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Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 7:51pm On Sep 08
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

You can share your experience for others to learn.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by OrestesDante: 7:55pm On Sep 08
Bottom line?
What's your point?

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by dingbang(m): 8:00pm On Sep 08
Cokie has a point...

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Nobody: 8:05pm On Sep 08
If I do anything for my gf or anyone,it's not really because I owe such person a duty or something, it's just because I'm the bigger person,and if I don't like,I won't do,no matter the noise.I don't do things for people because I expect a payback,that's a poverty mindset. But the idea is this, never allow emotional blackmail as a way of getting you to do stuffs
MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by zionmde: 8:08pm On Sep 08
somehow true
i had a friend that almost commited suicide because of that. As a tailor he trained this girl in school only for the girl to bring home a suitor in her final year. As fate may have it the guy is now a millionaire while the girl is still unmarried up till now.
But its not that bad if an established guy trains a girl in school, it will be hard for the girl to dump the guy knowing fully well that the guy is made

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by sekxyqueen(f): 8:09pm On Sep 08
undecided sad
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by vizkiz: 8:10pm On Sep 08
Why will you sponsor someone who isn't your wife in the first place?

Only a stupìd fella does that.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by uzoormah(m): 8:12pm On Sep 08
No matter how d love carry me reach..i no fit abeg..girls wey dia nash no dey stay one place..its better that her fada train her biko

I agree with d woman

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MrBrownJay1(m): 8:15pm On Sep 08
MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.

if dating a goldigging broke aaass ungrateful desperate woman, YES, but if you have a proper woman on your hands then feel her spirit, and invest whatever you think she deserves.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by LordKO(m): 8:51pm On Sep 08
@OP

Literally, where there's no agreement between a girl and boy that they would marry each other even if they mutually remain loyal to each other throughout the cause of their dating period, with the normal accompany assistances from both parties towards each other, there's nothing wrong if a guy (vice versa) selflessly, conscientiously and altruistically sponsors his girlfriend's education/career, and still leave her to decide whom to marry between him and other suitors in the end. In this kind of scenario if the girl chooses another man to marry, I see no evil in her action - one who denied another free will is an evil personified.

However, where there's a mutual understanding that the boy (vice versa) is to sponsor the girl through school/career, so that in the end they would marry each other, then, the lady would sure be blamed if she reneged from such an arrangement in the end - so long as she wasn't cajoled into the relationship by the boy and also so long as the boy didn't give her reason to question his loyalty towards her in the cause of their courting period, because loyalty is like a two way traffic, its reciprocal. In this particular scenario, the boy shouldn't regret his action or have others crucify him, because s/he who betrayed you will always remain your slave till the end of time.

Personally, I have a maxim that says "betray me shame unto you, outsmart me shame unto me." I'm never afraid to stick out my neck fully to any cause I believe in. It will take only my fellow adventurers and reciprocity proponents to understand me better.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by OfficialDad: 8:54pm On Sep 08
MissCokie:
I have heard and seen so many men sponsoring a girl who is not his wife through education/career. I just want you to know something, when she's done with you, she will leave you for someone else.

The money you would use in sponsoring her, please give it to your mother or sister to start a business or rather, sponsor your sisters education/career.


This is true. I had a girl back then, who I actually borrowed 300k, she refused to payback and when i was in urgent need of the cash, she was no where to be found. You're always pointing out facts.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Headlesschicken(m): 9:00pm On Sep 08
undecided Whom does dat kinda sh!t....

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by OfficialDad: 9:05pm On Sep 08
Headlesschicken:
undecided Whom does dat kinda sh!t....

Bros, dem plenty wey dey do am.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Evaberry(f): 9:09pm On Sep 08
I really don't know what's wrong with people

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Nobody: 9:39pm On Sep 08
Lalasticlala come see o. D op has a point sha.
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by ashewoboy(m): 10:15pm On Sep 08
op, these are true words, men should take heed.
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:24pm On Sep 08
illuminated93:
If I do anything for my gf or anyone,it's not really because I owe such person a duty or something, it's just because I'm the bigger person,and if I don't like,I won't do,no matter the noise.I don't do things for people because I expect a payback,that's a poverty mindset. But the idea is this, never allow emotional blackmail as a way of getting you to do stuffs

I understand. But a lot of guys do that. Sponsoring a teen who is not your wife. We women are just insatiable.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:25pm On Sep 08
MrBrownJay1:


if dating a goldigging broke aaass ungrateful desperate woman, YES, but if you have a proper woman on your hands then feel her spirit, and invest whatever you think she deserves.

