hush15:


Gf, I understand what you saying but I don't agree. Was it the parent that introduce the guy and choose him to be her suitor?

If the answer is no, then the parents are not at fault at all. Lesson learnt is when you are not ready for it, don't go showing him off to your parent.

I just feel she succumbed to fear if the unknown. She dated this guy and all the while, she didn't mind at all. When it got to marriage, she still didn't say anything. They might have gone for counselling sef but she didn't utter a word on her reservations. On the wedding day is when she now realised she is not strong for it. This has nothing to do with age but the fear of so many thing she didn't want to come to terms with in reality. I remember on my wedding day, I couldn't believe it was me throughout cos I had always dread the idea of being married but guess what, I just took it as it comes and eventually it ended up being fun when I look back in retrospect. Up till now, I still can't believe am hooked but guess what, I am and am loving it. Trying to be better. My wife still thinks I might still run away cos she can't believe it too cos have always had my doubts. Now, I replace all my doubts with faith and when I think about it, it makes me want to live my wife.

When it comes to marriage, nobody is perfect. And there is nothing like the perfect guy or girl, it just you knowing you can stand with this person and make progress together. Love doesn't cut it be cause we think love is what propels a marriage. If I don't love him, I can't marry him but you see, that thing called love is suppose to be the result of your marriage cos that's what union produces. You may not fancy the person but eventually, that person becomes thing that ever happened in your life. That's always the story. True love story always end up in being with person you never thought it could be possible with and it's usually the best love story that last forever. Neway, if am the guy, I would take it as it is and move on. No quarrels and move on cos like the bible says, all things work together for good.

Am sure if she is willing, cos I want to believe the guy genuinely loves her for him not to see her reservations, the guy would have make a good husband for her and I might be wrong but then I don't so. The crazy thing in all these is that I hope she makes a better choice when she fully decides cos like my ex, she would wish she never left but I guess it's all for the best

mmuonso:
Bum bum is a fool, yeah forced marriages should not be accepted, but why wait till the weeding day, eeh kwa ?

Cordis92:
It's really pathetic imaging what that young man went through after that day, but I pray he finds a woman who will love him and be his wife. Every disappointment is a blessing. The lady saved him from unhappy marriage or future divorce.

Lesson to people who like recommended marriage, please ask the person if he or she really loves you and is ready to take the walk with you. Ask well o

I won't judge the lady. She is old enough to know what she wants. I pray God helps her in her life journey.

terrezo2002:
Was she forced to stay during the wedding preparation?
Was she forced to wear the wedding gown?
Why would she bring shame to the family and friends?
I think they are doing this lady somewhere. Someone is playing with her destiny.
God save us from women like this.
I pray for grace for the both families to bear the shame, forget the past and move on.
As for her. May God deliver her from destiny wasters. You never can tell, someone who might be there bewitching her. Some Africans can do anything just to see you not succeed.

Fourwinds:
y should u be reasoning like this.? do d wedding and then go for divoice.? do u understand d simple answer Jesus Christ told us to give.? He said let your YES be YES and your NO be NO.

omowumeee:
Many marriage started with Jesus Christ n ddnt end well

Xmen149:


On behalf of boxers training under anthony joshua,.we dnt beat ladies ,.lai lai ....we give her to those that like slay queen/mama ..to "bumbum bigger than bumbay" likers this is yours

Xmen149:


On behalf of boxers training under anthony joshua,.we dnt beat ladies ,.lai lai ....we give her to those that like slay queen/mama ..to "bumbum bigger than bumbay" likers this is yours

EVILFOREST:

How could she take such a decision, when most LADIES reason the same.......

Confused Creatures.....
Continue waiting...
I pity the man, who wants to settle down with such a name........

Fourwinds:
you must be confused.....y go into a marriage when u know it won't last...it is better to tell ur partner not to go ahead with d marriage

Realkenny:
Love is not an immediate stuff it takes time, you can live with someone you don't like but as time goes on love is built.

I have heard of rape victims who eventually fell in love with the person who raped them.

Love.

Cordis92:
It's really pathetic imaging what that young man went through after that day, but I pray he finds a woman who will love him and be his wife. Every disappointment is a blessing. The lady saved him from unhappy marriage or future divorce.

Lesson to people who like recommended marriage, please ask the person if he or she really loves you and is ready to take the walk with you. Ask well o

I won't judge the lady. She is old enough to know what she wants. I pray God helps her in her life journey.

princefunmmy:
Did I see this clearly.. "He'd never hit me, but I just don't like him like that"
Now we know your problem, you are a punching bag and you need a good boxer.. Where are those boxing men.. Over to you

alanka:
perhaps my theory is beyond human standard. If truly a man is leading a relationship, esterblishing it, nurturing it...then a man should know and help his partner to find more of herself.

The lady did not just say it in the wedding day i do believe. She must have been saying it in her body language/gesture, through proxy or absence but the young man may think as time goes on things will get better

What I know for sure is, the man if he truly loved her, he should not be in that relationship that far yet he should be with her in spirit, psychology and phisical.

The man beyong any person has better chance to decide what happens in the relationship and if he fails to make right decision things like this happens.
It is a pity for him anyway.

