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Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by bukatyne(f): 8:46pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
olabrinks: Interesting. You also think women who do same thing (e.g. Amber Heard) should be ruined same way? |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by saxby(f): 8:46pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Las las may God be with him. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by olabrinks(f): 8:47pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
bukatyne:absolutely. No one should lay their hands on anyone. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by AlphaHakimi: 8:48pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
[quote author=IyaTola post=122550192][/quote] In all you do please marry a kind person. As an African, your marriage should be the way our fore fathers married their wives. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by FORWARDEVERLY: 8:54pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
OloyeVIII: LoL... As Arsenal no make me use am for Lyon 06 Final I no fit use am again... |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by sisisioge: 8:55pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
abbey621: My brother, if you are married to a woman that works as much as you do, contribute economically to the household as you do, then it is too much for you to also expect at bolded from her because she's your wife. If you have the machine, endeavour to load it as much as she does. If you have kids, take care of them as much as she does. Take care of the cleaning as much as she does.....etc. this way, you are equally responsible for the success of your marriage and home. One party burnout wont be a thing. By the way, are you aware of how much surrogates earn now? Your wife does that for free while even still working to support the household. Cleaners dont even charge you the minimum wage abroad, they charge at least twice the minimum wage per hour to cleanup. Madam does it for free. Cooks/chefs. Let's not start imagining how much their time cost. Nannies.... Imagine men expecting all these from their wives despite her working just like they are plus additional king treatment. It's just unfair, that's what causes majority of the fights in abroad marriages. While in Nigeria, a lot of women stomach it because they mostly have access to cheap maids or support from families but once abroad, it's just them and it doesn't take so long to snap. If you want peace, do not overburden your spouse! Unless you have a full time housewife, it's quite unfair for you to expect your abroad wife to keep up the "good woman" vibe of naija. Meanwhile, yes there are some really irrational/irresponsible women who would do anything to be rid of you no matter how good you are to them. It is well. 3 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by flokii: 9:02pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
In my own little experience about life.. I've come to realize that women change like weather. When you have enough.. they start lovey dovey,but let your pocket go dry, you'd see their true nature. Another one is if the woman earns more or happens to have more degree certificates than her man, she'd look down on him and even make him feel less of a man at one point in time, which is never the case with men when relating with women. Nigerian guys abroad should be careful including the ones planning to relocate.. always have a plan B or escape route in case things go south.. If it's to make pals with white people that'll come through for you when you need help, do it. @OP Advise your friend to return to Nigeria or if he has the means, he should relocate to another city in U.K or relocate to North-Western parts of Europe like Ireland. TIME HEALS EVERYTHING... he should give it time,he'd overcome. 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by armyofone(m): 9:09pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
sisisioge: True talk. Don't over burden your spouse. Support each other in doing housework (both must do housework) Cook, do dish or load machine, wash clothes, vacuum the house, dress the beds, if you have kids,bath the kids, baby sit, go shopping etc No work should be solely called wifey job. Men can do everything except pregnancy - yet share the pregnancy process with her. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Edusouls(m): 9:13pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Women that made their creator heartbroken talkless of common man 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:19pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
AlphaHakimi: |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:19pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Edusouls:Shut up |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:22pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
MarketDispatch:Noted. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:23pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:24pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
onatisi:is not as easy as you claim. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:25pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
JONSYN7154:Dey there dey Mumu yourself, Seun don credit me. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by girlygirlyMain: 9:25pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Him no fit work for tesco, Asda, sainsbury or Waitrose? Wasn't he working before? No savings? Can he not apologise to his wife and seek a second chance? He was going to their house uninvited because him think say na lawless area like Nigeria him dey abi? Tell him to snap out of his Nigerian mentality, GET A JOB however menial, earn his wages and work on himself. If he makes it, the children will look for him. If not they will avoid him like a plague 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:25pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
ahnie:You need a man isoko jampka |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by abbey621(m): 9:25pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
sisisioge: Then what's the essence of a wife? Loading washing machine or dryer is now a thing that must be shared equally? Preparing a meal for your family is now maid work? Are you actually married? In most households they do order take in once or twice a week so I'm short of words this burnout theory. Furthermore, there are so many other domestic duties that men are not expected to split with their wives such as lawn mowing, plumbing issues, car issues, carpentry work, paint work etc. In fact here in America, I've learned to be an handyman because the cost of labor is so high but what I refuse to subject myself to is the core duties of a wife. Preparing dinner, a clean home and laundry are the bear minimum, to make it easier we have automatic machines for everything including sweeping and moping yet burnout still dey? My grandma would be rolling in her grave right now at all these so called modern wives Lastly, I love your caveat, if both are working full time and contribute economically in equal parts, I can assure you 90% of the households in UK or US are not splitting bills 50/50; perhaps if the bills were actually split 50/50 I can understand the man forgoing some of his basic rights but anything short of that is plain rubbish..... 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:26pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
MasterTeeUSA:Thank you. I will π inform him ASAP. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:27pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Philanderboy:so |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:28pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Tats:Yes, because someone in currently going through same issue now in UK. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:29pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
dazzlingd:Well, thank you for your word of advice. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:30pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Nobody: 9:32pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
mployer:I am telling you my brother. They are so heartless. 1 Like |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:37pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Pastoshizzy: 2 Likes |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:38pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
dazzlingd:You will be the one to loose |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:39pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
MrCuteking:Thank God for your friend, but I have a feeling the friend is you |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:40pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
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Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:41pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
dazzlingd:Get Seun's password and viola! You in his good books. |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by Majesty7: 9:41pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
olabrinks: So even at that, must she make his life miserable? |
Re: My Friend Is Currently Going Through A Divorce In UK &having A Hell Of A Time by IyaTola: 9:43pm On Apr 17, 2023 |
Erase this mentality from your head Almunjid: |
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