CastedAyo:
A Nigerian lady shared the reason why she left her parents home. According to her, she constantly gets into fights with her because she's consistently reminding her how her mates are married, and she's still in their house.

She said she doesn't have a problem with her father because he didn't disturb her, but she is uncomfortable living in the house because of his mother, so she decided to rent her own apartment.

As seen of The Human of Abuja page;
"I moved out of my parent's house last month because I was always getting into fights with my mother. She was always reminding me day and night about how most of my mates are married and I was still in the house. Always comparing me with her friends' daughters that are married. It got to a point where the house because very uncomfortable for me. Day and night that's all she talked about.

My dad doesn't have any issues with my being unmarried. I am not the only unmarried 26 year old, but my mother always made it seem so. I decided to rent my own apartment in order to regain my peace of mind. My family house is here in Abuja and I rented a house here too. I think giving them some space is just the best decision."

https://www.torimill.com/2018/03/i-moved-out-of-my-parents-house-because-my-mum-always-remind-me-my-mates-are-married-lady.html

My dear, you did the right thing. Most Nigerian mothers are like that. They worry too much. Some because of worry and anxiety have pushed their children into bad and regrettable marriages. Marriage is desirable, but you must be carefully not to agree to marry just any man because of your mum or any other person. Pray and rest on God. He will settle you down in his own time. I know you will soon share your marriage testimony on this same platform. Remain blessed in Jesus name.

JONNYSPUTE:
. Ejoo.Don't come again.

haa kilode ke?

uyaima:
My Dear,your own matter tiny.my own b say,mine younger broda say make i go marry,bcus say him want 2 marry.n i dy live 4 d room way my father give me b4 him die 4 d same compound way my broda dy(family house).him say,d wife way him wnt marry no go live with me 4 d same compound,so,make i pack my load n leave.My dear,my age big pass ur own(thirty three) but i no dy fear,bcus i don c lady of 40yrs wed.I just dy thank papa God,wen der is life,der is hope.

God time is the best dear....no problem that is bigger ,some one is praying to be at it present situation...it s well,,,even God did not created us to suffer

Gofwane:
I know how the op is feeling.
Truth is it is quite difficult to leave with your parents when you get to a certain age. They try to treat you like a minor who can't make decisions on his own. It is very, very frustrating.

I remember a time when me and 3 of my colleagues tried to join a contribution at work so we all applied for a salary advance in order to pay for the contribution.

When the paper works got to our admin officer to sign them, the bittch signed only my colleagues' own and refused to sign mine. Instead, she called my aunt who happens to be working in the same place as me though in a different subsidiary to tell her about what i wanted to do.

So my oversabi aunt told her not to sign the paper because i don't know what was good for me! Just imagine!


I got so pissed off that i matched to my aunt's office with anger and rage. Without caring who was with her, i barged into the office and gave her the most painful tongue lashing of her life. Told her how much of a hypocrite she was to think i'm old enough to work for my money but not old enough to do what i want to do with my money? The look on her face was priceless cos she never expected it.

I rushed to my admin's office to sign the paper. Yet she refused! I told her she shouldn't have meddled with my personal issues. So i just picked her phone and put it in her hand bag and left with it.



Why am i saying all this? Truth is parents are mostly the ones pushing their wards into making the worse mistakes.
Now the op has left her parent's house because of her mum. Only God knows what awaits her out there!

You have spoken well bro. But a 26yr old should not be looking for someone to praise/blame for her actions and decisions in life. That is, she should be responsible for any of her choices whether bad or good instead of blaming her parents for pushing her.

I get highly irritated when the subject of marriage is extremely amplified.
As long as one is happy all by himself, in this case, herself, why will you want to trade that for something you're not sure is going to bring you increased happiness.

If the mother is happy about her marriage, it will show, you don't need no one to tout it. That way, her daughter will be instinctively enthuse to replicate same.
You can't give what you don't have, can you?

In the end, you're going to give account for no one but yourself, alright? So it's your responsibility to be in absolute tranquility with your soul, which can be instilled by separating from "the contaminant" (your mom).

