MsPat:
Hian!!

Talk about beauty and d beast!.... if ur story is true (which i doubt) ur husband needs him some Jesus and prozac! Wat kind of a man punishes his wife with intimacy?!! If na me.....rat poison plenty for my area, na to form good wife, lace his wine and watch him die!!!

#abegshiftmakebreezeblow

Please watch what you put online... some vulnerable people visit this forum. things like rat poison are too sensitive to joke about... of all the wonderful advice given to her who knows, this might be the only one she picks...
#please be guided...

I like this movie, when will part 2 abi na part 3 go come out?

Wait o, how will she even say it self, "my husband is raping me"

TomiwaDamola:


Rape is defined as the unlawful compelling of a person through physical force or duress to have sexual intercourse. Also any act of sexual intercourse that is forced upon a person.
Since she did not consent to have sex and he forcefully had sex with her she was raped. Rape is rape regardless of whether or not they are married.

hollandis:
Divorce him,i take God beg you

And make sure you are not pregnant for him


He wants you to be pregnant so you have no choice than to stay

what God has joined together, let no man or woman put assunder.








@Op but why u nor like sex? Why u dey dress like woman wey deY go mecca?

Funjosh:
Wait o, how will she even say it self, "my husband is raping me"

I don't get what you are trying to say. She said her husband raped her in her original post.

I truly believe this story may be true.
Why??
Remember the case of the woman banker that was killed and butchered by her husband 3yrs ago?
Here is the link if you dont remember.
https://www.nairaland.com/701925/horror-nigerian-man-stabs-wife

If the woman banker that was killed by her husband a few years ago came on Nairaland to say things that might have been happening in her marriage, people would have called her a liar and said she was cooking up stories just for attention.
Until she died.
Killed by her own husband and stabbed to death severally.

Truth is, there are many psychos walking around, but people would not know.
The killer of that young woman, if u asked his friends, they will say he's a nice, correct, happy easy-going, and even church-loving guy. Only the woman would know the kind of beast she was living with and enduring, until he finally killed her.
Even if she had told her pastor, he would probably have counselled her to keep enduring and remain married.
Nobody would really believe her, or believe its that bad.

Truth is, there are many crazy people walking about, wearing suits and looking normal.
As someone put it here on NL, ....."many are mad, but few are na*ked on the streets".
And you'll not know until they finally go haywire and do something clearly 'kolo'.

Her husband sounds like a psycho.....he seems obsessed with the idea of revenge, and gets off on the idea of violent sex. Its obvious that is what excites him. And such people are dangerous......potentially VERY dangerous.
True, the OP misbehaved and acted like a frigging bi*tch during their dating years, but that should not warrant the degree of sexual torture he metes out to her.

My honest advice to the OP is this....
For the next few weeks (FEW weeks only), try out a test to see if you can salvage the marriage.
Try to give in to his demands for sex like a loving wife, pet him, romance him, even be the one to ask for sex when he comes back. If its true that he just needs you to freely have sex with him, he'll calm down by the time you're the one taking the initiative and asking for sex. Infact, there'll even be times when he'll be tired and you'll ask him for sex and he'll be like......."woman, you no dey tire Leave me joor!".....n his attempts at violent sex will reduce because you're giving him freely, and even giving him more than overdose.

While you're doing this, watch carefully and see whether his violent attitude will reduce and life returns to normal.
Also gauge carefully whether you can cope with his degree of libido for that few weeks of trial.....or whether he's trying to turn your narrow orifice to a wide basin.

If he calms down,..........good for you, all you now need to do is gauge whether you can cope with his high level of libido all your life (though it usually drops with age sha)

But If any of these 2 things persist......
He keeps being violent and raping you at will despite you giving him freely
Or he is nacking you to death with his degree of libido (he can be a nympho that can nack 30 times a day)

Then i have only 1 thing to say to you....
PACK YOUR LOAD AND VAMOOOOSE!!!

And dont listen to what any pastor, reverend, prophet or 'man of God' has to say.
Because they may be the same ones officiating at your funeral in a few months or years time if you get killed.

These are my thots, just had to say it, i've never typed an epistle so long in all my 8years on NL.

Others may see things differently though......i'm not fully qualified to advise about marriage matters.....because i'm not yet married myself.

