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Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by johnterry1: 10:37am On Jan 27, 2011 |
aminalib and dayokanu, i have a room for u guys.just in case u need condom,dont hesitate to ask me. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by spikedcylinder: 11:47am On Jan 27, 2011 |
Wow! A whole lot of fuckery on this thread. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Nobody: 6:46pm On Jan 27, 2011 |
^^ unless that school has a special course on Effective Techniques to Slapping women, I really don't see what this is doing here |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by dayokanu(m): 6:57pm On Jan 27, 2011 |
aminalib: I would accomodate you and he would have to find his way to the nearest Bust station in Oak Cliff. jennykadry: Ogini? Wetin i do ooo. I told you I am more than enough to go round. just see my secretary and book an appointment. I do doubles and even triples for a premium. johnterry1: We dont need a room, I can collapse the seat of my car and moreover, I just changed my shock absorber so we good |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by godsonadex: 2:31pm On Jan 28, 2011 |
@ poster, report him to your brother, let them have a male chat ahahahahahahahahahahah |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Nobody: 9:22am On Jan 29, 2011 |
some idiots need to head for the ads section. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by skyenoor: 5:13pm On Jan 29, 2011 |
Hallo Unsuregirl, regardless of the situation, your husband was way out of order. There is no justification for domestic violence, so don't feel that you got what you deserved. I would suggest you pick a perfect moment to have a heart-to-heart with your husband to try and iron out your differences. The hardest part of most marriages is the early days after the wedding. Hopefully, you two will weather the storm and get your young marriage on to a solid footing. Good luck for the future |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Nobody: 4:53am On Jan 30, 2011 |
johnterry1: @Poster, sorry to say sweet heart but you did provoke him. I think he was wrong for hitting you however you did push him to that limit. Obviously there is tension between you two that needs to be resolved. I am not sure what it is that you and your hubby were quarreling about but your leaving it out tells me that you'd rather keep it private. whether it is something that can be discussed or privately, it needs to be resolved and there must be some sort of agreement and communication btn you two in order for your marriage to work. Bottom line though, keep your hands to yourselves! |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Nobody: 9:44am On Jan 30, 2011 |
skyenoor: These are the kinds of sentiments that embolden some women to torture their husbands psychologically/emotionally/mentally/spiritually and expect him to 'deal with it'! After all, he shouldn't retaliate "regardless" of what she does!!!!! So she has the license to do whatever she likes to him, yet he has no right or justification to vent his frustration or retaliate? All these women should better wake up and smell the coffee. Its just like saying there's no justification for war - yet you keep bombarding a stronger country - expecting it not to retaliate. She who wants peace must facilitate such peace; you can't sow the wind and expect not to reap the whirlwind, "regardless", what nonsense. The earlier you realize that actions have consequences, and that one must learn to accept responsibility for one's actions and for the repercussions thereof, the better for ya'll. Smh. 1 Like |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Nobody: 2:02pm On Jan 30, 2011 |
skyenoor: guy, u need to start using your brain. ladies have come and corrected unsuregirl and she seems to be getting it. try putting yourself in the shoes of a man who is dead tired from work and all that matters to ur wife is sex vigil if you put ur brain to work, u will know the arm twisting came as the only way to stop her to hitting him. i mean, why will u twist anyone's arms when u can just load same person a thunderous slap? he definititely did not want to do it but she forced him. the woman is the violent one here, skyenoor u need to really start thinking with ur head. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by skyenoor: 1:09pm On Jan 31, 2011 |
guy, u need to start using your brain. Hallo, I just thought to remind you that it doesn't cost you anything to be civil and polite on public forums like this. Everyone may not share your view, but that does not give you the audacity to be downright rude. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by nike4luv(f): 3:31pm On Jan 31, 2011 |
Webdezzi, Could you please keep insults to yourself on this section. It will not be tolerated. Thank You. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by dayokanu(m): 8:44pm On Jan 31, 2011 |
skyenoor: But there is a justification for tapping him , hitting him and even kicking the guy who is dead tred and needs his sleep?. Isnt that domestic violence? Or Does the act have to come from the man to be categorized as domestic violence? Assuming the man was the one shaking and kicking like the woman was doing wont you still be screaming at the guy for abusing the wife, but since the woman did it, Its acceptable 1 Like |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Nobody: 6:16pm On Feb 01, 2011 |
nike4luv:yea, thanks. very annoying when we leave the truth behind and address irrelevant points. skyenoor:yea, many may not share my view but some views are obviously obvious. she typed up there, with her fingers that she stopped him from having a good rest by shaking him whenever he tries to grab one. then someone come here and said, you know what, you did the right thing. he has no right to prevent you from disturbing his sleep. OMG, i cant believe she said, "maybe we should part for a while so we understand what the marriage means, " dayokanu:thank u |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by oshaosha2014(m): 3:59am On Jan 07, 2015 |