If you fail due to pressure from "the contaminant" it's yourself to blame - no one's going to share that moment with you.
On the flip side, hm... even your mom will claim credit for it.

Sweetie, you made the right choice. Now you will be able to think straight and so much more.
Congrat!

Things my mom did or told me to do:

Marry HIV patient
Marry someone with madness
Rape a woman and get her pregnant
Take me to babalawo
Spend over a million naira on fake prophets
Taken me to a shrine in the East
Take someone's wife
Beat me
Set my clothes in fire
Tell me to kill myself



I still never marry...... my mom is more of a terrorist than yours.

Offpoint:

mama dey mama.... aunty dey aunty...
8 years left o for m....e.... pause

Why are you guys so heartless? 8 years left for menopause so she should kill herself or what? You people keep saying go and marry as if the person will marry themselves. Is it not whenever they find the right person they will eventually marry ni? Or will she propose to herself?

I really wonder when marriage became an achievement.

trustyshoess:
I honestly don't see why a 26 year old would even want to live with their parents at your big age whether or not you have issues with your mum. Maybe it's just me

abeg THIS is Nigeria,get real.most people that left their parents roof as ADULTS left because of quanta.if THERE was no quarrell or infringement of space they'll likely not have left.even when they left it wasn't as if THEY had a clear cut plan about where they'll sleep that night but they left with faith and squatted with friends till they GOT their own apartment.infact that's what makes them double their hustle so that parents or friends Will not mock them saying kotan e.with all your gra gra you ended up begging or borrowing.

AndyCole16:

Op please if you know the lady very well...I will relate my mothers experience.
My mother was a very ambitious young woman in her youthful time who started succeeding early in life. She bought her first car at 23 years of age and her business was prospering. It all started to reel and collapsed when her mother (my grand mother) started pressurizing her to get married because she is the only child and grandma cannot wait to see her grand children before she die (according to her). The pressure became too much in my mums life, so she got married to the wrong man twice before reaching 27 years. Everything she achieved went away within 3-5 years. (I have my moms story in the diary section though not with this moniker).
Fortunately, my grand mother is still very much alive to see all she made my mum went through. She has apologized to my mum even crying in our presence for the role she played though ignorantly(she thought she had her best interest at heart).
The lesson to all the unmarried ladies:
Never....ever allow ANYONE to push you into relationship and marriage. My mother is fortunate to have recovered some things back after 25 years of confusion. You might not be that fortunate!!!
Once you go into wrong relationship to marriage, your life can NEVER be the same again. Be wise.

Please help me tell them o. I don't know why anyone will feel a lady is not complete or fulfilled until she's married. They forget that there are so many in this thing called marriage that are looking for a way to jump out.
People shouldn't let anyone pressure them into getting married.. ensure you take your time to make a wise choice.

CocknBull:
I get highly irritated when the subject of marriage is extremely amplified.
As long as one is happy all by himself, in this case, herself, why will you want to trade that for something you're not sure is going to bring you increased happiness.

If the mother is happy about her marriage, it will show, you don't need no one to tout it. That way, her daughter will be instinctively enthuse to replicate same.
You can't give what you don't have, can you?

In the end, you're going to give account for no one but yourself, alright? So it's your responsibility to be in absolute tranquility with your soul, which can be instilled by separating from "the contaminant" (your mom).

If you fail due to pressure from "the contaminant" it's yourself to blame - no one's going to share that moment with you.
On the flip side, hm... even your mom will claim credit for it.

Sweetie, you made the right choice. Now you will be able to think straight and so much more.
Congrat!

guess what.those ones that usually ask the when will you marry questions are the ones patching and managing the crisis in their marriage but like that saying goes,misery loves company

Btw do you think it's really about her happiness they're asking the when will you marry questions or because its another opportunity for owanmbe to show off their latest shoes necklace and bag.

Amoruwon

Sister God time is d best. I will advice u find a good job paying well so when u finally settle down money willl not be anoda issue... happy sunday

RSVP:



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Unemployed teacher

This is common with the average Nigerian mother, once you are up to 23 they start making you realize that you are old enough to get married. Lots of females has been scarred physically and emotionally because they don't want to be single.

