r231:

ah wahala dey oo

It depends
If there is a time limit then its cool.,,,if not so help me God I am out

kokonets:

Serious case. . . would chill if theres a time frame otherwise I go dey put my koko on a something!

Ujujoan:

LOL


So u guys r saying no intimacy, no love

kokonets:

I am not saying that Uju. . . but sex n luv go hand in hand

r231:

noooooooo
dats not what i am saying,,,,if there is a good reason for it and also there is time limit then dat can be arranged

MrPrsdent:

Going celibate when there was previous sexual intimacy is another way of telling you hasta la vista baby.LOL  

the person don chop the tin sotay e don tire am  

Ujujoan:

How do you cope with celibacy with a partner you were sexually active with

Ujujoan:


Well while that is a possibility, it could also be that  h/she just wants to avoid any form of immorality . .  

MrPrsdent:

If they were ALREADY doing the deed,so how does immorality issue come up later then

Ujujoan:

So you are saying no need for an armed robber to stop stealing since he has been doing it all already    

jay bee:

What's the reason behind the sudden change?
If it's good enough reason then i might consider accepting the status quo but if not then it's a bye bye.
I personally cannot date anyone that's into celibacy. What's the point? unless she wants to give me a good (IMO)reason to cheat openly

Human beings are always reluctant to change

r231:

^^^^^yes KE

MrPrsdent:

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Ujujoan:

So you are going with the 'no sex no love thing' Wow!

kpolli:

i dont mind staying as long as she gives me a "free role",

jay bee:

I don't necessarily attach too much significance to SEX but i can't be in a relationship with someone and have limitations.

BTW: Sex and love are 2 different things entirely

kpolli:

i dont mind staying as long as she gives me a "free role",

Ujujoan:

I honestly do not want this to degenerate into a 'per-marital sex is bad' thread, but you make it sound like sex is something automatic in a relationship. The last time I checked I dont think any man or woman owes anybody but their husband or wives sex!

*roooooolz eyez*

jay bee:

It's a choice though and we are free to choose whichever we are comfortable with.
I simply choose not to date anyone dats into celibacy.
It's a free world at the end of the day Uju. don't u think?

Ujujoan:

I honestly do not want this to degenerate into a 'per-marital sex is bad' thread, but you make it sound like sex is something automatic in a relationship. The last time I checked I dont think any man or woman owes anybody but their husband or wives sex!

I've never thought sex and love are the same, which is why I think both can exist independent of each other . .

*roooooolz eyez*

henryhemon:

@ujujoan,
I agree with you on this one.

@poster,
its a tough call but i will have to go along with him/her depending on the reasons.

henryhemon:

@ujujoan,
I agree with you on this one.

@poster,
its a tough call but i will have to go along with him/her depending on the reasons.

kpolli:

isnt ujujoan the poster

Emperoh:

Ujuojan

Why not start the celibacy thingy from the start?
There and then the person go find him levels if he/she can't cope

Starting and then stopping is like snatching my food from me I will fight oo!!

seriously, it will be extremely hard to find a guy who won't cheat if the lady suddenly or otherwise says no more sex!!
Ladies might just be able to hold out. . .not all though. . . .but they are more likely not to cheat

You can be dead sure, no matter the love or his promises that he will try to get you back to bed
Else you do be starring a cheating Lover in the face!! So better don't start it at all than start and then stop!!
My one pence!!

Ujujoan:

So you get stuck with your initial decision even if you think it was the wrong call to make ?

Any attepmt to change your mind will result to you being victimized by the so-called guy or girl who 'claimed' to love you!