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Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by tpiah: 2:40pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
sounds like your job is very demanding. why not try taking an occasional sick or vacation day, so you can unwind. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by chrishenzo: 2:42pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
carefree: Stop kidding me with those words. Two questions Why do most Chinese girls always dream to have a Shanghai as a boyfriend? Why do most Chinese girls prefer a weak man to a strong man that can stand on his decisions? Don't give me a fake answer. Use what happen in real chinese life to answer my question |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by marabout(m): 2:45pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
@ Poster, This is a bit complex. It seems you (u & your hussy) have set yourselves a high standard of living e.g. boarding school, good things of life etc that it cannot be maintained without your income. If that is the case, then your man will know why you are away the whole day and should not complain about you not doing enough domestic chores. A lot of guys here are hinting that your long hours away may be putting your home at risk. Maybe it is not what you want to hear (you prefer SA doddesses' posts) but they may have have a point. If he now complains "religiously" as you put it, then he may have become unhappy with the status quo but knows that he cannot afford everything alone. You seem to have made up your mind that your career and current lifestyle are non-negotiable. Have you sat down with your husband and try to explore how much it disturbs him?? Any possibilty of downsizing? I know people here in the UK who didn't go to boarding school but have been through or are going through Oxbridge. I went to a good old Naija secondary but didn't stop me getting the grades or going to UK uni of my choice or course of my choice. Sometimes, it's keeping up with the Joneses or face-saving (not saying it's so in your case) that prevents people from downsizing. We have had to sacrifice extra income for my madam to have more time to spend with the kids. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by netotse(m): 2:46pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
@OP for now, it's just cooking, it might end up being more, i'm all for women working and finding themselves but 5am to 10pm? writing reports till 12am? that's way beyond too much, when do you have time for your husband? how does he feel about it? men have egos o, while you're trying to get him over to his side, make sure you're careful not to put yourself in a position where his ego is bruised. Cos if it becomes a matter of ego then you'll have a very bad case. personally the idea of my wife coming consistently home after me is just wrong. of which this isn't a 'romance' topic, the OP is missing out on a lot of good advice, heck if it was in family, there's no way mr cork would have found it to post his brand of errr. . .wisdom. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by Hauwa1: 2:48pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
no be Amerikkah, dem no go pay you . in this economy, one would be on the top of ''whom to lay off" tpiah: |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by ITbomb(m): 2:48pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
If only a white man didnt come and tell us to stop marryin 2 or 3 like abraham: a friend of God or david: a man after God's heart all these would not have arise, we could have just shift camp |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by blank(f): 2:55pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
ebonyvibe: I am not one to usually point fingers but you do upset me. Your husband is ready to do anything for you and your kids but you are not? See who is calling someone lazy. ebonyvibe:I wish you the best sha. My prayer is that your husband will get a better job so he wont be feeling inadequate (the way you are trying to paint him out to be). Maybe then you won't be feeling that without that your job that his world will collapse. Help him enjoy some dividends of married life, na. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by Nobody: 3:01pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
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Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by SAGoddess: 3:07pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
blank: She praised the husband and then talked about the lazy guy she dated before she met her man. . . . .did I miss something? |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by 4llerbuntu(m): 3:14pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
4llerbuntu: AHA!!! i need advice too nah!!!, pls help oooo, am getting outta my head too. or do i have to start another thread? just answer here pls. people of NL!! |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by tpiah: 3:17pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
*Hauwa*: true sha. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by MOBO444(f): 3:19pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
@ Posters Ebonyvibe you said you are a working woman and hence no time to cook or do home chore, well you just another black mother that has failed her self, i am willing to bet in 15 month time your husband will kick your black behind out of the house, well hope you will also come to us in nairaland for advice then, see you in 15 month time then. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by tpiah: 3:20pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
ebonyvibe: i think you mean you dont think your children will[b] like it [/b] if they dont attend the best schools. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by MrCork8: 3:20pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
MOBO444, my only brother from another mother!!! he tells nothing but the truth!! |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by MOBO444(f): 3:21pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
