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Food / Where Can I Buy This? by Curiouscity(m): 9:24pm On Aug 30
Hey Brethren, does anyone know where I can buy Mason jars in Nigeria? I need the 8 oz preferably, for some project. The pictures below show what they look like

Family / Re: Should I Tell Her? by Curiouscity(m): 12:27am On Aug 06
LilMissFavvy:
She should have adopted a female child years ago, I truly do not know if a woman who has boys only, plus a failed marriage can be happy. If she had at least one daughter, she would be happy.

Coming from a lady, I am inclined to believe you. I don't think she would be willing to do that at this present stage of life.
Family / Re: Should I Tell Her? by Curiouscity(m): 12:24am On Aug 06
Mariangeles:
If your story is true, then the only thing you need to tell her is that she needs to heal from all her hurt, and that only God can truly and perfectly heal her ( heart, soul and spirit).

She doesn't believe in God anymore. She even mock people who do. How do I start such a conversation? I will try.
Family / Should I Tell Her? by Curiouscity(m): 4:19am On Aug 05
Good morning my people.
I will try my best to summarize my plight about my "friend".

Background
For almost 15 years I have known this lady. I think she is in her mid 50s. I knew her through a mutual friend. We used to chat about lots of things. She appeared down to earth. She used to tell me about her then relationship, and even sought my help (during her separation/divorce) in some ways I could. She is intelligent, outspoken, and loves helping the less privilege. I used to call her a good friend.

But in the last 7-8 years, she has turn a 'Voltron' of the 3rd wave of feminism. For her, every man with any masculine characteristics is toxic. All fathers are deadbeats, and abusive. Every woman who appears to be happy in her marriage is abused and suffering. Men are to be used and dumped. She popularize the statement "Don't listen to men! And don't listen to women who listen to men" on all her social media handles. She also turned agnostic/atheist (or would I say anti-christian). Most of her religious followers left her. I doubt if I can call her my friend any more.

The Problem
She has 3 handsome sons (23, 26, 31). When she started making her vitriol against men public on her social media handles, I asked her if she would recommend the type of women she is encouraging modern women to be to her sons. She said that she doesn't care. If any of the sons "do anyhow with any lady" he would "see anyhow", or better still they should "upgrade".
Recently, she has complained like 3 times that the sons have "ghosted" her. The one in UK stopped talking to her about 3 years ago. The two that lived with her have moved out, and she doesn't know where they live, neither do they pick her call. She basically cried few days ago, that she has no child.
I felt like telling her that her adult kids may not see her as a role model in a lady they may be interested in marrying. That if every lady listens and acts based on her views, her sons won't marry or have a peaceful marriages. That the kids may not comfortable in the way she demonizes their father, even when the man has seen them through universities.

Should I tell her or mind my business?
Family / Re: Hold Abel Damina Responsible Anything Happens To My Family - Odola. by Curiouscity(m): 3:13am On Aug 05
So, it pains you guys (gods of men) when your wives listen to another person? Yet, you all are being worshiped by peoples' wives to the detriment of their husbands. In your presence a woman would insult her husband, and turns around to call you 'daddy', and you don't call her to order? A woman would come to your 'all night' without the husband's knowledge or consent, if the husband complain, you prophesy that he is demonic and the wife should leave him or deny him marital respect and rights.
I wish some Nigerian Christians are less emotional/gullible, and tell the truth about some of these pastors. The number of families/marriages destroyed directly or indirectly by some of these 'gods of men' are enormous.
Food / Re: How Many Percent Alcohol Is Consumed? by Curiouscity(m): 11:01pm On Jul 18
Kelklein:
The percentage simply means the concentration of alcohol in the drink.. if it says 6% Alcohol, the rest of the component 94% is just water. That is why you pee alot when you drink.

Even if you take one spoon, it means the percentage of that small quantity you are taking.

Beer are mostly between 3-7.5% alc
Whiskey between 17 - 42%
Vodka - 20 - 45%
Palm wine - 1 - 2% depending on how much dilution is done. Raw palm wine is only 2% alc.
Gin (ogogoro) - 30-47%
Red/White Wine - 7 - 15%

Good information you gave to the OP.

