keppyy:
I'm 22years but I feel the same way bro...It's eating me up badly...

what exactly do u want that u re not getting that is making u depressed @22

keppyy:
I'm 22years but I feel the same way bro...It's eating me up badly...

hy baby k,
i guess u v seen d mail he sent u?
pls check it out

When you are 40 you will realise how childish you were at 29. Until you start living responsibly like a matured adult, you haven't lived life yet

ehisdan:
what exactly do u want that u re not getting that is making u depressed @22

I really don't know.

MrRhymes101:
Get busy!! n Stop thinking of marriage its d major cause of ur depression...Also wen u r less busy make sure u bleep any babe u see, ur neighbors, ur street babes, ur church gals, landlord's daughter, any babe at alllllll........it works like magic. u will testify to over-excitement instead of depression

ur sisters are his neighbours,street babes,church girls any babe @all.good advice .

makazona:


hy baby k,
i guess u v seen d mail he sent u?
pls check it out

Please don't call me baby and who sent?

Richardjemedafe:
I met this girl on fb and we ve been
chatting for 6 months now.
Today, i logged in and i saw her online,
and we started chatting immediately.
ME: Hello dear
HER: happy independence.
ME: same to u dear
HER: so where is my independence gift?
ME: Habba! Big girl like u is asking for
independence gift?.
HER: Abeg oo. Me am nt a big girl oo. U
wnt to deny me independence gift abi? ....I
quickly went to buy N500 card and sent the
pin into her chat inbox....
ME:Dear manage this pls.
HER: noo, pls am only joking. I will nt take
that.
ME: pls pls.
HER: and i refuse. I cnt take anything from
u.
....i quickly loaded the card and transfered it
into her line acct...
HER: u think u are smart eh? ....a minute
later
heard an alert msg tang-tang..''N1000 is
transfered to u from...''
ME: whats the meaning of that?
HER: i told u, u shldnt. ...(this girl wan show
me big girl abi?) i used my last N2000 to
buy card, load am, making N3000 and send
it to her.
....Some minutes later, an alert, tang-
tang..''N6000 is transfered to u from....''
chaiii..this girl wan try me? And i dnt hv
any money again! I called my friend and
borrowed the N6000 he was keeping for his
landlord, i told him i will be expecting
N24,000 in the next 5min and i will pay him
back...i quickly buy card of N6000, and sent
her the N12,000..and i kept my phone close
to my
ear expecting alert...
Ten minutes later, instead of msg alert, it
was a call from her...''Hello dear, jst call to
thank u for the independence gift..we'll
chat later''....

HASSANAASIA:
I made 30 looks good bruv

comot abeg... see as you fine

BankoleNco:

Thanks a lot sir, one of the best advices here. Honestly the part where you mentioned "aging" is what scares me the most. . . I look at old people and get scared now. I dont know why. Naturally I am claustrophobic and engage in a lot of introspection. . . . I guess thats where this stems from. Thanks to everyone though.

Give yourself a break. Too much going on in your head bro.

BankoleNco:


Don't want to seem rude, but if I am to go by your post. I'd be well in my jurisdictions to say, you are the one without a purpose. Simplistic reasoning like yours stem from the brain of a barbaric dimwit! You don't even know me. How can you jump to such conclusions? I might be 29, but absolutely certain I live a better life than urs, atleast financially . You judgemental simpleton.

yeah...financially u might b better off..but u still feel useless at 30. U came here and blabbered about ur miserable life and I gave my candid opinion only for turn d table around. Bro,money isn't everythn. I don't wake up at 4am to stare at d cieling,I wake up,get about my business and u wanna know my business? Looking for ways to make my self happoy,make my God happy and make people around me happy even if it means going out on d streets to share puff puff to beggars. Correction of point,I am not judging u,I just stated d obvious,things u have been too weak to admit to urslf. Stay blessed ;-D

keppyy:



I really don't know.

what are the things u think or remembered that makes u to be afraid of the future?

NaLaugh:


Like you, i will be turning 30 next year (end of 2015).

I'm 28 now, but sometimes the same thought crosses my mind.
However, there is nothing wrong with that.

Humans have a tendency to resist change, but change is not an option.

Sometimes like you, i wonder if i had spent too much time working my 9-5 and building my own company, at the expense of "life?"

