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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Truckpusher(m): 8:13pm On Nov 21, 2014
Valeree:

Thank you!!
And one funny thing he does to you is to ensure that at these moments he doesn't have your time and treats you like trash ,he would be sure that you're not anywhere near any form of happiness and woe betides you at same time if he sees you smiling at other guys even if it is an innocent one.

Be resolute and tell him point blank that if he doesn't respect your feelings you'll walk away and never look back ,you'll notice the change in attitude.

You don't let people treat you like trash when they have you to themselves, meanwhile there are dozens of folks that only wishes to hold your hands for some couple of minutes.This is not to say that you should start displaying flirtatious attitude that would deepen the rift grin That one is risky o - Send your message in the most mature,convincing and yet resolute manner. Silent treatment givers always know their limit though they pretend to be tough because they know your weakness.

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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by 100Cents: 8:18pm On Nov 21, 2014
Kachisbarbie:
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Silent treatment is a sign of immaturity, pride, vain glory, self centeredness, stubbornness, discontent, disloyalty.

Its also a shame that people who engage in this attitude boast about it. One lady was boasting about giving her bf/Ex the silent treatment for one year.

" He still calls me and wants me, I promise him I am coming but I won't go, just posting him ".

She is taking pride in making someone a fool and being untrustworthy herself.

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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by emperordan(m): 8:18pm On Nov 21, 2014
Immaturity, and its extremely bad! I repeat, bad!!!
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Truckpusher(m): 8:19pm On Nov 21, 2014
100Cents:


Silent treatment is a sign of immaturity, pride, vain glory, self centeredness, stubbornness, discontent, disloyalty.
Gbam grin
Couldn't have said it better.
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by coolvitus(m): 8:19pm On Nov 21, 2014
Toh
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Frankenstein: 8:20pm On Nov 21, 2014
I don't understand the first picture. Explain it, Kachisbarbie.
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by 100Cents: 8:21pm On Nov 21, 2014
BABE3:
Silent treatment is a sign of maturity. It takes a lot of self control to shut your mouth, thinks things over, analyze and talk.

Silent treatment, when used the right way, is very effective.

Sorry for you.

Pray, you don't become a relationship failure.

Communication is the live wire of any relationship..
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by aadoiza: 8:21pm On Nov 21, 2014
It works if and only if the other party actually cares. If the other party's got the-I-don't-give-a-hoot disposition--then-- look for an alternative method pronto.
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Nov 21, 2014
100Cents:


Silent treatment is a sign of immaturity, pride, vain glory, self centeredness, stubbornness, discontent, disloyalty.

hahahaha. Your own worse?
You have finish the 'silent treaters'.
I don't really wanna say it's immaturity, but I think it's bad. Especially when it last for long.

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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:22pm On Nov 21, 2014
Thank God i hope my husband gets to see this where ever he is. Even if he is wrong ,he gives the silent treatment just to escape saying i am sorry. He wont even talk to you for days even weeks and when you try talking all he does is nod his head.

It's true that silent treatment tends to disolve the marriage and shows no friendship at all in the marriage

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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:25pm On Nov 21, 2014
[quote author=Kachisbarbie post=28229667]

hahahaha. Your own worse?
You have finish the 'silent treaters'.
I don't really wanna say it's immaturity, but I think it's bad. Especially when it last for long.
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But seriously 100cent is 100% right. Immaturity is the best description for it. A mature person will talk things through with you probably not at that moment but later
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by chiibekee(f): 8:30pm On Nov 21, 2014
I can never allow that silent moment. It destroys any relationship as soon as possible. I can't allow such in my relationship instead I plead for forgiveness when am not wrong. I know where I got my man, I will make him pay for allowing me plead when am not supposed to.
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:30pm On Nov 21, 2014
Frankenstein:
I don't understand the first picture. Explain it, Kachisbarbie.

see ya head like bomb. So you no understand that picture? angry

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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Richy4(m): 8:30pm On Nov 21, 2014
For me, I do not and will never lay a hand on a woman or any one for that matter. so what do you do when you are pushed to the wall?

