oyeludef:
are you married with kids? I doubt it cos i know if you are, you can't give such an advice. The real world out there is different from what you see in Telemundo

Onegai:


Me, married ke?? what do I know of marriage, there's one man whom I carry his lastname and one child that calls me mummy. It's not like I've even spent almost 4 decades on this earth sef. But you're right, all i know of marriage is Telemundo, a channel i have never watched. Infact, what is this marriage thing you speak of?? mtschewww

Strahovski1:
I advice you divorce the man and move on.. What legacy are you leaving for your children? especially the boys?

Do not make anymore of yourself a fool. Just leave the man unless there is more to it because i dont understand

Nkasiobi87:
there is noting more in this, my husband hate to be challenged in any decision he makes.he an authoritarian man so all he is doing is his word to stand.

ronald4lif:
Are you working or just a sit-at-home mum? If yes, get the hell out of that marriage before it cost you your life.

The man is fully aware you'd never beg the mistress and it's just employing that as a means to torment and suppress you. No sane man would assume his wife will plead with his mistress. No one.

The man doesn't only cheat on you but have the cojones to flaunt it on your face? That's extreme and no woman should condone such.

You knew he was authoritarian but still went ahead to marry him? Why do you women always proceed to marrying someone who doesn't possess the demeanor that conforms and it's acceptable to you?

You must take responsibility for marrying him. He's never the fault but you who went ahead to settle with him despite his repulsive mien.

Exit that marriage before it takes your life.

menxer:
I surmise the wife did not bring anything worthwhile into the marriage.

It's like what I told a friend, relationship is an investment, any investor would do the needful to protect his/her investment.

For I see no reason a mere side-chick could make you, a bonafide wife, to feel and act so insecure, unless there is something else you aren't letting on.

Nkasiobi87:
there is noting more in this, my husband hate to be challenged in any decision he makes.he an authoritarian man so all he is doing is his word to stand.

Nkasiobi87:
Hi everyone, after what happened in my husband church on Sunday how he embarrassed me and his worker slapping me. I decided to consult his doctor friend to talk to him ,the only reason he gave the doctor is that the mistress saved his life when he wanted to kill him self because of a woman that died years ago in his church which left him confused then(I traveled with My last child when this incident happen) and the girl telling him not to kill him self is enough that the girl love him and that from that day he swear never to leave that girl nor let the girl feel bad in any situation.

He said that the girl is his life. so for me becoming pregnant is enough to make the girl feel bad so he now tries to defame me and make the girl happy.he suggested that the only solution that will bring peace to my family is me becoming friend with the said girl and serving her.and that I should beg the worker that I have forgiven him if I want him to accept me again.

Now the girl in question here is rude and proud. she insult me anyhow.she laughed at me now that am going through this with my hubby. today she saw me and started laughing that she must make me leave my home with my 5kids.

Now all am asking my self is how can I step so low to the extend of begging my husband mistress just for my husband to love me again. how can I befriend this witch of a girl. How can I worship this girl in my own house all to please my husband. A girl that saved my husband name with Baby m. Will that make me a peace seeker or a fool the more.will a reasonable woman do that?

excellencyabia1:
can her contact be despatch so that she will be followed up. beside are you not praying about or are you just crying?
God will release disgrace that will meet her.

Emdee590:

YOU wicked gaaan tell me you ain't serious

Nkasiobi87:
there is noting more in this, my husband hate to be challenged in any decision he makes.he an authoritarian man so all he is doing is his word to stand.

Nkasiobi87:
hum, that's not what I want that's why I ask will a reasonable woman allow that.

Monalisa185:
hahaha, this lady is dulling...

1st step- befriend the so called mistress

2nd step- draw her closer

3rd step- give her otapiapia(rat poison)

4th step- be happy

CASE CLOSED

Then u become a murderer n live with the guilt d rest of ur life

Richy4:
U like opening a thread on NL madam... maybe you should just be putting all this write ups in a journal or personal diary on NL....I guess there are sections for that..... who ever wants might just read it and read through....

I just guess you don't take advise here yet you open thread on the same issue....

You opened a lot of thread last year with the same issue, everyone advised you on what to do including my humble self....assuming you applied some of the solutions that were ok, this issue with your pastor husband would have died a natural death.....haba!!!!!