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Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Chukazu: 4:23pm On May 26, 2016 |
that juju that would make me marry from my tribe and miss out from the beautiful diversity of this multi-culturally amazing country will never succeed. beauty in diversity must marry outside my tribe 5 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by salvation77177: 4:24pm On May 26, 2016 |
Madam, you have to go into serious prayers. Parental consent in marriage can not be overlooked. Make sure you are really convinced before taking any decision. But while will some one stay in a relationship for five years that one of the parents is not in agreement? Sometimes, I wonder most single men and women misbehave when it comes to the matter of marriage of a thing. Marrying a person means marrying the entire family and not just the man or the woman only. Good luck. 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by blessedqueen(f): 4:33pm On May 26, 2016 |
skillzbae: Thank u dear 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by thorpido(m): 4:40pm On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices:You didn't say anything about your fiance's stance thus far?How adamant is he that it's you he wants? If his parents are the traditional igbo people,I'll advise you to move on. Prayers can change things if this indeed is the Lord's will for you. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Chukazu: 4:46pm On May 26, 2016 |
johnsonjosbles: we don hear naa...how many times you talk am? |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Chukazu: 4:57pm On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu: I don't really support asking the lady to learn igbo because of marriage, its good but not pre-requisite. but also saying igbo language is difficult is a fallacy.. its not more difficult than any language, its a mindset problem. ..just were are Everly ready to learn and adapt to others language but others.... |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Jaygrl(f): 5:00pm On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu: |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Jaygrl(f): 5:07pm On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices:You are welcome dear,you can PM me if need be. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nwiboko26(f): 5:11pm On May 26, 2016 |
My dear is better for u to throw away ur five yrs relationship than for u to wallow in misery till eternity.so that u wl live longer. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by johnsonjosbles(m): 5:24pm On May 26, 2016 |
Chukazu:I talk am once oh, na qout you dey there dey read. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 5:31pm On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:as a fellow igbo, please stop. u r coming off as tribalistic, insensitive and uncouth. if you can't be polite while sharing your 'advice' (which is not even a good one imho) then leave the thread. @op, take the advice of those who are married to people from other tribes themselves. they know better. 5 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Tijay90(m): 5:34pm On May 26, 2016 |
Contrary to what many think,when you marry someone,you marry that person ALONE...Not his/her family...you've got two options: Get married(if you both wanna), or: end an otherwise wonderful relationship because of tribal (perhaps religious) bigotry...the choice is yours. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 5:45pm On May 26, 2016 |
Gabby91: Fellow igbo keep your advice to yourself ....i have the right to air .y views Buzz off |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by TheArchangel(f): 5:46pm On May 26, 2016 |
Tijay90:I guess you are yet to step foot into marital life. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 5:46pm On May 26, 2016 |
kingdavidG: I am a TRIBALIST and also a REALIST ...so do you have any other thing to say 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 5:48pm On May 26, 2016 |
kingdavidG: Original igbo Orijin drink Your eyes see what they want to see What I have written stays Gbafuo 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 5:49pm On May 26, 2016 |
mikolo80: No mind them |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by joanana(f): 5:50pm On May 26, 2016 |
richyblink1: You have said it all..op your man should stand his ground and talk to his parents. Being Igbo and Yoruba is the least of your problems. Your fiancé's family should accept you, if they do not my advice is that you should walk away and by Gods Grace a better man will find you. My fiancé is Yoruba and m Igbo, he's not catholic and m catholic and we r getting married before the end of this year. My dear, my mum was against it at first ,l talk to her that this is where my happiness lies and its him and no one else, I explained to my family and they understand. Op put it in prayers , believe and faith . There's nothing GOD cannot do. That's my 2 cents sha! |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 5:50pm On May 26, 2016 |