Very Fake story! fiction!

okiezman:


The story above is as fake as the OP

op u sure say ur papa no circumcise u wen u d small.? if u r 4rm calabar.... infact make i close my mouth. i blame d guy 4 pretending. cuz me if u like be pope pikin so far as we r dating u hv 2 be active in romance ie kissin n hw 2 tease sum1. una wer d talk divorce most of d do d tin 4 nite class wit una illegal bf hw much more legal married woman dnt knw hw 2 seduce her husband n wetin vex me be say she refuse 2 learn. u wan tel me say u knw pass ur mma ettebom( pastor's wife). no be una virgin d say sex is ordain by God 4 married pple. wen d husband go cheat nw, na she go run cum open thread on hw 2 get her man bck. marriage is nt i big pass 18 nor am a graduate. is nt 4 kids ok. if u wanted dieing a virgin we hv many convent in nigeria. payin bride in calabar n akwa ibom no be "nkpo ntuk eyen". "ubo ifiok do" n save ur marriage

I respect this Op.She/He can cook anything cookable

If the story is true, that's the worst that could happen to a man. Sex denial. Woman u have the keys to his heart open and close it at will.

okiezman:


The story above is as fake as the OP

Exactly, the story is just fake.

*After their wedding and before their Sunday thanksgiving, the girl has started work already? Was there no leave?

*The husband stated he bought her a car after their marriage which she accepted with very little appreciation and she used the car for work and church.

*It was just 10minutes to church service when the husband asked her for sexx, they wasted time making love, she still dressed up and drove out of the house pretending to be going to the church and came back home, yet still, the pastor in that church still left the congregation to come to their to settle their dispute? Which time did they use for all these things and when did they go back to the church?

This story get as e be sha.

AKMoney1:
Why is everyone blaming the husband? Did you guys read the first part of the story where she clearly stated that she used him to have a good lunch, dinner or whenever she just feel like going to the cinema, that the guy never disappointed her? For good 3 years she played and milked him like wtf? How many guys can stand that? To the ladies if ur brother is in such courtship what will be your reaction?

Still yet the guy didn't give up and went ahead to marry her but only for the girl to start misbehaving on the very night of their wedding. Why won't you wanna bath with/for ur hubby? She even tried to resist the sex on their wedding night, come on we all have blood in our veins na and this guy has spent a fortune up till that moment. And even after the sex he realized she was a virgin and might be hurt, he bought her a car to compensate her. But ordinary kiss she can't give her hubby as a thank you.

Even though abusing her sexually is not the best option but what if he was beating her?

None of you guys here is saint enough to call him a beast except you pray to be treated the way she treated him while courting or you want your brother to be treated thus.

As for the lady in question, my advice for you is to beg him and change to a loving wife he wants you to be. Not always about sex, show him love and affections and if it's sex give him he's your husband.

I don't get men sometimes, in your head, "I took her out, bought her perfume etc" = "she must give me sex" yet when women actually take your gifts and have sex with you, you say she's an ashawo. If she doesn't you say she's a gold digger or whatever title you have for those who you are nice to but don't want to open legs for you. Confused bunch, I twale for una!

pweetixandy:
Hmmm..u and ur "husband" are not just compatible sexually. Ur not even romantic sef. What happend that morning would not have happend if u had just kissed him passionately and told him to wait until after service and u'll make him forget his name.instead u were doing like wood. Better divorce his silly behind and move on to the next phase of ur life cos as it is,100yrs of therapy will not help. U are not sensual and he is not patient. Hez a beast who shld be left alone,since u dnt know how to tame this beast. And u two dnt even have kids yet and u have a non existent sex life..incredible!

what! She should divorce his silly behind or he should divorce her dumb behind..... She is se.xless, non-romantic, wicked...... The guy is actually nice that he hasn't brought another woman in...... That is why I say and I am sure the husband agrees that marrying a virgin can be a curse... And did anyone notice that the husband didn't give a phock neither was he impressed by her claim to virginity.

What does it profit a man to marry a virgin wife that cannot do?.....

kandiikane:

I don't get men sometimes, in your head, "I took her out, bought her perfume etc" = "she must give me sex" yet when women actually take your gifts and have sex with you, you say she's an ashawo. If she doesn't you say she's a gold digger or whatever title you have for those who you are nice to but don't want to open legs for you. Confused bunch, I twale for una!

how about rephrased to "I don't get women, you said no sexxx till marriage, I waited patiently... Now we are married and you are still asking for more time, is the man a patient?"

Sophyrocks:


Jeeeeeeezzzzzzz at the bolded!!! commanding your wife to come and bath you is a romantic move? are you this unromantic to say so? OMG. No wonder you people are supporting the man here. Gadammit!!!! You all are sooooooooo unromantic!!! GOSH!!

