SmartMugu:

It turned out she had a dude she was messing with. I got to meet him and we got into a brawl. Not sure if she gave me the STD back then, the girl I thought I got it from ended up not having it after tests from doctors. We went to the clinic together after mine was treated, she didn't have anything. Wife went for checkup, and she had same I was treated for and got treated too. I think it was chlamydia. So, where did it come from?

Lalas247:

I'll slide it in ur dm ..
Oya oya call d crew o
Go check ur mention

FortuneTeller:


I cannot say who gave it to who, because it's possible the woman you were CHEATING with got treated and never told you. The point is that you came to the thread trying to make it seem as if your wife was an awful person and you were innocent. You're not innocent. You contributed to the destruction of your marriage. It makes me angry when Nigerian men try to act as if they are saints, when it's rarely the case. What did you do to make your wife go to another man? Was it your own infidelity? Obviously you weren't giving her the love and attention she needed. See how that works.

SmartMugu:

Don't get me wrong, my wife was a decent person. She was a great woman when everything went well between us. She was all I needed. But when she started listening to other tiny voices, things changed. Mind you, we had the cultural differences, I'm African + American, she's entirely American. When she started hiding our kids passports from me was the starting point. She thinks I'm gonna someday disappear with the kids to Nigeria. She told me her friends told her that's what Africans do. I asked her to tell me of one African that has done that before, she had no names to mention.

On a serious note, her and her entire family have insecurity issues. Even her dad called me about 10 years ago when me and her were just dating and warned me that if I took his daughter to Nigeria and I end up kidnapping her, he was going to find me and kill me. I have never kidnapped anyone before in my life. I have no idea what's going on in their minds.

thesuave10:


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FortuneTeller:


Sir I'm not even that far from you. All I will say is that I don't see any fault in what her family said to you. Really you should just admit your faults, straighten up and go back to you wife. That is my opinion.

frenzyduchess:
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thesuave10:


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frenzyduchess:
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SmartMugu:

It's too late to go back to her. It's more complex than you know. I went to Virginia about a year ago for some business presentations. I was only there for 4 days. She called me saying she had left with our kids. She took almost everything in my house and shipped them all to her mom in Michigan where she's from, without my consent. She planned all that for when I wouldn't be in town. I came back and my whole house was empty.
Now I'm buying everything she took all over again. Why not be considerate? That was theft, if she wanted to go, she could have left with whatever she owned. She took mine. I live in a 3 bedroom home, all furnished when we were together, before I came back from Virginia, two bedrooms were entirely empty. I had 4 flat screen tvs, I came back to see a tiny tube tv, she took the rest. At least she left my bed. So, why would I waste my time trying to get back with someone with that type of mindset?

On the kids, me and her will be going to court soon on our custody issues. I hired a law firm handling that. All I want is just joint custody of our kids, it's ok, she can go, our kids have my genes in them and they call me everyday telling me they miss me.

almarthins:


Not "we" you. madam, I didn't use any one, na papa God bless me o.I put humility on like a shoe to walk up.

FortuneTeller:


What she did is not unusual in the US. It also happened to my relative. However I thought you said she wanted to come back. If she wants to come back, then let her. I know your kids are missing you terribly. This may sound terrible, but if your wife loves money, just lure her back with that. Otherwise you may end up paying alimony and child support. Either way you will have to pay her and you won't even have the benefit of seeing your children regularly. What will you really get with another woman? It will just be the same wahala.

SmartMugu:

You're entirely right. Alimony and child-support is what she's been threatening me with, but humans are the ones paying those, not animals. If others paid that in the past and are still alive, I can do that too. I make enough and have never had a problem with taking care of her and my kids. Since we've been separated, I've been sending her and the kids about $800 per month, I don't expect alimony + child-support to be way more than that, a court will decide that.
It's just more complicated than you know about my case. Her parents are all in my family business and I'm definitely not willing to have then run my home for me. She runs to tell them everything happening in the home and her parents call me afterwards. I never envisaged that.

I bought a Benz about 4 years ago, her dad called me telling me I should have asked him before doing that. That even him hasn't owned one before. I had to tell him that's not my fault, I make more that him and his wife combined, so why would I settle for a jetta or Volkswagen when I can afford it? That's my business not theirs. I pay all my bills myself, why they're interested in what happens in my house is weird to me.

