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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by benzzyno(m): 12:14am On Dec 15, 2019
Cutehector:
What kind of long story is this
grin grin Local man is no longer understanding.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nobody: 12:15am On Dec 15, 2019
Henvest:


[b]don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway........

But then am not even sure if they are mine...

What kind of a person are u? In fact, Na real wa 4 u...

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by bluefilm: 12:16am On Dec 15, 2019
Luiz1:

What kind of a person are u? In fact, Na real wa 4 u...

He's a pussy nigga.

That's how they behave.

They are never sure of anything.

They are always waiting for someone to guide them or tell them what to do.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Fortissimo502: 12:17am On Dec 15, 2019
ceeroh:


A man who has disciplined himself over women has solved half of his problems on earth.


Real talk...

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nobody: 12:18am On Dec 15, 2019
SmellingAnus:
Even your woman no be better person .... See how she manipulate you with the following statement... " on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change"...


It will take a genius to know that the above statement was a high level manipulation... A simple DNA would have saved you lots of stress but your woman was scared that if it comes out that you are their father, you will give your kids more attention than her and her potential kids for you... My brother, you are just in the midst of two manipulative women... I pity for you ...

Why giving him advice? He deserves none.

The story dey make me vex sef...

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by AreaFada2: 12:20am On Dec 15, 2019
Sorry to say dude but you did not behave like a man from the beginning.

You should have done paternity test once the first child was born. And definitely NOT sleep with her again when she had marital issues.

Then your fiancee told you not to do DNA test because if they turned out not be yours, your feelings towards them might change. Like seriously? You have no right to HAVE feelings for kids whose paternity you do not know, considering how manipulative their mother has been. Or are you a walking children's charity/NGO? shocked shocked shocked

As nice as your fiancee is, she was scared of the possibility that the kids might be yours. Supporting kids not yours that she was supportive of is one thing. She can ask you to stop helping the kids at any time. But once found to be yours, you cannot stop supporting them until after university. Your fiancee was worried about that.

Always sit down and take OWN decisions ALONE. Consider advice of others alright but also scrutinize their motives for advising you how they do. Even advice from people closest to you.

You could have just ask her to bring the kids to play with you for the day. While there, take swabs from the mouths and send to DNA lab for DNA test. Their mum won't know. The conundrum of who's the dad should have been solved LONG ago.

Until paternity test is done, nothing further.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by BlackIP: 12:23am On Dec 15, 2019
Henvest:
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. One day I came to buy things as usual, the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me she is his sister. After that day I stopped seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop.

One day I traveled, while on the travel someone called, introduced herself and explained who she is. Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me. She pretended to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then. Of course I apologized but she demanded I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged.

I came back kept to my promise but made it in an open place, National theater precisely.
But then she booked another date next week but insisted it won't be open place anymore.. The rest is history.

One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better. She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally opened up.....

Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years.
But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people.
The reason why both of them chose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today....

I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship did not last up to 2 months but obviously it was a bit late already.

Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belongs to Ossy.
She went further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claiming her pregnancy is 1 month.

To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy.

I gave up, dust my self and moved on.
Nine months later she put to bed to a girl..
Months later I move out of that area.
One day my phone rang it was her, she demanded that she need to see me, that she has an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address.

Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working.
She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy. That the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process.

I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two months later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace. I keep asking my self what if pregnancy and the girl truly belong to me?

One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support ..

What I saw when I reached there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change.
But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c

After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she doesn't have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills.

I bought the idea and asked the lady to go look for shop ...
While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids.

Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids...

That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them.

Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account.

I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter.

Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me.

She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family.

Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table ..

But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option.

The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business.

She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted. Finally she agreed, but with a condition that she (the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her.

I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much.

Since then I still pay their school fees nd medical bills...
Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me.

The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old.
This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage
I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids.

What she answered me is " let the will of God be done"

I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids.

I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me.

My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely .

I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her.

I feel so bad for putting her in that position.
That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar.

But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway.


Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there.

For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ...

I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now.
My another worry now if those kids are mine is,
When it comes to Education we are at opposite end.

She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it.
I can't trust her with the education of those kids.
Please I need advise on how to handle things.



Make sure you have saved documents of all the money and payment out have given her ... Make transfers ... Not cash ....

You don't need too much process to do DNA ... Only the hair of the kids is enough for DNA ....

Don't insist on changing name .... Biological matter no dey work these days ... Who will call you father tommorow will do that ....