But the percentage of alcohol in palm wine is not static. It mostly depend on the fermentation stage. Raw Palm wine is continuously fermenting. That is why, if you drink freshly tapped palmie in the morning, it taste sweet. Higher level of unfermented sugar, and contain less alcohol. If that same wine is left unrefrigerated till next day, it become sour and stronger. That means high percentage of alcohol. This may continue till all the sugars are converted to ethanol (the alcohol) or/and ethanoic acid (the sour component).

Fresh Palmie is between 1-4%, sour palmie can go up to 5-6% depending on how old it is. Dilution is another factor, but only done by commercial vendors for profit purposes.

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Family / Re: My Wife Insisting That Her Pastor Must officiate our child naming ceremony. by Curiouscity(m): 9:21pm On Jul 18
BlindAngel:



That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

The bold part is where the mistake started. If you don't put your feet on the ground and damn the tears, then you will continue to be a tool in her hand. She will do something wrong, then cry, you will take the blame and apologize. Get a book or article on how to resist manipulations.

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Celebrities / Re: Sheyin Shekarri Accused Of Intimidating And Harassing Wife by Curiouscity(m): 1:52am On Jun 04
Jaftee:
This one-sided post is intended to finish the man. there are various reasons for divorce and it is not a crime, even in the US, everyone what custody of their children. let the court be the judge

Not only to finish the man, but also to malign his business. The writer kept mentioning FarmFresh as if the case is the woman versus the company. It is between the man and the woman. It's common knowledge that when marriages break down (irrespective who is responsible), most women always want to eliminate the men from the planet.
My date warned me with these words; "who you marry can make or mar you".

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Family / Re: My Cousin's Encounter With A Nigerian Single Mother by Curiouscity(m): 8:17pm On May 08
Klass99:


Lol 🤣. Have you actually been to those places yourself and seen photos of men there?

The fact that you are lol shows you know this to be true.

I have not been to prayer houses, but I have the people running some of these places around me.
Things people ( mostly ladies) do to hold a man down in Nigeria are scary.
Family / Re: My Cousin's Encounter With A Nigerian Single Mother by Curiouscity(m): 6:32am On May 08
wwwkaycom:
In 2018, my cousin, who resides in Germany, tragically lost his wife to cancer, leading him to contemplate a new relationship. Encouraged by one of our aunts, he began dating a single mother from Nigeria in 2021, thinking that at 52, all he needed is a mature partner such as a single mother, widow, or a mature and stable single lady.

Unfortunately, this single mother turned out to be overly focused on money and material gain. Her family, especially her mother and younger brother, viewed my cousin as their financial lifeline, demonstrating entitlement and selfishness through constant demands for money and favours. Disheartened by their behaviour, my typically reserved cousin eventually ended the relationship after several warnings.

He then found companionship with a 36-year-old unmarried university lecturer in Ekiti State, Nigeria. They married in March 2023, and he has since relocated her to Germany.

Recently, he confided in me, revealing that contrary to his previous assumptions about many Nigerian women and their families, especially considering his experience with his former single mother acquaintance, his current wife and her family have never pressured him for money. Instead, they express genuine gratitude whenever he helps them, underscoring the toxicity of his past relationship.

Unfortunately, his former partner, the single mother, has been harassing our aunt, who introduced them. She even aggressively confronted me at the front of a bank last week, falsely accusing me and our aunt of advising my cousin against marrying her. I was furious and almost considered involving the police when she threatened me, but my friend and some mature bystanders intervened, and she was eventually escorted off the premises by bank security. It was an embarrassing scene for me.

Reflecting on these events, I can't help but wonder about the audacious and self-centered individuals we encounter in today's world. It felt like something out of a Nollywood film to me. She even had the audacity to claim that we drove her "helper" away.

It's not really about being a single mother. It is no more secret that great percentage of Nigerian families see marriage as poverty alleviation program. Plus, the "abroad " factor, some ladies with the help of their families can go extra miles to get a guy they consider a meal ticket.
Go to prayer houses, babalawo houses, and many alters, you will be surprised by the number of men's pictures in those places.

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Investment / Re: Nigerian Stock Exchange Market Pick Alerts by Curiouscity(m): 6:36am On May 01
IamR:
PRESCO PLC proposed dividend of ₦24.30

Can you please post the link?
Family / Re: Woman Narrates How She Survived Violence From The Husband Because Of Her Maid by Curiouscity(m): 7:07pm On Apr 24
Biglittlelois:



So the best the husband can do to defend the housemaid is to throw a glass table on a 6 month old pregnant woman resulting to serious life threatening injuries? A housemaid that stole from the wife?