This is what a romantic man will do;

Whisper into her ears sweet nothings, start kissing her, carry her up to the bathroom like a real man should, start undressing her slowly, prepare the shower or bath tub, make a foamy leather and start massaging her body slowly from neck to toe then whisper into her ears to do the same and it goes on and on and on. i dnt need to go into details. they could even start there and then continue in the bedroom. You better pay me for these tips.

Gosh. No wonder!!

Lol...

Where you there, do you know if he did all that and said to her "baby come and bath me".

The only part in your argument is the raping you condemned which i did, the other part of your argument doesn't make any sense. Is she the only virgin that got married?

The lady I quoted was a virgin when she married but she didn't behave like a log wood, she read about romance and sex on internet. You want equality and yet you want the man to do everything, understand everything or are you saying virgins don't have sexual urge can't she start a move?

Raping is very wrong but you can't just attack the man alone the woman also has fault.

Is she also romantic?? being a virgin doesn't mean she shouldn't read tips on romance and sex. If she's not ready for married she should have said so.

Hypocrisy: you want equality and yet the man must do everything.

AKMoney1:
Why is everyone blaming the husband? Did you guys read the first part of the story where she clearly stated that she used him to have a good lunch, dinner or whenever she just feel like going to the cinema, that the guy never disappointed her? For good 3 years she played and milked him like wtf? How many guys can stand that? To the ladies if ur brother is in such courtship what will be your reaction?

Still yet the guy didn't give up and went ahead to marry her but only for the girl to start misbehaving on the very night of their wedding. Why won't you wanna bath with/for ur hubby? She even tried to resist the sex on their wedding night, come on we all have blood in our veins na and this guy has spent a fortune up till that moment. And even after the sex he realized she was a virgin and might be hurt, he bought her a car to compensate her. But ordinary kiss she can't give her hubby as a thank you.

Even though abusing her sexually is not the best option but what if he was beating her?

None of you guys here is saint enough to call him a beast except you pray to be treated the way she treated him while courting or you want your brother to be treated thus.

As for the lady in question, my advice for you is to beg him and change to a loving wife he wants you to be. Not always about sex, show him love and affections and if it's sex give him he's your husband.

Bro I so much agree with u. I think this should serve as a big lesson to most of the ladies here...in as much as I do not totally support the husband violent way of getting sex from her buh I think to an xtent that she is actually the architect of her problem.

She had a lot of time to actually know who she truelly married..instead she used those times to have fun with her friends and the guy sorry to say is not all that matured and is actually seeing this now as an opportunity to pay her back.

My advice: where I come from, we do not believe in divorce, we believe in the scriptural definition of marriage; for better for 'worse'...u can actually tame him and bring out the better side of the man u married.

All u need to do is to first acknowledge that u both have wronged each other.

Secondly encourage urself to forgive him.

Thirdly call him out on a date outside ur home, inform him that u have realised how much u hurt him then..and that he shouldn't still bear all that against u cos u where still not matured then...and now...that u are ready to make amends for the betterment and happiness of ur marriage.

Fouthly educate urself more on sex...use google...read sex books and watch adult movies; he will be surprised if u r able to impact all u learned.

And lastly...everything has a diminishing return...he's jst this way cos it's the first time he's getting into u and it's something he has so longed for...don't give attention to all these ppl asking u to divorce ur man..theres no better man out there....they all have got their flaws..its left for u to tame him to ur taste dear..

Again use prayers to back up all ur problems...seek for God's intervention...tell him what u want...he listens and works with ur kind...if u could stay a virgin till u married..then u don't have any reason to suffer in ur marriage..I wish u Gods grace and blessings as u try to make ur marriage work.

Story story... Once upon a time, a vicious dog married a frigid piece of wood after three years of dating... and NL had to suffer for it.

Babe hang yourself cause u r as frigid as a mannequin,which kind useless Virgin wey no wan experience kerewa on her wedding night. Even small romance u dey do shakara even wen o'man don drop dough 4 ya yansh,na wa o.

Cholls:
my sister you are a wicked girl.

To me dat man is not a beast..wen a man paid ur dowry and u are still making him feel like a stranger to b4 touching u it will result to something u can't handle..Let d woman accept dat she is married and let her be free wit her husband..If ur husband like sex, den learn how to satisfy him..even d holy Bible told us to marry if we can not hold body.. why would u be denying him of sex..if his capacity can take 15 rounds a day, since u married him, let him have it..d only thing causing trouble in ur home is ur sex life..ur husband loves u cos he marries u..Try and satisfy him and all will be well..

