Why waste your precious time, when the woman you marry with your hard earn money deny you of sex... Here in the north, we don't waste time, we marry a second wife and move on... Is she the only woman... Only women benefits more from marriage...

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

I see poor communication and expression.

Just paying bills doesn’t get a woman in the mood unless she’s a hoe. U need to stake some time and understand ur wife. Then work on the things she likes and how to make her less stressed out by other activities in her daily or weekly schedule.

If u must cheat on ur wife u must tell her 1st and get her blessings to go ahead. Yes it’s that crazy or bad. Lol

humblespirit:
I used to think my wife was wicked for saying no to sex after staying home with my kids due to covid am the one denying my wife sex(Joking).many of us men are wicked , how could someobe leave twins with a woman without help & come back to ask for sex? Children specialise in strength eaten , you get exhausted in no time; if the man wants to be having sex he shud get heis wife 2 maids.

What are u even saying..??. did he say the guy comes back everyday asking for sex.....?? He said for more than 60days the woman says no. Something is wrong somewhere.. she doesn’t even feel urge at all...

So for him to have sex at least once a week.. he needs to employ 2 maids.... if I slap u now .. they will say internet violence..... let me just leave u...

JudasNaCarrot:
Sex is a natural phenomenon put in place by the CREATOR not only for procreation but also pleasure.

Every living thing have this natural urge to "do that thing" so it is very important in life.
The denial of this natural condition is a SIN against nature and the CREATOR. A woman who denies her husband of that is not only wicked but a MURDERER.

Tell your friend to communicate more with his wife, make her to come out of her rock shell and be flexible. Spend time outside home like a holiday resort on weekends,barbecues etc.
If all these things doesn't work then the man should go ahead and find himself a booty that can do the job at will because NYASH PLENTY EVERYWHERE YOU GO LIKE MTN.


Meanwhile, we the members of vaseline crew of Nigeria (VCN) can never have this kind of problem.

Ur post is filled with sincerity. Op, show this to your friend

This life no balance at all... inside life... 75% matured men can testify this let not be deceived...no be today he don dey happen

Righteousness89:
Two Wrongs do not make a Right!

When there is an issue in the Home, you look for Solutions not for More issues and Problems...

When you have tried all you can and it didn't bring Solution, you try to Reach out Carefully to Matured, Experienced and Godly People around you. It could be Godly Counsellors, or Someone you know she listens to..

Many things Today, Creep into Homes in Different Names, Forms and Sizes. Some are physical, some are Spirtual! All it seeks for is to Destroy Homes.

Once the unity of the Home is Cracked, you Expose your Home to Confusion and Calamities. Don't break the Hedge.

So, Advice your Friend not to use His hands to Set His Home Ablaze...

You see the guy right Below my Summation, Pls ignore that Summation .

Many of them Here do not Understand what Marriage is. They think Marriage is a One Night Stand where you Hop in and hop out!

When this your option doesn't work,what do you advise him to do?

OMO! SEE STORY! NA WHO GO EMPLOY ME? I CAN FORM STORY BETTER THAN THE OP!

Perhaps, the woman have been sex mutilated.

too bad! after paying all the bills ur wife still deny you sex i just finish fuckkking my wife now after she use her money to prepare vegetable porridge for me my wife was having similar character but i cud not take it so i started dating outside and my wife was aware cos there was a day i was drunk my wife have the chance to screw my phone behold she was surprised that she was about loosing her husband she even saw my badoo chat with girls, hmmmmm no be person advice her again say make she change. try the samething my guy cos women like challenge,goodluck!

JudasNaCarrot:
Sex is a natural phenomenon put in place by the CREATOR not only for procreation but also pleasure.

Every living thing have this natural urge to "do that thing" so it is very important in life.
The denial of this natural condition is a SIN against nature and the CREATOR. A woman who denies her husband of that is not only wicked but a MURDERER.

Tell your friend to communicate more with his wife, make her to come out of her rock shell and be flexible. Spend time outside home like a holiday resort on weekends,barbecues etc.
If all these things doesn't work then the man should go ahead and find himself a booty that can do the job at will because NYASH PLENTY EVERYWHERE YOU GO LIKE MTN.


Meanwhile, we the members of vaseline crew of Nigeria (VCN) can never have this kind of problem.

VCN I hail una. Las Las na premature ejaculation una go face

buzorcharles:


VCN I hail una. Las Las na premature ejaculation una go face

you know dey sleep or u self na vaseline crew

Tell him to get himself a girlfriend. All these long talks are not good for anyone.

Righteousness89:


Sir/Ma, I have Carefully noticed you on this Noble platform. I must say, Your Challenges are Spirtually Modulated and Orchestrated . But in The Name of JESUS, I Break the yoke! I Command Great Deliverance on you in the Name of JESUS..

I am Praying for you! Don't worry, you will be Fine.

Oga you're too spiritual. It's her/his opinion. It's this thread that you'll be too active

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Which one is eating from goody bag to your "test" again?

It's men like you that are making these women feel like they are doing you a favour each time they part their legs for you to ease into.

Have you ever made women cry their eyes out in your bed by simply denying them sex? That's the power that penìs of yours wields. If they've got a honey pot, we've got a sugar stick with balls the size as those on the god Adonis dripping with sweet juicy nectar.
It's not my place to advise a man to cheat, but tell him he needs to learn to instill dread in his woman; there should never be any doubt in her mind whatsoever that her not living up to his expectations wouldn't come with consequences.

He might choose to forget, but never forgive. That's a divorceable offense for some of us sef, and you would leave my kids for me - go and be tired no more. In Lil Baby's words why waste your time on a woman who hasn't got you on the front of her mind?

your head dey there.