I think the poster still thinks they are still dating. This is marriage and you will still learn a lot of things about your partner that you have not seen before. Another thing I see again is the issue of age. I think you have not processed the husband-and-wife thing very well. That man- your husband is your head now, whether you are age mate or not, you have to respect and worship him. You have to conform to his ways not him conforming to you. I am sure if he was 5yrs or more older than you you would understand what am saying. I want to believe he is a good and reasonable husband. If that is so, why not submit urself to him, and not try to judge or equate or look for whose right and wrong, and see how he will look at you so tenderly and treat you like the woman you are. Stop looking for right and wrong, that is being too static- marriage is a dynamic institution. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Nobody: 6:25am On Jan 07, 2015 |
You can always buy a intimacy gadget if you have a higher libido |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by FOREXMARTS: 10:38pm On Feb 15, 2015 |
unsuregirl: Lol u dey crase oh. All these talk of leaving marriage makes me puke, we all have buttons, know the wrong ones and stop pressing them, a man shouldn't hit a woman but damn u pushed him too far and he tried to control himself and you nag plus even the worst threatened him that his going out well end everything, u dey crase oh, stay away from telemundo and fix ur attitude. Use ur power to get him to screw u and not to order him like he is Kunta Kinte or some Mandingo honcho. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Pasqa: 1:45am On Feb 16, 2015 |
Outstrip:Wow..........am loving yhu already......you really gav him a piece of your mind |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by CoCoLav(f): 11:53am On Feb 16, 2015 |
Outstrip: Choi!!!! 1 Like |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by sexylemo: 12:24am On Feb 17, 2015 |
unsuregirl: Lobatan! |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Welepamilayo: 7:25am On Feb 17, 2015 |
If he slapped you over something like sex, biko when even more major life issues come, won't he throw punches? Pray and be wise in how you handle the matter. It will determine the course of marriage. Please note that prayer is not a substitute for taking action. A word is enough for the wise. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Welepamilayo: 7:30am On Feb 17, 2015 |
oshaosha2014: So marriage is a wife conforming to the ways of the husband because the husband is the head? Father Lord, I am truly afraid of marrying a Nigerian man. This ideologies of my people sef. A husband that wants to be treated like the head must love his wife like Christ loves the church. Last time I checked, Jesus does not condone domestic abuse. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Welepamilayo: 7:35am On Feb 17, 2015 |
Since they have said you provoked him, I say the next tome he provokes you, throw a couple of slaps his way. Gahhh! Utter nonsense. For a nation that is so obsessed with weddings, Nigeria has no clue about what a healthy marriage should look like. There are boundaries that should never be crossed by either party. Physical abuse is one of them. These are things that should have been discussed in marriage counseling. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Minyang(f): 9:19am On Feb 17, 2015 |
unsuregirl: Avoid the things u do that make him hit u. Use another approach like talking to him when u are calm and u sure he is as well. Sometimes u incorporate the silent treatment too. Best of luck. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by oshaosha2014(m): 12:16pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Welepamilayo: We are not the same, madam. A woman will do well in a marriage by conforming to the ways of her hubby(you wouldn't want a marriage where two pple are making the final decisions). And the husband, as u rightly said, shld love his wife as Christ loved the church and gave His life for it. As Christ is the head of the man so is the man the head of his wife, by extension, his children too. Christ expects us to follow His every directive, the same goes for the man in his family. The man is the ultimate authority in his home. Two pple don't occupy that position. And the man being a reasonable and God fearing man, loves his wife to a fault. You don't need to marry a Nigerian man. There are women who want them that way - not stripping away what makes them men because you don't like it. Go marry those men in the western countries where there laws have turned them to second class to their women. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by Welepamilayo: 2:05pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
oshaosha2014: See that is the problem right there. When men are go into marriage thinking "my wife must conform to my ways since I am the head" the marrriage becomes a dangerous and toxic place for the woman and the children. Why? The moment she does not do things his way, she will reap a consequences as determined by the man. This takes responsibility away from the husband and alas it is the woman's fault. We quickly forget that both entities come from different backgrounds so they will share differences and both must be committed to working out the best way for the differences to not clash. It does not make him less of a leader to acknowledge that, yes I do get to make the final decisions in the home but my opinions and ideologies are not the only ones that matter. You are quick to pounce in saying giving this respect to your wife is a western thing. No my friend, it is a Christ like behavior to do so. Now will there be times the husband will still make a decision that does not sit well with the wife, of course. However it is much easier to accept that when you know that both parties have actually weighed the options together. Women's minds truly needs to be transformed from this "less than" mentality. Your voice matters in your marriage. You deserve to be heard and respected while still honoring your husband. Your children will either thank you or curse at you for the kind of atmosphere you raise them in. |
Re: Husband Slapped Me Over An Argument by oshaosha2014(m): 10:08pm On Feb 17, 2015 |
Welepamilayo: You make the woman look like a victim because she has someone as her head. And the head, you make him look like one dictator, someone without feelings or empathy. Anyways, whether u believe it or not every woman naturally craves for that authority over her in the form of a husband. And the only way a family unit will run smoothly is when the man knows his place in the home, same with the woman. |
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