Eyaaaaaa. I feel so sad for you. Forgive your brother because he's blood and nothing will ever change that. But dump the girl. It will never work! Sleeeping with your brother is so so wrong. She isn't worth your love and heart

Boy!
This is one of the most terrible things that could happen to a man.
I thought these things only happen in movies and novels.
I'm sorry bro, shit happens.

To begin with, there is definitely no way you can accept your ex-girlfriend back, the relationship is yesterday. It's totally over.

But I don't think avoiding your family  will solve this problem, this is something you must look straight in the eye and end the rubbish once and for all.

Leaving the house for a while is ok, so you can cool off and think right, lest you do something you'll regret for the rest of your life, but you can pick your parents' calls while you think of what to.

when you finally feel a little peace within you, you must call a family meeting and address this issue.

Your brother and your girlfriend were totally wrong, but your brother is still family and you must try to accept him back. It's going to take a while to love him again like a brother but this is something you will have to work on.
Subsequently, keep  your relationships and your brother apart, since this is not the first time. Make sure he never has anything to do with your subsequent relationship and well, no matter what, LIVE GOES ON.

Sorry Bro, Shit happens.

don,t blame your brother,the girl has the finial say when it come to sex.

she can either say yes or no.for the fact that she did it means she wanted it.

your brother can not force her .that i know for sure.let the girl be of your past

.move on with your life man that is the most important thing.for give your brother.
may by she seduced him.

My brother, as i was reading your story i was shedding tears because it reminds me of my own story that i keep repeating about my best friend snatching my boyfriend of 4 years. First and foremost i feel for you and i must say you have all the right in the world to be angry, you have the right to leave the house and not come back and ofcourse all the right in the world to break up with your girl.She even had the right to say they were gisting and she was bored and all that annoying crap. Am sorry but she is a LovePeddler, i mean if you must mess up, at least move very far away from your shadows.Can you just imagine?sleeping with your brother, its the height, am still shocked. Girls like this are the ones that make people label girls as bad. Am sure you know by now that no matter the amount of begging, you must never go back to her, you can forgive her but trust me things will never be the same again, especially with your brother around and all that, you will always remember the episode and remember you caught them live and direct so it is a memory that will alawys replay itself (as for my case it was text messages), brother i feel your pain.
Secondly, this might be hard but you have to forgive your brother and not allow the devil to come into your family in the form of a useless girl. I know it will be difficult but please go home, let your parents settle it, at least they have been calling you and begging. Please go to them , let them know your greviances and let there be a solution, trust me it will be hard but you have to do it, pity your parents because i know they will never want a rift between their sons.
Thirdly, i must blame you a little(i was blamed too),I understand your work thing o because its the same for me,i leave my house 5.30 am and get back by 8- 9pm, but most of the time, I and my fiance try and see everyday( though we leave close) and communication is the key, phone calls, texts and so on. we chat with yahoo messenger and do all that we can to keep in touch, weekends are for both of us, go to church on sundays together and after eat breakfast, then go out later. This might vary in your case but you just have to try hard. When God eventually sends you your own wife, Please try and apply some of this principles, no matter how small, i repeat communication is the key and with that thought of you calling on your girl's mind at any time , she will think hard before messing up. Surprisingly she did not pick her phone that day( but i guess it was God at work, to unravel her evil deed).Work is important and so is your happiness so please, next time just try harder and  i pray that God in his infinite mercies will send you a testimony like he has done for me and turn your sorrow into joy,mourning to gladness and by then you might even look back and thank your brother for chasing the girl out of your life to make way for a miracle wife(thats my testimony now and i give God all the glory).
Lastly take your time because i know you are hurt and need healing and don't do anything drastic but please listen to your parents, they love you guys and don't let all they have worked for in their lives go down the drain.
Brother once a gain i feel you,understand you and will be praying for you.
God is your strenght.

@poster,

They've all said it all, you sure do have to make forget it ever happened _{its gonna be hard but still} you have a life to leave, its a good thing it happened before you took her to the alter _{thats if you had any plans of that} else who know what you'll be telling us now _{how you murdered your brother maybe}God forbid and that is why he showed you who your "girlfriend" truely is.

A guy has to do what a Guy has to do, be smart and wise at the same time.

I n z e has spoken

@ Topic.

Please when next the shameless bi*tch come around to begg you, make sure you really embarrass her

As for your brother, don't you ever trust him again in your life even with your car!
"A person that can snatch one's woman can definately kill one"

Then please just move on with your life. Get some girls and beer.

@ aysomething.

Damn! why is your response that long? It was even longer than the poster's story!

shit happens ! Move on with your life ma Guy, wanna dies because of a woman u'd better wake up from your sleep

sillyboy:


@ aysomething.

Damn! why is your response that long? It was even longer than the poster's story!

My brother, no vex o.
The whole thing brought back memories for me and i was getting so emotional, so i let it out in words.

And u suggested beer and girls, warn yourself o, is that the solution?

@aysomthin

great talk girl.

My Brother the Lord is your strength.Go on with your Life forgive your brother and your girlfriend but don't go back to that relationship okay.
There still young Ladies out there who need you,don't believe that all lady are the same.God will surely give your own Wife at the appointed time.

