BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

Boy you don't need to worry but know at 30 you should be able to cater for yourself you should be able to have a source of income you should be able to be staying on your own ..at that age you should have marriage at your mind

Don't worry we have been there

This is the time to start planning for future

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

I honestly understands what U are passing through to make U be depressed. There are times in one's life when U ve to count what U had achieved so far pending on Ur target. Most men had always wanted to ve a lovely wife n a child @ 30. I guess before U got here, U must ve dreamt of certain height in life @ a certain targetted time.. And when U are close to d time but not close to the height, U feel like turning back d hands of the clock. U feel like asking Urself ''ve I been useful to myself all the while'', ''Y havn't I gotten this..'', ''could it be it wasn't meant for me''.... Too many questions with little or no answers. Jst take things easy with Urself, start effecting changes where U can and start making good use of Ur tday so U can better Ur tmoro... Enjoy Ur forthcoming age..(U are now thinking like a man). Lol.
One advice: be careful U do not get a ''Psychosomatic disorder'' in Ur course of worries.

my mama reminded me that i will be thirty next year.

I think I can relate with the Op cos we are almost in the same shoe.

As for me I have handed over my life to God. Why should I send myself to an early grave. One thing I also do is to cut off relationships that causes depression to my spirit. I feel depressed after leaving some friends. Though, I have not achieved all the dreams I set for myself before 30, I look at the ones i have achieved and that gives me hope for a better tomorrow.

phreakabit:
I feel op's pain 30 is the actual start of Adulthood in some sense. . . Its really scary and to think that just next year you'd be 30 is a nightmare trust me. Turning 18-27 is fun once 28 you start changing, 29 depressed and then 30 game over! You must become an adult and get ready to start a family. . Spend the remaining [size=18pt]70%[/size] of your life with [size=18pt]1[/size] woman

why must it b 1 woman?.....written any where?

mtcheeeew. And i was tinking d op had a real problem. ur mates yaaapa for streets dey find work. u are ok and u are depressed?? u need to be flogged till u yell with excitement

having life alone is enough not to cause u worries. u cannt do what is out of ur reach. put ur trust in God. it is even people dat cause people to worry. be careful of what people say to u

This is me at the moment....turning 30 next year but hey....I am looking at the positive aspects of my 20's...u ain't alone in ur thoughts bruv

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

BankoleNco:


Don't want to seem rude, but if I am to go by your post. I'd be well in my jurisdictions to say, you are the one without a purpose. Simplistic reasoning like yours stem from the brain of a barbaric dimwit! You don't even know me. How can you jump to such conclusions? I might be 29, but absolutely certain I live a better life than urs, atleast financially . You judgemental simpleton.

Haba.. Bill Gates' son, this too much for one person nah.

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keppyy:



I just graduated.

am 25 in ND 1 Accountancy and am happy.my sister it is about your mindset. My own secret of happiness is in the knowledge of God.

I'm hoping to find a thread like this on nairaland someday so that I can also share my experience on depression.... I'm 19 turning 20 this month.... I guess the main cause of my depression of my own depression is my biological dad..... when we lived together with my mum as a one lovely family...... it was so cool, I feel blessed then but everything just changed at one time when I was 10 years old my parents divorced....... to cut long story short.... I started living lyk an orphan wen my parents are well alive but they don't really care.......I struggled and managed to finish my high school studie all by myself immediately, I got a factory work at age 16 and since then I've been depressed with my life because its fvckin boring...... let me just stop there.... tho I'm still bored and depressed up till now even as I'm typing this...... I don't know what to do but the only thing tggat do reduces it sometimes is those old school rap music that I listen to

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You should also be thinking and preparing for the end of life (because it will definately come) and where do you intend to spend it, that depends on your deeds here.

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

Brother, we share the same age down to a few days. May born.
Same thing happened to me severally. Not yet 30 and I already felt old. My colleague would look at me strange.

Get into a serious relationship and get married. Then focus on major targets, life goals. Determine things that give you satisfaction. They are there if you search deep enough. And pursue them. It'll take your mind off those 'mid-life blues'.

You are probably a melancholic like me. I never had any girlfriend till I was 28, didn't party in school or at home and everyone kept yabbing me that my wife danced far more better than me at our trad and wedding. But I can't come and go and come and kill myself.

