Ujujoan:

Dat's rite!

So you get stuck with your initial decision even if you think it was the wrong call to make ?

Any attepmt to change your mind will result to you being victimized by the so-called guy or girl who 'claimed' to love you!

uju, u don become born again abi? buy one get one free relationships are not strong relationships in my book. if the forbidden fruits were left intact at the begining the guilt trips of starting and stopping wont exist.

i commend whoever desires to stop the buy now pay later business. you see how some grown ups now equate sex with love cos they have always had it on demand like it was some pure water

@posts
i guess i can safely conclude dat love is like soup, once cooked (disvirgined) has to be preserved (constant sex) else it wud spoil (end).
Men! I too deep.

GEW:

uju, u don become born again abi? buy one get one free relationships are not strong relationships in my book. if the forbidden fruits were left intact at the begining the guilt trips of starting and stopping wont exist.

i commend whoever desires to stop the buy now pay later business. you see how some grown ups now equate sex with love cos they have always had it on demand like it was some pure water

So this whole post has to be about me    

@OP i 4 one am not a person who is after or motivated by S*.x so.  .  . but if i were 2 say i would just try and put his "Celibating" power 2 test just 4 d sakes. . .

He decided to go celibate- after being active?

If he did not cite STRONG religous reasons then :


1) he about to propose and wants to wait till wedding

2) He's found someone else

3) Its not appealing to him and he still wants to find someone else

^^

Hi N~

^u were banned. . what did u do?

Yes I wouldnt mind that.

man, thats a very big issue for some peeps

no show after prior show,

Ebonyeyes:

Yes I wouldnt mind that.

Its not about minding, I wouldnt mind if he were celibate before dating, but for him to change suddenly without no real reasons? Something up.

platinumnk:

Its not about minding, I wouldnt mind if he were celibate before dating, but for him to change suddenly without no real reasons? Something up. 

  I agree with that. If he cites religious reasons then its ok. Or maybe he is probably housing a recent venereal disease he caught while creeping around and is just waiting to heal up Silly moofooker

Apropos what happened recently, it's best to call it off if d other isn't alright wiv it.

Moyola:

Apropos what happened recently, it's best to call it off if d other isn't alright wiv it.

but see thats the point, if he doesnt site STRONG religious reasons, then it ultimately calls for break up,
unless they have issues with it which means they need to talk it out.

Usually if a guy does this- hes cheating or got something, usually by cheating

platinumnk:

but see thats the point, if he doesnt site STRONG religious reasons, then it ultimately calls for break up,
unless they have issues with it which means they need to talk it out.

Usually if a guy does this- hes cheating or got something, usually by cheating

Whatever the reason - religious or not. . . What if after talking it out d issue is still unresolved uhhmn? if either of them ain ok wiv such decision or if d 1 making such decision wouldn't be able to stand d other cheating, then it's best to end it. . .IMO

Well dhatz wot 'll cum 2 mind @ 1st . . . what if he's juz decided to wait 'til he getz married?!

Moyola:

Whatever the reason - religious or not. . . What if after talking it out d issue is still unresolved uhhmn? if either of them ain ok wiv such decision or if d 1 making such decision wouldn't be able to stand d other cheating, then it's best to end it. . .IMO

Well dhatz wot 'll come 2 mind @ 1st . . . what if he's juz decided to wait 'til he getz married?!

covered it

platinumnk:

He decided to go celibate- after being active?

If he did not cite STRONG religous reasons then :


1) he about to propose and wants to wait till wedding

2) He's found someone else

3) Its not appealing to him and he still wants to find someone else

hehe!

4) He decides to become a Father

5) He's sacrificed his **** for smth hence he cannot even get **** let alone **** proper and he thought "whadda point?" I'd juz tell her m going "celibate". . . he wouldnt wanna let his secret out obviously! So?!

^^^ rotflmao

Why does it have to be something snister

@ Platinumk

What if he's saving himself for a marriage that'll prolly happen in 2 or 3 yrs time! Will you wait?

Ujujoan:

^^^ rotflmao

Why does it have to be something snister

Explain wotchu mean biko!

You said . . .

Moyola:

hehe!

4) He decides to become a Father

5) He's sacrificed his **** for smth hence he cannot even get **** let alone **** proper and he thought "whadda point?" I'd juz tell her m going "celibate". . . he wouldnt wanna let his secret out obviously! So?!

LOL

And I said . .

Ujujoan:

^^^ rotflmao

Why does it have to be something snister

Ujujoan:

^^^ rotflmao

Why does it have to be something snister

@ Platinumk

What if he's saving himself for a marriage that'll prolly happen in 2 or 3 yrs time! Will you wait?

lol@moyola

if he didnt propose in like a month tops then somethings up, and who stays engaged for 3 years?

and if he want to be engaged for that long- he must again- site very STRONG reasons.

its not that se x is a defining factor- it the aburpt change in behavior that raises problems

platinumnk:

^u were banned. . what did u do?

cos of hatred~
anyway i needed ur help~
dnt knw if u care 2 listen 2 wat ive gat~

^ sorry but nope not willing

Ujujoan:

How do you cope with celibacy with a partner you were sexually active with 

Do you stay and love h/her in spite of the lack of intimacy or do you leave h/her for someone who’d satisfy your se.xual needs 

Yes i wld stay. se.x is not life and death and it doesnt define our relationship. altho it will be hard
but i agree wit plat, he must have a strong reason why

TOPE2000!:

Yes i wld stay. se.x is not life and death and it doesnt define our relationship. altho it will be hard

But if he doesnt give u a valid reason?
Ive seen too many times where it happened only for the guy to be on someone else.
The problem is he does it for no apparent reason

platinumnk:

^ sorry but nope not willing

just help me get some info

i aint asking u for no payment or sometin

this is abt my life remember

Suits me perfectly!

platinumnk:

But if he doesnt give u a valid reason?
Ive seen too many times where it happened only for the guy to be on someone else.
The problem is he does it for no apparent reason

Hmmmn

Sex and a serious relationship go hand in hand. Going celibate with no real reason is like introducing conditions to your relationship and we all know what that can cause.

Uju, r u trying to tell me anything in particular?

whitelexi:

Sex and a serious relationship go hand in hand. Going celibate with no real reason is like introducing conditions to your relationship and we all know what that can cause.
Uju, r u trying to tell me anything in particular?

This can be played the other way round . . someone wanting to have sex in a r/ship is a 'condition' . . Sex is not automatic in a relationship; serious or not!

If what you are saying is that sex is a key ingredient for a serious relationship, then I disagree with you on that one!

I don't know, am I old-fashioned to still think that sex is meant for just married couples

Just because we all do it dosent mean it's right and I don't think people who decide not to should be victimized in any way!

PS: This has nothing to do with you Lexi . . I wonder why you even think it does!

Celibacy ko!!!

Who/What would he be saving the Rod for? His Hand?

^ LOL