I am sure as a lady, you know that most ladies are good at lying, and acting as victim after causing problems.

We should give a margin for lies on every story we read on social media, be it from man or woman.
I have seen ( not heard or read), where a women smashed their TV screen, then call the police to report that the husband broke it while hitting her.

I have been a witness to a case where the husband hid the car keys so that wife won't go for a party. The wife slap her in front of my apartment, went home to cut herself then call the police. The man was arrested, and almost got sentenced but not for the 11year old daughter's statement to the police.

I am not doubting the lady's narration, nor do I believe it 100%. But the way you are defending it, and attacking anyone who questions the veracity of the story, makes me ask, were you there?

Remember, as a man, I have sisters and a daughter. As a woman, you have brothers and possibly, a son. Let's do to others what we wish be done to us.

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Family / Re: A Missing Person (my Aged Mother) by Curiouscity(m): 9:57pm On Apr 15
seanery:
48hrs...!!!

Lord please.

Have you people contacted police authorities? Go to local Radio and TV stations. Not sure if those ones will need police report before making PSA.

This is a clear case of Dementia. Nigeria is not serious with mental illness, especially concerning the vulnerable like elderly people and children.
Food / Re: Inibehe Effiong: Falana Sends Demand Letter To Erisco Foods, CEO; Demands N100M by Curiouscity(m): 5:01pm On Apr 09
obataokenwa:
you don start, I hope you're not keyboard warrior oo cos no prove of what you're saying incase you're picked up

Can we stop all these threats?

I am venturing into food processing. I give out samples to people for review periodically. In the last few years, I have gotten very useful and also very ridiculous, insane and insincere reviews from friends, family and even competitors. If anyone, individual or corporate entity, is not ready for these, they should quit. Enough of this bullying.

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Politics / Re: DCP Gbolahan Oyedemi Found Hanging Dead In His House After Easter by Curiouscity(m): 3:21pm On Apr 02
DeOTR:
Unmarried
But I believe someone is trying to make us believe he committed suicide.

Same thing we are made to believe every time people die mysteriously.
I hope the police will investigate this one that involves their own. So many murders covered up as suicide in Nigeria.

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Politics / Re: Ihedioha, Onyejeocha, Monalisa Chinda Seek Female Inclusion In Politics by Curiouscity(m): 6:17pm On Mar 25
NOwazobia:
Were they ban from holding any political office before? 🤷🏼‍♂️

Very good question!

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Family / Re: A Father’ Sacrifice: Man Sells His Car To Fund Son’s Education Abroad by Curiouscity(m): 6:34pm On Mar 22
Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! Who else is expected to sacrifice for the welfare of his own child? undecided

But you, @Kobojunkie, are one of the major promoters of "your kids are not your retirement plan". And parents shouldn't have a say in a child's life. I believe the child in question is an adult (based on legal age). Why can't the son take responsibility of his educational pursuit as done in "saner climes"?

The earlier we appreciate the uniqueness of our African culture, the better we will live. Not everything has to be done as is seen in the West.

Parents sacrifice for their children, and hope the children will in turn care for them in old age. Shekinan!
Family / Re: 14 Things That Hurt Your Wife by Curiouscity(m): 5:50pm On Mar 11
A more balanced heading and write up would be "Things that hurt your spouse ". Women equally do these things, and more, to their husbands.
Marriage is not about one person. No one person should be the giver and the other, the taker, in Marriage.

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Family / Teach Your Daughter To Say No, And Accept No by Curiouscity(m): 8:23pm On Mar 08
As part of today's celebration of international women's day, I reflect on what is becoming of womanhood, and most especially as our daughters grow up to become women.

As someone what at some point dated ladies, and later got married, most women don't know how to say their minds. Even some ladies will joke that when a lady says NO, she doesn't mean it. Please, a "No" should mean NO. No ambiguity! If you like a guy, say so. If you don't, say NO, and move on. But we have ladies who say "NO" yet start sending an opposing signal to the guy. This sometimes lead to date r@pe.
Parents, please teach your daughters to say NO, and mean No.

Another plague ravaging the family structure is the inability of modern women(young ladies) to take "NO". They regard No very personal. And they can use many years to plan for a revenge for a "NO". Many ladies don't know how to handle a "No". A "NO" from parents, friends, boyfriends, husbands, or even a love interest.