Fulaniherdmens:
Its not ur duty to advise him on such act. Let him decide on his own, ur duty is to make sure he doesn't get caught when summoned.

Samfloxin:

When this your option doesn't work,what do you advise him to do?

help me ask am maybe he never see evil woman or he know no say right from the beginning of john the baptist the kingdom of God suffered violence and the violence taketh it by force!

Tunjingwu:
So I met my childhood friend yesterday at lekki.
He is still the elegant young man he has always been.

We spoke at length.
Nothing much has changed about him.
He is still very enthusiastic about life. An Engineer who after working with a firm is now on his own. Things are not very rosy but he can still hold his own.

We started talking about family since we all are married abielt for few years.

Here is the gist.....

He is contemplating having a girlfriend.
His wife hardly have sex with him.
Sometimes it takes 2 months for them to make love once. Nothing appears to be the problem other than the wife complaints of tiredness and not being in the mood for almost every time.
They have two kids(twins).

He had come to tell me to either approve or disapprove his strong intention of keeping a lady by the side since he can afford it comfortably.
I felt for him.

I disuaded him though I know how it feels to stay without sex with your wife under the same roof for months.

You pay all the bills yet you don't eat from the goody bag to your test.

Since yesterday, I have been a little worried for him. I do not know whether to call him and advise him to go ahead with his plan but try and be careful.

It's a dicey situation especially when the wife is not ready to change.

The same thing your friend wants with his wife is the problem. Sex. Yes.

Let me give you a picture, do you know the feeling you have when u are about to ejaculate?
Just when your about to, imagine your woman says she's not having sex anymore. That intense fustration you have is what that girl feels anytime she has bad sex with your friend.
She would never tell him cause she wouldn't want to lower his self exteem and besides this is a forbidden topic, i only tell you because this is how i saved my marriage.

It's very easy to deal with such a wife whose derelict in her duties. To her knowledge get a babe far more beautiful than her & never ask her for sex again. Come home late every night even if u're not cheating. She will sit up & beg for forgiveness. Unless u don't hv self esteem as a man cos for her to treat u like this, she don see u finish be dat.

yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

Biko go hug Gorilla � then.

Guys

I have nothing to say just check profile

HarunaWest:
Advice him to divorce his wife.. Marriage is not by force. I don't know why young men of nowadays dey fvck up anyhow.
Get married to someone else and enjoy your life...

kudos to you

Jman06:
1.The girl's bf would take a chill pill, move on and hustle for money.

The post touch you sha.

yettymuse:
His sexual needs may be more than the bills he pays.
Does he take care of his woman’s needs?? Is she still working?? Does he spoil her? Is she COMFORTABLE??

You think it’s easy to take care of 2kids and a Bigger Baby! Y’all cut these women some slacks!

You think it’s just to pay bills? In this age, lots of women can conveniently pay bills too...

If you don’t Moisturize a woman’s libido with good money, care and attention...she goes completely dry!

This is why I don’t find marriage interesting..especially in this part of the world.. plenty stress, no benefits no bag!
... all you got is a miserly MRS title that can’t even open doors! Taaaaaaaah! with a mad society expecting so much from you!

Unromantic Nigerian Men! Mtchewwww!!!

Deluded fellow....

If na me I go first call family meeting
I will tell her she is forcing me have sex outside and when I do she would notice the change....

ojuu4u:
If ur tale is true, its duty of mother-inlaw and not you sir.


Do not let anybody labels you as the man who destroys his beautiful marriage in future, nowadays I hardly give advice for people.

Hellooo...

Mother Inlaw is a no no for me...

The guy can resolve this on his own without involving a 3rd party.

pocohantas:

The post touch you sha.

E no touch me wallahi

cococandy:
@OP, Give him the same advice you’d give his wife if he was the one withholding sex. It’s a simple concept

•Be sexy.
•Stop nagging.
•Wear red pant and bra.
•Maybe he is burdened financially (do you contribute to the home?)
•No matter what you do, please don’t cheat. Give him time, it happens to a lot of men.

I am scared already by reading this post.
oh God never you allow me marry such wife that will deny me sex

Palema007:
I do not support women hoarding sex, I don't think I have typed anything of such here, however other than the fact that some women do it intentionally,some don't. Some women lose their libidos, enthusiasm, confidence and interest in sex especially after child birth, some experience post natal shock/changes in their bodies. Now my problem is, some Men do not understand this they labeled it as hoarding and its very pitiable to read that some women believe this too. As you can see on this thread, a sarcastic comment from a supposed wife or mother. I wonder why Most Nigerians are very judgemental though. And why Nigerian Men hardly take interest in understanding their women's anatomies. Has the said husband ever tried to understand his wife and her reasons or try to help her be in the mood? Do this Men understand that, Men are always ready why Women need to be ready? Do they understand that Men have sex to ease stress, while Women have to ease stress to have Sex? Do this Men understand this difference? No. And their next available option? Get a girlfriend! Why get married in the first place if all you need is a intimacy gadget and not a wife?


And as far the post you quote, that is the reality. It is left to you to find person who is willing to share. It's not that difficult

Just...wow!
Emotional intelligence at its finest.

pocohantas:


•Be sexy.
•Stop nagging.
•Wear red pant and bra.
•Maybe he is burdened financially (do you contribute to the home?)
•No matter what you do, please don’t cheat. Give him time, it happens to a lot of men.

I wonder how the bolded will play out. Be sexy, go and have six packs, wear red boxers.

This is wickedness!

Getting side chick will be better if he can maturely handle it . It saves his marriage and keep the idiot wife where she belongs . The very first time my wife tried it , I went outside my marriage , she has changed though but I have not changed . I keep bleeping them ooo