I got in an accident about two years ago in another Honda car I own. It was an old 1995 Honda del sol convertible. Our insurance company offered about $4500 for the car, I looked online for same type of car and found one for $2500. She agreed. 30 minutes later, her mom called talking about she doesnt want me to settle with what the insurance company offered because she she doesnt want her daughter's insurance premium to increase. What she didn't know was I was the one paying for all the insurance all along. Why her family gets too deep into my personal affairs is just much. Who I married was her, not her mom and dad, but she tells them everything

Getting back together is like starting the whole thing all over. I have a problem with that.

SmartMugu:

It turned out she had a dude she was messing with. I got to meet him and we got into a brawl. Not sure if she gave me the STD back then, the girl I thought I got it from ended up not having it after tests from doctors. We went to the clinic together after mine was treated, she didn't have anything. Wife went for checkup, and she had same I was treated for and got treated too. I think it was chlamydia. So, where did it come from?

I think I know my home more than anyone, just like I'd expect others to know theirs more than me. Our breakup didn't come from the event you mentioned.
I apologized to her and she forgave me, even though I wasn't sure it came from me. One of her coworkers ended up telling me she was messing with someone else that was another coworker. I worked from home back then, sometimes I have to watch our kids while she goes to work.

Her coworker told me most times she left home for work, she wasn't at work. So, I was watching the kids while she lied about going to work and ended up elsewhere? After I met the dude, it was time to say goodbye. That was what led to our breakup, not what you mentioned.

FortuneTeller:


You know I'm going to fight you until I win you over, because my family is very mixed up with this American/Nigerian dynamic. I don't want to say too much because I know my hubby follows my posts. Why he hasn't said anything to me about some of the posts I make on here, is because he knows have a crazy spirit. You have to realize that your wife is very childlike and spoiled due to her parents. It's already been proven that she was there when the money as coming and ran when the money got low. I'm very much like your wife and talk too much about what goes on in my household. I make rash decisions when I'm angry and expect my husband to forgive me, even when I do something wrong. When other people start talking about what they have and what they would do if they were me, it makes me insecure. I have to get by myself to really see what is happening.

Your wife is going through the same thing. She is with her parents and realizes she doesn't want to lose her family. She's seeing all the baby mamas and old people from her neighborhood who are struggling and she wants to come home. Her pride won't let her apologize, so she is threatening you with money. If you divorce her, she is going to go into depression. I say all kinds of crazy things to my husband, run him out of the house, get mad if there is something he can't give me, but then eventually I come to my senses when I'm alone. He has learned how to ignore me and keep moving on with life. He either laughs or completely ignores me. It's made life a lot easier for the both of us.

My advice is to go to Michigan and collect your wife and children. She really just wants you to come running back for her, so she doesn't feel ashamed. Plan a nice family trip after she returns and things will go back to a fairly normal place. Don't abandon your children with your crazy wife. They need you.

FortuneTeller:


I cannot say who gave it to who, because it's possible the woman you were CHEATING with got treated and never told you. The point is that you came to the thread trying to make it seem as if your wife was an awful person and you were innocent. You're not innocent. You contributed to the destruction of your marriage. It makes me angry when Nigerian men try to act as if they are saints, when it's rarely the case. What did you do to make your wife go to another man? Was it your own infidelity? Obviously you weren't giving her the love and attention she needed. See how that works.

Daboomb:



While l cant judge on what really happened between you and your wife (and you deleting that original post, makes it look like you are trying to hide something!), l am sure most intelligent beings know that Nigerian women cheat a lot on their husbands, first with a Co-worker (it starts as flirting and attention ) and then maybe a neighbour.
They dont even know to do it far away from anything connected to them! Dumb phucks!

Ofc, if you caught her cheating and went as far as having a brawl with the guy (l detest guys that fight with their wife's lover, though l understand that they think they are trying to save their marriage but they should know that by the time it gets to that stage, the marriage is already dead and buried!
The problem is not the guy phucking her, he just saw a free punanny and he is shagging it; the problem is your wife who decided of her own freewill, to get open her legs and get shagged by every dick available in town, that is who you should direct your anger at because afterall, she will still go to court to divorce you and even want to claim half of what you own! Its that bad), the marriage is already ended.

