kokoye:

If you get a derogatory / disrespectful answer, then you are in the wrong relationship. Move on

samaiin:

Depends on what you classified as a successful women. The percentage of successful women with attitude problem[s] is 98.9%. It is rational for a man to deal with such women with caution.

bawomolo:

If you get a derogatory / disrespectful answer, then you are in the wrong relationship. Move on . . . I don't know why people persevere in abusive relationships.

kokoye:

A lot of people use the 'strong black successful' phrase as a reason for a break-up and that pisses me off.

CyberG:

Lots of STUPID comments from women who have LOST (or, in the process of losing) the dating, relationship or marriage game! Life must suck for y'all so bad to come over here and stand logic on its head!

How can your "success" be the "bad" thing that makes men afraid of you? Think about it and see that is really a foolish suggestion to attribute your failed attempts at having a husband / boyfriend to such ridiculousness. As for me (and for most >= "normal" guys) your "success" is only an addition to OUR success (in a relationship) as I am not only successful but have been successful for a long time (before we met). I am NOT OLD so this has got nothing to do with age.

The poster giving "examples" should realize that her examples are not definitive of all possibilities as everyone's life experience is different. If a guy likes/loves you enough, the last thing on his mind is your bank account, material wealth or your so called "success". So, get yourself a real guy otherwise, marry your "success", adopt children and give us a break to deal with more objective viewpoints about issues of life.

i totally agree, most women that have nothing to pinpoint their lack or empty, dry relationship always end up sayin such things, its because i am successful they run away. men dont give a shit, but where a man finds out another person wants to be wearing the same trouser in a relationship then there is a problem. most independent women become pompous and arrogant, that is the way independent men also behave. but the only difference between independent men and women is the man naturally knows how to intereact with the society and his sucess and doesnt need nairaland to tell him what do, but an independent women she is clueless, she finds out that the shoe she is wearing is big she is not used 2 it, so she tries her best 2 fit into society but ends up ruining her relationship then comes 2 nairaland for affirmation. it takes a very matured woman in any organisation, that is wealthy or independent not 2 come of rude to the the general public, this kind of women rule, people flock around them, i emphasise matured!!!, but the immature ones end up being rude easily irritably and believes she can get anything she wants by demanding, my point is are u really succesful poster, sucess involves alot of things not only financial gratification, but also involves spiritual happiness, emotional happiness, physical well being and so on , when uve balanced all then you can be classified as succesful, its an art that most men naturally know how to do, like i said b4 only a afew matured women know how 2 balance everything and still hold onto thier relationship.

i totally agree, most women that have nothing to pinpoint their lack or empty, dry relationship always end up sayin such things, its because i am successful they run away. men dont give a shit, but where a man finds out another person wants to be wearing the same trouser in a relationship then there is a problem. most independent women become pompous and arrogant, that is the way independent men also behave. but the only difference between independent men and women is the man naturally knows how to intereact with the society and his sucess and doesnt need nairaland to tell him what do, but an independent women she is clueless, she finds out that the shoe she is wearing is big she is not used 2 it, so she tries her best 2 fit into society but ends up ruining her relationship then comes 2 nairaland for affirmation. it takes a very matured woman in any organisation, that is wealthy or independent not 2 come of rude to the the general public, this kind of women rule, people flock around them, i emphasise matured!!!, but the immature ones end up being rude easily irritably and believes she can get anything she wants by demanding, my point is are u really succesful poster, sucess involves alot of things not only financial gratification, but also involves spiritual happiness, emotional happiness, physical well being and so on , when uve balanced all then you can be classified as succesful, its an art that most men naturally know how to do, like i said b4 only a afew matured women know how 2 balance everything and still hold onto thier relationship.

Uche2nna:


The attitude problem of most successful women is[i] mostly [/i] some form of defensive mechanism in a man's world. I can condone that.

dakkylove:

for the few who are still thinking like Cave men, wake up and realize that a Bad woman is a bad woman, irrespective of if she has some form of success or not, that hard working, intelligent woman might make the difference when the recession h its you hard.

saintade01:

I think the poster or anyone who found herelf 'always' in this situation should check theirselves very well for the problem and you will surely find the solution in this same men you said are afraid.

You (poster) have displayed some of your traits here with your responses even as some of the post are nonsense.

dakkylove:

interesting view points from some and unfortunate comments from others, but at the end of the day i'm glad this post got some people thinking.
hopefully everybody will learn one or two from the mature posts here. especially the post from a guy who said he was very proud of his wife,she had nothing when she met him and now she is very rich but she is still the same person.

for some people who say women think like this because they are single and cannot get a man, FYI i am in a very happy relationship wiith a man who has nothing but love and respect for me. i just like 2 share opinions.

this life is a journey that we will all enjoy when you find that person that can encourage you to be better in life. don't try and kill anyone's dream because of jealousy, regardless of the sex of a person, anybody can be God's vessel to bless a family.

ladej:

the honest truth is that regardless of society or economic situation of the country this problem is not limited to blacks, whites, indians, basically its a global issue. notable hardworking women like tyra banks, serena williams, oprah, condoleeza rice, just to name a few have had this problem in the past and currently. the thing is if a man is not secure he will fall prey to the problem.

agabaI23:

ladeji

All your examples na black women. Why na? E be like na only successful black women that have problem staying under a man?