westlius:
The issue with all this tin is when ur woman/wife knows u dont womanize she will be using her body to make shakara
But if she knows babes dey around u, she will ever joke with sex with u.
Because she knows she has competitors

mariahAngel:


Just...wow!
Emotional intelligence at its finest.

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

Fulaniherdmens:
Its not ur duty to advise him on such act. Let him decide on his own, ur duty is to make sure he doesn't get caught when summoned.

WinLABSstores:
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I can't find any sense in this though...

Hathor5:
Someone explain to me, at best OP, how bills and the wife's libido are connected.

yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

Tunjingwu:



You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Miradamian:
that's where u lost it.shake her bc she is soup? Na your type dey rape their wife.

yettymuse:


Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

What is d meaning of paying d bills?



You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!


So y then does d guy pay d bills if taking care of kids isn't easy? Is it easy to pay d bills? Women of time past took care of more than 7-10 children cooking with firewood, fetching water from stream & washing clothes with their hands



You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too..


Can this particular lady pay her bills?



If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!



Is it money u need b4 u have sex? If it's money, then that's prostitution.





This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world...plenty stress, no benefits no bag!


In which part of d world have u found marriage interesting? Pls share



Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!


As a Nigerian woman, are u romantic? What's ur definition of romance& how are Nigerian men unromantic?

yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

Palema007:
It is quite unfortunate though that the only solution most Men could come up with is to get a side chick, and someone was blaming women for failed marriage. So to every sex issues in marriage, having a girlfriend is the solution. Lol Nigerians marriages though. Whatever happens to sorting it out, visiting a sex therapist, being sex appealing, seeing porns together as couples, understanding your partner's needs and body etc.

Getting hitched to a Nigerian Man keeps getting scarier.

liberalchick:
Lol Nigerian men and “she denied me sex” the word “deny” already betrays what the problem is. If your attitude to marital sex is entitlement and your right to have it because you paid bride price, you’ve already failed. Your wife is a human being and women also love sex. When you think of marital sex as only your right to have and enjoy, it can never end well. Men that aren’t selfish lovers, men that their wife’s orgasm is equally as important as his, don’t open all these threads.

Jullima:


The saddest irony is the romance, care and attention they refuse to give the wife is what they will shower the side chick for her to give them sex. However, they think the wife does not deserve romance, care and attention because they have paid bride price so they expect sex on demand from the wife.

Righteousness89:


My Brother, the point you raised is true! But we can't do wrong because someone Misbehaves!

Marriage has its up and Down! That's why we Advice people to Genuinely seek God's Face before going into it..

For me, by God's Grace, I have a goal. My Goal is to Make Heaven ! I am ready to ignore anyone or anything that tries to stand on my path!

He Needs Solution! Solution is not in Adultery!

Righteousness89:


Listen, TRUTH is always Bitter, Hurting and Annoying. But it Saves! It Heals ! It Liberates..

Until we are Called Home from the Earth, We cannot stop Putting out the TRUTH. No Matter who is annoyed, offended and angry, it does not Matter. We will put it out!

We are not Here to Give you what you wanna Hear, or What will make you Happy! We are not Comedians!

We are not Here to go with what the Multitude thinks or says! No! We are Here to Give you what God says!

We are Here to Give you What you The Gospel Truth about Life..

We are Here to Give you what Makes God Happy!

We are Here to Give you what will Provoke you to Repentance..

If you Will Follow and apply the Truth of the Gospel we put out Here, and you Miss Heaven whether in death or at Rapture, May your Blood be on My Head!

Righteousness89:


My Brother, the point you raised is true! But we can't do wrong because someone Misbehaves!

Marriage has its up and Down! That's why we Advice people to Genuinely seek God's Face before going into it..

For me, by God's Grace, I have a goal. My Goal is to Make Heaven ! I am ready to ignore anyone or anything that tries to stand on my path!

He Needs Solution! Solution is not in Adultery!

Hathor5:


I am delighted a few men on this forum can be so sentiment-free and unbiased and give a piece of mature advice.
Your (future) wife is a lucky woman.

AfroKnight:


There’s nothing scary anywhere. You’re saying that cos you just want a reason to date that Korean guy, Lee something something.

Anyway, back to the topic.

If the man is providing for the house and the one thing that is available 24/7 for his wife to share with him is what she decides to hoard (not like it can expire or spoil o) then she is a wicked person and he should not be blamed for seeking alternatives even to the point of marrying a 2nd wife.

If she is upset let her adjust or leave the marriage. You can’t marry wife and somehow end up with flat mate. No way.

She cannot be using her body as bargaining chip. It’s wrong. It is manipulative and therefore WICKED.