SmartMugu:

Thanks for your advice. I already booked my flight to Michigan for the 21st of this month. My daughter's birthday is the 22nd,I promised her I'd be there.
Our son's birthday is in August, she'll be bringing them to Atlanta for that. May be we can plan a cruise to Jamaica or somewhere when she comes,I just know it's impossible to talk to her under her parent's influence like she is under now. Me and her have decent communication on the phone when she's alone,when she's with her parents, she starts yelling at me for no reason.
I'm sure we can have a decent communication when she and the kids come to Atlanta next month and see how it goes.

Thanks again for your advice.

SmartMugu:

Don't get me wrong, my wife was a decent person. She was a great woman when everything went well between us. She was all I needed. But when she started listening to other tiny voices, things changed. Mind you, we had the cultural differences, I'm African + American, she's entirely American. When she started hiding our kids passports from me was the starting point. She thinks I'm gonna someday disappear with the kids to Nigeria. She told me her friends told her that's what Africans do. I asked her to tell me of one African that has done that before, she had no names to mention.

On a serious note, her and her entire family have insecurity issues. Even her dad called me about 10 years ago when me and her were just dating and warned me that if I took his daughter to Nigeria and I end up kidnapping her, he was going to find me and kill me. I have never kidnapped anyone before in my life. I have no idea what's going on in their minds.

FortuneTeller:


Sir I'm not even that far from you. All I will say is that I don't see any fault in what her family said to you. Really you should just admit your faults, straighten up and go back to you wife. That is my opinion.

SmartMugu:

It's too late to go back to her. It's more complex than you know. I went to Virginia about a year ago for some business presentations. I was only there for 4 days. She called me saying she had left with our kids. She took almost everything in my house and shipped them all to her mom in Michigan where she's from, without my consent. She planned all that for when I wouldn't be in town. I came back and my whole house was empty.
Now I'm buying everything she took all over again. Why not be considerate? That was theft, if she wanted to go, she could have left with whatever she owned. She took mine. I live in a 3 bedroom home, all furnished when we were together, before I came back from Virginia, two bedrooms were entirely empty. I had 4 flat screen tvs, I came back to see a tiny tube tv, she took the rest. At least she left my bed. So, why would I waste my time trying to get back with someone with that type of mindset?

On the kids, me and her will be going to court soon on our custody issues. I hired a law firm handling that. All I want is just joint custody of our kids, it's ok, she can go, our kids have my genes in them and they call me everyday telling me they miss me.

Daboomb:


I really give a lot of Credit to you guys who marry white women but then, l realised that "Women are just Women, irrespective of their colour, just that it becomes really, really bad, when 'racism' gets added to the problem".

Your in-laws already poisoned your relationship from day one so it will just take a little "sweet-talking" from family or friends, for that marriage to breakdown....and it did.
African-American women are even worse, one just got sentenced for killing her husband who did everything for her, including becoming her errand boy that goes to Mc Donald to buy burger for her. He just bought a house for both of them.
The guy was a Fire-fighter and she murdered him just so she can lay her hands on his $100,000 life insurance

FortuneTeller:


What she did is not unusual in the US. It also happened to my relative. However I thought you said she wanted to come back. If she wants to come back, then let her. I know your kids are missing you terribly. This may sound terrible, but if your wife loves money, just lure her back with that. Otherwise you may end up paying alimony and child support. Either way you will have to pay her and you won't even have the benefit of seeing your children regularly. What will you really get with another woman? It will just be the same wahala.

Chai! Come and see usual "standard procedure"!
Throw-in the kids and use them as a "pressure point on the man!

Daboomb:


I really give a lot of Credit to you guys who marry white women but then, l realised that "Women are just Women, irrespective of their colour, just that it becomes really, really bad, when 'racism' gets added to the problem".

Your in-laws already poisoned your relationship from day one so it will just take a little "sweet-talking" from family or friends, for that marriage to breakdown....and it did.
African-American women are even worse, one just got sentenced for killing her husband who did everything for her, including becoming her errand boy that goes to Mc Donald to buy burger for her. He just bought a house for both of them.
The guy was a Fire-fighter and she murdered him just so she can lay her hands on his $100,000 life insurance

SmartMugu:

You're entirely right. Alimony and child-support is what she's been threatening me with, but humans are the ones paying those, not animals. If others paid that in the past and are still alive, I can do that too. I make enough and have never had a problem with taking care of her and my kids. Since we've been separated, I've been sending her and the kids about $800 per month, I don't expect alimony + child-support to be way more than that, a court will decide that.
It's just more complicated than you know about my case. Her parents are all in my family business and I'm definitely not willing to have then run my home for me. She runs to tell them everything happening in the home and her parents call me afterwards. I never envisaged that.