No matter how biological is looks like ... Jesus Christ will never be called the son of Joseph ...

Jesus is still ... Jesus son of David ...

May God bless your handworks ... Thats where your blessings is coming from .... Send me text for advice 08038997473

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nwaonyishi69: 12:23am On Dec 15, 2019
A good example of razzmatazz. A very poor short story. Try better next time.
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Lifecanbeamazin: 12:25am On Dec 15, 2019
My dear, we are talking about human beings not animals. No sensible mother or woman should release a child under 14 to anyone. It doesn't matter if you're the dad, every child under that age needs their mother, also it's not healthy to separate those two kids. My suggestion will be to get to know the kids, have them come once or twice a month to bond with them. Don't stop rendering help to the children, taking last name of the other guy does not define them. Bonding will let the kids know the real dad and who says love from you, your fiancee, their mom and new husband will be too much for them. Be there for them and loving them means you'll let them be with their mom except they're in danger staying with her.
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nobody: 12:26am On Dec 15, 2019
What the hell happened to protection during ur free sexercise?

Well,go to court and get ur kids.EOD
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by NevetsIbot(m): 12:26am On Dec 15, 2019
This is why I move away from every girl that brings her pinna to me without me even showing interest in her at first.... Dem dey everly get plans.... Even iffa touch.... Latex gat me.


Op... Get the paternity test and save yourself the stress
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by kid7soccer(m): 12:27am On Dec 15, 2019
Need a DNA test, just get a lawyer, get her arrested and let the court order for the DNA test result.



Henvest:
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. One day I came to buy things as usual, the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me she is his sister. After that day I stopped seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop.

One day I traveled, while on the travel someone called, introduced herself and explained who she is. Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me. She pretended to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then. Of course I apologized but she demanded I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged.

I came back kept to my promise but made it in an open place, National theater precisely.
But then she booked another date next week but insisted it won't be open place anymore.. The rest is history.

One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better. She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally opened up.....

Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years.
But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people.
The reason why both of them chose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today....

I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship did not last up to 2 months but obviously it was a bit late already.

Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belongs to Ossy.
She went further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claiming her pregnancy is 1 month.

To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy.

I gave up, dust my self and moved on.
Nine months later she put to bed to a girl..
Months later I move out of that area.
One day my phone rang it was her, she demanded that she need to see me, that she has an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address.

Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working.
She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy. That the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process.

I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two months later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace. I keep asking my self what if pregnancy and the girl truly belong to me?

One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support ..

What I saw when I reached there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change.
But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c

After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she doesn't have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills.

I bought the idea and asked the lady to go look for shop ...
While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids.

Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids...

That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them.

Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account.

I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter.

Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me.

She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family.

Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table ..

But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option.

The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business.

She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted. Finally she agreed, but with a condition that she (the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her.

I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much.

Since then I still pay their school fees nd medical bills...
Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me.

The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old.
This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage
I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids.

What she answered me is " let the will of God be done"

I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids.

I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me.

My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely .

I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her.

I feel so bad for putting her in that position.
That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar.

But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway.


Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there.

For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ...

I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now.
My another worry now if those kids are mine is,
When it comes to Education we are at opposite end.

She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it.
I can't trust her with the education of those kids.
Please I need advise on how to handle things.


Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by omotowo2: 12:33am On Dec 15, 2019
SmellingAnus:
Even your woman no be better person .... See how she manipulate you with the following statement... " on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change"...


It will take a genius to know that the above statement was a high level manipulation... A simple DNA would have saved you lots of stress but your woman was scared that if it comes out that you are their father, you will give your kids more attention than her and her potential kids for you... My brother, you are just in the midst of two manipulative women... I pity for you ...
i am even suspecting both the ladies in question know themselves

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by sisisioge: 12:34am On Dec 15, 2019
Chai...somehow, you still haven't managed to get the true paternity of the kids. Na wa for all these half baked boys with minute education/intelligence o. It is well.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Boss13: 12:35am On Dec 15, 2019
Your story is filled with errors. The first obvious error is conducting paternity test on a fetus. The second error is the instance age flipping of the kids.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Nobody: 12:36am On Dec 15, 2019
Henvest:
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. One day I came to buy things as usual, the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me she is his sister. After that day I stopped seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop.

One day I traveled, while on the travel someone called, introduced herself and explained who she is. Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me. She pretended to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then. Of course I apologized but she demanded I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged.

I came back kept to my promise but made it in an open place, National theater precisely.
But then she booked another date next week but insisted it won't be open place anymore.. The rest is history.