Gofwane:
I know how the op is feeling.
Truth is it is quite difficult to leave with your parents when you get to a certain age. They try to treat you like a minor who can't make decisions on his own. It is very, very frustrating.

I remember a time when me and 3 of my colleagues tried to join a contribution at work so we all applied for a salary advance in order to pay for the contribution.

When the paper works got to our admin officer to sign them, the bittch signed only my colleagues' own and refused to sign mine. Instead, she called my aunt who happens to be working in the same place as me though in a different subsidiary to tell her about what i wanted to do.

So my oversabi aunt told her not to sign the paper because i don't know what was good for me! Just imagine!


I got so pissed off that i matched to my aunt's office with anger and rage. Without caring who was with her, i barged into the office and gave her the most painful tongue lashing of her life. Told her how much of a hypocrite she was to think i'm old enough to work for my money but not old enough to do what i want to do with my money? The look on her face was priceless cos she never expected it.

I rushed to my admin's office to sign the paper. Yet she refused! I told her she shouldn't have meddled with my personal issues. So i just picked her phone and put it in her hand bag and left with it.



Why am i saying all this? Truth is parents are mostly the ones pushing their wards into making the worse mistakes.
Now the op has left her parent's house because of her mum. Only God knows what awaits her out there!

unrelated

to me.... love comes before marriage
to many others.... a job is all that matters, love inevitable follows.
hmmm...... marriage is a life sontin.

kalu61:
How did you know.By the time she pay house rent and buy house appliance then you will know that certain salary aren't enough for a lady up keep the way she desires.

So what's your point? She should continue receiving insults from her mom?

braimeddy:
So by getting ur own apartment, u think u have solved the issue? My dear I will advice u to go back to ur parent's house and just ignore ur mum's comment. If actually u really need a husband, a man will value u more if u re with ur parents than u being living alone.

You don't know how it feels to suffer such from ur own parent's. My next neighbor suffers the same from her mum: everything she do annoys the mum, they fights on daily bases.. Yesterday she was telling me that she prays for any man at all that will take her out of this shit.

IamAirforce1:
At 26, you should atleast be In a serious relationship

Being in a relationship is different from being married?

mother: so when will you marry??
her: mummy all men are scum
father:

CocknBull:

On the contrary! Speak for yourself.
I've witness 2 sisters who lowered their standard and married cheap in the bid to leave home. Who instigated it? the mother!!!!

I've seen a guy leave home prematurely in the bid to stay away from his father who constantly throw tantrums.

If your case/parent is different, be grateful to God and celebrate them and quit being a judge to others, cause you don't have the slightest idea what it feels like to constantly trade your joy for sadness in a house you're supposed to call home.

She made the right choice in my own opinion; better than jumping in the arms of a man she'll leave to regret. She got her head straight.

Marriage is not a must to all. Your happiness and your brother's should be paramount!
As long as her decision doesn't stand in the way of anyone's progress, God is not mad at her and so am I! In fact, i'm falling for her already.... shhhhuuuu...

Hmmm.
Are you a Nigerian?

braimeddy:
So by getting ur own apartment, u think u have solved the issue? My dear I will advice u to go back to ur parent's house and just ignore ur mum's comment. If actually u really need a husband, a man will value u more if u re with ur parents than u being living alone.

Story for the gods! Why do you people add so much importance to marriage like its a do or die affair? So you prefer she stays there and she psychologically abuses her all in the name of marriage? . Not saying she shouldn't remind her but pressuring her? No! Comparing her with others? No! Doing such will only push her into the wrong hands. And a man who values a woman will not measure her worth with where she stays, whether her father's house or not. Any man who does such is not worth marrying. Yes you heard me right. Stop this nonsense of attaching a woman's worth to marriage and where she stays. Except you're a control freak.

