maybe she dosnt love U
das why she dnt say it

What for me is important is what her actions tell you rather than what she says. A lot of girls say i love you and are dating more than 3 guys at the same time

yea!!

some girls do say i love you without meaning it,as far as your girl shows you love,i don't think you need her to say it.

why dont u just chalk the girl out and end this thread already

lol

GET OVER URSELF! So many Nigerian men that I have met abuse those 3 words. The majority of people on this topic that believe the girl does not love u because she has not said it are men! DO MEN KNOW WHAT GOES ON IN THE MIND OF  A WOMAN ALL THE TIME!  Trust me we are complex. The women have given u insight into a woman's mind and I agree with all of them:
1) She believes u will run away and feel 'she wants to tie u down instead of have fun with you' as soon as she utters those words too soon (even if u say it to a woman, alot of women believe it is to soon to hear for a guy to hear it back - as someone exemplified on this topic).
2) She believes u only want to know how much control u have over her heart so u can start messing around with/on her.
3) She really, really likes you and feels she may love you but is not 100% sure and most women even if they are 99.9999999999% sure they will not say 'i love u' it has to be 100% (more self). Unlike alot of men who seem to abuse the word at times either to gain control of the woman or just to satsify them by telling them what they think women want to hear.

PLEASE NOTE: to me it is very annoying when guys tell me they love me after a short period of time, it is almost like an insult to me - like they think i am stupid enough to believe you can love me after a week! I know this sounds strange but trust me i am not alone in this thought.

4) oh yes another point is she may not love or even like u at all! lol - i don't believe this i think most women grow to love men even if not at first which is why they stick with a man they like very much but don't love. Women who stay with a guy they don't like at all do so for money, companionship etc and u must be able to tell this!

KEEP UR HEAD UP OL' BOY AND JUS' BE PATIENT! OK?

OYA I HAV REPEATED WHAT EVERY1 HAS ALREADY SAID THIS CASE WAS CLOSED A LONG TIME AGO ABI?

i agree with ell77,love is a strong feeling that shouldn't be thrown around just like that.maybe your girlfriend is still trying to identify her feelings for you.the good thing about her not uttering the three words is that when she finally says it,she means it.be patient dear,

@ poster
the fact that she doesnt say i love u shouldnt be ur main concern but how she shows her feelings 2 u, take guys 4 example most can say i love you on first dates when we all know its not true , pls concentrate on other tell tale signs of love, someone like me, i can say anything 2 get wat i want, but i try 2 avoid i love u cos its being misused over time, cheers

Some kind threads for dis Nairaland wey no dey gree die ebe wa wome o!!!

No matter how we paint a pot's butt, its still gonna be black.

Sayn it out really matters for the guy, hence he posted it, remember, diff strokes 4 diff peeps.

Methinks, da girl should say it and quit being such as a$$

so this thread is still alive; cant he just get it;

THE GIRL DONT LOVE U MAN!!!!!

If your girl never say she Love's you,Then Make her to say It one days,I Think she has never found True Love,or maybe someone she Love has HURT her before in the past,so the word Love does Not sound any meaning to her anymore,Did she greet you In the morning,afternoon or evening when she see you? If she does then you are the One to make the Love happen,How does she feel when she see you around? How is the Mood when you are In Bed with her? Does she respond with a smile when you are telling her a Joke? Did she like going out with you to public places? Like the resturant,meeting,clubs bars,and Gardens?

Has she ever told you about her Love life? did you ask her?

Did she call on you,over the phone if you did not call her? Is she safe with you? Think about all this and You know what You need done.


Well i want you to do what you have never done before to her, and make sure say U cherish her wel well,You know women like men that has time with them? Care about them,cherish them,and lot more,Be more concern about your girl,Show her feeling of Love,which she is lacking right Now,You know the feeling is so strong,and maybe her feeling is No strong for you right now,you might have the feeling for her,But she dont have it for you,so the ball is In Your court,if you play your card well,the girl will shout and say she love you more.

mayb she's not just used to it.

try n orientate her n c if it will work.

news flash .she doesnt love u, common sense, any other crap is bull

i tire 4 dis ur topic sef

it's just like u r a wicked guy coz u appear to deliberately wan waste our precious time here,

which kind rubbish talk b dis?

