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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Nobody: 4:07am On Oct 18, 2014
HARDDON:


Three things r iinvolved
1) shez not into u....just hanging on until a better deal shows up....if this is d case, u already know it ain't gonno work but because she is endowed u still want her BADLY ( run now if this is d case, cos if she cant express it now that itz hawt, wen wud she ? When her tommy pops from ur seed n she go hating u for sowing ?) Ehmmm, some1 said his wife go reading newspaper when he is on her missionary! Know that kinda feeling?

2) she does love u but she's the very shy type n find it hard to put emotions into words. A simple look into her eyes would reveal d volumes of her heart! This is very rare nonetheless.
How come she is not too shy to sing those melodies when u guys r having them hawt sessions?


3) she is into u deeply but she's fully in the picture n blivs strongly that the power in a r/ship/marriage, belongs to him/her who cares less. So she pretends not to send, to care, nor display any emotions unless u have the first go. These types r most common now n most frustrating .

Remedy: wisely put her in her place.....she was not d one that proposed to u! If u saved her number with a pet name b4 , change it to her NATIVE name(I know dey hate this) . if u've been d one doing all d calling, retract. Chill a bit n let her return most of d calls u've placed across earlier . she would complain I know, that should not make u bulge. To make up a lil, instead of returning her calls, send mages. Make ur self unavailable unlike before. If u see her twice a week , make it once, sometimes none. btw, it is not every time she calls u , u wud pick . n b4 u pick, if u must, let it ring for a while( don't just rush n pick) if she says she doesnt have much airtime , that u should call back, tell u will n take ur time. When u guys r on call, always be the one to round off the talk....aii....I got stuffs to handle now, chat latter . make these a lifestyle
She can't but straighten up if she takes u crzly(so many of them would be happy u got ur balls on)


I know some folks would ball in here quoting this and saying this is d best way to lose her, well it is better she is gone than wasting my time n resources and blocking more suitable prospects
I think the first step is to talk to her about it. she might not even know op is feeling bad about it. Some people find it hard expressing their love verbally.

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by SpcAgtOko: 4:13am On Oct 18, 2014
It is better if the man says it first - for the first time..

After that, either one grin

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by HARDDON: 4:20am On Oct 18, 2014
sparkymummy:

I think the first step is to talk to her about it. she might not even know op is feeling bad about it. Some people find it hard expressing their love verbally.

Sure say, but hmmmmm, could u help us with d how he should lay d question across?

"Y don't u tell me u love me first?" Dock! Simply yuck!

U see, there r some things that comes naturally, if for 7 years she hasn't been able to express her self, aint no need.
Which should make a lady really shy : stripping n having a guy explore her nu8e body or looking @ her own guy n telling him how she feels?

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by HARDDON: 4:23am On Oct 18, 2014
sparkymummy:

Some people are not good with love words but they mean it whenever they say it. she might say it to you on your wedding day.
The most important thing is showing you how much she loves you. Some girls can shout and sing 'I love you' even when on top of another man.

Now that ish cracked me out!

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Paulv(m): 4:29am On Oct 18, 2014
guente02:
All i know is that the one who says it first loves the most.
i think i agree with u my broda
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by lonelydora: 4:30am On Oct 18, 2014
It is a two-way thing. In my own case, my wife always initiates it.l and I always respond. It looks as if we are competing on who says it first.

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Missy89(f): 4:51am On Oct 18, 2014
Say it first to a Naija guy and you are screwed. (most cases)
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Jarus(m): 5:13am On Oct 18, 2014
Frankly, I'm not a fan of that cliché. From the time I was a single, young guy to now.

I don't say it. I can count on my fingertips the number of times I have ever said it to anyone.

My wife used to complain at the early stage, but she later got to know i'm not a fan of all those talks, I hardly believe in saying "I love you" by mouth, it is by action. I told her I don't believe in it even if everyone other person in the world says it.

I also never believed nor engaged in all those "romantic" texts people send during courtship. "You're this, you're that...I had a dream about you...you're the mountain, you're the moon, the sun etc in my life". all those things don't make sense to me.

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by msmon(m): 5:21am On Oct 18, 2014
'I love You' is a statement that has been abused so I don't care if she say that to me or not, I care about the action.

There are more than one thousand ways a woman will tell you 'I love you' without uttering a word.

And it's not a sole responsibility of man to say such.

