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Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by oodua1stson: 12:40pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
And why are u still with her? |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by lezz(m): 12:43pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
obowunmi: No man should debase his manhood in such fashion, a man should be financially ready to take care of himself and his family before setting sail on the rough tides of marriage. However a working wife should come in when necessary, there shouldn't be a fast rule on this. Even if the husband were Dangote, If the wife loves him, she will always look for little ways to make financial input to their empire. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Tinyemeka(m): 12:47pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Funminicrown: Who knows? Maybe the fiancee's friend was even advertising her availability. She might even be waiting for Oga's call as we speak. These women can be too clever. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by gbens2000(m): 12:51pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
My guy remove ur slippers put them on ur hands and run as fast as u can plssssssssss 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Rawblings(m): 1:12pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
put her to a real life test of you doing something and you needing her support. If she doesn't respond positively, then you know that you need to move on bro. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by hardychris(m): 1:31pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Hahaahahahaa haba mana bros! Its possible she's not even seeing you as a fiancee, meanwhile that mindset of her's seems its from her mother, you said the mom is rich I think that's where its from. Meanwhile that's not enough to leave her, all you need do is to talk to her to change that ideology, maybe You have to get someone to do the talking to her. Good luck man vjsmiles: |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by obstead200(m): 1:33pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Funminicrown:Now somebody is saying what I want to hear. Drop her already!!!! Dont bother trying to change her mindset. You will not succeed. Only bitter experience can change her mindset. Do her a favour by letting her experience it. Chop the punna and drop her fast. when she complains, tell her the truth just as she narrated it. Trust me, u will be doing her a huge favour, cos she will go complaining to her friends and one or two pple will tell her to change her mindset. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by NET1(m): 1:50pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
[size=14pt]I wouldn't waste another second with this woman.[/size] .NET 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by rhymesnoni(m): 2:02pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Ma guy run 4 ya dear life. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by vivavik(f): 2:02pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Op I'll advice u stick with her and help her, no 1 is perfect, she'll learn with time. Some pple talk for talking sake and remember, it's not her fault, it's from her upbringing but with more experience she'll adjust. Take ur time and talk some sense into her. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Gamesmart: 2:03pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
deyemia: You have just found your future wife. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Cavenchy(m): 2:07pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
OP I have read your post and saw your concern believe me I was with you up until after I read some comments thrown at you and saw your replies, then went back and re-read your post. I think this might be a case of a scared fiancée but I sure hope I'm wrong. Let's analyse. The lady has seen gold digging tendencies in you and is trying to protect herself. The lady thinks you are lazy and are the type to always seek help not wanting to take up responsibility. You said it yourself that her mum Is rich, why you chose to focus on that point is oblivious to me but that might show you probably have an eye on her family's wealth, you never mentioned in your post that you also have a rich family or that you are well to do yet. She would read all these signs in the way you behave around her. For example: you treat her like an egg and are overtly careful about things you say not to hurt her and apologetic at the slightest sense of anger even when it's clear she's the one acting up. You probably always have a habit of asking after her mum (cos she is the rich one) and probably hardly ever ask after her dad. This is the problem with matchmaking, she is getting to know if she wants to accept you while you already feel she is yours, newsflash: you have not done your prime responsibility as a man and that is " to make her fall in love", if indeed you do love her yourself. You can't fake genuine love, she would know if it's her or her (or mum's) money you want to marry, Your resilience to take advice here to leave her, shows that you see a lot of benefit in your future relationship besides her character which is most likely a monetary one. She knows a lot of men are gold diggers these days and she barely knows you enough to not judge you as one of them. She has not yet fallen in love with you, when she does all these above will fly out the window. Worse, it's hard for you to earn her love when she hasn't seen how she's earned yours. Gold digger men are always easy to spot. They love before she even opens her mouth or has proven any quality character, all they do is shamelessly ask her for cash cos they are broke all the time! If it acts and quacks like a duck it probably is. Finally, she might be protecting herself from a lazy man. If you aren't a lazy man, work hard to prove your worth, no woman can say those words to a man she is madly in love with and knows is hardworking and successful. Bottom line: you might not be compatible at the moment, try again later. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 2:25pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Cavenchy: Thanks so much for taking your time to add this contribution, I really appreciate it. I have a good job and I have a roof over my head and I pay all my bills by myself and even some few others that are not mine. We were matched because we both needed something we didn't have, a partner. We are just getting to know each other and for all reasons, I am sure this is not the best way to go about avoiding gold diggers. I have never asked her for anything matter of fact, I find it difficult to ask people for favors because I feel dejected when I get a "No" for a request. I'm just trying to meet a wife to go on a journey with for life, I never asked her about her family wealth background until she told me. If I were a gold digger like you alluded to, I won't share this post. Just being honest! 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by missyadorable(f): 2:30pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
I can support my husband in terms of providing food,kid's fees and upkeep,etc But NEVER to add my money to buy / build a house,or other properties(in case 2moro,he decides to kick me out n bring in another woman,men are very funny)...Or give my husband cash in any form. My family can't be hungry when I have money Your fiancee is rather too rash But anyway,thats her opinion Dump her,if you like Another guy will marry her. Seems you are interested in her because she is from a rich family and you thought she will be using her money to run the home and now that she has made her stand clear,you no longer see where and how you will benefit from her. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by britbuz(m): 2:36pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
If her friend was prettier you wouldn't be confused.... I guess.. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Cavenchy(m): 2:38pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
deyemia:I appreciate the fact you come across as a genuine man looking to settle, you may need to do some investigations to protect yourself as well, because you barely know her either. I'm glad you are asking important questions. This Is another one you may need to find out, Why is her mum rich and not her family (dad inclusive?). How was her dad as a father growing up? Was he lazy? Was he a wife beater? Or a drunk? What about her mum? Did her mum explain things to her or did she just rub the fact that her dad wasn't doing too well in his face? Any of the above could be where she got her fears from. Best wishes. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 2:40pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
missyadorable: What makes you think that I am interested in her because she's from a rich home? No man ever wishes to be a dependent on his wife for assistance unless he is not a man. But then, life is not a bed of roses, there will be trial times and all you can wish for in life is a wife that won't put your dirty clothes outside for everyone to see. I have always taking care of myself up to this moment, why is it that it's in marriage that I will now be dependent on a wife? |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by deyemia: 2:42pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Cavenchy: Her mum got inheritance from her grandmum, |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by bennymark(m): 2:44pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
If You are sure you can cope like that, ride oon else, run. If na mme, d last time she will see me is. Dat day, she is very materialistic and will be evil. She will gladly Bleep alhajii for cash if u bcome broke. Ur kids will have a bitch for a mum. She will brag about raising yu from d slum and making u a man. Think twice, dis na early warning siignn deyemia: |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Cavenchy(m): 2:51pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
deyemia:I wasn't asking how her mum got rich, was saying how come it's only the mum that is classified as rich and not addressed by the daughter as a collective family wealth shared between her and her husband? Are they separated? Cos I assure you if it was her dad that met the huge inheritance, she would say her family was rich not just dad. And the fact that the inheritance came from grand mum and not even granddad should tell you something(yep I'll let you work this out). Now these are not questions I expect you to answer here, but to get you thinking. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by xp17(m): 3:48pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
