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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by tunize(m): 1:49pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
Lilpen3758:Men dey do ashawo work now abi you nor know dem fit just glass you mke women come select or you fit even officially start am other men wen get interest go follow suit |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Tony142: 2:03pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: Lol, sure, I am a man, young man actually, I am a strong redpiller too, but those guys attacking her of wanting to marry a rich guy are insulting her not because they care but because they themselves are broke, so saying you want only a rich man is an insult to them(broke guys) and they will do all dey can to insult you Those broke guys insulting her will not even allow their sister marry their fellow broke men According to redpill women are hypergamous in nature, so wanting a rich guy is definitely one of their trait, who no like better thing? Lol, iLegendd is not a poor man o, he is a millionaire, he only made that comment just for fun, he is a rich guy, but he is only into virgin, he is my boss, if u are a virgin send me your CV let me link you to him But unfortunately you are not #smile |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by NeeKlaus: 2:03pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
mayberry1:You encouched everything beautifully and as rational as could be. People disregard the act of reciprocity in relationships these days. For most people, it's always about what they can get and not what they will give, abandoning the whole essence of relationships in the first place - companionship and sacrifice. I won't be bias; both genders are guilty of it. While the males are usually after sexual gratification without actually loving truly, the females desire financial upliftment. As long as the guy can shower them with gifts, take them on trips and fund their faux lifestyles, they are content till they find a richer guy who will take over from where the former left off. But it's not meant to be so. Relationships should be anything but selfish else, it turns into something very toxic. I already replied the OP in the first page and it's shameful that most women still proudly have that mindset. The Nigerian environment contributes to this anyway, so I am not surprised. I like your thought process. Seems like you are capable of intellectually stimulating convos. Are you single? |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Tony142: 2:16pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
Kingosytex: A man's wealth is his money, while a woman's wealth is her beauty If you are a broke girl from a poor home, but you are extremely beautiful, when I mean extremely beautiful I mean atleast 90% beautiful your chances of getting a rich man is high, all you need is to hang out in areas when rich guys like going to and sooner or later some of them will notice u |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Lilpen3758: 3:49pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
tunize:And dey business go move ooh |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by emmaodet: 3:59pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
mayberry1: You made some valid points but I beg to differ on some - It's okay. We can always agree to disagree. What's your yardstick for going into a relationship with the opposite sex - Naturally, it should be love, faithfulness, commitment, endurance, hard-work but it seems nowadays, these are what are only expected from men and not from both anymore. The moment a man runs out of money, divorce or breaking of relationship by women surfaces in the horizon. It seems there is no penalty or shaming tactics put in place to discourage such act. You will start experiencing a cold relationship, frictions, reduction or total absence of sex etc and the woman can decide to cut short the relationship/marriage without any uproar or raise of eye brow. I'd use myself as an example - ok the least thing that'll make me date a man is his looks or how buoyant he is. If a man is intellectually and morally bankrupt, bereft of principles in life then it's a 'no' for me because I can't date a man who's not on same page with me. I will admonish men to look beyond beauty and focus on important things when searching for a partner. - You are right. You mentioned men dating governors daughters and be of best behaviour cause of what they stand to lose if they act otherwise...lol, you haven't seen men who do and jeopardise everything still - That is reason i said unless something is wrong with such men. A man with a properly screwed head on his neck won't do that. Anything built on material benefits will never stand the test of time when life happens to one person(life will always happen to us in different ways). - You are right but it is so unfortunate that most women nowadays enter relationship because of what they can get and not entering with ''sense of duty'' Go to magistrate courts in ikeja or ibadan as a case study and you will be shocked that 80% of people applying for divorce are women. They are tired, not interested in the marriage anymore because husband has lost his source of income and they are suffering etc So try not to lower the bar when getting into a relationship, there are intelligent women who would help you grow in all facets of your existence, they are out there you just haven't looked within - Believe me, it is not as easy as you think. Hypergamy is one factor really affecting women. A woman who perceives you are equal (which shouldn't be a bad thing because it will make both party work effectively) will automatically lose interest in a guy because she BELIEVES she worth more than that and selling herself short. E.g A lady nurse will always look down on a male nurse and always believes she deserves the doctor and not stoop low by dating a nurse, to her, she is above the man. A female teacher believes a male teacher of same rank are not mate and so the distortion keeps growing. The ladies i like and want won't want to settle down with me because they are either above me or my mate, so what do i do next? i won't have a choice than to go down. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by emmaodet: 4:00pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