SlyIg:

Exactly, the story is just fake.

*After their wedding and before their Sunday thanksgiving, the girl has started work already? Was there no leave?

*The husband stated he bought her a car after their marriage which she accepted with very little appreciation and she used the car for work and church.

*It was just 10minutes to church service when the husband asked her for sexx, they wasted time making love, she still dressed up and drove out of the house pretending to be going to the church and came back home, yet still, the pastor in that church still left the congregation to come to their to settle their dispute? Which time did they use for all these things and when did they go back to the church?

This story get as e be sha.

Free the yeye op and his lies

@op... My dear save yourself and go become a reverend sister or better yet go back to your father's hauz.. You are NOT romantic at allllll!.. in fact you are a LOG OF WOOD!... you are lucky cos Ur husband doesn't beat you. if Na me, I go BEAT you wella!.. you are married @ 26 and you are not happy abt it.... mumu

What is happening in this furom on this particular post? How can reasonable woman denied her husband sex repeatedly? For christ sake is a SIN. To be honest how many us here can even date a girl without sex? Come to talk about marriage, in other words u are askin the man to go and play away match. Woman, if u knw u are nt ready for marriage? Quit!

looooooool

Tales by moonlight

RedBenson:


Nonsense! Very nonsense advice!! This actually shows most of these ladies crying for husband do not really have anything to manage marriage. Smh! Instead of advising her to reduce her unfriendly character with her husband, you are rather insinuating she quits the marriage. For how long would she go back and stay in her parents' house? Smh! You even said she shouldnt have knelt down to beg her husband? Pride! Pride! Pride! One thing that destroy marriages daily.

A man who courted a woman for 3 years should have learnt of her and understood her. Is marriage all about rights? If she is being unfriendly is raping her the solution, punishing her because she married him? Yes she needs to go where she can get her mind together, look into where she is going wrong while he the husband figures out how to be a husband in the true sense of the word. A man who should protect his wife is the one raping her what nonsense. There is no justification for his actions.

A man rapes his wife and she is told to beg him for what? for marrying him? her offence being she can't handle being raped. Where is the pride there when it should be the man apologising for losing his senses. Just a week of marriage she has been raped countless times. She is not his property, he did not create her he has no right to treat her anyhow he likes.

arvinsloane:

Believing this story means you could believe anything. Oga Jona is from france.please believe me

My brother you'll be surprised to ear what happens in marriages. just of recent a friend of my shared his sister experience and her husband with me, the man had to beat his wife just because the wife wasn't in the mood to have sex with him. These are the people you'll see and pray for such union for yourself. many issues in marriages, I've heard a lot concerning op experience, it exist. A lady friend of mine told me she doesnt really enjoy having sex that she always feels beaten by her boyfriend when they are having sex, nothing special about it, I was shocked and I asked her to repeat herself but she repeated as if she will adjust to like it later.

ocelot2006:


It is better she divorces him him. That way it ends the man's sexually frustration as he won't have to sleep with a log of wood called a wife every night.

How is it that he is still frustrated when he has been raping her since the wedding night? The man is ill.

Sophyrocks:


No you are not. Out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks.

You wouldn't know that would you??

Readonee35L:



Agreed!!!
But the lady made him do all this .
for God's sake a man wont just turn to a beast for no reason

The lady didn't make him do nothing. Since he knows he wants Bleep action he should have looked for a woman who wants such what courting was he doing for three years that he didn't talk about what he wants? The man is ill.

The story is not fake. She is only a very good writer. That's why you can read it as real as it is.
Dear Op, its sad that you had to go through your sexual experience in such an ugly and unpleasant way. There is a gap of communication between you and your husband that needs to be filled. He is thinking one way and you are thinking the other way. That gap needs to be bridged.
My advice is that you leave him for a week or 2 .You don't need to go to your parent's house or get them involved. You can stay with a friend, cousin or alone somewhere. After a week of his endless calls, demand for a meeting in an open place. Voice out your hurts. Allow him to say his. Tell him sincerely how he makes you feel about sex. He needs to promise to change b4 u can come back. You also my dear friend, needs to calm down. Be prepared mentally to learn from him. Tell him you are prepared to learn if he'll be gentle with you. The truth is that his sex drive is way to high. To meet up will take a lot. Give your marriage a second chance. Equiping yourself with knowledge. Read books related to it. Attend marriage seminars. See a pyschologist together if possible. If you still feel unhappy and trapped after, then you can take the secondary step and decision. May God see you through this tough times. Amen!

andromida:


A man who courted a woman for 3 years should have learnt of her and understood her. Is marriage all about rights? If she is being unfriendly is raping her the solution, punishing her because she married him? Yes she needs to go where she can get her mind together, look into where she is going wrong while he the husband figures out how to be a husband in the true sense of the word. A man who should protect his wife is the one raping her what nonsense. There is no justification for his actions.