Like I said, find things to divert your attention and give you joy (not alcohol, parties or p0rn) and long term happiness and pursue your life goals. Forget missed runs and old age and all the things associated with them
They'll come when they'll come. Enjoy your life and hope for a good future now. Your depression is supposed to be a phase. It'll pass with time. Cheers bro.

Am not 30 yet but at some point in our lives we get to a stage where we need to change the way we live our lives because we realise we need to be a certain kind of person at that stage.I think that is where you are now.changing into a much better man.as for marriage that will come in its time.you are basically turning into the man you will be in the later years.enjoy

dancok:
thanks bro ur post tell me I can still make it.

In as much as we are all in NL doing faceless chats, I told myself that whatever I am contributing here by my posts should affect people positively.

Go to the churches and see how many babes that are in their early, mid and late 30s looking for hubby. Some in their 40s, still they are not depressed. Pls do not use your tongue to promote your little problem to become something big . Depression can lead to someone committing suicide, losing focus in life, mental problems,having inferiority complex, feeling totally dissatisfied with yourself and life generally, getting angry easily, not seeing anything good in others etc. It is a serious problem , as it can be spiritual too. So rise up to this and see it resolved before it is out of hand.

I will advice op to go for deliverance in MFM as a matter of fact, gey close to God. When someone is in that mood, it goes beyond ordinary sometimes. Your destiny is your personal project in life, guide it and protect jealously. Once the blessings of God locate you, even you will not believe where you will be in the next few years, serious. It is real.

Tinyemeka:

Brother, we share the same age down to a few days. May born.
Same thing happened to me severally. Not yet 30 and I already felt old. My colleague would look at me strange.
Get into a serious relationship and get married. Then focus on major targets, life goals. Determine things that give you satisfaction. They are there if you search deep enough. And pursue them. It'll take your mind off those 'mid-life blues'.
You are probably a melancholic like me. I never had any girlfriend till I was 28, didn't party in school or at home and everyone kept yabbing me that my wife danced far more better than me at our trad and wedding. But I can't come and go and come and kill myself.
Like I said, find things to divert your attention and give you joy (not alcohol, parties or p0rn) and long term happiness and pursue your life goals. Forget missed runs and old age and all the things associated with them
They'll come when they'll come. Enjoy your life and hope for a good future now. Your depression is supposed to be a phase. It'll pass with time. Cheers bro.

Telling someone who is already depressed to go and find a wife and get married is NOT the solution. This is a psychological health issue and it could just be MID LIFE CRISIS.. yes! I said it... you will be amazed that this does not only happen to men/women in their 40's anymore. It has been proved that more of our 'google generation' are falling into depression early on in their life. That's why you are having this feeling. You feel at this age you should have ticked everything in your 'bucketlist" but the reality is that you have not and that is setting you into this conundrum of emotion.

I was 32 when I felt this.I stopped working 9-5. I took a break. I was tired of everything. I decided I will live life for a year or two. I had savings.. I enrolled in smaller classes for gardening, piano lessons and flower class. It was therapy for me.. I hung out more with good friends and cancelled my long bucket list of MUST ACHIEVE THIS BY THIS AGE. Created simpler ones. I STOPPED BEING HARD ON MY SELF... I set smaller goals and achieved them one step at a time with flexibility. I stopped seeing life as one ball of complication and competition. I went back to work only part time to top up my savings and I got serious in giving my time to others ( my ministry) I did things that made me HAPPY. I got my life back. Lived a simpler life.. and eliminated that invisible bar only me set up for myself.

I do not know what will work best for you. You need to just find out yourself. Do something.. learn a language, take a hobby, develop friendships, learn to understand that success is not about material riches. Live simple and travel to see the world one step at a time.

Gboliwe:
Wow! Never knew that living life stops at age 30!

I have to make the most of what is left before I hit 30 then.

Seriously, some people like to create psychological problems where there shouldn't be any. Why someone will feel depressed for attaining 30 beats me. I guess attaining 50 will be suicidal! God help me!

Lolll Ikr.