She probably dosent know how 2 say it

be bothered about feeling loved and not hearing it, her type is the real people type those that know the meaning of love and not the sound be reallllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllSSSSSsss

teach her hw to say wat u want,is it only on bed ur teach

Do you want her to lie to you? He who feels it knows it.

Anyway, there are many ways of saying it without using the 8 letter word. If for instance she says: "why cant i just take my mind off you for a minute", she has said a lot about her feelings for you. So watch out guy, there are a thousand and one way of saying I love u. Even you can say it with action.

THERE ARE TOO MANY WAYS OTHER WAYS TO SAY 'I LOVE YOU' WITHOUT USING THE SAME EXACT WORD: I,LOVE,YOU.

THATS HOW I C IT.

I hate saying I love you either. But women, whom by default often need constant re-assurance, need to hear it all the time. The danger in saying it for me is the more I tend to say it, the less the words mean to me. I may ultimately stop feeling the words and say them for routine (and the girl's) sakes. I try to emphasize this to girls I've been with but they nonetheless demand I say it all the time. Oftentimes with disastrous consequences.

My point? If she doesn't say it, does she show it? If she shows it, it's ok (if I were you but I'm not, am I?). Some people are uncomfortable saying or doing certain (not all) things. Especially the reserved or shy types. Else, take time to have a heart-to-heart talk and be prepared to take the high-road should things not work out the way which suits you jointly.

But do have a talk with her about it if you feel so badly about it. Airing it on Nairaland isn't likely to guarantee you happiness nor the answers you seek. You may actually get misled or be spited. The best you get are personal views, opinion and advise. Like mine.

Most women would say "I love you" if they do knowing that it is one of the expressions of love. Any one can show love (even your mom) but as long as you feel loved by her, then you can take it for all its worth.


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not even once? that is weird

Hmmmmm, maybe cos she doesnt, did you ever think of that?

Some pple are not using their senses here, its a simple thing, @ poster, am sure u know if ur gurl loves u or not by the way she acts and all dat, if she does, then not saying I love u is not a big deal, my gurlfriend finds it hard to say it even though I know she loves me. Most gurl feel its a degrading phrase to utter cos they are scared their men would take them for granted, and some just feel too preemptively overwhelmed by what the outcome of the phrase might be on them either by the way its being pronounced, or the judgment thereafter. Lastly, I think if you really just want to hear her say it regardless of the fact that you know she loves u, just tell her that U know she loves u, but u did be very happy for her to say it, even its for once.

The bitter truth is that it's really wierd if she hasn't mentioned it not even once cause i'm sure there have been moments when some sort of chemistry could have sparked up between both parties. And she didn't mention it even at that period in time

Ladies are that emotional not like men who can hold on to their true feelings without a soul knowing what runs through thier minds. lol

As for "love in africa", it sure does exist if you're true to yourself and look in the right places

Oboy dont be disturbed jare, Love can't be hidden, if its there it is, if its not its always hard to fake it.
Ask her if she doesnt give you a genuine reason or says it for like 2 days then go back to the old self,oboy then forget all the love thing and just take her for what she takes you for while you find someone who will call you almost every five minutes, when she wakes and about to sleep to remind you of her endless love.

Do not be distracted poster, alot of them on here are saying they doubt her love 4 u, since u know ur gurl, if by her acts u know she loves u, dnt be bothered by her not saying I LOVE U, If u just feel like hearing her say that, tell her that u would love to hear her say it, she'll do it i swear, even if its just for once. Nairaland don repair and destroy alot of relationships. so be wise!!

i Think your girlfriend loves you, may be she is shy to say that or she probably feels too big to say that.

her not saying it doesn't mean she doesnt feel it

and sadly doesn't mean she does


take comfort in the fact that you arent being lied to

Really really weird.
She simply does not believe in love.