[size=13pt]Shit has an awful way of happening and somebody got to clean the mess. I believe the reponse so far is a good detergent to cleaning up your girl and brother's mess to your love life. Take it easy bro. I feel your pain.[/size]

na today - shows what u cant keep - your brother will kep for u - havent u heard that its good to be your brothers keeper? common - u shld thank him for what he has done for you instead of rapping nonsense here.

deemayjee:

Gee thanks everyone for all the responses u've given. i know someday i have to forgive my brother for this act, but it is really going to be hard. It wouldn't have hurt me much if it were some other guy, but myy own brother!!! and being not the first time he's doing something like this. It's really going to be hard forgiving him.

@aysometin

i really appreciate your reply. There are somethings i want u to know.

- It's not that i don't communicate with her. i call her almost thrice everyday (one when i get into the office in the morning, at lunch time, and when i'm about leaving the office for the day), and we do talk for almost 20 mins each time.

- I chat with her always to, but that's when i have the time.

- i actually tried calling her when i left the office that day, but she didn't pick up.

So i see no reason why she should have acted in this fashion.

But aside that, this is not the first time such a thing will happen with my brother.

Brother,
This your reply just butresses the fact that the girl is a LovePeddler and does not deserve you, so i take my blaming you back.Looks like the girl is not really the problem again but your brother now. Like i said earlier, please bring your parents into this, since he has done it before, explain to them and let them know how u feel. I know you guys cant go back to how you were before so fast, but somehow with time(it heals all wounds)all will gradually fall back into shape.
Remember one thing, no girl is worth breaking your family up, sure you know that. you guys have been together all the while.
It is well with you.

@deemayjee; funny how som peops spit som serious shit over a bitch yur girlie like a LovePeddler;understands no oda languages bt Bleep!

well there ar two sides to a coin;dnt yu think yu shuld b gr8tful to yur broda if 4nuthin,4 atleast rescuein yu frm a mysterious life wit a LovePeddler yu'ld probabli b callin a wife _{one gud turn deserves anoda ojare!}

wake-up man! nd lay yur head straight.yu shuldnt only look,bt mke sure yu see!

@deemayjee
Really sorry experience u got there. i howeva have only one serious problem with responses here.
Everybody is of the opinion u should dump your girlfriend and make up with your brother. puleeeez!! Yes dump the girl's sorry butt, but with that so-called brother, sweety u don't need an archenemy!! That guy will kill u someday and u'll die singing "blood is thicka than water". What crappy blood? He's done it at least twice now. Like it or not family is an accident, we never make the choices here. forgive the dog if u can but u'd betta make him continue to maintain a pretty considerable radius.
as for the two-timing u know what, i'm sure u're convinced she's a goner for real.

Who is a Friend?

This is some serious shit! if i were u, i wouldn't know wat to do. But i guess, i'll dump my sick girl friend. As for my brother.i'll forgive him, but i'll keep a far distance away from him.
Brother! just take it easy

This is some serious shit! if i were u, i wouldn't know wat to do. But i guess, i'll dump my sick girl friend. As for my brother.i'll forgive him, but i'll keep a far distance away from him.
Brother! just take it easy

As for the lady, forget her. keep her at arms lenght.

As for your brother, shit happens, he is your brother but keep him off your family when

you get married cos he can even bang your kids and wife. Man your brother f**k up o.

But well sha, e don happen.

What did your old man do? This is the question that would make me talk to you when u answer.

hi just take it cool u need to accept ur brother apology and 4 d girl u dump and think fast

i think ur gf and ur brother were fucking wrong,
@to ur brother, of course u have to forgive him coz he's same blood w u, u can not leave him, but just be carful w him and all his movement
@to ur gf, i think no one's is perfect, like now, if she's busy w her work and she left u alone for almost 2 weeks like that, u will feel weak and sometimes maybe u enter in a wrong way, but just give chance for her to judge herself, everyone has mistake, just give her the last chance, and take everything easy, so sorry to hear abt ur story!!!

In addition to dumping the babe and dining with ur brother with a long spoon, go and rent ur own place.

When ur Brother snatched ur girl the first time, what was ur responce?

See eh my guy, UR BROTHER DOESN'T HAVE A BIT OF RESPECT/REGARD FOR U. THAT WAS WHY HE DID IT A SECOND OR SO TIME. u feel me.

But all the same, thank God say no bi ur wife he straff.

men take heart bro.

eeh ya. . .sorry o

First of all, can i just say, i am very sorry for what happened to you, i know you must be very heartbroken by this, time is a healer, i sincerely hope you get through this, as for forgiving your brother and your girl. They are both to blame equally. i would forgive your brother because he is family and for the sake of peace in the family but i will keep him at arms length, as for the girl, well they are plenty more fish in the sea, dump her, good luck bro.

Believe me she is a nympho, or how elso will u describle sleeping with 2 brothers? this is irritating! and just thank God you saw that on time, and what is wrong with your brother? what sort of brother is that and not the 1st time? He is not worth it haba sleeping with his brother's g/f, beware of him or he will still sleep with your wife. I am not saying dont forgive him but at least you should know how to distance him from your home lest he go rape ya wife in future o.

Sorry to hear this story bro, but life must go on, better it happened now than later when youmight have been neck deep in the relationship. Your brother will always be your brother, so there is very little you can do in that respect, but try to forgive him, but let him know it will be very hard for you to trust him ever again. Its time to put the past behind you and go back home. Cheers!

I think the girl be HANGED because from the poster`s stmt, the girl was lonely and she felt like visiting the guy,fine no wahala, but on getting home,met his absence, so he was chatting with his brother, from then it happen. so if it was the HOUSE -BOY she meet for house bebe nlo.