ThiefOfHearts:

come and zip it for me.

Omo ale.

no1madman:

stupid thing.a typical yoruba woman is always a noise maker.

,amebo no1:

In conclusion i just asked

if it were her own sister that was in this situation, will she give the same ultimatum or calm down?

spikedcylinder:

. Allow his wife pick a time frame in which the brother has to get a job and move out. If he's unable to get a job and accommodation within that time

why is the brother coming to Lagos now? What was he doing all this while? I've lived in Lagos before so the idea that he cant get his brother a small room on his own doesnt hold water. The wife didnt marry his brother to become house-wife for his family. So when she cooks the brother will also stretch his plate?

Thank you, i wouldnt want any inlaw of mine to come live with me but if it happens, the least i can do is give the person 4 months maximum 6 to get a job or get out

I still wonder if she will give this same ultimatum, if it were  her sister that is in this same position

spikedcylinder:

Its unfair for the woman to be automatically expected to give up her privacy because her brother in law is "in need". Any right thinking woman who just got married (or otherwise) will put up objections and feel offended at the violation of her privacy. Why would anyone expect me to feel comfortable that a stranger is hearing my moans and groans as I sleep with my husband? Like seriously?

On the other hand too, it is unfair of the woman to ask her husband to turn his back on his own brother who is in dire need. Finance is tight, accommodation is another wahala.
However, I'd advice OP to find a middle ground with his wife. Allow his wife pick a time frame in which the brother has to get a job and move out. If he's unable to get a job and accommodation within that time, both brothers should seek the help of other single family members in Lagos.
Note that even after the OP has moved into a flat, it is still not ok for your brother to live with you especially if your wife is not comfortable with it.

PS, you people should ease up on the swear words abeg. You know each other before ni?

ThiefOfHearts:

Lol wetin be "tiwrp", the word is twerp. As in your middle name. Na by force to speak English. Bloody illiterates feeling funky

,amebo no1:

i won"t be surprised if she was the accomodating type during courtship just to get in, but changed once there are in

She is a selish woman

bluespice:

i think we are looking at this the wrong way
she isnt stopping sex cos of the brother-in-law
her refusal is a form of punishment seeing as she knows (poster said he wants it "well well" her husband likes sex)
both of them should have a long talk about her real reason for not wanting the brother-in-law in the house
i think its un reasonable using sex as a weapon in such a trivial issue
she's got issues and needs to work on herself

~Sauron~:

We must understand women are the most hypocritical beings in the whole wide world.
If that was her own sibling, this wouldn't be any issue at all. . . .
They are ready to bring their own relatives in and they want you to understand but when it's time for the man's relative to come in. . .excuses start.
Where will my kid brother go in that wild Lagos? If i send him packing and he gets arrested for one vice. . .what would become of me?

bluespice:

not all women jare!
ur rite tho she might not have a problem with her relatives staying were the situations reversed

that said, all we can do is speculate, we dont know her real reason for not wanting the guy over
who knows, they might have had a history by history i mean they might have never gotten along and she feels cos its 'her' house she can decide if she wants to be haunted by his face daily

~Sauron~:


They are ready to bring their own relatives in and they want you to understand but when it's time for the man's relative to come in. . .excuses start.

Why would anyone expect me to feel comfortable that a stranger is hearing my moans and groans as I sleep with my husband? Like seriously?

bluespice:

ITS NOT ABOUT SEX!
lets get it str8
she's simply denying him sex as a punishment

i really don't know what to say - your wife may have issues with your brother she is not talking about. but your asking your brother to leave will lead to major bad blood between your wife and your family, imho.

unless you can find a friend for your bro to crash with, i'd say manage it. marriage is not a bed of roses. tomorrow it may be your wife's sister who is coming to stay while she looks for job. do you think she would have the same reservations?


as to siblings etal knowing you are gettng down - i don't think anyone over here believes in the stork. heck its the brother hat should be bothered at the interruptions to his sleep

oyb:

slightly oftopic

during my nysc, i stayed with an uncle for 2wks. the guy is my mums blood brother. he was having some sort of problems with his wife. all their kids were abroad. it was a majorly difficult time for me then, ad without warning, the man chased me from his house - (almost definitely at his wife's behest) my mum was so upset, i think she fell ill. later i heard the man was going round telling peeps he chased me out cause i was a cult boy   , some of the folks abroad actually believed the bs. anyway, i saw the guy at a wedding like 2yrs later. i think i was chopping oyel money then. we were as civil as the circumstances could allow, but obviously the man was wary. do you think that man can come to my folks for a favor in future?

bluespice:

ITS NOT ABOUT SEX!
lets get it str8
she's simply denying him sex as a punishment

~Sauron~:

U even tried exchanging pleasantries with him. . . . .I woulda ignored his ass.
I get ticked with men without balls. . . . .and most men these days are retards.
How can a woman gimme an order to send my own relative away because of her selfish wet-dreams. . . .She should Bleep back to her father's house to make such orders. If your uncle comes to your house, l[b]et your dogs on him to bite his face.[/b]
Nansense!!!!