BankoleNco:


+ Lost interest in my friends football , work and most things I used to enjoy doing. . . Is that depressed enough?

we're age mates and I think you're being hard on yourself. See age is nothing but a number. In my own case,I just reached my prime.I flirt,play games,live free,play with kids. You need to start enjoying those things you enjoyed again and forget your age. See if you see yourself as old,believe me you'll start feeling old. You'd go bald,grow grey hair with weak bones. I'd rather live like a young adult than an old youth. Dont be stupid you still have like 40years to old age.lol

aspirebig:


In as much as we are all in NL doing faceless chats, I told myself that whatever I am contributing here by my posts should affect people positively.

Go to the churches and see how many babes that are in their early, mid and late 30s looking for hubby. Some in their 40s, still they are not depressed. Pls do not use your tongue to promote your little problem to become something big . Depression can lead to someone committing suicide, losing focus in life, mental problems,having inferiority complex, feeling totally dissatisfied with yourself and life generally, getting angry easily, not seeing anything good in others etc. It is a serious problem , as it can be spiritual too. So rise up to this and see it resolved before it is out of hand.

I will advice op to go for deliverance in MFM as a matter of fact, gey close to God. When someone is in that mood, it goes beyond ordinary sometimes. Your destiny is your personal project in life, guide it and protect jealously. Once the blessings of God locate you, even you will not believe where you will be in the next few years, serious. It is real.

thanks.

slap1:
My first guess is, 'This guy wants to have it all!'
Bro, you can't have the best of both worlds. How long do you wanna club and drive spontaneously? Life comes in stages and you have to condition your mind in readiness for each stage.
And who says 30 or 40 is old? Have you heard that life begins at 40? You spend quality time thinking of tomorrow and end up wasting today. Live one day at a time! Good luck!

don't know how to praise you for this post... Stole it from my mind

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

Dude, just incase you haven't snapped out of your dellirium yet, I'll say SNAP OUT OF IT.

Yes you are 30. Unfortunately you can't have those past years back. If you don't live your life and spend it being depressed, soon you will look at the calender and realise its you 40th birthday. Then what? Put agun to your head and pull the trigger?

Common wake up and smell the coffee. Life is just beginning. Its not as bad as you think. Very soon all that life you think you are going to miss will look like baby talk to you.

Trust me. I've been there before.

@ Op. I understand wat U feel, nd ow U feel. I have read all tru d posts here, nd very few rilly made sense. D truth I̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊ dt at some point in our lives we feel so depressed, wen we feel we've lost evrytn, or we are not where we are supposed 2b after settn our goals nd priorities. Say disappoints wit relationships, ambitions, and many oda facets of lyf. I have been dere b4, nd I knw ow it feels. I am 27 2da, nd many times I feel so depressed, hvn a failed relationship, failed academic accomplishments nd many oda issues. Well 2da I don't av a stable job, hoping 4 one, graduated recently nd waitn for service, nd I got 2 plots of land I intend 2 use 2 build a house in d nearest future. Got moments of depression, but ova d yrs of depression I learnt 1 tin, leave ϔ☺Ůȑ lyf to God, let Him control ϔ☺Ůȑ path nd lead U aright, nd U will Neva regret it. 2da am a beta person, though I am not where I am, bt I am beta Dan wat I was ystada. D truth I̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊ dt shud we kip revelling in d past we aint gonna move anywhere 4ward. Dere are many ppl who U are far beta off Dan U.
D key recipe 2 depression I̶̲̥̅̊s̶̲̥̅̊ U focusing on d tings U lyk doin best nd putn ϔ☺Ůȑ spirit nd soul into it, it will give U fulfilment nd inner happiness. For me, weneva d streams of depression comes, I pick up some real cool novels 2 read, nd most tyms I listen to raggae nd country music, it helps me a lot, nd frees me 4RM d throes of depression.
Uv got a reason 2b happy nd tankful esp 2 d Most High God. Don't let depression eat into ϔ☺Ůȑ soul. Always tink abt dose ppl who U are beta Dan nd who wish dey where in your shoes.

I'm 32.

I felt a little pressure around 26-28 when I wasn't achieving up to what I knew I had the potential to achieve. I was under some pressure - internally and externally and somehow felt depressed. I set a number of targets for myself but wasn't achieving them at set time. It was somehow beginning to affect me.


