Adebisi33:

I really don't know what to do.  I've just turned 40 and I'm desperate to settle down and start a family of my own.

I'm attractive, I have a masters degree, my own house, and a great career but I can't find a nice man.  I don't go to clubs and bars, and only meet white men at work, and I don't find them attractive at all. 

My aunt suggested that I go to Nigeria to find a husband. She says there are a lot of men who would love to get a British Passport (I was born in England).  I don't want to do this, because I don't think that's a good basis for starting a relationship.

A lot of friends have suggested that I'm too fussy, but my father says that a woman should marry a man who is equal or better than her. 

All I am looking for is a man who is single, intelligent, honest and hardworking.  I worry that these kinds of men are already married, or if they are single, they want to settle down with younger women.

In case you're wondering why I didn't get married before, I've been looking for a relationship since I was 22, but no black men that I met who met my criteria (single, intelligent, honest and hardworking) were interested in me.  They all seemed to be taken.

What should I do?

Thanks

Goldieluks:

How long have you been following your father's advise for?20 years,30?

tpia@:

sounds fishy.

how can someone say they couldnt find a mate in 18 years, when you're surrounded by people.

were you in jail?

toba:

Me too im still single at 30

Goldieluks:

You waited too long.

boobyman:

why not go to church,attend singles conference,socialise and above all pray to GOD.Dont give up

MrPrsdent:

F A K E thread

smh

My aunt suggested that I go to Nigeria to find a husband.  She says there are a lot of men who would love to get a British Passport (I was born in England).  I don't want to do this, because I don't think that's a good basis for starting a relationship.

In case you're wondering why I didn't get married before, I've been looking for a relationship since I was 22, but no black men that I met who met my criteria (single, intelligent, honest and hardworking) were interested in me.  

2buff:

Most of you are replying from naija, and so can't fully understand what the OP is allegedly going thru, if this is indeed a genuine problem.

As OP said, she's surrounded by whitefolk, and might not want to deal with that complication. So she's seeking a nigerian. Not everyone can handle the complications that interracial relationships bring up. I know what it feels like during the time I was only looking for naija girls to date and found no good one around worth the time as you're surrounded predominantly by other races. Got nothing to do with anyone being in jail for 18 years

Only time I would wonder is if she was actually in Naija where same-race men full ground and still having this issue.
Also OP, looks aside, do u have children?  

toba:

Poster in my own case its kinda weird. my cousin thats older than me with 3 yrs is still single, my elder bro 2yrs old is still single. here since we are guys no one bloody care. again we are enjoying the bachelors life

Adebisi33:

Thank you for GETTING my problem.   At university I was the ONLY black person on my course.  At work, I'm the ONLY black person around.  It's so difficult to meet black men in my day to day life!

I don't have children, because I wanted to wait until I was married before getting pregnant.

MrPrsdent:

F A K E thread

smh

tpia@:

^^that's not necessary, so plz keep your problems to yourself.


why the personal attacks, or maybe you're the op.

not funny, and your sense of humour is very bad.

stick to the topic of the thread.

MrPrsdent:

F A K E thread

smh

r231:

for guys its cool

for woman. . . . nahhhh

who wan marry 40yr old lady except if she is adelebo

or she fine sha. . . . apart from dat she don pass her sell by date



so are you saying that you dont go out at all

i can understand the only black on the course. . . . but are u the only BLACK in d whole uni too

5stardude:

No humor meant, Why are you hurting?