tpia@:

the thread isnt about you and your problems, so just shut your trap if you have nothing to contribute.

thanks.

tpia@:

you're being too picky.

weird that in 18 years you didnt find a black man who met your criteria. It simply doesnt happen that way.

in any case, to cut a long story short, i'd suggest you either try dating sites or go to nigeria like your aunt said.

also, if anyone is interested in you, who isnt nigerian, you might give them a try?

i also suspect you only feel comfortable around men who are not single, or you dont really want to get married.

sexkillz:

Toba, are you this GULLIBLE? SMDH!

tpia@:

the thread isnt about you and your problems, so just shut your trap if you have nothing to contribute.

thanks.

Tosinville:

OP, u talk as if you're the only black living in that state/country and u find it hard to see a man that meet up to your criteria? Oops! u are so ful of your damn self.

40yrs old? eh! thats above expiring date for many men.

Spiritual Husband is really tormenting your life.

Lastly, when u come over to Nigeria don't forget to visit the nearest CCC 4 remedy.

Adebisi33:

I really don't know what to do.  I've just turned 40 and I'm desperate to settle down and start a family of my own.

I'm attractive, I have a masters degree, my own house, and a great career but I can't find a nice man.  I don't go to clubs and bars, and only meet white men at work, and I don't find them attractive at all. 

My aunt suggested that I go to Nigeria to find a husband.  She says there are a lot of men who would love to get a British Passport (I was born in England).  I don't want to do this, because I don't think that's a good basis for starting a relationship.

A lot of friends have suggested that I'm too fussy, but my father says that a woman should marry a man who is equal or better than her. 

All I am looking for is a man who is single, intelligent, honest and hardworking.  I worry that these kinds of men are already married, or if they are single, they want to settle down with younger women.

In case you're wondering why I didn't get married before, I've been looking for a relationship since I was 22, but no black men that I met who met my criteria (single, intelligent, honest and hardworking) were interested in me.  They all seemed to be taken.

What should I do?

Thanks

Adebisi33:

I really appreciate your feedback, but what part of my "single, intelligent, honest and hardworking" criteria is asking too much?  I don't want to date a married man,

Adebisi33:

, I have tried dating unintelligent men and it's been awful for both of us, and I don't do well with dishonest or lazy people.

Adebisi33:


My aunt was suggesting that I go to Nigeria and make an arrangement with a man who was prepared to marry me in exchange for getting a British passport.  I felt really uncomfortable about that.  It felt like[b] "buying" or "bribing" a husband.[/b]

I have tried dating unintelligent men and it's been awful for both of us, and I don't do well with dishonest or lazy people.

claremont:

She will definitely NOT show you pics because this thread is "MOD-inspired"!

tpia@:

the thread isnt about you and your problems, so just shut your trap if you have nothing to contribute.

thanks.

coogar:

what part of england do you stay?
you mean you have been looking for a relationship for 18 yrs?
phew! i could help but 40?? can we see your pics for a start?

r231:

the part dat doesn't have BLACK PPLE

boobyman:

why not go to church,attend singles conference,socialise and above all pray to GOD.Dont give up

r231:

^^^^^^hahahaha

well she don pass her SELL BY DATE

Tosinville:

OP, u talk as if you're the only black living in that state/country and u find it hard to see a man that meet up to your criteria? Oops! u are so ful of your damn self.

40yrs old? eh! thats above expiring date for many men.

Spiritual Husband is really tormenting your life.

Lastly, when u come over to Nigeria don't forget to visit the nearest CCC 4 remedy.

coogar:

bloody pessimist!

don't mind him, tpia.
if anyone insults you again, let me know.
i will curse all of them with the 10 plagues of egypt.

coogar:

bloody pessimist!

claremont:

Ok then, let me be an optimist just this once and ask the OP to;

1. The OP should show us (especially Coogar) a sneak preview of what she looks like.

2. Let the OP tell us where she lives in England in which she claims that Black people are scanty.

The absence of these information will lead us to believe that this is just another tales-by-moonlight story.

r231:

Celestial Church of Christ  (CCC)

Ijo Mimo ti Christi lati orun wa

toba:

CCC celestial church of christ

r231:

Celestial Church of Christ  (CCC)

Ijo Mimo ti Christi lati orun wa

tpia@:

if you get a good man who isnt intelligent, [dont know if thats an oxymoron], then you'd need to adjust your own attitude and not come across as snobbish, arrogant or snotty.

Adebisi33:

You're right. It's hard to be humble in the kind of work I do, and I do come across as arrogant sometimes. This is something I need to work on.

Tosinville:

Coogar
Hey! wat do you know? you are nothing but a cougar ofcos, we're talking about churches that can deliver you from spiritual husband in 3days you're says shitt.

tpia@:

there are many single ladies approaching or above 40.

think i mentioned this on another thread which i cant recall right now.

as women get more comfortable, or have improved financial status, the percentage of the ones delaying marriage tends to rise, leading to an increase in the number of singles.

toba:

Coogar i can give u 5 diff Cele parishes that i have attended in London when i was still a member. Hartons, whitecity, Christ castle/elephant and castle are all there in London

coogar:

the only reason i would like to believe the original poster is there are actually many women in her shoes. although the ones i know of are in their late 20s to their mid 30s. never ever heard of a 40 yr old single and searching. . . . .this would be a first but then shyte happens.

she could be genuine or she could be  

celestial church of christ dey united kingdom?
i am yet to see white garments with no foot wear in this zone or maybe i have never stayed where they dwell.

toba:

u be cele too?

Tosinville:

OP, pls don't go to CCC in britain o!, they're not as active as those ones in Nigeria in terms of casting spiritual husband out of your life. Shekinah!

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
look within yourself as the problem is right there: YOU!!!!!

as they say, the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.
after 10yrs, you should have accepted that your "technique"/approach wasnt working and should have made changes, why didnt you? searching for 18yrs, oh lawd!!!

MRbrownJAY:

also what is important in your life?! if job is your priority in life then accept that, where you live, there may not be too many brothas and thus lower your chances of getting the right guy. if you could, you should have moved to a place where there is more good intelligent single black men aka AFRICA/CARIBEAN etc!!!!

also, you gotta adapt to your surroundings, so dating whites (if thats the only available specimens that are out there) should be on the menu. . . . . . .you could also try Asians etc

its not too late, you just need to figure out WHAT IS MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU RIGHT NOW!