No woman is "proper" if she is still your girlfriend.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:27pm On Sep 08
LordKO:
@OP

Literally, where there's no agreement between a girl and boy that they would marry each other if they mutually remain loyal to each other throughout the cause of their dating period, with the normal accompany assistances from both parties towards each other, there's nothing wrong if a guy (vice versa) selflessly, conscientiously and altruistically sponsors his girlfriend's education or career, and still leave her to decide whom to marry between him and other suitors in the end. In this kind of scenario if the girl chooses another man to marry, I see no evil in her action - one who denied another free will is an evil personified.

However, where there's a mutual understanding that the boy (vice versa) is to sponsor the girl through school/career, so that in the end they would marry each other, then, the lady would sure be blamed if she reneged from such an arrangement in the end - so long as she wasn't cajoled into the relationship by the boy and also so long as the boy didn't give her reason to question his loyalty towards her in the cause of their courting period, because loyalty is like a two way traffic, its reciprocal. In this particular scenario, the boy shouldn't regret his action or have others crucify him, because s/he who betrayed you will always remain your slave till the end of time.

Personally, I have a maxim that says "betray me shame unto you, outsmart me shame unto me." I'm never afraid to stick out my neck fully to any cause I believe in. It will take only my fellow adventurers and reciprocity proponents to understand me better.



My advice is this, even in the presence of a mutual agreement or not, do not attempt to sponsor her. Your family would appreciate you more, if you invest that money in any of them.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Stevengerd(m): 10:27pm On Sep 08
If dem backward romancelander's most esp. girls no bash Op. Call me a bastard. officialdad make we mecudown deh watch as e go unfold

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:28pm On Sep 08
OfficialDad:


This is true. I had a girl back then, who I actually borrowed 300k, she refused to payback and when i was in urgent need of the cash, she was no where to be found. You're always pointing out facts.

I don't mean to insult you, but that was silly. You gave a girl 300k?, why.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:29pm On Sep 08
Headlesschicken:
undecided Whom does dat kinda sh!t....

Alot
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:30pm On Sep 08
Nma27:
Lalasticlala come see o. D op has a point sha.

Thanks grin .
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:31pm On Sep 08
ashewoboy:
op, these are true words, men should take heed.

But unfortunately, they wont., even when the advice is coming from a woman. For example, the first person to comment on my post, couldn't understand.
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:33pm On Sep 08
Stevengerd:
If dem backward romancelander's most esp. girls no bash Op. Call me a bastard. officialdad make we mecudown deh watch as e go unfold

grin insults don't really get to me.
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by muller101(m): 10:35pm On Sep 08
OrestesDante:
Bottom line?

What's your point?
go back and read again. This time around in a tranquil environment.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by OrestesDante: 10:37pm On Sep 08
muller101:
go back and read again. This time around in a tranquil environment.

No deduction could be made so far. You can help.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by Stevengerd(m): 10:37pm On Sep 08
MissCokie:

grin insults don't really get to me.
Yea, I trust u
Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:38pm On Sep 08
dingbang:
Cokie has a point...

A lot of people might disagree with you. Thanks.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by LordKO(m): 10:38pm On Sep 08
MissCokie:


My advice is this, even in the presence of a mutual agreement or not, do not attempt to sponsor her. Your family would appreciate you more, if you invest that money in any of them.

Dear, mind games is only for small-minded people. If I cannot be of goodness to a lady/person I termed a friend then, I have no reason keeping her close. Pretense and hypocrisy aren't my thing. Nothing justifiably inhibits someone that has the wherewithal, from genuinely changing for good, the cause of people around him/her (blood relations and friends in particular and genuine needies in general) simultaneously.

My previous submission stand.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:42pm On Sep 08
zionmde:
somehow true
i had a friend that almost commited suicide because of that. As a tailor he trained this girl in school only for the girl to bring home a suitor in her final year. As fate may have it the guy is now a millionaire while the girl is still unmarried up till now.
But its not that bad if an established guy trains a girl in school, it will be hard for the girl to dump the guy knowing fully well that the guy is made

If the guy has no commitment with the lady, sponsoring her is just an added advantage for her, because their is 100% possibility that she would walk away.

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Re: Do Not Sponsor Her Education Or Career If She Is Not Your Wife: Miss Cokie by MissCokie(f): 10:43pm On Sep 08
LordKO:


Dear, mind games is only for small-minded people. If I cannot be of goodness to a lady/person I termed a friend then, I have no reason keeping her close. Pretense isn't my thing. Nothing justifiably inhibits someone that has the wherewithal from genuinely changing for good the cause of people around her (blood relations and friends) simultaneously.

My previous submission stand.

I wasn't trying to convince you, but only gave my advice.

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