Then again, i ask myself- what exactly is there left to do in the spirit of "youthful exuberance?" I've done it all.
Could it be i'm just being greedy by wishing i had, and would do more?

As far as clubbing. I almost never go to a regular club anymore. I graduated from regular clubs to lounges years ago.
I was all over the clubs back then.

At times at like 10pm, we would decide to drive 3 hours to New York, just because we had
a good "remember that time" gist about some club out there.
Or we would randomly drive like 6 hours to Montreal in Canada to party it up, and drive back to the US in the morning.

It is all a frame of mind. Reorganize the things in your life.
If your 9-5 is weighing you down, make the right financial/investment moves, and cut it off like i did.

Do not worry about marriage, it will happen when it happens.
Ignore external influence of such things, and live life on your own terms - it is no one else's.

I created this nairaland username and site last year specifically as therapy for myself. I needed to indulge more in the simpler things in life
like.. laughing. Life is too darn short ya know.

Don't know how I missed your post initially . . . But I liked it.

You'll have to get over your depression man, cos there ain't nothing you can do bout it. That's how life is: you're born, you grow up, if you're lucky you grow old and you die. The worst is yet to come dude, wait till gray hairs starts sprouting on your damn head and your pubic region, and your d i c k refuses to respond to some female stimuli! And you wake up one day with a stiff back and painful joints... yea rheumatism and arthritis is coming, and you got no where to hide! Best kill yourself now if you ain't ready for that shii! I've been through all that and I ain't complaining, cos I know I ain't gonn cheat nature, what's gotta be is gotta be. Just live your life one day at a time, be happy and age gracefully. I'm a happy old man cos I decided to cast all such unnecessary worries aside and let mother nature run its course. You too can.

I'm just thinking on what I will tell the op to avoid reaching 30.

I totally understand the feeling..will be 27 in some weeks and whenever i think about it, it eats me up..not married yet, not even in a serious relationship and somehow feel like 27 is the cut off point..lol..just reflect on the positives, create happiness for yourself and trust in God..you'll be fine!!! Cheers!

ehisdan:
what are the things u think or remembered that makes u to be afraid of the future?

I'm a News addict...The world is filled with too many sad news..It disturbs me a lot...

The future scares me, everything about the future..

keppyy:



Please don't call me baby and who sent?

haba,if dy call u ma'am,u go protest
i call u baby,u go vex.oooh...apologies then
how do u want be addressed ?

i sent that.

keppyy:
I'm 22years but I feel the same way bro...It's eating me up badly...

u feel wat?at 20 wat,make man no hear dt one.advice:go pick ur book and read.dis is wat i tag depression abuse.

Mondisweets:

Some of una no sabi help matter at all

clefstone:
I can relate with what u r saying OP. Felt same way when I was turning 20, not to d extent of having sleepless nights though. I feel its cos we set targets for ourselves as to what we hope to hv achieved at the turn of a new decade in our lives but such high targets r hardly met in entirety that we always wish for more time. Good tin is tht we eventually gey used to our new age wen it finally hits us. I will be 30 next year nd I am already worried tht I'm not married. By d way, u r not depressed

You think?

supaflygirl:
I totally understand the feeling..will be 27 in some weeks and whenever i think about it, it eats me up..not married yet, not even in a serious relationship and somehow feel like 27 is the cut off point..lol..just reflect on the positives, create happiness for yourself and trust in God..you'll be fine!!! Cheers!

Babe, 27 is still young, you will get there, I've seen female bankers, 35, 40, chopping money but single

Most of the advices proferred here are irritating, annoying, of no use and no help. Op, forget the bleeping and gyrating nonsense advice, it would only lead to an insatiable desire for more, a vacuum, more vacuum, you need one who fills vacuums, you need to have a true and real experience of Jesus, with all sincerity, go on your knees, invite Jesus into your life with all sincerity, get a bible and read, devour, then, the one who fills, would have filled you, He will make all things come in stride, He will order your steps, we cannnot be too intelligent for God, we all need Him.

keppyy:


I'm a News addict...The world is filled with too many sad news..It disturbs me a lot...

The future scares me, everything about the future..

