Hmmm..... he need to check on his wife. She may be sleeping with someone else.

let him buy rubber pz for self servicing.

Most marriages out there have one issues or the other. The fact you see the couples grinning and acting like no issue does not mean all is 100 percent well..

The case of your friends family is even very common. women tends to loose the steam for love making when kids start rolling in and this tests a lot of men. A case study is my buddy yinkas marriage, the wife had gone a year without sex with all plea falling on deaf ears. Now my guy is hooked up with a fine gurl he picked from the street and they have a beautiful kid to the chagrin of every one . Hes now bubbly and happy as he "knack" as he wills. The wife is now full of complains

I had my fair share but didn't go that lane so I don't support but whatever rocks your friends boat, allow him suit himself

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Paragon311:
Married couple staying together under same roof and not having regular sex life will bring in infidelity both ways.

Communication is the very key to keep your marriage on top notch....

He needs to Man up and be in charge via communication.

I don't know what communication is going solve in this case. This has nothing to do with lack of communication.

Possibly she is getting it( sex) outside from another man.

Whatever her reason for doing such is ( that's if it's true that she cheats on u with another guy), You shouldn't loose control of ur decisions as a man.

Ensure you do a DNA test of ur kids so u won't be fooled. After the test, If truly ur kids, good ; if not, disown.

Getting a side chick isn't a permanent solution especially if she's cheating on u. Hence, divorce her and marry the side chick at once

He should go and do paternity test on all his children.

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Dear OP Tunjingwu if you truly care about your friend, tell him to download and read this book "the rational male; positive masculinity by Rollo Tomassi.
You can also read it yourself.
What happened to your friends has been described by Rollo Tomassi as a man losing frame. I.e his wife is now in charge of the relationship and now dictates when to have sex with him.
Please encourage him to read the book.

Vagina is the greatest asset, it must always be put first.

yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

you spoke about moisturizing her libido with good money. And not finding marriage interesting in this part of the world. Need i remind you that marriage in the western world is all about partnership. Issues of money is contributed buy both man and the woman. Nigerian women will not treat their men the way western women do theirs. But want Nigerian men to treat them the way western men treat their women. Your entitlement mentality is something to worry about

Which kind heading be this. Are you paying Bill's because of sex?

yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

I bet you're single and still searching

I used to think my wife was wicked for saying no to sex after staying home with my kids due to covid am the one denying my wife sex(Joking).many of us men are wicked , how could someobe leave twins with a woman without help & come back to ask for sex? Children specialise in strength eaten , you get exhausted in no time; if the man wants to be having sex he shud get heis wife 2 maids.

Palema007:
Thank you for this! The other time I was discussing with a group of friends offline and told them this, the got defensive but it's the reality people face in marriages. I told them The husbands money is his money and not his wife's (interchangeablly) and the wife's body is her body not their bodies. If a husband stops his wife from using any of his properties,she can't do much to fight it, if a woman or man decides not to satisfy his or her partner sexually, you can't sue her or him for it. Contrary to narratives propagated as norms, they are just sweet talk people delude themselves with. The best anyone can do for him or herself is to get a partner who is willing and ready to share.

Reality is, it's no one's right but how much one is permitted to have.

'The wife's body is her body'
This is a very wrong way of thinking.
I hope you'll apply the same energy to the hubby when he finally decides to cheat.
After all,the husband's body is his body.


That being said,married men pls up your sex game and be nice.
The attention and care you give to side chick,give it to your wifey

Palema007:
Thank you for this! The other time I was discussing with a group of friends offline and told them this, the got defensive but it's the reality people face in marriages. I told them The husbands money is his money and not his wife's (interchangeablly) and the wife's body is her body not their bodies. If a husband stops his wife from using any of his properties,she can't do much to fight it, if a woman or man decides not to satisfy his or her partner sexually, you can't sue her or him for it. Contrary to narratives propagated as norms, they are just sweet talk people delude themselves with. The best anyone can do for him or herself is to get a partner who is willing and ready to share.

Reality is, it's no one's right but how much one is permitted to have.

'The wife's body is her body'
This is a very wrong way of thinking.
I hope you'll apply the same energy to the hubby when he finally decides to cheat.
After all,the husband's body is his body.


That being said,married men pls up your sex game and be nice.
The attention and care you give to side chick,give it to your wifey

Righteousness89:


Listen, TRUTH is always Bitter, Hurting and Annoying. But it Saves! It Heals ! It Liberates..