deyemia:Bro, you don't need advice, you need a cookie. Can you please tell the difference between the girl and olosho? They both bring just pussy and real olosho does even better. That part in you that refuses to believe will kill you soon. Personally, i don't expect a lady to support or assist me financially, but she having the helping heart should be enough for me, because i can only predict tomorrow, but for sure don't know what the outcome will turn out to be. I don't give advices on mondays, you're lucky i stopped by out of the unusual. Enjoy you life with her bro, we will support you two in prayers |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by Nweike1: 4:11pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Move on, she is not your wife Let her grow up with somebody else. The trick is what u can't accept, make it known from the beginning. No compromise |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by osiscolion(m): 4:32pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Hello Deyemia, I just cannot help it but to drop my comment/Opinion when I saw your post. My brother, I most tell you, every moment or every opportunity that comes to you in life is for a reason, either for you to act, or to do nothing about them. You are catchup in this because you have a huge responsibility about it. now, think about the man who will end up with her if you decide to leave her because of this, so nature has decided to play that game by bringing that opportunity to you for you to do something about it. My Point is: You have to help her, but just before helping her, here are some questions I will love to ask? 1. Does she listen to you when you talk to her? 2. Does she love you? 3. Dees she a soft sport that you know of? Bla Bla Bla, well, I guess the girl in question has not really experience life, and does not understand life. And there are some few things she have to understand about life. Well, thank God its not an attitude but a mindset. And you have to change that! Life is give and receive, and her notion about marriage should be, together lets make life happen. sorry to say, she has a one sided mind. My Brother, she is with you today for you to change her and make her that woman that any Man can boast and say, She is the Best wife ever. And moreover, you should able to make and shape your relationship the way you want it to be, just as the tailor shapes and design a cloth material in the way it will suits its owner. Please Work on your woman, cos that is why she is lucky to be with you. Regards. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by MzOnajin1(f): 4:53pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
petkoffDrake:Lol, thats how it should be |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by kMezaya: 4:54pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Nna,u never see fiancee O! Make unu dey do just BF and GF dey go. When u reach to get fiancee,I go arrange one for you. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by petkoffDrake(m): 4:57pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
MzOnajin1:Eiya! Is not fair ooo... So if am ur bf now, dats how U'll treat me? U and d Girl op is lamenting of...... No lie, both of u are same family baa? |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by MzOnajin1(f): 5:00pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
petkoffDrake:bros, no be so. Invest in me, let me show you how Great God is. |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by petkoffDrake(m): 5:03pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
MzOnajin1: invest in you?! Now that might leave me broke on our wedding day |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by edwin4sure2: 5:27pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
Bro dnt be fast to conclude here, i tink ur fiancee nd frnd want to set u up to knw weda u ll let go de relationship nd 2ndly, u need to set ha up by bringing up a project wich u ll need Assistance frm ha but if she refuse to assist u den u can decide on wat to do [b]Bro dnt be fast to conclude here, i tink ur fiancee nd frnd want to set u up to knw weda u ll let go de relationship nd 2ndly, u need to set ha up by bringing up a project wich u ll need Assistance frm ha but if she refuse to assist u den u can decide on wat to do [/b]Bro dnt be fast to conclude here, i tink ur fiancee nd frnd want to set u up to knw weda u ll let go de relationship nd 2ndly, u need to set ha up by bringing up a project wich u ll need Assistance frm ha but if she refuse to assist u den u can decide on wat to do |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by olac21(m): 5:52pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
You have never said any good thing in your life before!from my family needs money to; he may decide to kick you off in the future!if you knw he will kick you off why not pack out now?eeyan naa lo fe iwo i naa bai olorun oba?that's is why it is goog to look before one licks!shioorr |
Re: My Fiancee Said She Can't Support Her Husband! by DonaTee(f): 6:59pm On Mar 07, 2016 |
deyemia: 90% of advices ive read here seem to b frm single pple. if its really aching u discuss this wit an elderly. The plain truth: If a woman loves u she ll spend on u. its involuntary. No woman can allow her kids starve or stay out of sch wen money dey her account. .....except she b ogbanje I used to n stil tell ny hubby "ur money is ours, but my money is mine/for emergency" His reply: He knws d password to press to get wat he wants there is no perfect girl out there. If she Truely loves u im sure she go don dey spend on u b4 dat discussion. But if she is dat stingy dat maybe her flaw....she sure has other gud parts. ARE U MARRYING HER FOR HER CAPABILITY TO SPEND ON U? Marriage is wen 2 imperfect pple unite to perfect each oda. She's ur perfect imperfection ur assignment is to find her password |
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