Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

sisisioge:
Hmmmm....when sex is off the table, the marriage is already one leg out.

Biko stay our of their business. Here is what will happen anyways...

1. He will stay focused at home for another few months until he meets a girl he likes, fall into her cookies jar, stay in there a happy man, come to terms with madam cookie hoarding, dont bother her at all until madam realises that its been 7 months without him pestering and decides to catch him. She catches him and all hell breaks.

2. He stays focused at home until December when he does his yearly reflection and decides he couldn't continue. He starts actively fighting with madam for the lamest reasons. They drag it until next year June before openly deciding that they do not love each other anymore. Everyone either goes their separate ways or they stay indoors as roomies. Poor children!

It is well...why would anyone marry someone that doesn't turn them on like a switch? May God help us.

pocohantas:


•Be sexy.
•Stop nagging.
•Wear red pant and bra.
•Maybe he is burdened financially (do you contribute to the home?)
•No matter what you do, please don’t cheat. Give him time, it happens to a lot of men.

Palema007:
Lee Min Ho! Lee Min Ho! Repeat after me, Lee Min Ho! .

To be frank it's scary how Men suggest side chick on this thread, it's like a normal thing which shouldn't be. It's very scary. They didn't even ask if she's having a medical condition or not.
And please stop this providing right mentality, it's annoying to say the least. One thing available for her to do? Like you married her for just that purpose? Sex? Haaaaaaaaa.

Abeg I've read enough nonsense for a night.

NiCurious:


Your friend could bring up the topic with his wife directly. He can tell her he is really missing sex. He can ask her if there is anything they can change to bring back their sex life. If there isn't, then he can bring up the topic of getting a girlfriend for sex. The wife might even prefer another guy for sex, herself. If the marriage itself is good, then they can talk about these things together. If they can't discuss their relationship matters frankly with each other, what sort of marriage is it?

Righteousness89:


Sir/Ma, I have Carefully noticed you on this Noble platform. I must say, Your Challenges are Spirtually Modulated and Orchestrated . But in The Name of JESUS, I Break the yoke! I Command Great Deliverance on you in the Name of JESUS..

I am Praying for you! Don't worry, you will be Fine.

Xavfra:


Why do you keep littering nairaland with trash.....

Go and break the yoke of corruption.....

abdullahi45:
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HarunaWest:
Advice him to divorce his wife.. Marriage is not by force. I don't know why young men of nowadays dey fvck up anyhow.
Get married to someone else and enjoy your life...

gasparpisciotta:
Your friend should talk to his wife about his feelings, if nothing changed he needs to look for other means of making himself happy.

No man should compromise his happiness for a woman.

Tunjingwu:
So I .

JudasNaCarrot:
Sex is a natural phenomenon put in place by the CREATOR not only for procreation but also pleasure.

Every living thing have this natural urge to "do that thing" so it is very important in life.
The denial of this natural condition is a SIN against nature and the CREATOR. A woman who denies her husband of that is not only wicked but a MURDERER.

Tell your friend to communicate more with his wife, make her to come out of her rock shell and be flexible. Spend time outside home like a holiday resort on weekends,barbecues etc.
If all these things doesn't work then the man should go ahead and find himself a booty that can do the job at will because NYASH PLENTY EVERYWHERE YOU GO LIKE MTN.


Meanwhile, we the members of vaseline crew of Nigeria (VCN) can never have this kind of problem.

Righteousness89:


Sir/Ma, I have Carefully noticed you on this Noble platform. I must say, Your Challenges are Spirtually Modulated and Orchestrated . But in The Name of JESUS, I Break the yoke! I Command Great Deliverance on you in the Name of JESUS..

I am Praying for you! Don't worry, you will be Fine.

yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

abdullahi45:


Sorry, are you suggesting polyamory? Modern fornication and adultery?

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

NiCurious:


Well, so many people have already sensibly suggested that the young man actually TALK to his wife to find out why she isn't interested in sex, and make positive changes--whether that's going out together, or having time away from the kids, or seeing a gynecologist to find out if there is a physical problem...all about communication. I side with TALKING with each other to find out what is amiss, and whether they are compatible in the long term, before the husband rushes to find a side chick.

But sometimes I like to push the discussion a bit...when it's late, and I should be doing other things. zzz Therefore I suggested that maybe the couple just aren't sexually compatible, but like each other and don't want to divorce. The husband is already thinking of adultery, in the form of a girlfriend. It follows that the wife might be thinking of getting a boyfriend. (I don't know how any of that is modern.) If this is a real story and my suggestion doesn't shake them up and get either "Over my dead body" or "yeah, that would work for me, thank you for being understanding, baby" out of either of them, nothing will.

ednut1:
After marriage and child birth some women have no desire for sex again. Nawa

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

abdullahi45:


I think a better idea as stated is for the husband to have a good and honest conversation with his wife. I mean, he needs to understand what is going on and use that information to improve his and her wife sexuality. It might be that the problem is with him, perhaps he is oblivious of what induces her wife for play. It is better for him to stop assuming and avoid remediating a problem with a greater one...

HarunaWest:
Advice him to divorce his wife.. Marriage is not by force. I don't know why young men of nowadays dey fvck up anyhow.
Get married to someone else and enjoy your life...

pwettybella:
His wife or your wife,,, It’s not right for you to create thread for something that does not concern you.

hashtagged:


He should get a side chick, she should continue forming with her old used puna