Until we are Called Home from the Earth, We cannot stop Putting out the TRUTH. No Matter who is annoyed, offended and angry, it does not Matter. We will put it out!

We are not Here to Give you what you wanna Hear, or What will make you Happy! We are not Comedians!

We are not Here to go with what the Multitude thinks or says! No! We are Here to Give you what God says!

We are Here to Give you What you The Gospel Truth about Life..

We are Here to Give you what Makes God Happy!

We are Here to Give you what will Provoke you to Repentance..

If you Will Follow and apply the Truth of the Gospel we put out Here, and you Miss Heaven whether in death or at Rapture, May your Blood be on My Head!

God almighty will continue to bless you for speaking the 2rut

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Op, I sorry to hear the sex worry of your friend. I can't even reason or pretend to be a gentleman in such deceitful union called marriage. That being said, I would suggest you tell me to rub one out more often(masturbate) if he finds a side chick(live hole) a bad option.

As for people like us, we don't see anything bad/evil in fvckin' another female or cheating as some of you people would call it.

It's all up the head though..
You friend annoying for allowing his live hole to treat him like.. Pussy ain't shit

Righteousness89:
[s]

Listen, TRUTH is always Bitter, Hurting and Annoying. But it Saves! It Heals ! It Liberates..

Until we are Called Home from the Earth, We cannot stop Putting out the TRUTH. No Matter who is annoyed, offended and angry, it does not Matter. We will put it out!

We are not Here to Give you what you wanna Hear, or What will make you Happy! We are not Comedians!

We are not Here to go with what the Multitude thinks or says! No! We are Here to Give you what God says!

We are Here to Give you What you The Gospel Truth about Life..

We are Here to Give you what Makes God Happy!

We are Here to Give you what will Provoke you to Repentance..

If you Will Follow and apply the Truth of the Gospel we put out Here, and you Miss Heaven whether in death or at Rapture, May your Blood be on My Head! [/s]

Once again,

Shut up!
You're just a NOISE MAKER.
What do you know about the truth?
What defines the truth?
That you believed in something or you accepted a story doesn't make it true or fact.

You know absolutely nothing about God.
You're only making assertions and assumptions from the stories you've been told and your reference story book-bible.
Remember that not everyone believes in it, even the Jews that are supposed to be number one believers. Also, there are many other religious books alive till date. God must be specifically protecting them for a reason...

Learn to always be reasonable and think out of the box.
THE WORLD DOESN'T RESOLVE AROUND YOU!

Righteousness89

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Op, I am sorry to hear the sex worry of your friend. I can't even reason or pretend to be a gentleman in such deceitful union called marriage. That being said, I would suggest you tell him to rub one out more often(masturbate) if he finds a side chick(live hole) a bad option.

As for people like us, we don't see anything bad/evil in fvckin' another female or cheating as some of you people would call it.

It's all up in the head punks...
Your friend is annoying for allowing his live hole to treat him like that..

Pussy ain't shit. Just fvck it.

Las las, if you get wife or girlfriend wey no dey suck your prick during sex, then I no see such man as man wey get complete woman..

Righteousness89:
Two Wrongs do not make a Right!

When there is an issue in the Home, you look for Solutions not for More issues and Problems...

When you have tried all you can and it didn't bring Solution, you try to Reach out Carefully to Matured, Experienced and Godly People around you. It could be Godly Counsellors, or Someone you know she listens to..

Many things Today, Creep into Homes in Different Names, Forms and Sizes. Some are physical, some are Spirtual! All it seeks for is to Destroy Homes.

Once the unity of the Home is Cracked, you Expose your Home to Confusion and Calamities. Don't break the Hedge.

So, Advice your Friend not to use His hands to Set His Home Ablaze...

You see the guy right Below my Summation, Pls ignore that Summation .

Many of them Here do not Understand what Marriage is. They think Marriage is a One Night Stand where you Hop in and hop out!

Bro. I am one of those who love your posts. But do you want to know the truth?

Such a behavior is common among so called Christian women. They starve their husbands of sex and still maintain that he can not go out to have sex because the bible says one man one wife. And that a Christian husband must not have side chicks.

They make their husbands cry at home and off they go to church to be raising up "holy hands" dancing shamelessly in front of the altar.

