MhizSylvia:
That means she's jobless.

RaggedyAnn:



I was on course to ignore the belligerent mentions from guys; but since you played the GE card, you've successfully pushed my buttons.

The Op says he's not a good caller. I don't think there's anything wrong with that in particular (mostly because I'm so terrible at that as well) But then he says he's not perturbed that she told him it's over; and before that he told her that she could end it if she won't accept him for who he is. You might think that's proper and self-evident, but it's in fact a very careless statement to make; people make compromises for their loved ones all the time, but the OP seems to have given off the vibe (even to his girlfriend as he has here) that the relationship wasn't of much value to him and didn't deserve any adjustments on his part. So, in my opinion, the problem isn't that he's a bad-caller but that he doesn't even love his girl to begin with. Why would he stress himself?

A lot of commenters are wondering how a person could squeeze out three calls to their girlfriend/boyfriend from their "busy" day. (WTH). Once in the morning, as you wake up; once before bed; and over lunch (that is if your day is so tightly structured that you have to schedule it properly). But, people who really mean to call, make it organic: to get her opinion over an argument you are having with a co-worker; to help you choose what brand of an item to buy in traffic; to find out if she's okay after you hear unsettling news from the state she lives in. It's possible. If you don't consider it necessary now then...........I wish you love in your life.

Now, to your grouse. This is not about entitlement it's rather about reciprocation. People have different ways of expressing love, and in a new(ish) relationship, there is often that period of 'storming' where people learn each other's love languages. It's not uncommon to go by what you're familiar with in the meantime, while you're figuring it out. If a girl is used to expressing her affection with frequent calls, she would interpret the Ops behavior as extremely cold. He already said she's financially self-sufficient, so he may not even be giving her the occasional gift to tell her she's on his mind. Well, it's obvious now that he didn't care for her; but if he did, it would have been up to him to show her how he expresses his affection. And she, in turn, would have learnt to trust it.

IamLEGEND1:
if she wants to talk to you 3 times a day then she should call you. I don't know what is so hard to understand about that.
Nigerian women and their skewered sense of entitlement are the bane of every man's existence in this country.

Bitch_if you feel like talking, call me..... I'm not gonna waste my time and money calling you just so I can listen to you breathe on the phone.
I dey ration my calls..... a 10min call every 2days and if you exhaust your quota then you're O.Y.O

Lawlahdey:
3 times per day? That's breakfast call, lunch call and dinner call nah.

McLove:
just passing by o

Neyoor:



Lols! As u no gree gimme babe for Ibadan now

GrandFinale2017:
seriously. Naija girls are real headache. Their matter don taya me.
Cc johnstar

BeautyBaebee:
Quit because of this minor issue? Trust girls, they can break up over any excuse once they start seeing sm1 else they like.
Op, move on. She's tired of you

McLove:
Anyone reading this will think he is the type o! Babes plenty, which type do you want?

Niceboyx4:
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How many times do you call your bf in a day?

Is it bad if she call him instead?

This call break up weak me pass....

RaggedyAnn:
If you aren't perturbed that she broke up with you then I'm not surprised that you wouldn't call her three times a day. You probably aren't meant for each other. When you meet someone you're crazy about, you'll call her enough times to make her a part of your day. Not just the perfunctory (4) calls per week.

Mypeople2:
Babe, I don't think she is seeing someone. But I am very sure that girl is younger than 25.Don't blame her for taking an irrational decision, she wants more attention from the guy. The guy should know that 21-24 years ladies love to break up.[/b] They can break up because you are putting on blue when their best color is white. They can break up when you rebuke them for something bad. They can break up 50 times in 6months. The guy should go and talk to her, I am 200% sure she will forgive him. But I am 300% sure they will break up again[b]. In fact, he should get used to the break ups

Mypeople2:
Babe, I don't think she is seeing someone. But I am very sure that girl is younger than 25.Don't blame her for taking an irrational decision, she wants more attention from the guy. The guy should know that 21-24 years ladies love to break up. They can break up because you are putting on blue when their best color is white. They can break up when you rebuke them for something bad. They can break up 50 times in 6months. The guy should go and talk to her, I am 200% sure she will forgive him. But I am 300% sure they will break up again. In fact, he should get used to the break ups

kimbraa:
3times a day calls is demanding for too much. Is the guy you're asking to call that much jobless?. Yeah, it's a relationship and people do uncomfortable things to please their spouse or make it work, but that shouldn't take the place of common sense.

They'll get tired of hearing from each other sooner. Secondly, repetition in an act makes it monotonous which kills interest.

For the fact that she wants her boyfriend to call her as much as her sister's husband calls means she's jealous of what her sister has. The girl in question is immature 'cause even if she was jealous, she shouldn't have made the comparison to her boyfriend. That's was too lame.

stupidity:
I and my bae talk 5 to 10 times daily. That's what has kept us together all the years. She on WhatsApp but we don't chat. If I send "hey babes", next thing she'll send is "call me"

Ayoolajumoke:
I talk to boo on phone at least 4 times a day and we chat regularly on whatsapp too. He does most of the calling tho, say 70% or more.
Sometimes I even get to say it is too much, but now, I have gotten used to it and it's cool.

Seeing so many guys on here saying 3 times a day is such a big deal is surprising. Like, just 3 times a day? I'd say there's no real bond in that type of relationship because you'd always have something to talk about and carry each other along and your everyday activities.

Modelqwen:





3times a day? that's way too much. i once broke up with a guy because he calls too much. that's stalking.
my current bf doesn't call like that.. like 2 days no call but we do chat... If he trys kinda stalking me... i will ignore his calls... He know me wella.

Modelqwen:





3times a day? that's way too much. i once broke up with a guy because he calls too much. that's stalking.
my current bf doesn't call like that.. like 2 days no call but we do chat... If he trys kinda stalking me... i will ignore his calls... He know me wella.

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

MhizSylvia:
That means she's jobless.

GT07115:
I am a serving Corps members in Ondo state, and my girlfriend is a fashion designer and a student. In terms of financial needs, she is self sufficient.

But i don't really understand her. I love her that is the fact, i intend settling down with her very soon.

Most of the issues I have with her is that ; she wants me to call her at least three times a day , and most of the time we do chat on whatsapp, and I feel there is nothing really to say that will warrant me calling her, mind you I call her at least four times in a week, I am not a good caller anyway, but that doesn't reduce my love for her, I don't really know what she wants. I call her this morning and she was complaining I didn't call her, that the sister who came to visit her, the husband calls her almost every hour, and I replied by saying I am not her sisters husband, she should learn to accept me the way I am, and if she can't she can let go.

She sent me a text that is over, I am not perturbed anyway, but my worries is, why should this be an issue?

BeautyBaebee:
Quit because of this minor issue? Trust girls, they can break up over any excuse once they start seeing sm1 else they like.
Op, move on. She's tired of you