One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better. She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally opened up.....

Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years.
But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people.
The reason why both of them chose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today....

I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship did not last up to 2 months but obviously it was a bit late already.

Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belongs to Ossy.
She went further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claiming her pregnancy is 1 month.

To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy.

I gave up, dust my self and moved on.
Nine months later she put to bed to a girl..
Months later I move out of that area.
One day my phone rang it was her, she demanded that she need to see me, that she has an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address.

Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working.
She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy. That the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process.

I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two months later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace. I keep asking my self what if pregnancy and the girl truly belong to me?

One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support ..

What I saw when I reached there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change.
But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c

After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she doesn't have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills.

I bought the idea and asked the lady to go look for shop ...
While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids.

Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids...

That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them.

Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account.

I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter.

Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me.

She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family.

Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table ..

But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option.

The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business.

She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted. Finally she agreed, but with a condition that she (the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her.

I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much.

Since then I still pay their school fees nd medical bills...
Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me.

The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old.
This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage
I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids.

What she answered me is " let the will of God be done"

I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids.

I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me.

My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely .

I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her.

I feel so bad for putting her in that position.
That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar.

But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway.


Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there.

For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ...

I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now.
My another worry now if those kids are mine is,
When it comes to Education we are at opposite end.

She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it.
I can't trust her with the education of those kids.
Please I need advise on how to handle things.



just get the damn DNA test done & have peace of mind. if they're not yours you can walk away, if they are then take full responsibility for the kids.

as things stand, that girl has almost ruined your.life with her duplicity....stop allowing her to manipulate you, take control of the situation and give those poor kids a good chance at life
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Ewedegubbler: 12:36am On Dec 15, 2019
I am not an expert in family matters but I think I know a lot about dementia and madness and I am detecting it here. Bros, You are totally mad and demented

Biko next story

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by golddare: 12:40am On Dec 15, 2019
It seems you enjoy playing with fire or cobra, you have been lucky so far based on the grace of God on your life.
1. To do DNA test does not need announcement, meet a neutral doctor and do it on your own.
2. The children are old enough to be in boarding school, get a good school and register them so that she can also be free to remarry.
3. If they are your children, your fiancee/wife leg dey shake, tell her to get closer to God because you are endangering her life.
4. You need to get closer to God and be prayerful also if not you will not know what you are doing again.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by BENEAMATA: 12:44am On Dec 15, 2019
The yanks say when you look left and right and don't see the mark . . . . . . . . . . . . you are the mark ! sorry you were too easy to prey on .
well 80% of the audience say DNA , so we go for dna . FINAL ANSWER ; DNA .
erm , so chelsea lost and someone said , and i quote " no wonder everywhere quiet " ! thundafire , warn yourself oh ! ! i dey vex . why nairalanders mouth too sharp like this sef ?
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by BotafogoJunior(m): 12:45am On Dec 15, 2019
dominique:
Wicked people full this world o. I'm not talking about the woman that conned the op into fathering two children but the evil people that quoted this entire textbook.
Mad oh!!!

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by BENEAMATA: 12:48am On Dec 15, 2019
golddare:
It seems you enjoy playing with fire or cobra, you have been lucky so far based on the grace of God on your life.
1. To do DNA test does not need announcement, meet a neutral doctor and do it on your own.
2. The children are old enough to be in boarding school, get a good school and register them so that she can also be free to remarry.
3. If they are your children, your fiancee/wife leg dey shake, tell her to get closer to God because you are endangering her life.
4. You need to get closer to God and be prayerful also if not you will not know what you are doing again.
thank you for this .
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Juliearth(f): 12:50am On Dec 15, 2019
First of all, your fiancé has a heart of gold, you are indeed lucky. Secondly, what is stopping you from doing the DNA test?
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Juliearth(f): 12:51am On Dec 15, 2019
ceeroh:
See where free pussy has landed you. Not once, but twice.

A man who has disciplined himself over women has solved half of his problems on earth.
Go for a DNA test, know the truth and be free.