Please, teach your daughters how to accept "NO". The more prepared our daughters are to say "No" and mean No, and also accept a "No", the higher their self esteem, and chances to succeed in our modern society.

Seeking External validation is a faster route to self destruction.
Family / Re: ‘my Husband Impregnated My Househelp And Kicked Us Out’,- Woman With Kids (vid) by Curiouscity(m): 7:08pm On Mar 06
Mindlog:


Emotional blackmail? Wow, tell me more about it in your own words as no knowledge is a waste.

Reason a Judge needs to hear both sides of the story, he can then explain his rights to throw the wife and kids out in the street, to sleep rough.

I know some men are sometimes in a haste to throw their wives belongings out, when they have had enough, but pray you don't have to deal with a vindictive and manipulative woman. Some women will set up a scene to destroy you, and make the world to believe their stories. In a woke world of today, a woman is always innocent until proven guilty, while the man is guilty until proven innocent.

During the pandemic, my wife ask for something, I explained why we couldn't afford such at that time, that she should be patient. Few days later, the brother called me, stating how important it was to grant my wife's request. I stood my grounds knowing the financial burden her request carried. Then a week later, my brother called on same issue. I got upset, because she was involving everyone around me on an issue we could debate within 2 of us. In front of her, I told my brother that I was going to do it in future when funds are available, but with how she was going with it, I won't ever do it again. When I ended the call, she started screaming and calling the neighbors. It was about midnight. Her story was that I was physically abusing her.

Note, I am not defending any man who throws his children out, but most stories are crafted to always paint the man abusive and toxic. And sometimes we believe.

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Crime / Re: Most Reported Kidnap Cases Stage-managed – Police by Curiouscity(m): 10:07pm On Feb 29
Most insensitive statement from a supposed security agency.
Such a sad time to be a Nigerian. In the last 5 years alone, more than 10 kidnappings have resulted in death of victims in my neck of the woods. Are those ones stage managed?

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Family / Re: Prof Barth Nnaji Biography: Power Behind Geometric Power Plant by Curiouscity(m): 9:04pm On Feb 27
IamANigerianMan:
This man has [b]PHD from polytechnic [/b]but he would never employ HND to work in his company

Do Polytechnics now award PhD?
Where did you get the info from? Because it is not in the above OP or the link provided.
Agriculture / Re: Is It Time To Embrace GMO Food? by Curiouscity(m): 6:49pm On Feb 15
JuanDeDios:

Hysteria. Suspicion. Understandable (for something new), but it wasn't based on science. It's only a matter of time now before the EU embraces GMO.

I don't think it is hysteria or suspicion. It is scientific. If you have indept idea of the biochemistry of foods, as it relates to the physiology of the human body, you would avoid GMOs as much it is possible. Ask yourself, do the rich owners of these GMO promoting companies consume GMOs? Why do most rich people and renowned scientists avoid GMOs?

One of the major precursors of cancer is MUTATION. GMO is produced via mutations. The DNA and RNA backbones of GMOS are already altered, and if they get into the human system may cause a different mutation that may lead to life threatening consequences.

GMO should not the first or only option for food security. My opinion though.

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Investment / Re: Nigerian Stock Exchange Market Pick Alerts by Curiouscity(m): 7:21am On Jan 24
Hogwarthtrades:

private yes (e.g Bature breweries and also see burukutu breweries in hinterlands) , public listed no.

Thank you for the information.
Investment / Re: Nigerian Stock Exchange Market Pick Alerts by Curiouscity(m): 5:18am On Jan 24
Locotrader:
I am interested to see the 4th Quater result of some Breweries especially champion which has raised their products from 2 to 5.How their products sold in the festive season which was the last quarter of 2023 will give us clue of how 1st, 2nd, 3rd and 4th quarter of 2024 will be.

Even though their 2023 financial yr end will end in losses.Market has already repriced these stocks for these poor results and ready to push their prices on any improvement going forward......

Unrelated question base on your attached page: Are there any craft beer companies in Nigeria?
Food / Re: Bad Plantain Chips Rumour: NAFDAC Investigates Melting Rubber Into Oil by Curiouscity(m): 5:23pm On Jan 21
CatchMeIfUCanMO:
Many Nigerians are school goers and are not educated in the real sense of it.

Scientifically, melting rubber in oil doesn't change it from going back to its form when it is cooled.
They are not even miscible even at any temperature, talk more when cooled.