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by ad84ada(m): 5:43am On Oct 18, 2014
my girl says it very often and it makes me love her more. smiley
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by plumule(m): 5:47am On Oct 18, 2014
since she is ur fiance i dont see it as a duty. It is necessary to tell her " i love u" every now and then dat way she will try hard some other day to first u mention it
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Paulv(m): 5:50am On Oct 18, 2014
HARDDON:


Three things r iinvolved
1) shez not into u....just hanging on until a better deal shows up....if this is d case, u already know it ain't gonno work but because she is endowed u still want her BADLY ( run now if this is d case, cos if she cant express it now that itz hawt, wen wud she ? When her tommy pops from ur seed n she go hating u for sowing ?) Ehmmm, some1 said his wife go reading newspaper when he is on her missionary! Know that kinda feeling?

2) she does love u but she's the very shy type n find it hard to put emotions into words. A simple look into her eyes would reveal d volumes of her heart! This is very rare nonetheless.
How come she is not too shy to sing those melodies when u guys r having them hawt sessions?


3) she is into u deeply but she's fully in the picture n blivs strongly that the power in a r/ship/marriage, belongs to him/her who cares less. So she pretends not to send, to care, nor display any emotions unless u have the first go. These types r most common now n most frustrating .

Remedy: wisely put her in her place.....she was not d one that proposed to u! If u saved her number with a pet name b4 , change it to her NATIVE name(I know dey hate this) . if u've been d one doing all d calling, retract. Chill a bit n let her return most of d calls u've placed across earlier . she would complain I know, that should not make u bulge. To make up a lil, instead of returning her calls, send mages. Make ur self unavailable unlike before. If u see her twice a week , make it once, sometimes none. btw, it is not every time she calls u , u wud pick . n b4 u pick, if u must, let it ring for a while( don't just rush n pick) if she says she doesnt have much airtime , that u should call back, tell u will n take ur time. When u guys r on call, always be the one to round off the talk....aii....I got stuffs to handle now, chat latter . make these a lifestyle
She can't but straighten up if she takes u crzly(so many of them would be happy u got ur balls on)


I know some folks would ball in here quoting this and saying this is d best way to lose her, well it is better she is gone than wasting my time n resources and blocking more suitable prospects
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by nodullin(m): 5:58am On Oct 18, 2014
GamaG:
I want to know whether it is the sole duty of men to say 'I love you' first before the women respond with 'I love you too'.

honestly speaking, this issue has been giving me cause for concern as when I refused to say it, my fiancee will not initiate it. your opinion is highly needed please.
Just get that Nigerian fiancee an expensive gift/treat... She go just begin to sing "I luv u " for your ear...
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Paulv(m): 5:58am On Oct 18, 2014
HARDDON:


Three things r iinvolved
1) shez not into u....just hanging on until a better deal shows up....if this is d case, u already know it ain't gonno work but because she is endowed u still want her BADLY ( run now if this is d case, cos if she cant express it now that itz hawt, wen wud she ? When her tommy pops from ur seed n she go hating u for sowing ?) Ehmmm, some1 said his wife go reading newspaper when he is on her missionary! Know that kinda feeling?

2) she does love u but she's the very shy type n find it hard to put emotions into words. A simple look into her eyes would reveal d volumes of her heart! This is very rare nonetheless.
How come she is not too shy to sing those melodies when u guys r having them hawt sessions?


3) she is into u deeply but she's fully in the picture n blivs strongly that the power in a r/ship/marriage, belongs to him/her who cares less. So she pretends not to send, to care, nor display any emotions unless u have the first go. These types r most common now n most frustrating .

Remedy: wisely put her in her place.....she was not d one that proposed to u! If u saved her number with a pet name b4 , change it to her NATIVE name(I know dey hate this) . if u've been d one doing all d calling, retract. Chill a bit n let her return most of d calls u've placed across earlier . she would complain I know, that should not make u bulge. To make up a lil, instead of returning her calls, send mages. Make ur self unavailable unlike before. If u see her twice a week , make it once, sometimes none. btw, it is not every time she calls u , u wud pick . n b4 u pick, if u must, let it ring for a while( don't just rush n pick) if she says she doesnt have much airtime , that u should call back, tell u will n take ur time. When u guys r on call, always be the one to round off the talk....aii....I got stuffs to handle now, chat latter . make these a lifestyle
She can't but straighten up if she takes u crzly(so many of them would be happy u got ur balls on)


I know some folks would ball in here quoting this and saying this is d best way to lose her, well it is better she is gone than wasting my time n resources and blocking more suitable prospects
HARDDON, pls advic me...lik my gel she display dat no 3.but it's a long r/ship now but befor she traveld we wher both inlov nd i alwas tel her howmuch i lv her.shuld i be acting lik i dnt care too,pls help
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by chocmanne(m): 5:59am On Oct 18, 2014
HARDDON:


angry angry have u ever really felt Love in ur life?