I do it to register my displeasure so that that situation can be arrested. so which one is preferable beating the person black and blue or ignore the person angry?
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Truckpusher(m): 8:32pm On Nov 21, 2014
chiibekee:
I can never allow that silent moment. It destroys any relationship as soon as possible. I can't allow such in my relationship instead I plead for forgiveness when am not wrong. I know where I got my man, I will make him pay for allowing me plead when am not supposed to.
That's called being 'smart' grin

Badt girl tongue
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by 100Cents: 8:38pm On Nov 21, 2014
Valeree:
Silent treatment is bad in every way... I have a male friend that does that a lot...and it really pisses me off..he won't reply my massages on viber or what's app or anywhere and won't pick my call, and if he manages to reply it would just be a text that said " I'm busy".
Once I did it to him over an issue we had, and he got so furious and sent a message , where he had rambled on over 11 pages of total bvllshit explaining why It should be only him that has the right to do such.
.. Meanwhile Currently, he is giving me another silent treatment since 4days now over something I'm yet to find out about.. U can imagine that sort of thing.. he doesn't know how fed up I am with the relationship and I will seriously be cutting away from him soon.

Is that not a child ?

How can an over 18 person be behaving this way ?

That's stu.piid.ity at its peak.

One thing about these kind of people is that you won't know exactly what will offend them and they won't tell you what it is, but will prefer to punish you emotionally for something you know nothing about.
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by manny4life(m): 8:38pm On Nov 21, 2014
This is the most childish form of behavior... I do not like it and don't encourage it. A friend and I are going through the same problem, perhaps this is it. Something happened two weeks ago which is obviously not my fault; this happened on a Wednesday, he contacted me on Thursday and apologized for what he did and said "have a great day". I called and text him on Saturday, no response. The following week, I called and sent him texts several times, he did not respond. I called again this week and then reached out to one of his friends to know if he was okay; dude confirmed that he was in NY for the weekend. Well guess what, I told him to pass on the message to him. Tell him I said good luck because I wouldn't be contacting him again; I don't have time for grown men who act like women. That was it and that's it for me. If we ever talked again, I will cut off the friendship immediately.
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:39pm On Nov 21, 2014
chiibekee:
I can never allow that silent moment. It destroys any relationship as soon as possible. I can't allow such in my relationship instead I plead for forgiveness when am not wrong. I know where I got my man, I will make him pay for allowing me plead when am not supposed to.
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Truckpusher(m): 8:40pm On Nov 21, 2014
Richy4:
For me, I do not and will never lay a hand on a woman or any one for that matter. so what do you do when you are pushed to the wall?

I do it to register my displeasure so that that situation can be arrested. so which one is preferable beating the person black and blue or ignore the person angry?
How would you react when a girl that wouldn't talk to you for hours after begging for mercy locks the door while your inside the house,won't let you take walk and hold your cloth while mouthing all vile and abominable things into your ears,all pleas from you to walk away is greeted with more of an offensive and provocative words over some trivial issues. How would you react? cheesy


You never jam some drama queen,my advice is for you to walk away the moment you begin to notice her as a violent drama queen,else you'd be forced to do what you have to do just to survive. angry
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:41pm On Nov 21, 2014
chiibekee:
I can never allow that silent moment. It destroys any relationship as soon as possible. I can't allow such in my relationship instead I plead for forgiveness when am not wrong. I know where I got my man, I will make him pay for allowing me plead when am not supposed to.

And then the cycle continues. You make hubby pay; he switches back into his silent mode; You plead and u are right back to where u started,..lol

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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by manny4life(m): 8:42pm On Nov 21, 2014
Richy4:
For me, I do not and will never lay a hand on a woman or any one for that matter. so what do you do when you are pushed to the wall?

I do it to register my displeasure so that that situation can be arrested. so which one is preferable beating the person black and blue or ignore the person angry?

Why do you have to hit someone? Whatever happened to communicating the wrongs to the person... Like many have said, silent treatment is just as bad as everything there is to. If you ignored me, you better believe I will ignore you for life. You will be the one later begging for forgiveness.
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Frankenstein: 8:42pm On Nov 21, 2014
Kachisbarbie:


see ya head like bomb. So you no understand that picture? angry
You want to get banned?
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by 100Cents: 8:42pm On Nov 21, 2014
EnlightenedSoul:


I agree. I do this, and it works. It's not like I plan it out, but I prefer retreating to arguing, and I need my space.

The longest SL treatment (full) I've been in lasted almost a year, and it was with one of my siblings. But I can only tolerate that one in small doses anyway...

Starightway to hell..

Ephesians 4:26.

Be ye angry and sin not : let not the sun go down upon your wrath..

