davidylan:

the woman isnt wicked . . . the house is her own the moment she ties the knot and she has every right to determine who sleeps there and who doesnt. My uncles lived together for yrs and yrs but the moment the one who owned the house got married, the other had to pack out the day before the wedding.

What next? your mother will move over to your house and live there till she dies?

the woman isnt wicked . . . the house is her own the moment she ties the knot and she has every right to determine who sleeps there and who doesnt. My uncles lived together for yrs and yrs but the moment the one who owned the house got married, the other had to pack out the day before the wedding.

Pls i am living in two rooms with my wife,we just married newly,but we use one of the rooms for parking clothes,bags,property etc and we sleep in the other room,we will soon find a bigger accomodation(Flat).Recently,my younger brother visited me to stay with us while we look for job for him.But,my wife say she will not allow me to touch her again if my brother is with us.I told her let the guy be sleeping in the other room,while we sleep on the other room,she say no,that she won't feel relaxed and free to make love in that kind condition unless my brother leave or until when we find a bigger accomodation.Please how can i convince her to agree for us to be doing it with my bros in the house?because [b]i need am well well.[/b]or is there any approach to be using that can make everybody feel at home in spite of the fact that three of us will be there while still enjoying her?.Please advise!!

he woman isnt wicked . . . the house is her own the moment she ties the knot and she has every right to determine who sleeps there and who doesnt. My uncles lived together for yrs and yrs but the moment the one who owned the house got married, the other had to pack out the day before the wedding.

What next? your mother will move over to your house and live there till she dies?

Sodium155:

Thanks for all the contributions so far received.Nairaland is undoubtbly a place to be.From all the opionions so far,i will decide on what to do.

The fact is that my brother was not living with me before the marriage and he came to my house.All of us knows that Lagos is different from some other parts of this country accomodationwise.We are not from Lagos but we stay in Lagos and my brother in question have never been in this town called Lagos.This is the first time he has been in Lagos.So,coming to Lagos to seek for what he can do to keep body and soul together,i am the only one that serves as his first point of contacts in terms of accomodation and to put him through for stepping into the Center of Excellence.I appreciate all your advice.Cheers!!!!

ThiefOfHearts:

which kind errand lasts for 2 weeks lol

*Hauwa*:

i agree with TOH, every weekend take her away for a get away weekend where u both have privacy, dine out, visit parks etc.

for ur brother, strictly set a time for him, give him 3-6month to get a job and his own place. soon he will be acting like he has a right to live there and eat free food which is one nig factor (he does not . . . since you are now married)

bless you david, nigerian men and their family scare me big time.

*Hauwa*:

i agree with TOH, every weekend take her away for a get away weekend where u both have privacy, dine out, visit parks etc.

for ur brother, strictly set a time for him, give him 3-6month to get a job and his own place. soon he will be acting like he has a right to live there and eat free food which is one nig factor (he does not . . . since you are now married)

bless you david, nigerian men and their family scare me big time.

ThiefOfHearts:

oyb, he means he needs SEX 'well well"

Abi o

You can already tell the type that will allow their family to rule over them. weaklings

4 Play:

Since when did Nigerian women start making noise during sex? Is it the same Naija women who are famous for making their male partners feel like necrophiliacs with their astonishing re-enactment of corpse like qualities during sex?

I'm sure it's more a case of the woman having a general dislike of the presence of the brother.

Sodium155:

Thanks for all the contributions so far received.Nairaland is undoubtbly a place to be.From all the opionions so far,i will decide on what to do.

@Posakosa,@asha80,@ThiefofHearts.The fact is that my brother was not living with me before the marriage and he came to my house.All of us knows that Lagos is different from some other parts of this country accomodationwise.We are not from Lagos but we stay in Lagos and my brother in question have never been in this town called Lagos.This is the first time he has been in Lagos.So,coming to Lagos to seek for what he can do to keep body and soul together,i am the only one that serves as his first point of contacts in terms of accomodation and to put him through for stepping into the Center of Excellence.I appreciate all your advice.Cheers!!!!

the woman isnt wicked . . . the house is her own the moment she ties the knot and she has every right to determine who sleeps there and who doesnt. My uncles lived together for yrs and yrs but the moment the one who owned the house got married, the other had to pack out the day before the wedding.

What next? your mother will move over to your house and live there till she dies?

Outstrip:

I cannot believe that people are saying it's just sex. It is not just sex. I feel sorry for your brother but you have to negotiate with your wife. If you are the only option then you need to make it up to your wife. You are newly wed. I would feel really uncomfortable if my in law was around and then trying to get it on. I am sure if you guys have been married for 2 years she would not be saying the same thing.

,amebo no1:

she is, there are a lot of ways of dealing with this issue without giving the ultimatum

The questions is, if it were her younger sister living with them,will this ultimatum still hold?

davidylan:

She is not, i'm surprised you as a woman support mr. sodium. The key here is that they are both newlyweds so i'm suspecting the wife must have been hoping they would at least have a couple of months of alone-time before the kids come. Adding a brother to a 2-room situation is a VOLATILE MIX.

why is the brother coming to Lagos now? What was he doing all this while? I've lived in Lagos before so the idea that he cant get his brother a small room on his own doesnt hold water. The wife didnt marry his brother to become house-wife for his family. So when she cooks the brother will also stretch his plate?

Una naija pple sef . . . even my wife's sister will not stay with us until babies enter the mix. Let everybody find his level abeg . . . brother and sisterhood is not forever.