DeRay98:


So many young girls don't understand the terminology you use.
An unloving marriage is a marriage where there's no expression of love or worst still cruelty towards a spouse.
In this context, a marriage has not even taken place neither did she say he wasn't loving towards her.
She didn't accuse him of anything that led to her withdrawal as your statement here portrays.
She's the one and only person who became unsure, developed cold feet due fear of the unknown.
She alone was the protagonist and villain of her action packed self implosion.

hush15:


While I believe anybody shouldn't be forced into any marriage, I still believe it's wrong what she did. This only happens when you don't know what you want cos it didn't have to get to the wedding day before you cancelled.a day before would still be perfect, not when everyone is already at the wedding and you decided not to show up. It's a very embarrassing position. She thought of herself alone but not the guy who believed he was about have a wife. It's a very devastating position for the guy. The humiliation is deep.

Anyway, after all said and done, it's come and gone and I pray when she is ready, it won't be one good for nothing fella she will now be tripping for and that one will now abuse her and we will begin to hear men are wicked stories because many ladies don't understand that when it comes to marriage, it takes more Its not a factor but a result of marriage
If you can agreed to date the guy, then you can grow to love the guy.

DeRay98:


Here's a lady who did the unthinkable and you're there finding reasons to blame the groom for her actions.
What if the groom that did such?
I bet you probably would have looked for to shoot him dead.
Nough said.

dangotesmummy:
lmao oga Ade e be like say you dey watch too much telenundo


Broda this is not Gardner's daughter neither is it second chance or secret of the sand or even passions.this is reality.com

People differ,a woman going into a marriage out of let me sha please daddy and mummy because of the money they've invested is only selling herself to misery.yes I agree she made the mistake of bringing a man she wasn't sure of marrying home. That was totally her fault but is it not better now that she realised that she Didn't love this guy and make a u turn than entering finish and any small disagreement you will hear if not for my father you think I will marry you

Abi a situation where she's committing adultery or elopes with the man she truly loves.this thing is a win win situation o it's just that you're not seeing it the way I'm seeing it.it's better that she voiced out now so the guy will move front and find another wife and the girl will follow suit.

There's nothing like love grows.infact nothing the guy does will ever impress her.she will begin to see sex with him as something irritating. Infact it will affect almost every part of their lives and the guy will feel he's putting his all and she's not reciprocating

hush15:


I do agree with you about the aftermath that could happen if she decides to ahead with the marriage. I also didn't imply she should have gone on with the marriage out of sentiments or parental influence of some sort but my point here is next time, she should think it through well before she says yes.

Marriage is serious business and the minute it pops up, take it serious. If she can't deal with it yet, don't even take it further. Not play along hoping you will be able to swallow the bitter pill as it goes. You talking just bout the girl, do you think it's easier for the guy or you feel it's just a walk through the park for Him? If he knew she wasn't ready, am sure he would have push the day further to be sure, not to disappoint him on the actual day of the event.

Newway, it doesn't matter. Like I said earlier, the problem is the girl and not knowing what she wants. Even if she now found love in another guy, can she handle it and the pressure that comes with it and for a fact, a girl that will misbehave will misbehave whether she loves the guy or not. Marriage is never based on emotions....

ShawttySoFyne:
No one should ever be forced into an unloving marriage

Kondomatic:
She did date him a little.
Followed him to do blood test
Introduction
Marriage course
Plan the wedding and fix date
Print invitation cards and shared them to friends and families
Then changed her mind on their wedding day.



She should be sacrificed to any available god. That's if they will accept her

Kondomatic:
She did date him a little.
Followed him to do blood test
Introduction
Marriage course
Plan the wedding and fix date
Print invitation cards and shared them to friends and families
Then changed her mind on their wedding day.



She should be sacrificed to any available god . That's if they will accept her

skales67:
Na wah o. But the babe get ukwu and bumbum sha. no be lie

See the babe here. You can see her uncovered face and her other pics here:

http://naijaxrated..com/p/pictures-ob-bunmi-bum-bum-who-dumped.html

dangotesmummy:
ask God for forgiveness for taking her destiny into her own hands,ask God for forgiveness because she doesn't have power of choice, ask God for forgiveness because it's no longer her life.

omowumeee:
why say yes in the first place? she should have maintained a strong "No" from the onset, not wait till that day! How bout those that thought it will last forever but didn't last a year? nothing is certain In life

Tosinex:
Ask God for Forgiveness because she's a deceiver!, a liar! She should have let out her intentions before they get engaged! She wore the engagement ring when he first put it in her hand and she never removed it then and say no! When he proposed to her she should have walked away and leave him down on his knees just like that lady did in that viral photo once shared some weeks ago!. She should have straighten out her choice when are family and friends were pushing her, and say it to their face what she wants atleast she's 30, She should have taken her destiny into her hands before they plan the wedding, bought the cloths, pay for the reception and all things, IS SHE A BABY, IS SHE A TODDLER!! doesn't she knows what all these means while there were planning, haba!!

dangotesmummy:
she should have walked out so that her family will rain curses and insults on top of her head.

The thing is that when you are of marriageable age especially 30upwards and you're not married in Nigeria, your family begins to see you as a nuisance, parasite or pest and so when any man comes and proposes to you in their presence you should say yes.your feelings towards the guy is immaterial. Saying no to him means you're not reasonable,you're possessed, you have spirit husband or whatever funny religious connotations they come up with. In fact all of them will be all up in your business giving you different unsolicited opinions and advice at the same time that you'll become confused and making a final decision will be slow