SIRTee15:
It's like Nigerian men are bigger hypocrites than their women counterpart. U want to eat your cake but still have it. U want women to date any Kain man all because of love but what will they get in return then? It's not like u will be less demanding of her body if she doesn't obtain from u. No, instead u would still want to mount her and release your urge on her any time she visits u.
This is Africa, and relationship is meant to meet a need for both parties. That's the way it is. We African men demand our ladies to be submissive, loyal, reject feminism, be well domesticated, cook and clean for us; So what will be their reward for all the burden we placed on them. What is their gain. It's not even like there's a guarantee u will marry her if she does all above for u. You will still dump her over some silly excuse. All you just want to use someone's daughter, dump her when u tired and move to the next. U are very selfish and lacks sense.
If u have sense , u will understand Relationship in africa is meant to be a test of your strength and ability to know if u man enough to put a woman in your house as a wife and build a family with her. If u lamenting in relationship, what would now happen in marriage ? [b]Your greed and covetousness would not allow u go for women who are more financially capable of managing, no it's those ones that will sap your strength and leave u penniless that u lusting after. [/b]U better go work hard and make money, the only woman born to understand your poverty is your mother, not someone else daughter.

Slaveman343:
So the summary of your lamentation is that women should reduce their standards. And why should they? Have you reduced your own standards?





No woman is placing outrageous demands on you. It's biology at work in you. Stop fighting your instincts. They are just reminding you of what you are, the Man.

Let women breathe

Kobojunkie:
A 1000 high-fives for this submission abeg!

The leech has the nerves to cast women are leeches pretending men are forced into the relationships they continue to choose for their selves.

Casham:
■ I love this piece. Lets be honest though: this attitude is already deeply ingrained in our culture.
It is not just about women becoming leeches and parasites; It is more about them simply doing what they are programmed to do. Our culture is one that makes us feel, from a young age that "you are the man", so you should prove yourself. When we have a culture that seem to value male children above female,this is what you get. When you have a culture that is purely materialistic where you have to first impress your would-be in-laws first before they allow you to carry the responsibility of their daughter; this is what you get.
■ We have a culture that seem to be saying "a man have to cross the seven seas and seven mountains first before he is worthy, but a woman only needs to have an arse, or even just a puccy and learn to cook to be everything a man needs. This made some men to only go for the puccy and then they are willing to do anything just to prove that they are men.
■ I will always say this and most people will not agree with me: women are not meant to be paid for. You only pay for what you buy, so this foolish idea of a brideprice should be stopped first. If I paid for You, then I bought you and You are my property. period.

Magnoliaa:


So, EQUALITY?!

Haha, I loveeee this!


Like this what we've been saying for ages o. This is what we've been saying for ages. People aren't smarter or more intelligent than another on the basis of their sex.

Thank you!

And let's take it a notch further then to agree that the concept of headship in marriage is bollocks since a man is no more better at being sensible or using common sense, etc., than a woman is.

advanceDNA:


The concept of automatic head in marriage in marriage is biblically driven....if u are religious and want to follow it....it's left to you....... It's works for some ..it doesn't in homes where one partner takes advantage of the other person....

Weda there is an appointed head by bible or not.....leadership in marriage naturally and seamlessly sorts itself out over time... Sometimes it's the partner that makes most money that calls the shot....sometimes, it's the person that knows how to keep things together... And sometimes, sadly it's the bully.

Bankowner:
A man's ego is bruised when a woman continuously rejects taking his money because she has hers. When she does take or ask, she's asking for too much. It is within the woman's right to ask for or take money from her man, what should be the key word is moderation.

Bankowner:
A man's ego is bruised when a woman continuously rejects taking his money because she has hers. When she does take or ask, she's asking for too much. It is within the woman's right to ask for or take money from her man, what should be the key word is moderation.

ednut1:
If you start feeding wild animals like lion, hyenas , tiger etc . They will lose their ability to hunt. Nigerian men were the one that spoilt the women with money till they became entitled. If you hammer today you will still use your money to snatch another man babe. Why blaming the women

Nigerian men have also carried that useless culture outside and using money to entice women in other african countries. A female friend from mali/france was doing uber food delivery with her bike in Toronto part time. Guess what Nigerian men she has met are telling her. That a fine babe like her should not be doing such hustle, she should come date them so they can take care of her.