I bought a Benz about 4 years ago, her dad called me telling me I should have asked him before doing that. That even him hasn't owned one before. I had to tell him that's not my fault, I make more that him and his wife combined, so why would I settle for a jetta or Volkswagen when I can afford it? That's my business not theirs. I pay all my bills myself, why they're interested in what happens in my house is weird to me.

I got in an accident about two years ago in another Honda car I own. It was an old 1995 Honda del sol convertible. Our insurance company offered about $4500 for the car, I looked online for same type of car and found one for $2500. She agreed. 30 minutes later, her mom called talking about she doesnt want me to settle with what the insurance company offered because she she doesnt want her daughter's insurance premium to increase. What she didn't know was I was the one paying for all the insurance all along. Why her family gets too deep into my personal affairs is just much. Who I married was her, not her mom and dad, but she tells them everything

Getting back together is like starting the whole thing all over. I have a problem with that.

you will open your mouth and not be able to close it!

Just imagine if they ask you to be giving her like 90% of your total income?

Daboomb:



If YOU have a kidney problem and you are dying, meanwhile, your husband has two healthy ones of which the Doctor says he can give you one, would you need to FORCE HIM to spare/donate one to you, before he agrees to do so or you will expect him to do so, as your husband?


It is women like you that make husbands to act in a strange way to their wives!
You are most like a naturally UNCOUTH and UNGRATEFUL person !

FortuneTeller:


You know I'm going to fight you until I win you over, because my family is very mixed up with this American/Nigerian dynamic. I don't want to say too much because I know my hubby follows my posts. Why he hasn't said anything to me about some of the posts I make on here, is because he knows have a crazy spirit. You have to realize that your wife is very childlike and spoiled due to her parents. It's already been proven that she was there when the money as coming and ran when the money got low. I'm very much like your wife and talk too much about what goes on in my household. I make rash decisions when I'm angry and expect my husband to forgive me, even when I do something wrong. When other people start talking about what they have and what they would do if they were me, it makes me insecure. I have to get by myself to really see what is happening.

Your wife is going through the same thing. She is with her parents and realizes she doesn't want to lose her family. She's seeing all the baby mamas and old people from her neighborhood who are struggling and she wants to come home. Her pride won't let her apologize, so she is threatening you with money. If you divorce her, she is going to go into depression. I say all kinds of crazy things to my husband, run him out of the house, get mad if there is something he can't give me, but then eventually I come to my senses when I'm alone. He has learned how to ignore me and keep moving on with life. He either laughs or completely ignores me. It's made life a lot easier for the both of us.

My advice is to go to Michigan and collect your wife and children. She really just wants you to come running back for her, so she doesn't feel ashamed. Plan a nice family trip after she returns and things will go back to a fairly normal place. Don't abandon your children with your crazy wife. They need you.

Daboomb:


Man, you really did set-up yourself for all your woes!
In a family business with the same people who have a very low opinion of you from the onset?
Allowing the same people who encourages your wife to rat on you, to know about your finances?

If we look closely, l am sure you have no "close relationship" with your siblings or parents, if you still have them?
It is obvious they succeeded in "isolating you", right? Now, they are going-in for the kill

You need to be very careful, over this kind of "boastful statement".
Let me give you a heads-up here: Alimony and Child support has NOTHING to do with TAKING CARE of your ex-wife and children.
It is DESIGNED (mostly by women and some sissy men) to put you into PENURY and eventually, make life not worth living for you, so you can consider the option of suicide or other forms of self-immolation!
Go and ask experienced family-lawyers (Try engage a female family Lawyer that is not a man-hater, those ones will tell you the truth of the whole show)
If you keep boasting about how much you can earn (and dont tidy up your finances in such a way that you can still survive afterwards), l tell you that when the Judge finally gives a judgement, you will open your mouth and not be able to close it!

Just imagine if they ask you to be giving her like 90% of your total income?
You have to be stinkingly rich, to be able to survive on the remaining 10%...and you will have to work your self to death to keep it up.
Remember that even if you work-more, so you can earn more, she will just go back to the courts and ask for even more...and she will get it.