A man rapes his wife and she is told to beg him for what? for marrying him? her offence being she can't handle being raped. Where is the pride there when it should be the man apologising for losing his senses. Just a week of marriage she has been raped countless times. She is not his property, he did not create her he has no right to treat her anyhow he likes.

Madam, although i am single but that doesnt make me fail in understanding things porperly and spot where the problem(s) may come(s) from. Based on the comments gathered by you two (yourself and OP), i sincerely pray God does not give me your type when i want to get married. It's so pathetic that you're among those supporting this ill-character she's showing to her husband. A man married a woman and all the woman does is to show him rudeness, hostility and unfriendliness. Perhaps, you guys need to go learn more about marriage before going into one cos obviously you lack what it takes to manage marriage.

blesie:
So i narrated how little i can of my ordeal since i got married to this man here last week - https://www.nairaland.com/2030889/he-punishing-me-honey-moon

While i got alot of advises from our dear Nairalanders, i had resolve before not to tell the pastor or my parent but to talk to him as many advised, i couldn't look him in the eye actually, i tried to do that many times since that Friday but I couldnt, so i said ok, after sunday service i will build up courage to confront him and voice out my opinion to him.

So on sunday, it was going to be our first sunday after wedding, i had arrange our wears, his and my own, i woke up early to make breakfast for him and prepare him for church, before he woke up i was already in the kitchen so i ask him to take his bath and lets go early.

He took breakfast (i don't take breakfast so i didnt eat), we were all fully dressed and ready to set out, i packed our bible and writing note into the car and the gift we wanted to give our pastor too inside the car.

it was almost time and i said, so shall we, he said not yet and i said what is remaining, he said you're remaining, you havent given me nothing this morning, i said but you just took breakfast, he said nope, i haven't had you. This is like 10minutes for church to start oo.

He came closer and i said please dont let us waste time lets go. He changed. Don't let us do what? did you just say waste time? he dragged me down the couch and started what i will call rape again, at the process he had rough handled everything i wore, roughen my hair, i started crying, he walk down the wardrobe pick up something and ask me to wear it, i told him i'm not going to church again, he started begging that i can't do that but i keep refusing.

He shouted i should let us go, and i refused. He came back and raped me again till i agree i will go. So i dressed up and just ran into my own car, took off.

He thought i was going to church, he also entered the car and make his way to church. When he got to church he called me. I didn't answer the phone. i came home and was lying on the bed thinking of what next to do. i was actually thinking of running away without a word so he can come look for me forever.

So he got to church and the pastor and wife ask him about me, he said i must be inside. The pastor sensed something. did you say she must be inside? Did you two not come together bla bla bla. After serious enquiries he opened up that we had an issue in the morning.

I was lying down and i heard the door bell, i thought he was the one, i did not open it. The bell rang a thousand times i ignored it. The pastor wife called but i didn't answer, so because my car was parked inside they knew i was around. Finally i opened and here my pastor and wife have left the congregation standing there with him.

So they came in and ask me what happened, i told them i wanted a divorce, that my husband was killing me. They ask me what happened, if he was beating me or denying me of sex of not providing etc. I told them he raped me everything over everything and that my greatest surprise was to know he is doing all of these because i couldn't let him have sex with me while we were dating.

They then turned to him and ask him what happened. I never knew some people can talk so well that will make a bad case look good. Anyway he's a barrister.

He said: "Pastor i don't know why this happen but i knew i never ask God to give me a virgin as a wife. My brother married a virgin and till today he cannot enjoy sex so he has resulted to having sex outside wedlock but i have promised myself that i wont do that. Whether she likes it or not, she must satisfy me.

Ever since i met her over 3 years ago, i loved her, even though she told me no sex, i thought she was just been careful so i left her. For 3 years i never touched any woman. Here i was thinking she was practising romance, or sex style she will give me on wedding night because she did not have any virgin trait on her. She was exposed (works in the media), talks fearlessly, gives me headache so i thought oh she is a tough girl.