Apt

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by doctokwus: 12:53am On Dec 15, 2019
Pathetic lots,nairalanders.
You all believe a story that smells cooked up from a 100 kilometres off!
-The fiancee suddenly left the shop and same time after,Mr story teller heard someone call d lady,Iyawo Osi.Meanwhile this is the shop he claims he has been buying things from for long,yet never heard her so called.Lie 1 detected.
-He chose national theatre for an outing.7 years ago till now,the national theatre has been almost comatose for even artistes that used to use it.Never even heard of someone going there for anything.Lie number 2.
-His so called fiancee supported all his support for the kids.Story for Tom and Jerry.
-Further down he said he spoke with the woman that introduced d lady, meanwhile he claimed early in his false tales,it was an accidental but well set up plan by the lady.
-Many other holes too pissed up to go into.
This story is typical of that moniker literature writer on nairaland that sits down to concoct tales.
The guy that posted that his friend father died in the war,but was living with them till his war colleague in Gabon came back,told d wife and the man has vanished since then.
The growing inability for people to do simple 2+2 to get 4 instead of 22 on nairaland is amazing,and annoying.
This story belongs to the trashbin.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by ireneidiva(f): 12:53am On Dec 15, 2019
Henvest:
There is this shop I normally stock my house from then. One day I came to buy things as usual, the guy, the owner of the shop introduced one girl to me telling me she is his sister. After that day I stopped seeing the guy but only the girl in the shop.

One day I traveled, while on the travel someone called, introduced herself and explained who she is. Obviously she took my number from my younger brother staying with me. She pretended to be angry with me for not telling her am traveling and for me not knowing her name before then. Of course I apologized but she demanded I should take her out when am back before she will accept my apology I obliged.

I came back kept to my promise but made it in an open place, National theater precisely.
But then she booked another date next week but insisted it won't be open place anymore.. The rest is history.

One day I came to her shop to buy something and over heard a close friend calling her Iyawo Ossy, that wasn't the first I heard someone address her as Iyawo Ossy but I become curious this time because this person is a close friend and should know better. She tried to wave it with excuse of anybody is free to call her what they like but when I insisted, she finally opened up.....

Ossy was not her brother but her fiance with whom she has been together for 6 six years.
But, according to her Ossy is waiting for her to take in before going to see her people.
The reason why both of them chose to be telling people they are siblings remain a mystery to me till today....

I got mad and call it quit with her for trying to use me to secure marriage. The whole relationship did not last up to 2 months but obviously it was a bit late already.

Weeks later it become obvious she is pregnant, deep inside of me I felt am responsible, but when I ask her she insist it belong to Ossy. I push but she stood her ground insisting it belongs to Ossy.
She went further denying the timing of the pregnancy, if doctor is saying 2 months she will be claiming her pregnancy is 1 month.

To my greatest surprise become hostile and start avoiding me even go further to claim they went for paternity test and the result shows it belong to the guy.

I gave up, dust my self and moved on.
Nine months later she put to bed to a girl..
Months later I move out of that area.
One day my phone rang it was her, she demanded that she need to see me, that she has an important discussion with me. I opt to recharge and call her for us to do the discussion on phone but she insisted so I sent her my new address.

Two days later she came, what she came to tell me was that she is leaving the guy that the marriage thing is not working.
She was seriously crying all through I tried all i could to console her but then one thing lead to another sex happened again. When she is about to leave she told me that am the father of her daughter not Ossy. That the story of going for paternity test was true but that the test never happened because the counsellor they meet ask them to go back and rethink it again but the Ossy changed his mind at the process.

I laugh off the story and asked her to take her leave because to me she is just trying to activate her option B. Two months later she called to inform that she has not seen her period I told her am not Interested in her stories again but then my conscience was never at peace. I keep asking my self what if pregnancy and the girl truly belong to me?

One year plus later I decided to go look for them I told my girl, now fiance and she give her support ..

What I saw when I reached there almost make me cry, her condition is so bad. There and then I decide to come in and start assisting her as much as i can pending when I go for DNA. My family kick against my decision, their reason is that the girl story is not to be trusted, on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change.
But from then I start taking care of their feeding, schooling, clothing, rent e.t.c

After like a year my girl suggest I open business for the girl instead, so that she doesn't have to come to me for everything everytime except school fees and medical bills.

I bought the idea and asked the lady to go look for shop ...
While on that i told her of the need to open account for the kids.

Two days later she came back to tell me that her brothers said she should not change the name of the kids...

That the kids will bear the name of who ever that marry her or the name of her family if the person don't want them.

Now what happened was that, she once told me that she need to change the girls surname to mine. Before then i don't know their surname nor attach any importance to it. So while discussing the idea of opening the account for the girls I innocently suggest that she go do the change of name before opening the account.

I was hit by her responds and her body language so I told her that she and her brothers can go suit theirselves, that from then henceforth I have hands off her matter.