But I realized I was "running" too fast and probably using "another man's clock as life time guide" (pardon my literal translation of Yoruba to English). I later chilled down and started moving at my pace and preferred looking at people below me rather than people above me.

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

I feel you. except that some of us are depressed because we didn't embark on self development and now feel empty.
Could you brief us on self development and how we could be financially stable. Help really needed

@op I need a volunteer who would wake me up daily as early as 4am. I sleep like a baby, when am not suppose to be, cos I ve lot of things to be worried about, am getting close to your age too

Am damn serious op, instead of you just staring into the ceiling thinking of the unknown, you can help wake a friend who really needs to be awake...

ratiken:
Pele. Take a trip to Vegas and spend a month.
Marry a relatively younger lady who is ready to explore life and fun. Quit worry, it never solves anything.

this reply might sound crazy but its exactly wat u need. I understand how you feel cuz it happened to me too wen I was turning twenty. I've spent and I'm still spending most of my youthful years developing myself with the hope that when I make money I can club all I want but one thing seemed to be the prb TIME was/is ticking and at a certain age society expects certain things from you. Well this is what helped me overcome it. I realised that I am not living for anybody. I'll do what I want because I want to. First of all make sure you're doing/working where you're happy. You said you spent your 20ies developing yourself so I'm guessing you are fufilled your career. If you're not, find what you love doing then do it. Getting married is an option, marry because you want to, marry who and when you want to. Don't mind the society cuz they won't be there wen you commit suicide (God Forbid) there's no law stoping you from clubbing and having fun till you die. Just like my Quotee rightfully stated. Marry a fun loving girl that will happiliy club with you and be responsible with you too. Take a Vacation and clear your head (it helped me too) and by all means do what you love, when you want and how you want. Just make sure you have money lolz cuz poverty can be an hindrance sometimes

Hmmmm,aging can be depressing if some expectations is not happening but we all still nid to bless GOD for d gift of life.op,just take ur mind off it en have fun,all wud be well

Jarus:
I'm 32.

I felt a little pressure around 26-28 when I wasn't achieving up to what I knew I had the potential to achieve. I was under some pressure - internally and externally and somehow felt depressed. I set a number of targets for myself but wasn't achieving them at set time. It was somehow beginning to affect me.


But I realized I was "running" too fast and probably using "another man's clock as life time guide" (pardon my literal translation of Yoruba to English). I later chilled down and started moving at my pace and preferred looking at people below me rather than people above me.

Thank you! Thank you! I feel greatly motivated by your comment.

I have decided to start moving at my own pace, and to appreciate every little achievement - instead of looking at "only" those above me.

NaLaugh:


If your 9-5 is weighing you down, make the right financial/investment moves, and cut it off like i did.

would you like to share some of those 'moves'?

BankoleNco:
Hey guys,
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but I'd go ahead and post here as it is related to health (depression).
Well, I don't want to bore you with long sermon-esque writings, so I'd skip the fancy stuff and go straight
to the point. I'd be turning 30 mid next year and its really eating me up! I feel depressed and old! Its been
giving me sleepless nights and middle of the night insomnia I wake up 4.00 am for no reason nowadays
and just stare at the ceiling lost in thought and scared as hell with thoughts of being in the twilight of my youth,
knowing I'd have to get married pretty soon, just 10 years away from 40, no more clubbing, no more spontaneous
Saturday drives. The worst part is I spent MOST of my teenage and youth life in self development and didn't have
time to indulge in some most of the activities attached to youthful exuberance.Its paid off, yes! But, I AM DEPRESSED right now!
Did any of you guys currently 30 and above experience same? Would really help if someone said something. *sigh*

Have you tried using the natural recreational herb? Cannabis ? Good Luck. :-)

loading.............................. my early 30

phreakabit:
I feel op's pain 30 is the actual start of Adulthood in some sense. . . Its really scary and to think that just next year you'd be 30 is a nightmare trust me. Turning 18-27 is fun once 28 you start changing, 29 depressed and then 30 game over! You must become an adult and get ready to start a family. . Spend the remaining [size=18pt]70%[/size] of your life with [size=18pt]1[/size] woman

just the harsh reality