But on our wedding night, my wife here comes into the room. Before i could finish a call, she rushes to take her bath, cover herself up like she is going for a Mecca trip. She comes here lying with her back facing me. I thought to myself, but this is the same lady that smiles and laughs throughout na. What would have happened? i said ok pls come and bath me. She refused. i had to beg. Then she came standing 50 metres away, throwing water on my body, i got so angry i wanted to beat her up but i calmed down and before i could say jack, she got angry that she is not bathing me anymore. I met her again in the room and she said she tired and want to sleep, i tried to beg her she refused I then say to myself, so after begging her for 3 years to date me, kneel down to propose, beg her parent, beg the church i have to beg again for sex in this house. Not in my life! So i had my way, and i made sure i wasn't hurting her because i realised the first time she was a virgin.

Just to please her that she was a virgin which wasnt much of a big deal to me, i entered a car shop, got her a car, i told her this is for you, she said thanks like i bought her a biscuit and the next morning she left to her office in her own car.

She returned and i wanted to kiss her and she said i was disturbing her that she is tired. I was so angry. Whenever i I'm angry, i just have sex with her to calm myself down so i dont go drinking or even beat her. The only day i can admit to raping her was when she returned from work and i had sex with her. She stayed on the couch crying. I took wine in two glasses, gave her one but she pushed the wine glass away from me.

He continued. "I then said jokingly, 'you see its your time to cry now, im giving you those hot sex so you remember the times you used to punish me, insult me and make me go through hardtime but you've got to change now because I'm your husband, if not you will be crying like this.

Then my wife stood up and said to me, 'God will judge you for your wickedness!'

What!!! So i am wicked for having have sex with my wife? The same woman i paid a huge ransom to her calabar relations to marry her? I got so angry so i raped the hell out of her that day. She almost fainted, though i felt bad afterwards.

So this morning, we were set for church. I wanted to kiss her and just touch her a little because she was looking beautiful. She started that stubbornness again. She pushed me away like trash so i showed her I'm more powerful by having sex with her and she said she wasn't going to church anymore.

I brought something else for her to wear she refused and i remember she does anything i want her to do while having sex with her so i gave her another round and she ran out to the car. I thought she has left for church but no. So, this is what i have been passing through."

My pastor wife was first to comment. She said "What!!! Did you do all that i heard?"

I said, "No ma, he is not saying it the way it is. He raped me."

So they started asking the questions one after the other. ''Did you bath only you on your wedding night?''

My husband jumps in. "Ask her if she ever bath with me together since we were married!"

At that point, i felt like asking him to stop talking. My pastor said, "how old are you again? In case i have forgotten". i said "26, sir".

He said "Why na.. why, did you not read? But you are learned na. Why did you have to do all of these?"

The pastor turns to the wife and said, "mummy, did you not put her through counselling?"

They all started blaming me and apologizing to my husband. My pastor's wife had a one on one with me. They asked me to kneel to beg him.

They ask me to dress up lets go to church, it was suppose to be our thanksgiving sunday. I told them, "i wont be able to go as my eyes was already red". In my mind I'd rather sit and start thinking of how i can satisfy this man.

As advised, i bath with him last night, as expected he had sex with me in the bathroom, i felt like fainting but i kept quiet this time. I bear it like its a price i have to pay.

We had sex 3 times before the night was over. Now he is happy.

HONESTLY IF I KNEW THIS IS WHAT MARRIAGE IS ALL ABOUT, I WOULD HAVE JUST STAYED IN MY MOTHER'S HOUSE. THEY DID NOT PURSUE ME OUT

My two pence for you as someone who has had a similar experience. THIS IS THE HONEYMOON PERIOD, YOUR HUSBAND NEEDS YOU IN BED MORE THAN EVER ESPECIALLY AFTER A CELIBATE COURTSHIP. ITS EARLY DAYS, HIS DESIRE WILL WANE A BIT. Your soreness should have reduced by now. BE THE GAME CHANGER. What to do - initiate sex every time you see him, before he asks. when u wake , when he comes form work, before you leave the house at any time , just give it to him any time any where in the house without his asking, you may not enjoy it initially IF THE POSITION IS UNCOMFORTABLE LET HIM KNOW, but gradually he will find what make you tick and you will enjoy it until then make sure u take yourself to a mental state of clam and rest during the act to get the best of the action.
I CAN TELL YOU TO TAKE EVERY ROUND WITH BOTH HANDS, because days are coming when he will be too work burdened to give a hoot.
BY THE WAY YOUR HUSBAND'S SEX DRIVE IS NOT TOO HIGH. Its because its early days and e de shack the guy especially as you were a virgin and very tight.