Have u ever been colasped into ur guy's warm embrace n for once felt protected from d scourging of dah sun?

Have u been so trampled , tossed n troubled by live's storms but a single Kiss from his lips seems to drawn all ur tears n soothe all ur aches?

Tell me, hv u really felt love b4?

kai! bt i hear say William Shakespeare don die now..

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by GlorifiedTunde(m): 5:59am On Oct 18, 2014
GamaG:
I want to know whether it is the sole duty of men to say 'I love you' first before the women respond with 'I love you too'.

honestly speaking, this issue has been giving me cause for concern as when I refused to say it, my fiancee will not initiate it. your opinion is highly needed please.

It doesn't matter who says it first (although man is the initiator of love).

If you both love each other well, this will be the least issue, all you need is a mature relationship.

I initiated the "I love you" in my relationship because my babe was uptight at inception. But now I get it everyday, with a sincerity tone too wink

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Chuks16(m): 6:04am On Oct 18, 2014
I no longer understand love,. love be like


boy: I love you

girl: thank you.........


is i love you a compliment, I thought is reciprocal.


I am going back to bed

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by eduxerxes: 6:18am On Oct 18, 2014
I've said it time without number, the girl I'm gonna marry MUST be the one to love me first. I ain't ready to go chasing girls...dem go think say u dey force them. Trust me, it makes the union stronger and lasting (nowadays).

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by adepiero: 6:26am On Oct 18, 2014
undecided

Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by OBA1986: 6:27am On Oct 18, 2014
Really this shouldn't a duty but rather a normal normal talk from the both side.

The person first feel it can see it and the other will respond but ladies like guys to say it first, but to me it does not mean anytin whether ladies say it first or guys first
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by STENON(f): 6:27am On Oct 18, 2014
I think
that is the FIRST WARNING sign in a Relationship. If someone is
forcing/Initiating you before saying " I love you / I miss you" to the
person you truly Love, Re-Love and cherish.

Which means there is someone outside, that she enjoys telling the word
"I Love you / I miss you" not minding of whether the person replies back
or not.

@Op, your ability to decode the code that has been sent to you from her,
requires wisdom.

Goodmorning to all Nairalanders

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Edusouls(m): 6:31am On Oct 18, 2014
Hahahaha, chei, african woman and luv ke, african women re not that luving oriented beings, they re stiff and very closed, hmm for her to first tell u she loves you, she see's it as a wrong move, by the way i luv u is the typical way of western communication, not here in africa, women have their ways of saying it here..but u men dont expect our women to be so sweet,outspoken, luving and faithful like the white girls, someone cant just give u what he/she dosent have, so let's manage them the way they are, and try to brush them up, but the problem is that some re so crude that refining them is impossible, and some takes years of hardwork...

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by chucky234(m): 6:35am On Oct 18, 2014
CuteAnnabelle:
kiss kiss Don't Know, Don't Care
why are your cheeks so swollen?

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by csbrown(m): 6:39am On Oct 18, 2014
Erm erm love kwa?
A minute

Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by khukhi(f): 6:45am On Oct 18, 2014
Not its not the duty of men.
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by phransix147(m): 6:46am On Oct 18, 2014
CuteAnnabelle:
kiss kiss Don't Know, Don't Care

This one would be there forming gangster... That's how Aunty Jane turned 50 and single...

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by phransix147(m): 6:48am On Oct 18, 2014
khukhi:
Not its not the duty of men.

Better gurl... May u find husband real soon!
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Cabsso(m): 6:49am On Oct 18, 2014
I dunno wats wrong wit me, mayb am nt alone in dis bt I find it difficult 2fall inluv, tho I mak d females fall 4me. Wit dis am sure many guys dnt even bend in luv talk more of fallin dey only pretend 2b
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Nobody: 6:50am On Oct 18, 2014
It can be anyone- m ale or female, depending on the situation or growth of emotions I guess. The fear here should be hoping it is a mutual thing and not a one sided feeling.

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Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by sekzy99(m): 6:54am On Oct 18, 2014
CuteAnnabelle:
kiss kiss Don't Know, Don't Care
hehehehee
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Tymax(m): 6:57am On Oct 18, 2014
Ladies first. grin
Re: Is It The Duty Of Men To Initiate The I LOVE YOU Statement? by Nobody: 6:57am On Oct 18, 2014
amunekeuto:
for me, he need not say it. let him act it. let him carry drinks to my folks.

Women and marriage, hian.

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