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I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by play(f): 9:49am On Sep 20, 2007
am attracted to my boss.

i have been this job for years now, am year after year, my attraction for my boss depend. it really has nothing to do with his looks or inteligence. i dont no wat it is about him, but am crazy about him and ben crazy about him for years.
worst is his married. do you think i should let him no?
wat do i do?
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Cyclone5(m): 9:59am On Sep 20, 2007
Get yourself a guy, stick with the guy you have or start thinking straight!

Aint no good coming out of that scenario.
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by NaJaHaJe(f): 10:07am On Sep 20, 2007
He's married!

He is off limits. If you were his wife wud you be happy that there was another woman trying to take him away from you?

If you really like him you will understand, respect and appreciate the fact that he is taken.

There are many more men out there. Some even beta than your boss thats if you care to look carefully

Spruce up. You are a beautiful African woman. You can get any man you want. provided they are single and you understand that you have shame
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Easybaby(f): 10:26am On Sep 20, 2007
Date him or marry him undecided
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by sanrima(f): 10:33am On Sep 20, 2007
wat god has joined 2geder let no man put asunder, pls 4get about ur boss and the feelings u have 4 him cos theres no future 4 u there ok.
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by NaJaHaJe(f): 10:45am On Sep 20, 2007
Easybaby why na?
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by sylvao2000(m): 10:50am On Sep 20, 2007
@poster The day you tell him the day you loose your job, he is married are you alright women self why cant you get yourself a guy, office lover who knows as soon as you leave that office and get another job l am 100% sure you will fall in love again with the new boss

make you dey fall for old married man dey go, ashawooo
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Easybaby(f): 10:56am On Sep 20, 2007
NaJa HaJe:

Easybaby why na?

Can you imagine that?. she knew the man was married, hence, she still has feelings for him. tongue
Infact, she was looking for promotion undecided. It is lust not love tongue
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Ropie(m): 11:00am On Sep 20, 2007
Advice: Go for him, try ur luck gal.

Warning: Risky 2 ur job in case love gone soar.

Brand: Husband grabber.
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by zignorr(m): 11:06am On Sep 20, 2007
@easybaby . . . Really? wink
lol wink cheesy grin
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by NaJaHaJe(f): 11:07am On Sep 20, 2007
Easybaby:

Can you imagine that?. she knew the man was married, hence, she still has feelings for him. tongue
Infact, she was looking for promotion undecided. It is lust not love tongue


LMAO. . .
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by theffanyi(m): 11:13am On Sep 20, 2007
ur a FOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOL tongue
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Seun(m): 11:17am On Sep 20, 2007
i have been this job for years now,
Obviously you need a new job.

am year after year, my attraction for my boss deepens.
Year after year, my attraction for Jessica Alba deepens. So what?

it really has nothing to do with his looks or intelligence.
i don't know what it is about him, but am crazy about him and been crazy about him for years.
He us ugly [/i]and [i]not smart yet you like him. How could this be? I don't know, maybe it's his money?

worst is his married. do you think i should let him no?
I think you need an unmarried boss. When you get married, he must not allow you to work outside!
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Ralvy(m): 11:26am On Sep 20, 2007
You need urgent attention . . .
There's no doubt you're completely mental angry
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by chukz4real(m): 11:32am On Sep 20, 2007
Easybaby:

Date him or marry him undecided

Even the Indian revolutionist, a non - Christian understood Christ' golden rule and gave it over to US president: Do to others what u want them to do to u.

so girl, b more careful with ur utterances for guys judges gals by their utterances!

and to Ms. Boss Admirer: U do not love ur boss, its CRUSH that is worrying u. I prefer u try and get to know his wife and be a family friend, if u have conscience, getting to knowing more about his family will remove that crush in u.

Think and Look b4 u leap!
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by spora(m): 11:34am On Sep 20, 2007
I can however conclude from how/what you write the level of your education. That you dont know the reason is a plain lie. You simply want his money and/or promotion.

If you like yourself, you will abide by the advice you have been offered here.
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Okeamu1(m): 11:41am On Sep 20, 2007
Actually what you are going through is common is a work place, think about this, you see him more often in a week than you actually spend time with your boyfriend or your husband. Thats how most formal relationships in work place turn informal and as long the attraction is there, it might lead to something more informal,

My advice for you though is not to fall into the trap because you will get fired eventually as most often the case. If you need a tool, I have a solid rock pistol b/w my legs, will keep you warm all day and night smiley
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by anney(f): 11:42am On Sep 20, 2007
ask him out now !! better advice.mumu grin grin
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by aisha2(f): 11:52am On Sep 20, 2007
My sister, if it was some months ago, I would have replied differently but having gone through a somewhat similar experince, all i can say to you is that it is natural sometimes to feel attracted to someone especially if you see him everyday and he seems nice and caring and  maybe you are having relationship troubles.
However, now is the best time to use your head. Please do not get involved with a married man too many people will get hurt. Its hard but you need to please forget him, That is one of the worst things you can do to yourself as a chick.
Sometime ago, I had similar feelings for a guy and it was so strong but i had to use every ounce of strenght in me to resist the temptation of having any relationship with him, My sister I wont lie to you it was one of the hardest things I have done in my life but at the end of the day I am better off. We have a good and cordial relationship and now I have meet his wife she is so nice I would never have forgiveen myself if I had made her unhappy.
Please dont do it. Please
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Ralvy(m): 11:53am On Sep 20, 2007
Aight . . Aight . .Aight . . . cool