Right now, you need to start divesting your investments (if its not too late sef! ), making sure you have enough money aside where no one knows or can reach it.
Come to Nigeria and buy a house and let the proceeds be paid into an account you have here.
Invest joint business with trustworthy friends and be the "silent partner".
Do everything to make provisions for yourself because the courts will really phuck you up.

Remember that they can only take (from you), what they can find!
if they ask you to pay more than you have shown you have or that they have PROVED that you have, you have the right to keep appealing the judgement.
Remember that you will also lose a large chunk of your income, paying legal fees.

Anyway, l dont know you and you dont know me but l am 100% certain that you will remember these words spoken by a stranger.

That girl is just trying to psych you up for her own kind (your wife), most women have an "unspoken loyalty" to their kind.
She hs gone from blaming you for your wife's cheating, blaming you for the break-up of the marriage, saying her parents were right portraying you as a kidnapper, asking you to take her back and even using your children to pressure you into doing so:

Ask yourself: WHY is she saying all these?
Then, answer yourself.`

My prayers are with you, when they finally "finished" with you.

SmartMugu:


1. I deleted the original post after me and her made up. It's no point sharing what goes on in my home when I don't care about what goes on in other people's homes. Plus, I needed advice back then but people ended up just cursing me out and calling me names.

2. I'm not a violent person. I've never ever laid my hands on my wife. God forbid. The dude in question came at me, I had to defend myself. We didn't get in a physical fight, but we cursed each other out. He wanted a fight, I carry a weapon (It's legal here for non-felons), brought it out and he calmed down and that was was it. No one got hurt.

3. My wife never cheated on me that I know of until the case with this dude. So, I really don't consider her a hoe. I think I was a bigger hoe than her. So, I'll take more of the blames than her. She might have done that to spite me, plus I heard of the escapades from her friends that I ended up messing with and a couple of them wanted to start coming over to my place everyday. I had a problem with that. They may have just lied, who knows. I didn't catch her in the act, but my brawl with the dude was what made me conclude they're right.

Daboomb:


Man, you really did set-up yourself for all your woes!
In a family business with the same people who have a very low opinion of you from the onset?
Allowing the same people who encourages your wife to rat on you, to know about your finances?

If we look closely, l am sure you have no "close relationship" with your siblings or parents, if you still have them?
It is obvious they succeeded in "isolating you", right? Now, they are going-in for the kill

You need to be very careful, over this kind of "boastful statement".
Let me give you a heads-up here: Alimony and Child support has NOTHING to do with TAKING CARE of your ex-wife and children.
It is DESIGNED (mostly by women and some sissy men) to put you into PENURY and eventually, make life not worth living for you, so you can consider the option of suicide or other forms of self-immolation!
Go and ask experienced family-lawyers (Try engage a female family Lawyer that is not a man-hater, those ones will tell you the truth of the whole show)
If you keep boasting about how much you can earn (and dont tidy up your finances in such a way that you can still survive afterwards), l tell you that when the Judge finally gives a judgement, you will open your mouth and not be able to close it!

Just imagine if they ask you to be giving her like 90% of your total income?
You have to be stinkingly rich, to be able to survive on the remaining 10%...and you will have to work your self to death to keep it up.
Remember that even if you work-more, so you can earn more, she will just go back to the courts and ask for even more...and she will get it.

Right now, you need to start divesting your investments (if its not too late sef! ), making sure you have enough money aside where no one knows or can reach it.
Come to Nigeria and buy a house and let the proceeds be paid into an account you have here.
Invest joint business with trustworthy friends and be the "silent partner".
Do everything to make provisions for yourself because the courts will really phuck you up.

Remember that they can only take (from you), what they can find!
if they ask you to pay more than you have shown you have or that they have PROVED that you have, you have the right to keep appealing the judgement.
Remember that you will also lose a large chunk of your income, paying legal fees.

Anyway, l dont know you and you dont know me but l am 100% certain that you will remember these words spoken by a stranger.

That girl is just trying to psych you up for her own kind (your wife), most women have an "unspoken loyalty" to their kind.
She hs gone from blaming you for your wife's cheating, blaming you for the break-up of the marriage, saying her parents were right portraying you as a kidnapper, asking you to take her back and even using your children to pressure you into doing so:

Ask yourself: WHY is she saying all these?
Then, answer yourself.`

My prayers are with you, when they finally "finished" with you.

Harrisee:



Thumbs up. You're really the bomb. Don't mind the mugu. Let him continue his foolishness as if he's not a Nigerian.