Many men come to church every Sunday with heavy hearts pretending all is well. Because Its a shame to complain "my wife denies me sex" so they suffer in silence and still having fear of not wanting to sin.

When the Bible says any man who can not hold himself should go and get married. They have gotten married but the fake daughters of God are denying them sex. Complaining every day. Some would even ask you "Na food?"

Any Christian lady with such an evil attitude reading this should know that, if the man eventually goes out to have sex or has a side chick, the man and the woman would bear the consequences both spiritually and health wise.

You are the cause of your own undoing and you can't escape the judgement from God. If you like, make the church your bedroom. And go to your G.O or Papa for prayers every day. Aside the punishment from God for pushing your husband into immorality, you even stand the chance of contacting Aids. And it wont be the fault of the man.
You contact Aids you contact it for fun.

Although, pushed into immorality by the wife, the man also might be punished by God. (might)

The Moslem lady knows her religion supports polygamy so, she behaves herself because sex denial or not the husband can decide to have another wife anytime he dims it fit.

Christian women, "my husband dares not" Yinmu.

You are deceiving yourselves. He will have side chicks and you will both suffer for it.

Nonsense and ingredients.

Alexaonfleek:
'The wife's body is her body'
This is a very wrong way of thinking.
I hope you'll apply the same energy to the hubby when he finally decides to cheat.
After all,the husband's body is his body.


That being said,married men pls up your sex game and be nice.
The attention and care you give to side chick,give it to your wifey

Girl, read with understanding if you have difficulty ask for help.

Chaii tins Sha get as e b, if the guy have tried alot to reason with his wife, maybe, just maybe his wife is cheating tho and feels having sex with her husband is cheating on her side dick, that thing can be confusing tho.

westlius:
The issue with all this tin is when ur woman/wife knows u dont womanize she will be using her body to make shakara
But if she knows babes dey around u, she will ever joke with sex with u.
Because she knows she has competitors

best comment ever

Ishilove:
Women, guard your homes diligently.

Simple!

runs girls are there na

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Belafonte:
Divorce should, as a matter of practicality, always be on the table. This is 2020 ffs

if you are going into marriage with this in mind, then you have no business getting married. You can as a matter of fact , have a male partner with whom you can cohabit and maybe have children with. This way its easy for you to move on when you are tired of the partnership.

Dusty men like free attention.. see them mentioning me upandan! I can’t see y’all!!!

WILLuKPquiet:



Bro. I am one of those who love you posts. But do you want to know the truth?

Such a behavior is common among so called Christian women. They starve their husbands of sex and still maintain that he can not go out to have sex because the bible says one man one wife.
They make their husbands cry at home and off they go to church to be raising up "holy hands" .dancing shamelessly in front of the altar.

Many men come to church every Sunday with heavy hearts pretending all is well.

But any Christian lady with such evil attitude reading this should know that if the man eventually goes out to have sex or has a side chick, the man and the woman would bear the consequence. In fact, aside the punishment for the wife for denying her husband sex from God, she could contact Aids and any other disease.
Though, pushed into immorality by the wife the man too might be punished by God.

Christian women are the most guilty of this evil. The Moslem lady knows her religion supports polygamy so, she behaves herself because sex denial or not the husband can decide to have another wife.

My take

Gbam u said it all, Bleep all this christian women.

pocohantas:


3. The girl’s bf would open an alternate account to wail. “What I saw in my gf of 3yrs phone, help, I can’t breathe.”

4. He will swallow one factory of red-pill and start disturbing us online.

5. The girl would realize there is a reason most divorce are initiated by women. She’ll get angry for the time wasted and move on with her life.

Hopefully it is not too late for every party to fix things. It is a vicious cycle.

1.The girl's bf would take a chill pill, move on and hustle for money.

2. The bf would hammer eventually and marry a younger and more beautiful girl.

3. The gf would eventually get dumped by the sugar daddy. She'll get "born again" and start running from one church to another in search of husband

4. She'll come and open a nairaland account to hustle for "abroad husband " and initially pretend to be a good girl on nairaland, following and sharing posts from perceived abroad based brothers and mostly visiting religion section

5. Then after sometime without success in hooking up "abroad husband ", they'll join the "feminists" crew and start disturbing us upandan about how men are scum.

It is really a vicious cycle.

@OP, Give him the same advice you’d give his wife if he was the one withholding sex. It’s a simple concept