1Sharon:


So biology is no longer relevant?

Since you acknowledge that society has changed since primitive times, why are Nigerian men complaining that Nigerian women are becoming more feminist?

Persephone1:
True!

Sometimes I wonder where these narratives come from

Magnoliaa:
Kobo has joined the chat.

1Sharon:
If a man doesn't believe in assisting women financially, that's fine.

But don't be a hypocrite and expect her to cook and clean for you when she visits.

Casham:
I love this piece.
Lets be honest though: this attitude is already deeply ingrained in our culture.
It is not just about women becoming leeches and parasites; It is more about them
simply doing what they are programmed to do. Our culture is one that makes us feel,
from a young age that "you are the man", so you should prove yourself. When we have
a culture that seem to value male children above female,this is what you get. When you
have a culture that is purely materialistic where you have to first impress your would-be in-laws
first before they allow you to carry the responsibility of their daughter; this is what you get.

We have a culture that seem to be saying "a man have to cross the seven seas and seven mountains first
before he is worthy, but a woman only needs to have an arse, or even just a puccy and learn to cook to be
everything a man needs. This made some men to only go for the puccy and then they are willing to do anything
just to prove that they are men.
I will always say this and most people will not agree with me: women are not meant to be paid for. You only pay for what you buy, so this foolish idea of a brideprice should be stopped first. If I paid for You, then I bought you and You are my property. period.

luminouz:

Rubbish mentality!!!

When will you grow up, bayi?

In essence, you just told everyone that money = love.
Yet you will get angry and cry when naija men choose women from Africa or the West. Can you imagine a SA or Tanzanian babe saying this? Or an American girl? Or Filipino? Why would any man who experienced such genuine relationship from this women EVER choose you They won't, because everything is about MONEY to you greedy lots!!!

You go tey for shelf I swear!!! Collect Shiloh form quick oh.

tollyboy5:

Best comment sofar. Many men grew up with that culture and when economy hit hard on them they demand more from the ladies. These set of men are confused men

tollyboy5:

Sharing expenses comes after all that glitters are not gold. After four kids you just have to share expenses because you don pass your prime.

tollyboy5:

She's right. Before a lady could come to your house to clean the place and cook for you, you must have showed her that you're the boss through some ways of which financial assistance is part of it.

luminouz:
Rubbish mentality!!! When will you grow up, bayi? In essence, you just told everyone that money = love.

luminouz:

Mtchewwww...you no just get sense at all. All your comments have been about supporting nonsense and kowtowing to get pussy on here. No be you rush back to collect one babe's number because you had no frame? You go suffer for this life oh, if you no wise.

Persephone1:
Does this makes sense to you?

Kobojunkie:
What exactly is this "love" you refer to? Define it for us so we can all be on the same page here.

tollyboy5:

I rush collect the number because simp like you go elevate and give her undue net worth. At least make i run my own parol oluwa dey my back

luminouz:

Rubbish mentality!!!
In essence, you just told everyone that money = love.
You go tey for shelf I swear!!! Collect Shiloh form quick oh.

tollyboy5:

My guy, try dey understand reality. The era wey two young people go love each other support each other na the days of my grandmother (RIP).
Now know this and know peace, a man is loved for what he can offer to a lady. Men don't get undue love from ladies if they're not your mother or sister or aunt.
I don't have problem with such mentality if the lady in question is someone that can feed herself and contribute to herself not those jobless ones living off peoples hustle.
Only a virtues woman deserve pampering not olosho and hookup retirees

Panda7:
You see many nigerians girls would never hustle with a guy, they are only after already made men.

Kobojunkie:
Why should they have need to hustle when the guys in question accept them as they are? You can go out there to fetch yourself a woman who has absolutely no hustle or desire to and then turn around to whine about it. Only imbe_ciles do that.

Magnoliaa:


2000 kisses and 5000 blessings to you or something that Klass always say.