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Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by chachanga: 6:10am On Feb 21, 2017 |
Zedoo: God Bless You for this sensible post unlike most of the retarrded sadists who've been making the already-depressed OP much more confused. I've personally never needed to seek any opinion on public forums for anything but I get miffed at the ease with which big-mouthed bigots take no pains in quickly making mockery of serious issues with such bile, that, only shows what unbearable levels of putrefaction their own personal souls are going through. Here, we have an OP who's already contemplated suicide and the id10ts are still ranting without seeking, even some modicum of more information as per the source of his woes. This thread is one of the sad reminders of how it is indeed true that most Nigerians are really suffering one psych-maladies or the other. @OP Guy, you obviously need to step back, a bit, and look at the big picture here because despite all that your mom is becoming, you're here partly because of her and she won't be alive for ever. SHE NEEDS ALL THE LOVE, ATTENTION, CARE AND PATIENCE YOU CAN SPARE FOR HER NOW, not when she's dead and gone. And, trust me, all things being equal, she will be, before you. So, that puts the burden of maturity on you. However, you will need to limit your exposure to the nagging and ranting so you don't spark and burn out when you least expect or end up carrying a grudge-chip on your shoulder all day. Maybe you could feign some new level of busy work itinerary that even wipes the possibility of phone calls, visits and other forms of access for a while. Absence, might indeed in this case, make the heart grow fonder. Also, you need to grow above her level and make your mind, not to lose your cool, regardless of whatever she does or says. Play along, if you have to, believing that this her present state of mind will blow over But if it doesn't, at least, you've started learning how to handle her. Try and carry her husband, your dad, along in whatever you're doing for her at this stage so her outbursts, at you, can be mitigated. |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by syntekelite(m): 7:43am On Feb 21, 2017 |
op pls try and find time to watch the movie sopranos,just two seasons,i believe u will learn a lot of practical things,if u really searching for solutions... good luck. |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by syntekelite(m): 7:44am On Feb 21, 2017 |
Annamma:op pls try and find time to watch the movie sopranos,just two seasons,i believe u will learn a lot of practical things,if u really searching for solutions... good luck. |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by JennieCutie4U(f): 9:05am On Feb 21, 2017 |
chachanga:Nice one... you couldn't hv said it any better. I hope the OP does the right thing 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by BlongTrendies(f): 9:15am On Feb 21, 2017 |
EmmySparky: It is not about dragging one's parent in the mud. This forum is about sharing experiences and learning by sifting through responses. Sometimes you think you are alone in a situation. Reading experiences like these make u realize you are not alone. Through him, I have come to learn the English word for that kind of character. I understand the op. It is not just about phone but the attitude behind it. Its like they enjoy frustrating others, even their children. My mom and mother-in-law is like that. No matter what you do, it is never enough. Even my in-law's children went far from her due to this. My spouse and I were the only ones who stayed with her. Let me give some examples, She was angry that the other kids could not bear children. I have three and we lived in her house to care for her. Each time we buy things for her, like an SUV, TV etc. She shows no sign of appreciation. If she keeps quiet it is better. The next thing she says is that you just paid your house rent. Whenever my husby is coming back from work, she stands at the gate collects everything from his pockets, the car etc. She stands in the street to cry we do nothing for her. People calls us on the phone or stop us on the way and accuse us of not taking care of her. We were with her for five years with no good investment or sign of progress because we wanted to be good children. We left when we discovered she was trying to take our kids from us. She complained about the way we raise our kids. We hid from her for 8 months. She promised not to frustrate us and live our lives. These are few of what I can mention. Op, the only thing I can tell you is, she is your mother. You should try not to hate her. Since you don't live with her, it is a plus for you. Whenever you see her, show love, say sweet things to her. Buy gifts for her or give her money. Dont think about it if she appreciate it or not. Don't stay too long. Don't go frequently. Always tell her how busy you are. Respond to her calls always. Anything she says, dont argue. Your response should be I will look into it or I have heard. Be patient with her. You too should work on yourself to develop a stronger personality to cope with her. God will help you to show love, respect and care to her. Pray for self control and endurance. If you don't have the experience, you can never relate. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by BlongTrendies(f): 9:19am On Feb 21, 2017 |
fpeter: You just got it. She might get better when she misses you. |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by Nobody: 9:45am On Feb 21, 2017 |
Annamma: You should have commited suicide naa then you won't be bothered again by her megalo...wetin you call am sef. You carry your mama matter come Nairaland, it's a pity. Na dis kain pikin parents dey disown. God have mercy on you. |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by Majestinni: 2:29pm On Feb 21, 2017 |
just know that you are not the only one facing this kind of situation, it's not her doing and she probably can't help it, it is a stage in women's life(a large percentage) around 50s and thereabout, that's when you feel that your mum is behaving differently, just show her love not withstanding she will get over it. it is a kind of hormonal thing, women go through a lot of pain like child bearing, family pressure, cheating husbands, taking care of children and what have you, all these are causes of such. it happens to others too but may vary from one person to another, just bear with her. |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by phensbassey: 6:30pm On Feb 21, 2017 |
DIKEnaWAR:dude do you knw the meaning of megalomania? |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by Damseldammie(f): 7:43pm On Feb 21, 2017 |
Firstly you're not suppose to bring your immediate family issue here. If I may ask, how old are you? What position are you in the family? The reason I asked the above question is that,I never expected a matured fellow man to be washing his dirts in public. Again, this is your mom/mother/ who carried you for a complete 9mnth inside her belly without any form of assistance from alábárù. Anyways, don't let me say much but try & think over & over what I have said... You must buy her what she aspires,let her do whatever she likes with it, so that her heart can bless you. Ìyá eni N'ìyá eni Ìyá n'ìyá , n'ìyá mi(My mother) 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by EmmySparky(m): 8:41pm On Feb 21, 2017 |
BlongTrendies:bro the way u shared ur experience is quite mature and decent...i am not against the op sharing his experience and letting out a little gas...nope ...instead i am against his disrespectful choice of words...he just sounded so crude and rude...u just pointed out some instances without an atom of disrespect...he should also do the same...cos this is his mum for crying out loud...this is a very sensitive and complex issue...even myself i sometimes have issues with my parents...but that doesn't mean that i should channel the whole anger and write an article using vulgar words...thats my bone of contention bro |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by megafone: 8:50pm On Feb 21, 2017 |
Annamma:Buy unto Ceaser what belongs to Ceaser You hia ba? 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by Omolego: 11:20pm On Feb 21, 2017 |
Annamma:She needs medical care and attention. Maybe it's post menopausal syndrome. And u Dnt even have a slightest patient for her, not everyone augur well with old-age. U might behave worse during yours. Take your time and explain, care for her, and whats bad in buying. Browsing phone and teach her d basics, I did so to my mum , she's on fb and whatsapp and she's happily meeting her long timed friends who are aging graciously too, and the center of worry v shifted.and Dnt forget the fact that even if m not around she calls to make me explain how to work her phone, so what I did, I bought d same exact type of her phone just to b able to teach her. It's fun. Remember they where there when we where little even to our growing up. 1 Like |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by Gudfrie(m): 12:15am On Feb 22, 2017 |
Annamma: By the way, what are you still doing with ur mum if she's at that age....you should be on ur own by now |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by seasy: 7:08pm On Apr 10, 2017 |
chynie: Nice one! |
Re: Pls Help, My Mum Is Suffering From Megalomania And Am Begining To Hate Her. by alexvic12: 9:31pm On Jul 24, 2017 |
Take it cool and calm |
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