DarkRebel101:


I appreciate your input. You're right about my zeroing focus only on premarital relationships. This is so because I have first-hand experiences in that regard. I can't say this applies in marriages as well because I have no experience whatsoever in that station.

But I don't think a little distance in marriages is far-fetched. Couples do it all the time, howbeit they take a more subtle and modest approach.

Yo how you go from rhymes to romance? Where the freestyles at bruh??

DarkRebel101:


I appreciate your input. You're right about my zeroing focus on only premarital relationships. This is so because I have first-hand experiences in that regard. I can't say this applies in marriages as well because I have no experience whatsoever in that station.

But I don't think a little distance in marriages is far-fetched. Couples do it all the time, howbeit they take a more subtle and modest approach.

Sometimes they don't even need to create distance as circumstances create the distance for them. Circumstances like work, children, etc.

I think it's very much the same for singles in relationships. Work doesn't start at marriage; add that to the physical absence most of the time.

On the whole I get your point though. Moderation is key, even in showering our partners with attention. Just wondered how practical it would be in marriage.

Oahray:
I think it's very much the same for singles in relationships. Work doesn't start at marriage; add that to the physical absence most of the time.

But singles don't bear the weights of the responsibilities which marriage ushers into a person's life. Of course many singles have jobs, but they don't carry the burden of having to balance work with family -- both nuclear and extended.

Marriage is more secure, more serious, more permanent -- but premarital relationships are more likely than not to be built on wobbly foundations, that and the possibility of a break-up circling the space above many premarital relationships like a roving buzzard.

So yeah, premarital relationships and marriages are apples and oranges.

On the whole I get your point though. Moderation is key, even in showering our partners with attention. Just wondered how practical it would be in marriage.

Touché. Modesty is the mother of virtues.

DarkRebel101:


But singles don't bear the weights of the responsibilities which marriage ushers into a person's life. Of course many singles have jobs, but they don't carry the burden of having to balance work with family -- both nuclear and extended.

Marriage is more secure, more serious, more permanent -- but premarital relationships are more likely than not to be built on wobbly foundations, that and the possibility of a break-up circling the space above many premarital relationships like a roving buzzard.

So yeah, premarital relationships and marriages are apples and oranges.



Touché. Modesty is the mother of virtues.

hmmm... That's quite a conclusion to reach, that part about singles not bearing much responsibilities. Some singles carry staggering responsibilities.

Before marriage, one still has a family, nuclear and extended. Some become part-time or even full time breadwinners, due to circumstances. For some the challenge it's balancing demanding jobs with providing care for aged parents or terminally ill relatives.

I agree that marriage is in a league of its own, but it's not as if every single person has all the time in the world to choke his partner with attention. If we aren't seeing very often in the first place, why try to add even more distance?

The part about marriages being more serious and secure makes sense. The more committed a relationship is, the less the need to disappear into thin air to spice it up again.

davide470:
It is quite insightful but he should tone down on the grammar

Cc: DarkRebel10

Thats typical Michael for you, I cannot even begin to imagine how a conversation with him will be like without jaw breaking words

DarkRebel101:


But the chances of something going wrong are slimmer in close-knit relationships. Surely you can't disagree with that.

When you say close-knit do you mean close in physical or emotional terms?

Good am.

sinaj:
There is no manual for having a good relationship. The tips that works for Mr A might not work for Mr B.


Just pray nd hope for a partner with a good heart.

GBAM

TheRealestGuy:
When you say close-knit do you mean close in physical or emotional terms?

Good am.

Physical and emotional closeness are mutually exclusive. You'd be hardpressed to find one existing without the other.

joseph1832:
Now I couldn't have said this better.

sinaj:

You're welcome.

ah! not this thread...