Wisebisho:

You don't know how it feels to suffer such from ur own parent's. My next neighbor suffers the same from her mum: everything she do annoys the mum, they fights on daily bases.. Yesterday she was telling me that she prays for any man at all that will take her out of this shit.

Just imagine! Such mothers will push you into the wrong hands just because they want to be grandmas. And they're still the one that will be preaching endurance when she is suffering in her husband's house.

thesicilian:
So when are you getting married?

Wrong question.
Aunty, abeg were is your house? Send me your address since you have run away from the protection of your home.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
So what's your point? She should continue receiving insults from her mom?

She shouldnt relocate cos of pressure rather capable of taking care of herself.The lady should ask a grown relative or mum's friend to take to her mum and why she should allow her wait for her God given man or rather go and leave with a close relative even if she earns a salary.

Just look at her,no wonder her market no dey move,no attack, no defence, she come get mini bow legs like taribo west


Thank God labake1 no get dis kind pami nku mother

CocknBull:

On the contrary! Speak for yourself.
I've witness 2 sisters who lowered their standard and married cheap in the bid to leave home. Who instigated it? the mother!!!!

I've seen a guy leave home prematurely in the bid to stay away from his father who constantly throw tantrums.

If your case/parent is different, be grateful to God and celebrate them and quit being a judge to others, cause you don't have the slightest idea what it feels like to constantly trade your joy for sadness in a house you're supposed to call home.

She made the right choice in my own opinion; better than jumping in the arms of a man she'll leave to regret. She got her head straight.

Marriage is not a must to all. Your happiness and your brother's should be paramount!
As long as her decision doesn't stand in the way of anyone's progress, God is not mad at her and so am I! In fact, i'm falling for her already.... shhhhuuuu...

Spot on! Watch them come for you. Some Nairaland guys believes marriage is the best achievement of a woman. One up there says she won't get a man that would value her because she moved out of her father's house. Bunch of retards!

XhosaNostra:
The mother though.

You eh, lol! why didn't you use d new president's pic? or is he more serious than Zuma?

braimeddy:
So by getting ur own apartment, u think u have solved the issue? My dear I will advice u to go back to ur parent's house and just ignore ur mum's comment. If actually u really need a husband, a man will value u more if u re with ur parents than u being living alone.

Nawa for the way some of you Nigerians reason oo.

AntiBrutus:


Hmmm.
Are you a Nigerian?

Yes i am.
Asketh thou why?

braimeddy:
So by getting ur own apartment, u think u have solved the issue? My dear I will advice u to go back to ur parent's house and just ignore ur mum's comment. If actually u really need a husband, a man will value u more if u re with ur parents than u being living alone.

. Word!!!

CastedAyo:
A Nigerian lady shared the reason why she left her parents home. According to her, she constantly gets into fights with her because she's consistently reminding her how her mates are married, and she's still in their house.

She said she doesn't have a problem with her father because he didn't disturb her, but she is uncomfortable living in the house because of his mother, so she decided to rent her own apartment.

As seen of The Human of Abuja page;
"I moved out of my parent's house last month because I was always getting into fights with my mother. She was always reminding me day and night about how most of my mates are married and I was still in the house. Always comparing me with her friends' daughters that are married. It got to a point where the house because very uncomfortable for me. Day and night that's all she talked about.

My dad doesn't have any issues with my being unmarried. I am not the only unmarried 26 year old, but my mother always made it seem so. I decided to rent my own apartment in order to regain my peace of mind. My family house is here in Abuja and I rented a house here too. I think giving them some space is just the best decision."

https://www.torimill.com/2018/03/i-moved-out-of-my-parents-house-because-my-mum-always-remind-me-my-mates-are-married-lady.html

Good idea anyway, don't let any body make life miserable for you.
Your mum is after you getting married because her mates daughters are married but she doesn't want to know if you are married to the right person or not.
Relax yourself God in his infinite mercy will give you a man that worths to be your husband.
Don't get bothered about it because it won't make your suitors to come quick.
Meanwhile she has dented your relationship with her

IamAirforce1:
At 26, you should atleast be In a serious relationship

With guys like u, she shouldn't be single. Help a sister.