Enuf Bull poo . . . angry

Y'all shuld take it easy on diz lil'' mamie . . kiss
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by freelancer(m): 12:09pm On Sep 20, 2007
Girl. If you were his wife, how would you feel? If we all followed all the "love feelings" in our hearts, by now, there wouldn't be a steady relationship in this world. Start thinking with your head and not with whatever it is you've been using to think.
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by opokonwa(m): 12:14pm On Sep 20, 2007
Dear Play,

Dealing with a crush no be small thing o!

So I do not join in crucifying you because it is sooo easy to be judgemenal and to condemn others.

You were being sincere here and I guess everyone of us have experienced sth close to this.

My advice however is; "resist the devil ([color=#000099]in you) and he will flee from you[/color]".

It's not just that the act is bad, even evil, embarassed it's not just that you defile yourself, a married man and his wife (because the man will go back and sleep with his wife after you), it's not just that what goes around comes around, sad it's that you end up offending God. shocked shocked shocked
And you will pay for it. Definitely!

Kill the crush, gradually but firmly, for God's sake and your sake! Or take off!! shocked shocked shocked

Best of luck girl. smiley
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by oyinyechi(f): 12:32pm On Sep 20, 2007
THOU SHALL NOT JUDGE

My advice: If u think u cannot handle the crush u have 4 ur boss, swthrt look for another job. But I belive with the help of God u can handle whatsoever that comes. Dont give in to the devils devices.
May the Lord be your strength
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by opokonwa(m): 12:38pm On Sep 20, 2007
@ Onyinyechi

Nice response.

Very nice response.
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Soundmind(m): 12:38pm On Sep 20, 2007
@ aisha2 .
I wholley agree with you. Some ladies elsewhere are having the same problem. Your advice is timely. keep it up.
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by taibabie(f): 1:29pm On Sep 20, 2007
to you all who have condemed me, i have one thing to say to u, angry angry angry
he has no sin , should cast the first stone. wink
to all who have advised, thank you. grin
i had asked for advise not condemnation.
angryas for the gonzo, who judged me by my educational level, its evident how shallow u r. angry angry angry
i havent even told the man how i feel, i have not showed it in anyway.
haba!!!!!
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Seun(m): 1:31pm On Sep 20, 2007
@taibabie: I apologize on their behalf. But please, continue keeping your crush to yourself. wink
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by rubie(f): 2:06pm On Sep 20, 2007
THANK GOD YOU SAID YOUR BOSS IS MARRIED. SO I OBVIOUSLY DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING FALLING FOR HIM.

I think you really need to get a grip on yourself, before you fall deeper than you can go and find out that you are too wounded to be healed. I'll just tell you to get another job. And since you are even 25 or was it 26 I saw earlier, you are of a marriagable age, so why don't you get a guy who you love and loves you unconditionally and you guys can get married.   

But just incase you are not ready for marriage, why don't you ask GOD to help you with those uncontrollable emotions. Because I've gone through emotional disorder before, though it was not a married man but my friend that was involved, since I was not ready for any relationship of any sort, I had to ask God to control my uncontrollable emotions, and I can tell you that I'm doing fine by GOD's grace.

So I urge you to try GOD and don't try anything silly, ok.

All the best girl as you make your choice. But please whatever choice you make, don't make a wrong one. Cheers.
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by UNLEASHED(m): 2:16pm On Sep 20, 2007
Well, It's natural to feel attracted to someone but you need to get your mind off this, You knew he is married, You've got an MP3??
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by lawuyi(m): 2:20pm On Sep 20, 2007
don't know what's causing all d bruhaha

IT's a very simple matter.

The man is married abi??
Then there is NO ROAD there

If u cant resist then u'd better look for a new job cos i can guarantee u that if u try starting anything with him dat will definitely b d end result anyways!
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by sugarbabe(f): 2:28pm On Sep 20, 2007
My dear, am presently goin thru the same stuff. At least yours is even better, u,re not married but in mine own case am married, he,s married and we didnt just know how we got ourselves into this situation. It initially started as somethin friendly. then before we knew it, things just blew out of proportion. We both knew it wasnt right but we just couldnt help it. We finally came to our senses after my husband found out and my dear its been hell ever since. Each moment, i curse d day i met him. My marriage is almost ended and i keep wonderin wat ever got over me. Stuff like this happen from time to time but like aisha said my dear in things like this, use your head and never ur heart. and dont evr start somethin u cant finish.
Re: I'm Attracted To My Married Boss by Seun(m): 2:30pm On Sep 20, 2007
Hmmm, sugarbabe, I'm sure you would not have regretted it if you were not caught. undecided

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