Goalnaldo: Hahahaha Bro, i am a redpill flag bearer on NL oooo |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Goalnaldo(m): 4:04pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
emmaodet:okay. I hope your Lord and master ubunja is safe? It's been a while I saw his Post. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by emmaodet: 4:18pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
Goalnaldo: Sure, he is and i pray for more grace to his elbows and more inks to his pen. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Lostchild(m): 4:46pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
omolola100 I wanted to write you a story of my first love who left me because she felt she could have any wealthy man because of her beauty. She became a call girl (prostituting) Despite her beauty, men was using her as a ho ho. I must tell you this truth, you will never have the wealthy man you desire to marry. Why? because you cannot pay the price. This is what your mother is trying to tell you as she knows that you have to pay a price to have what you want. Take the advice of your mother. Take advice from people who went ahead of you. I advice you; Dont look for a ricj man, pray for a good man to come into your life and both of you will grow rich |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by seguno2: 4:55pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
pansophist: How does hypergamy work then |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by pansophist(m): 5:17pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
seguno2: Pareto principle my friend, just like with everything. Most men want to marry a woman that looks like a model, doesn't mean they marry such women. Same with hypergamy, Most women have a dream man in their head, but most don't marry their kind of men. Infact most women settle, and are not with the men they truly want. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by mayberry1(f): 5:17pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
NeeKlaus: Thanks for the compliment. I am single but I really do not know if that's got to do with anything |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Mabella18(f): 5:44pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
emmaodet: I'm in love with this comment 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 6:15pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
Tony142: Mschew. Redpillers? You people are hard to manipulatee. Of what use will my feminine wiles be if I relate with you pipu? Feminists and redpillers are same ends of a magnet... we repel. I prefer rich simps. That Unfortunately? Lmao. Another guy go pick me. There are many fishermen on the river. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Drella(m): 6:56pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
pansophist: Utilizing the principle: 80% of women have a dream man in their head but only 20% actually marry the said dream man! |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by squad03: 8:02pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
Dear OP,your mother is not a bad woman,know that her intentions are noble. However, there's a deeper message embedded therein. Back in uni,I had a friend who said she couldn't get married to a poor man solely because of their potential because 'even a poor person has the potential to become poorer'..it didn't make sense then,it does now. At the end of the day, it's up to you to choose what sort of potential you can live with. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by mayberry1(f): 8:03pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
emmaodet: How did you come up with the 80% figure..lol, when an individual(male/female) is not family oriented they'd always see divorce as the only option to challenges in marriage. Well, I've always been a sucker for genuine love and uprightness every other thing will fall in place. I mean what's the essence of marriage if not peace and happiness? By "above me or my mate " do you mean financially or age wise ? because I never attributed anything to finance in my write up. Before you reply because it's seeming like we have loads of opinion on this, i hope you had a great day? |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Tony142: 9:57pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: For calling iLegendd my boss childish, I will flog you 12 stroke in your yansh with that water cain in-between my legs Who give you license to practice feminine in 9ja? I will tell buhari that feminine is the new twitter in town, he should ban it too 1 Like |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by franklingud(m): 10:53pm On Jun 08, 2021 |
Georgejeez: Don't leave us ooooo! We die here! Answer that question ooo � |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by iLegendd(m): 1:20am On Jun 09, 2021 |
Magnoliaa: I don't know what you guys are talking about or what this thread is all about. I couldn't even spare 10 seconds to go through it. Even this one I quoted, I didn't read. I just glanced and saw my name and the tags attached to it. I'm even ashamed to reply as silence would've worked better. I appreciate your remark and God bless you for that—I have heard worse—including ritualist. I wrote a post yesterday, but haven't created a thread for it. A certain part of that post fits as your reply. See it below and have a nice day. I'll never dignify you with a second reply or condescend in calling you names. Remember, if you don't quote me or mention me in this forum, directly or indirectly, I'll never know you exist. Peace. Excerpt...