Later that day she called and begged but I told her that the only condition for me to keep assisting her is that she will change their names and also release one of them to me.

She said i should make out time and come down to her base so that we will discuss it. I discuss it with my fiance and she permit me to go. When I get there and raise the topic she flame up telling me she won't try it, that that is the position of her family.

Obviously she was expecting a fight or angry reactions from me so that she can push her terms and agenda to the table ..

But was disappointed when I don't fall for that, she start begging that she can change their names but can't release any to me. I told her is no longer an option.

The meeting end at that and I took my leave, go with the start up capital i was meant to give her for her business.

She sent people to me to beg on her behave but I insisted. Finally she agreed, but with a condition that she (the first girl) must be up to 5years which is few months away then before she release her.

I sense lies in the whole thing but my girl insist I should release the fund for her to start the business of which I did when her pressure become much.

Since then I still pay their school fees nd medical bills...
Late last year the small one did surgery it was on me.

The 1st is 7 now the 2nd is 4 years old.
This year she said she wanna marry, that someone is asking for her hand in marriage
I congratulate her and wish her luck. Then ask her her plan for the kids.

What she answered me is " let the will of God be done"

I called the woman, her friend who first told me about the marriage thing, after much drilling she open up that they have agreed with the man that he is going to marry her the kids.

I don't have any problem with that even though I feel used but my only problem is why lying to me again? At that point am yet to pay their graduation /party fees out of anger I decide am not going to pay it again. I told her to go meet their new father to pay the remaining, but my conscience kept battling me.

My fiance is extremely mad at her now and have withdraw her support and insist I cut of with her entirely .

I understand her, she has been very understanding, supportive and always fighting for them even without knowing them or them knowing her.

I feel so bad for putting her in that position.
That becomes a very messy situation for me now becus I cant afford to ruin my relationship / marriage because of a renowed liar.

But what will be of those kids if I hands off them keep am awake some times at night because I don't wanna be that father that abandon his kids but I cant afford to do anything which my woman do not approve or take her for granted in anyway.


Is obvious she is trying to blackmail me with the kids, But then am not even sure if they are mine ,and she have refused to release them because if she do I can be able to go for DNA. And know what next from there.

For a while now we have not talk, She called two weeks ago that the kids wanna talk to me obviously for school fees I turn it down and warn her against calling my line again ...

I don't know if that is right, I'm confused now.
My another worry now if those kids are mine is,
When it comes to Education we are at opposite end.

She don't attach importance to education but me I attach so much importance to it.
I can't trust her with the education of those kids.
Please I need advise on how to handle things.


Sorry to say this... You don't have sense at all.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by degamemaster(m): 1:04am On Dec 15, 2019
Cutehector:
What kind of long story is this

I smell a cooked up story.
A girl lied to you for years and your fiancee is in support for her even though you have not married her for these years.

Mehn I don't have strength bother myself over your story.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by degamemaster(m): 1:10am On Dec 15, 2019
SmellingAnus:
Even your woman no be better person .... See how she manipulate you with the following statement... " on the other hand my girl was supportive but kick against DNA claiming if it is done and they are not mine my feelings for the kids will change"...


It will take a genius to know that the above statement was a high level manipulation... A simple DNA would have saved you lots of stress but your woman was scared that if it comes out that you are their father, you will give your kids more attention than her and her potential kids for you... My brother, you are just in the midst of two manipulative women... I pity for you ...


The same thing in my mind when I read through that line.

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by BENEAMATA: 1:10am On Dec 15, 2019
eni4real:
There is no difference between Nairaland and Beer Parlour undecided
you see wetin i just talk about nlanders sharp mouth just now ? grin
Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by BENEAMATA: 1:18am On Dec 15, 2019
dominique:
Wicked people full this world o. I'm not talking about the woman that conned the op into fathering two children but the evil people that quoted this entire textbook.
kain imagine ? very wooked pipu .

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by cococandy(f): 1:28am On Dec 15, 2019
Can’t make heads or tail of this

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Re: Two-Month Relationship, My Worst Nightmare by Mursz: 1:29am On Dec 15, 2019
Which kain worgorworgor and disjointed story be this? It is either you are the father or not, what is all the plenty confusing talk.

Uncle please go and confirm if the kids are yours, stop playing kalokalo with their future. besides you’re bugging us here with this your story, its not taaing or making any sense.

Havent you heard bobosisky is back in town with a big ass? Now that is one story worth listening.

Unbelievable don't you think? Not ur story o! Bobosisky’s balloned bumbum

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