Hmmmm! Now i knw what exactly ur problem is. U need someone that is more experience than u to be more close to u, whom u can share ur thought with and that person must be a good councellor. And above all u need the one who own the world, the future and the thing thereof. God.

slydog:


Babe, 27 is still young, you will get there, I've seen female bankers, 35, 40, chopping money but single

Yh I know but I just get scared not to find myself in the kind of scenario you painted..with all the money and trying to pretend that they are "chopping life" some of them are very sad inside

Na wa for this thread....maybe when I am thirty I would understand how you feel.. But right now I don't see the relationship between clocking 30 and being depressed. Even my grand pa was so excited on his 90th birthday.

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

my brother, I tell u we are both sailing in same boat, as a matter of fact I'll be 30 in January, the reality of life just hits me each passing day but in my own case I'm not depressed .

my greatest problem has to do with finding that FEMALE BEST FRIEND that will know me inside out .

it's a BIG TASK for me .

Lolz...I know exactly how u feel...whycos I"m @ least 3yrs older an you...haven't u heard that 30's the new 20's....its all psychological and partly geographical...when it comes to ageing...the male folks are actually kinda lucky...bro;hit the gym;excercise;eat healthy so you"ll look very cute(just so you know;when u excercise;lyk lifting weights for instance;jogging and all,u"ll look younger dan ur age,cos ur body releases hormones dt will make u look younger and stronger)as 4 d food and drinking(take what will help your weight and all;if u don't work out and eat junk,u"ll look older,sloppy weak and older...if u hit d gym,u"ll be surprised ow young u"lll feel)......u"ll look lyk a mahn...maybe not a pretty boy lyk u used to be...buh lyk a man...wit ur self development and experience...u now know ow to enjoy life...if its the marriage tin dt is bothering you...well,u can still av a child outta wedlock sha...start building ur dreams...if you can afford it;travel to other climes and see how people your age enjoy life...take lots of pix,get a tattoo.av threesomes;av crazy friends ur age;try new and different tins and u"ll be surprised ow life will try catchn up wit you;and just along the line,don't be surprised you"ll find ur dream girl dt"ll love ur free spirit...I av relations dt are lyk 10yrs older dan I am...mehn,u nid to see dem avn fun and partyn...u"ll laff @ ur depressed stage...u"ll be lyk these men,are lyk 10yrs older dan you"re and they sure know ow to party and take care of their family...bro;ur life just started...live it up and take lots of pix for memory sake and u won't regret it wen u"re burnt out...na u go use ur hand tell ur sef wen u don old,and u"ll do dt wit a big mischievous smile on ur face and allow the younger ones to live their lives too...life's stages mahn...

josh001:
Most of the advices proferred here are irritating, annoying, of no use and no help. Op, forget the bleeping and gyrating nonsense advice, it would only lead to an insatiable desire for more, a vacuum, more vacuum, you need one who fills vacuums, you need to have a true and real experience of Jesus, with all sincerity, go on your knees, invite Jesus into your life with all sincerity, get a bible and read, devour, then, the one who fills, would have filled you, He will make all things come in stride, He will order your steps, we cannnot be too intelligent for God, we all need Him.

calm down! There is time for everytin. wen u get too spiritual wit issues u r likely to miss the point. This matter right here is nt a spiritual one abeg! I'm a christian so go get a chair n sit down n listen to intelligent people talk pls! I remember bak in uni, my pastor use to tell us to read for exams as if our prayers will nt work, and also pray to pass our exams as if readin will nt work. I tink there shud be a fair balance btwn reality n spirituality! No wonder we hav boko haram killin people up n down in nigeria today! We r too spiritual n we r nt even among d best 20 economy in the world! #nonsense.

I think the OP just described me. I will be turning 30 mid next year as well.. And pretty uncertain of the future.

I am a nice guy who is comfortable with the good things in life.. But still feeling a bit depressed what the future holds. I can only believe God will lead the way... Amen!

Op I don't know ur worry,I will be that 30 next year without any achievements,u better thank God for ur life,not clubbing again is what bothering,well diff type of people sha.

I understand how the OP feels. I am 27 and I feel like I have not achieved much in life. I see some of my mates getting married and having kids. Its really depressing sometimes sha. I hope to get married and settle down by 30. we have to thank God in any situation we find ourselves