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Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Nobody: 1:36am On Jun 09, 2021 |
you will soon be busted on this forum people are getting to understand that u are manipulator nd a scammer iLegendd: |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 2:02am On Jun 09, 2021 |
Tony142: Water cain? Oh. Is that the new word for a flaccid deek or a watery-sperm-shooting plastic toy? Who give you license to practice feminine in 9ja? I will tell buhari that feminine is the new twitter in town, he should ban it too I have so many Queen Mothers they are hard to count and mention. They gave me the license. Yeah. Go report them and good luck with that, lol. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Magnoliaa(f): 2:08am On Jun 09, 2021 |
iLegendd: Mtcheew. If you don't care and didn't care to know, you would never have responded to me. I didn't read your response as well. I still said what I said. "Irrelevant" opinions from faceless people shouldn't get to you, right? Good. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by emmaodet: 3:54am On Jun 09, 2021 |
mayberry1: Thanks, my day was great and yours? The records are in the court, 8 out of 10 people seeking for divorce are women. By "above me or my mate " do you mean financially - Financially It is okay, we are all here to learn and re-learn |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by mayberry1(f): 12:54pm On Jun 09, 2021 |
emmaodet: I think you should look beyond finance. As a man you should be looking for a woman who is not just intelligent but loyal and have set goals in life. If you are looking for a woman who's at per with you financially it wouldn't be that difficult to find but I think there'd be competition amongst you two plus it would be kinda difficult for the woman to be loyal to you (especially when the chips are down). The reason why there's high rate of divorce is because lots of people marry for the wrong reason. Technically, all mundane things fade away after 3-5 years of marriage. There are lots of anecdotal stories I would have mentioned but hey! this is an open forum. My day was amazing, thanks. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by emmaodet: 1:11pm On Jun 09, 2021 |
mayberry1: It's okay. Have a blessed day and nice conversation. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by AlphamaleTech1(m): 8:08pm On Jun 09, 2021 |
Work and earn money, then marry who ever u love. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by bishop212(m): 1:06pm On Jun 17, 2021 |
omolola100:Mehn this advise is the worst iv ever heard. Even as a guy, we want good things for our sisters talk more of for ourselves.the advise should have been to look for some one with ambition. That way,whomever comes ur way ,its ur luck. Not to ask u to look for a " poor man" what kind of advice is that? WhT if no poor man comes you way or if all the ones coming your way are unambition ones? Do you think u have what it takes to start reshaping them and set them on a straight part? Sis ,you will just die of hunger,stress,anger and frustration. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by NiRfreak(m): 6:18am On Jun 29, 2021 |
Magnoliaa:Just seeing this. . Well I read every link you provided. And obviously, it's clear the woman was the genesis of her own problem, which I feel has to do with her: wanton greed, laziness to work when opportunity were presented on a platter, quarelsome attitude, nagging, and all manners of vices particular to many bad wives which of course can be seen in both educated or non educated women.... There are many not well educated ladies who are reasonable, hardworking and peaceful. ...And that a woman starts from the scratch with a man does not give her leeway to frustrate her man's life. Everyone deserves happiness... The onus is on the person being frustrated and robbed of peace, either husband or wife, to do away with the source of his/her stress and unhappiness or otherwise endure it. It's a choice to make which the man shouldnt be blamed for...He has a right to peace.... . Now to the lady adviced by her mom, I think she's lacks understanding and good mindset...May God open her mind... . Meanwhile, what's ur stand |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by Skullano(m): 6:31am On Jun 29, 2021 |
erinatso: But you don already talk say she no get sense nah. |
Re: Should I Follow My Mother's Advice? by erinatso: 8:26am On Jun 29, 2021 |
Skullano:no i neva talk am oo i mean "if to say she no b my senior" |
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