There is no way you won't have or see that rubber properties when eating it, so the rubber properties suddenly disappeared abi?

Well, make them sef use this avenue see money chop as government agency wey dem be.

Government money may not be the initial target. Their intent is to spoil market for hustlers making and selling plantain chips. Either to force them to get NAFDAC number or one big chip company is trying to gain more market share, thereby bringing up this unscientific lies to discredit roadside chip sellers.
Food / Re: Lagos Consumer Agency Warns Residents Against ‘poisonous’ Plantain Chips by Curiouscity(m): 5:40pm On Jan 18
comodo:

This Chemistry no far naa. How was the nylon grated? Does vynil and hot oil mix?? Industrial Chemists in house over to u.

I seriously doubt this.

What money cannot do (in Nigeria) does not exist. Some big plantain chip makers want more of the market share. They find ways to demonize the small roadside hustlers and remove them from the business.

No chemistry whatsoever can allow plastic to dissolve in hot oil to form a homogeneous mixture. The Agency that went to press with this, without proper investigation is wicked.

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Family / Re: Question For The Day= Suicide Rate by Curiouscity(m): 11:59pm On Jan 11
Natbrowny:
Dont see it that way.

That same job she had mayb responsible for her depression.

Depression builds up over time. Many things are responsible for this suicide

God have Mercy on her soul

Precisely 12 years ago, a Ghanaian friend of mine gave me an academic paper (sometimes called Term Paper) written by a Nigerian student in his class, to read. The paper attempted to look at the high rates of suicide in the western world vis a vis our African countries. One of the points the students raised was the individualistic life in the western world versus our communal living arrangement. The student opined that in Africa, people are more open to share their challenges with immediate and extended family members, hence reducing the level of depressive thoughts. A person's personal problem was shared by many close family or community members. The paper made sense to me at that time.

But that was written at the time social media was evolving or say not wide spread in our communities. As such, perhaps, we didn't hear much about many suicide cases. Until recently, discussions around suicide were heavy and sometimes done in hush-hush voices. Suicide was frown up as a taboo in almost every African community.

With the interconnectivity of the world via internet and social media, all that has changed. We are becoming more self-centered. People are shamed and dragged on social media for even minute mistakes and challenges. We joke about suicide cases.
We started seeing comments like "go and hug a transformer", " go drink snipper", and other damaging statements. NO EMPATHY at all.

What could be done to reduce depression and depression induced suicides?

20 -50 years ago, people were less educated, tge standard living was lower, yet people were happier, and had better skills in handling life challenges. They also had family and community members who could help them navigate rough patches in life. Maybe we should look back at certain aspects of our society and cultural lives that were helpful and not throw everything away on the platter of modernism and wokism.
Family / Re: After 5years Of Emotional Abuse Should I Give A 2nd Chance by Curiouscity(m): 11:26pm On Jan 09
Justkatty:
Sir, if you've seen or witness a selfish man handling a woman, you'll never for once pray for your sister (s) to cross path with such men.
Sometimes opinions given here,are from experience.
No doubt there are women that are mean too.

Your last statement is in agreement with my opinion. We should look at the problem as a human problem, not gender based.

What is bad is bad!
Family / Re: After 5years Of Emotional Abuse Should I Give A 2nd Chance by Curiouscity(m): 11:21pm On Jan 09
Ahnii:

Take a stroll to Facebook and click on FIN PAGE...See what married women are going thru in their hands of their husbands.
Their pains,agonies,torments and the rest.
While some of the stories there are terrible, up to 35-45% of those stories won't be confirmed as being true if subjected to cross examinations. Some men are loud, cheats(both genders cheat) and insensitive, but the way some women lie against their innocent husbands is scary. Most men are just walking corpse based on the lies heap on their heads.
Family / Re: After 5years Of Emotional Abuse Should I Give A 2nd Chance by Curiouscity(m): 11:08pm On Jan 09
Justkatty:
Forgive for your sanity and face front.... he's trying to come in again because he feels you're now an asset, such men will make sure they render you useless because you become a threat to them.
He should continue with his lifestyle after all he's the "price" yeye somebody.

Is it not funny how we quickly generalize things like this? Bad behaviors are not gender specific.

Except for some details here, I would have said it is a guy I am close to writing this. He is going through something almost identical to this. Or would I say his own is worse, because the wife's family tried to rubbish him too.

Terrible human beings exist in both men and women.

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