So its a silly person who keeps bearing a grudge for over 24 hours... when he or she can talk it over
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by englishmart(m): 8:47pm On Nov 21, 2014
this thread is distorting my silence.
I'm currently giving someone a silent treatment
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by barrybanbi: 8:47pm On Nov 21, 2014
Truckpusher:
Silent treatment is immature and childish.

If you have a problem with someone ,the best way is to talk about it and if that person is mature both of you should be able to iron out your differences and whoever that is at fault should find it less hard to apologize and everyone involved gets to move on.

Most folks that prefers the silent treatment are emotional blackmailers and I for once do not hesitate to walk away from such drama.

There is no point staying with someone that wouldn't talk to you for days or do things with you in harmony,I'd rather get myself a manikin at home than live with a silent emotional abuser........They are manipulators and you do not let anybody manipulate and play with your emotions.

it depend on how the power is wheeled, what if the person is not mature enough ? if u ever deals with a nagging partner you will understand that silent treatment is for mature soul to practice.
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:53pm On Nov 21, 2014
Frankenstein:
You want to get banned?

lolz...nope. but the pic is self-explanatory na. I think that pic shows the positive effect of Silent Treatment (ST)

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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:54pm On Nov 21, 2014
manny4life:
This is the most childish form of behavior... I do not like it and don't encourage it. A friend and I are going through the same problem, perhaps this is it. Something happened two weeks ago which is obviously not my fault; this happened on a Wednesday, he contacted me on Thursday and apologized for what he did and said "have a great day". I called and text him on Saturday, no response. The following week, I called and sent him texts several times, he did not respond. I called again this week and then reached out to one of his friends to know if he was okay; dude confirmed that he was in NY for the weekend. Well guess what, I told him to pass on the message to him. Tell him I said good luck because I wouldn't be contacting him again; I don't have time for grown men who act like women. That was it and that's it for me. If we ever talked again, I will cut off the friendship immediately.

Smh
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by BABE3: 8:56pm On Nov 21, 2014
100Cents:


Sorry for you.

Pray, you don't become a relationship failure.

Communication is the live wire of any relationship..

Shut your mouth. You must have a low self esteem; that's why getting the silent treatment kills you. You constantly want attention, don't you? You constantly want to be spoken to, even if you're in the wrong and your partner needs space, don't you?

What is the big deal in both parties keeping quiet, regrouping and coming back to squash the issue? Don't you know it's as a result of talking too much that people say things or do things they wish they never said/did? You want your partner/friend to forgive you as soon as possible because you're selfish, disregarding the fact that they need space away from you?


Silence is also a form of communication. It's a temporary fix. By the time, both of get back together, the anger and rage would have reduced.

Again, it only works for matured folks.

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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 8:57pm On Nov 21, 2014
100Cents:


Starightway to hell..

Ephesians 4:26.

Be ye angry and sin not : let not the sun go down upon your wrath..

So its a silly person who keeps bearing a grudge for over 24 hours... when he or she can talk it over

Wellsaid, the bible is against it. It could even lead to cheating, because in those few minutes, the other party may seek some other companion (maybe online sef).

With time, the person may start looking forward to the silent treatment or intentionally annoy you, because it would be an opportunity to do what he/she pleases.

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Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by 100Cents: 8:58pm On Nov 21, 2014
Kachisbarbie:


hahahaha. Your own worse?
You have finish the 'silent treaters'.
I don't really wanna say it's immaturity, but I think it's bad. Especially when it last for long.

I was an expert in this behaviour as a kid/adolescent maybe I was shy and stubborn then.

But the corporate world taught me to talk.and communicate. I can get anyone's attention. So I now understand its immaturity and dumbness to keep silent when you can actually engage anyone and get the best from them.

I treat a lady silently when obviously she is trying to play smart or call me a fool, but it ends thesame day after passing my message. There are people who like making a fool of others to see how they will react..
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by dmz(m): 8:59pm On Nov 21, 2014
Lol..People have been traumatised by the silent treatment...Choi
Re: OPINION POLL: Silent Treatment - Maturity/immaturity? Good OR Bad? by Nobody: 9:02pm On Nov 21, 2014
Rapsainot:
My last serious relationship come to an end due to this issue, silent treatment is damn annoying

my ex went mad cos of silent treatment. a minor disagreement, he got angry, i got angry too cos i wasnt at fault. he started the silent treatment. i joined him . 7days later the guy ran mad. it took a lot of midnight prayer and fasting and much more before he got himself. that ended the rship of many years. ...story plenty sha but dt one ended.

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