Ebonyview shame on you, ok. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by MOBO444(f): 3:21pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
Mr Cork my brother only the truth you speaketh. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by MrCork8: 3:24pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
Yes Sir!!! Our black women need to know the truth, their role & their place (AIT Report: 1972) |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by blank(f): 3:25pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
SA Goddess: I know that she praised her husband in that quote, that was what i was trying to bring out. Now in this thread, she makes him sound inadequate and dat if she lets go the whole world will collapse. okay let me modify my post so u will understand. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by netotse(m): 3:31pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
4llerbuntu: what you need is deliverance. . .lol i'd like to suggest that this thread be moved to 'family', that way there'll be less distractions due to the romance sections peculiar brand of experts. . . |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by no1madman(m): 3:43pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
Do d damn Housework and cooking. . . .nonsense!wtf!i sorry 4 u! |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by buzugee(m): 3:59pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
your husband is an azz. you mentioned that you have kids, so therefore i am assuming you have been married for a while now and he has put up with your lack of domestic skills for a long time so why is he belly-aching now ? unless of course you used to be a very domestic person when he met you and then all of a sudden you flipped the script on him and decided you no longer want to be domestic, in which case he has a right to be angry. if i buy an apple, i will hope it stays an apple and not turn into an orange. secondly, your husband is an azz to be complaining about you making that nice juicy chunk of money for the family which negates your time to do domestic work, unless of course you earn all that money and do not contribute it to the household and use it for yourself and the kids, in which case he has a right to be angry at you. bottomline, if you decide you no longer are into housework, you better be contributing a huge chunk of your salary into the household, and if you do and he still complains about your lack of housework ? he is an azz. if you do not contribute a huge chunk and decide you are not into housework ? you are an azz. |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by sizzlers(m): 4:00pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
McDonalds will always sell their products. what do u think |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by MrCork8: 4:05pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
sizzlers, brother, did u just say u have McDonalds in Asaba?? wha the hell? |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by MrCork8: 4:06pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
Do they no wot McDOnalds is in Nigeria? (no oofeince) |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by oisehumen(m): 4:10pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
Any woman who fails to live up to expectation with regards to house work and cooking has failed woefully as a wife. We sometimes forget that we are Africans, no matter the years u have lived in the Western world, u remain an African. I see this post as very nauseating, What kind of career lady are u anyway? Are u now telling us that your career supersedes your home? U better think twice and act fast before it becomes too late. I sometimes assist my wife in the cleaning of the house and cooking when i discover that she is too tired. But is not enough for her to subsequently fold her hands, cross her legs and watch me do her duties. Nonsense |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by Redman44(m): 4:12pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
@Poster, Wahala dey o You need to sacrifice some hours at work to make your husband feel like a man. Your marriage should not be toyed with. Act fast before your husband starts imagining himself with another woman. Hmn. www.vibes-extra..com |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by Mobinga: 4:16pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
All you need to do is to give him a good Mouth Gig every evening. . . . That will calm him down |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by skybeauty(f): 4:17pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
wow, don't really know wat to say but i think u shud listen to d guys and act on wat they say since your hubby is a guy and we have guys here telling how they wud feel, if it were them. secondly cut down ur working hours it too much i mean are some slave or something (no offence) |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by ebonyvibe(f): 4:18pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
@/ |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by oisehumen(m): 4:22pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
I understand my dear. Maybe i over reacted jare. But sincerely, u need to exercise extra caution in handling this issue, it has pushed so many men into the waiting hands of other women. Try and make him understand and put in your best. But u have u tried changing your present job to another that can give more time? |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by likeme(m): 4:23pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
buzugee: It is quite derogatory to be calling somebody's husband an azz. Show some repect I beg. If the man has been putting up with this no cooking for 5 years expecting that the wife will change and she did not . what do you expect, he should not voice out his opinion again? |
Re: I Hate Housework And Cooking by Ayowumie(m): 4:34pm On Sep 07, 2010 |
I seriously hope u dont destroy your home in the name of been a career woman. |
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