Vickyydera: Outside east but still have Igbo speaking in Delta , Rivers even Edo state ....the bottom line is that they are Igbo speaking and same culture and they are outside east |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Nobody: 5:57pm On May 26, 2016 |
to ikpummadu and his ilk, tribe? race? God is watching us so called Christians. all I know is acts 10:34 says 'At this Peter began to speak, and he said: “Now I truly understand that God is not partial, 35 but in every nation the man who fears him and does what is right is acceptable to him. u should focus on compatibility, communication and other important factors not tribe. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by DedeNkem: 6:01pm On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices: 5yrs is not maimai. You're worried about things that haven't happened yet, simply because your guy's parents don't like the relationship. As long as you love him and he loves you, his parents will definitely come around. Parents always come around, especially, if you have great attitude. You should be glad that his siblings don't have issues with the relationship and don't give a f*uck about ethnicity. Instead of thinking about ending the relationship, you should rather focus on ways to establish a good rapport with his parents. Don't f*uck with your relationship because of his parents. If you end it to move on, then it would mean you're unfit to handle difficulties that do arise sometimes in a relationship. 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by naijaobi(m): 6:13pm On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu: You are talking thrash. Are u sure you are Igbo or were u joking? So she should instead go and marry a yoruba guy she doesn't love just because the guy's parents accept her? Smh4u 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Ngozi123(f): 6:27pm On May 26, 2016 |
I think that the op already knows what path she should take in this matter; she just doesn't want to admit it to herself. You needn't seek advice on such an intimate matter online as the posters of Nairaland won't be the ones who'll be involved in your marriage. As for the guy's parents, it could go either way with them, they may eventually soften their stance on you or they may remain resolute with it. No one can predict the future but I would be lying if I did not tell you that your marriage will be based on a weaker foundation than it should be due to the lack of support from his family. In this day and age, married couples need as much support as possible. If you and your partner are prepared to take on this challenge then I pray that God blesses your union but if not, I pray that both you and him find people that will not cause you as many problems in the future. 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 6:41pm On May 26, 2016 |
naijaobi: Are u done? Next !!!! 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 6:43pm On May 26, 2016 |
Ngozi123: CHUKWU gozie gi She knows the truth but wants us to tell her the truth and I did that sufficiently 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 6:45pm On May 26, 2016 |
Gabby91:I gave an advise that's all .....okay do you want me to tell him to encourage the guy to disobey the parents God forbid Bible said ...respect your parents for they are the god you see on earth |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by IkpuMmadu: 6:50pm On May 26, 2016 |
richyblink1: There area lot of similarities |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by sammied(m): 7:11pm On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu: which Bible did you get that quote from? they're the god you see on earth? be careful the way you add to the Bible all in the name of adding weight to ur personal opinions... there's already a laid down eternal divine cause to those who add to God's word.... 1 Like |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by Saintp(m): 7:14pm On May 26, 2016 |
sammied: Someone who reads your post would think that this kind of thing can't happen in youruba families. Would you swear with your life that every yoruba family will accept an igbo inlaw? You people should learn to treat each case on its merit instead of capitalizing on it to generalize. Have you heard all stories involving inter tribal marriage? Okay, will you say yorubas are tribalist since some yoruba landlords will never rent thier house to an igbo person? My friend, there is no perfect tribe. get that into your head. 5 Likes |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by avril9(f): 7:25pm On May 26, 2016 |
legalspices:I alwayz tell ppl dat love is not enuff wen it comes to d issue of marrige,other factors shud b considered right from courtship.if after spending 5yrs wit him n his parents view hasn't changed den changes are it will neva change,so move on though it wud b hard n I wudnt advice u to separate d son from his folks. They even do it to their own child not to talk of u a stranger. |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by kaziblake(f): 7:34pm On May 26, 2016 |
IkpuMmadu:How old are you? |
Re: Ethnicity Difference: Should I Stay Or Just Move On Already?? by ghuzy01: 7:49pm On May 26, 2016 |
Ngozi123:Ngozi , ur smart...I love the way you reason.well said. 1 Like |
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