2buff:


Your type really can't handle certain REAL aspects of marriage.
All you know is the textbook. Textbook can only carry you so far.

Carry go.

2buff:


My sister is not a slob like the rest of you who seem to enjoy championing smelly toto.

Go and wash it jor

Mondisweets:

Biko leave the advising role for the experienced and wise, cheating has never made a marriage better. You do not comprehend the purpose of marriage.

You are probably someone who cannot even stand being cheated on even if you were the one who had the flaws, but you think the other person's flaws no matter how minor they are not worth enduring. Last time i checked faithfulness and loyalty where the real aspects of marriage. I didn't see anything on it in your post anyway.

There will always be cheaters, but you don't have to make it hard for an honest partner to stay faithful to you by malevolently refusing to accept you have a serious problem that needs fixing when pointed out. If this is your problem, swallow your pride, get help FAST AND MAKE IT APPARENT to your partner that you are working on it so he can at least see the light at the end of the tunnel

2buff:


That is because you are naturally adversarial and you only skimmed the opening post looking for what to be adversarial about.
Your quarrelsome nature at work.

This is an excerpt from the OP.

Mondisweets:
Im not quarrelsome, i already said its better for you to quit entirely than to cause more complication, that will still cause a state of disintegration in the marriage anyway. I read the entire post, so stop assuming i only read the first part.

Because when you cheat and she divorces you and takes a good chunk of your estate with her, you will come back and scream all manner of nonsense and form victim of circumstances, talking about how the law favours women and oppresses men, like many of your friends on this forum do.

2buff:


Whether it is cheating, or divorce...my bible tells me it's all the same thing.
Matthew 19:9 says, "I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman commits adultery." So which ever way you want to look at it, her rancid toto forced adultery into their union.

You are simply argueing over inconsequential matters instead of focusing on the crux of the thread.

LordReed:
This as far as I am concerned is just another level of excuse for a man to get his cheating on. I mean for heaven's sake when you married her, her couchie was not smelling now that it is you don't act like a husband to know the details of why the couchie you've been enjoying is now smelling (it could be the sign of a serious infection detrimental to YOUR WIFE'S HEALTH) and help look for solution instead you want to run around like it doesn't concern you. Only foolish husbands behave so senselessly. "I told her now" is the cry of a juvenile.

Mondisweets:
i wouldn't even call this an argument because you kept shifting the goal post so it was pointless. Simple questions were asked and you couldn't even give a direct answer

2buff:


Again with your not following.

Okay I now agree with you that he should leave his wife, and possibly, kids and go find someone else.
How has that now made the issue better?

Do you now understand why I am saying you argument is pointless?

Mondisweets:
Do show me how cheating will make the marriage relationship better and i will show you how more pointless your argument is

2buff:


And pray tell, in your own words, tell me what you think my argument is and I will in turn re-assert to you just how much more pointless your argument is.

Mondisweets:
Stop derailing your already pointless thread and go to sleep 2buff

2buff:


You don tire abi
Wash up and go and sleep abeg.

I heard sleeping naked helps you people's situation

2buff:


And if the other person doesn't consider it a problem worthy of effort? no matter how much you want to help?
If the issue persists for years?

It is very easy to type all these things you are typing.
The true test of a person's supposed convictions come in the form of long-term life experiences.
That is when you can truly know what you will do given certain situations.

I would have typed exactly what you typed there, but if I were put in this situation and had to live through it for years, unable to get sexual release the correct way even though being married due to a partner's over-whelming and malevolently defended hygiene problem..... that would be something else entirely that could not possibly be captured by a simple self-righteous forum post.

Natasha2:
[size=15pt]Now you have told us the problem give us the solution [/size]

Mondisweets:
You have experienced many not so fresh punnies that is how you have become an expert at this sort of thing. my kind smells like a fresh irish spring, you wouldnt know anything about that

2buff:


Natasha!! Long time

Bia shame no dey catch you say na man go dey tell you how to solve feminine hygiene issues?

2buff I dey ooooo


Shame catch you when you talk of feminine hygiene? Why I go come shame to ask for solution from you? You put problem you no put solution how you take help?

KingTom:
Jesus!!!!!!!

LordReed:


I cannot believe that a married woman whose couchie was not smelling before encounters such a thing and decides to be nonchalant about it and compounds it with being abrasive to her husband's concern.

2buff you are not married so what experience are you going by? My experience has lead me to what I wrote so call it self righteous if you will.

Natasha2:
[size=15pt]Now you have told us the problem give us the solution [/size]

coogar:

you can stop douching for a start.
excessive washing of it removes the beneficial bacteria that's needed to clean up the whole thingy.
if i meet any adult chic with a smelly coochie, i may slap her. in this day & age of free information, no woman should be getting caught out with putrescent odour down there.

Hmm I dey help some chicks sha. Oya what next after they stop douching?

Mondisweets:
You have experienced many not so fresh punnies that is how you have become an expert at this sort of thing. my kind smells like a fresh irish spring, you wouldnt know anything about that

Natasha2:


Hmm I dey help some chicks sha. Oya what next after they stop douching?

coogar:

wash the surface, not inside.
i have been told some naija babes just pour ariel or klin powder on their palms and throw it inside.
only the surface should be washed with a non-scented soap. warm water + brief washing and that should be fine. you women should help your partners to help you.

lmao Klin?? Abeg oooooo you wan burn person ***na?

Okay I make use of fem fresh, and so far its all good, should I stick with it or change to soap? I dey ask on behalf of everybody wen they use am ohhhh abeg

Natasha2:

lmao Klin Abeg oooooo you wan burn person ***na?

Okay I make use of fem fresh, and so far its all good, should I stick with it or change to soap? I dey ask on behalf of everybody wen they use am ohhhh abeg

2buff:


There are a lot of people in this world with very different mindsets my friend.
You might as well argue that a mother who gave birth to a child would not just decide to kill the child out of anger, Or that a father would not chain his son in a room and beat him till death. but shite happens in this real world. You can't believe people are always going to be logical. People be crazy like that.

This thread came from the complaints of a dear friend who is going thru this very thing.
This is the sort of thing that people don't talk about often, but it is a serious problem nonetheless.

I may not be married but back when I used to play around, one encountered different sorts of women, even really gorgeous ones, with different sorts of "atmospheric altering" powers like storm from Xmen and one just had to wonder "You mean some guy will still marry this one and be forced to cope with that suck-away stench for the rest of his life?". It would be okay if she was receptive to working on it, but some women will surprise you in this life...

2buff:


I think any guy with an active past has experienced a lot of things.
The shame is to the women who don't respect themselves and who provide these "bad experiences".

coogar:

fem-fresh is perfect!
the thing is - don't pay too much attention to it, just wash like you would do your face or armpit. i still think the overprotection of the place is what causes the bad smell. it's the overwashing that causes the bad smell the OP is antsy about.

Okies thanks for the advice.

Ladies over to you.

LordReed:


Well my experience differs. I was with a woman who I seriously considered marrying. It happened that she caught an infection which gave off that fishy smell, she took all the necessary steps to be rid of it so I can hardly believe a woman will choose to be nonchalant about something as intimate as her reproductive health. If the infection is a persistent one then the smell will go off and on.

What is your dear friend's wife's excuse for not seeking treatment?