Idols either by choice or force. Their entire lineage can't mix with others. These types often enjoy wealth and beauty from the deity they serve as long as they serve it and face tough battles if they stop.
3. Osus are sometimes people suspected or known to be possesed by powerful spirits capable of bringing ill fortune on the village or those around them and as such are bansished to live in the evil forest with other spirits.

Failing to steer from osus in the past have triggered rows of death, curse or ill-fortune in the family or entire clan of the offenders.

Support is needed from as many people as you can. LOVE IS NOT ENOUGH!!! If love is enough, why do couples break in as little as 1week. Why do ppl date scores of men whom they all loved at a point?

My advice: if she can bear being cut off from family and friends and bear whatever spiritual implications follows those families then she should go ahead.

If she wants to stop, she should xplain to her family that she is ready to do as they wish but she is already pregnant for the man then follow whatever they decide. She will not die if she doesnt marry the man. He's just one man.

GboyegaD:


It's one's life and nobody no matter how much they care lives the reality of marriage with you. As such, take your decision and stand by it.

emorse:
This is why we must always preach love. Imagine this coming from a tribe that appeared so united for a certain cause just a fee weeks ago . Love is key.

When we start seeing one another a one instead of Yoruba, Hausa and Igbo, or Christians and Muslims, or Osu and sons if the soil, we would begin to make significant progress.

As for me, to hell with any form of segregation. As long as I love her and I'm sure she loves me too, I'm marrying her with or without anybody's consent.

JuanDeDios:

This is way more serious than you realise. If you have Igbo friends, ask them. It's not about being Christian or not - they fear social rejection if they let their daughter marry an Osu. Not even a bishop would risk it.


Well, it's her decision to make. She needs to consider the consequences of whatever she decides to do and ask herself if she can live with it. If she marries him her children will be deemed outcasts forever. Is she the type of person who can handle that prospect, can handle social rejection? If she can, kudos to her because we need people to blaze the trail and break this Osu caste thing.

funkyibodude:
A female friend of mine brought up an issue that have been bothering her so much she said that she needs an urgent advice on what to do. Here's her story
She met a guy last year in a friend's get together party and they both fell for each other. According to her story the guy works with an insurance company in Lagos and my friend was about to go for her NYSC when they both met. So because of the heated romance between them, she decided to work her NYSC posting to Lagos state. During her service year the guy proposed to her and she accepted. So they both went for family introduction. Few months after her introduction, her father called her and told her that she should come home that there's something urgent he wants to tell her. When she traveled back home, her dad told her that the have done some investigation into the guy's Family and the discovered that the guy is an OSU ( meaning outcast in Igbo land) and their village still practice the osu caste system. So the implication there is the both can't get married. And if she insist in getting married to him that her family will not be part of it, literally she's on her own with the guy, she's so heart broken now because she loves her family and she told me she can't imagine her world without him. And more so she's few weeks pregnant for him and the have started making plans for their wedding. How can she break this news to her fiancee?!!.. She told me she rather dies than not marry him.



Please I would appreciate matured advice only because this is really a sensitive issue that involves tradition and beliefs, no attacking of any personality or ethnic group. it can happen to anyone out there. Thanks

Lsofdk:

op said no attacking of tribes, do you a problem understanding english without the bolded you would have made sense, makes me wonder how d remaining part came from someone stewpid.